Most people considering divorce assume that they have to ‘litigate’ in order to legally divorce. Today's episode explains what the court approach is and what it is not. Just because you divorce through the court system doesn't mean you will ever go to trial and litigate your divorce. There is also a lot of criticism around divorce court and attorneys that operate withint the court approach, "litigating attorneys". So why choose the court approach? When is it appropriate and when might a differen...
Feb 13, 2023•57 min•Ep 235•Transcript available on Metacast Today we are focusing more on the family finances, the red flags of fraud, and potential inappropriate spending common ways people try to hide money and how you, as the spouse of the business owner can begin to figure this and when you want to consider hiring a forensic accountant. Tracy Coenen has been investigating fraud for more than 25 years, but she didn’t always want to be a forensic accountant. With a dream of one day being a prison warden, Tracy went to Marquette University in Milwaukee,...
Feb 10, 2023•44 min•Ep 234•Transcript available on Metacast One of the most important decisions you make in the early stages of divorce is the legal approach that will be most effective for your circumstances. You may find that each attorney you interview states that their approach is the right one for you. It can be overwhelming and scary to sort out what the different legal avenues are and how to discern what is best for you and your spouse. Today we talk with Bill Laufer, a 40 year veteran attorney in the matrimonial law arena whose firm specializes i...
Feb 06, 2023•49 min•Ep 233•Transcript available on Metacast When it comes to dollars and sense there is much for the affluent wife to understand. However, it is your mindset that drives your success, not your understanding of the financial complexities which is why I asked Olivia Summerhill to speak to you! Olivia has a very specialized niche… She helps affluent women preserve and enhance their lifestyle after divorce, helping them gain control of their money situation and understand their wealth, goals, and values moving forward. Olivia’s financial care...
Feb 03, 2023•1 hr 6 min•Ep 232•Transcript available on Metacast The Divorce Landscape provides a 'bird's eye view' of your journey ahead as you enter the world of divorce. We guide you through what areas to educate yourself about in advance of making significant decisions, the importance of prioritizing your efforts, and how to maintain your sanity by focusing on those things you have the ability to influence. This episode and those that follow it are designed to dovetail with our Accelerated 12 Step Divorce Recovery program which is all about the emotional ...
Jan 30, 2023•23 min•Ep 231•Transcript available on Metacast One of the most important steps in navigating a divorce that involves a family business is analyzing the value of the business - this requires a Business Valuation expert. Once their job is complete, if there is any concern around ‘hidden money’, a Forensic Evaluator would be hired to do a deeper dive into the company’s books to unearth where the money has been going and determine if any nefarious activity has been involved. With me today to explain and guide us is Ilan Hirschfeld. Ilan is Partn...
Jan 27, 2023•1 hr•Ep 230•Transcript available on Metacast While all decision during divorce are challenging, deciding whether to stay and mend your marriage or to divorce is one of the most stressful and emotionally charged. It is often drenched in judgement, shame, guilt, fear and uncertainty. Today Karen McMahon and Carrie Doubts, Sr JBD Coach, help you to unweave your fears and limiting beliefs from the circumstances you are assessing so that you can become clear in determining your best next steps. We also share the huge value in staying long enoug...
Jan 23, 2023•46 min•Ep 229•Transcript available on Metacast In today’s episode of Divorce and the Family Business, I am speaking with Ryan Kalamaya who will be walking us through his representation of the Primary Business Owner from initial consultation through the final divorce settlement. If that’s you, it is essential that you understand and are prepared for all the complexities of divorcing with a family business. As a divorce attorney for the ‘monied spouse’ Ryan helps you set realistic expectations, get clear on the process and the required documen...
Jan 20, 2023•1 hr 6 min•Ep 228•Transcript available on Metacast Welcome back to the second episode in Divorce and the Family Held Business. Today’s episode is legal advice for the business owner’s spouse. A Step By Step Recipe for an Equitable Settlement guides you through the process from consultation through settlement highlighting the unique challenges you want to be prepared for and the best practices you want to follow to produce the best possible settlement. Before we jump in, today’s expert is my friend Bill Laufer. Bill has been practicing law for mo...
Jan 13, 2023•1 hr 3 min•Ep 227•Transcript available on Metacast We are Kicking off our series talking about the importance of transition planning and Buy-Sell agreements…the more you have in place and the more proactive planning you have done, the better positioned you and your family business will be when transition presents itself…and it always does. Greg Lewis is co-founder of The Tennessee Center for Family Business in Nashville, Tennessee, host of Family Business Today podcast, a family business adviser and speaker. Greg is on a mission to help families...
Jan 12, 2023•48 min•Ep 226•Transcript available on Metacast While navigating divorce, fear of the unknown often drives us to replace our uncertainty with a catastrophic worst case scenario about our future. However, our greatest fears rarely come true. Today’s session is designed to provide you with hope and encouragement as you hear one woman’s journey from fear and overwhelm to a post divorce life that is very different from what she feared. Tune in as she shares the struggles she faced with her narcissistic ex, and how while he never changed, she chan...
Jan 11, 2023•33 min•Ep 225•Transcript available on Metacast When our intention is to transition from married to divorce, how we view ourselves is key. Who you were before your marriage is a different version of you that who you are now. Equally, who you want to grow into being is a healthier more expansive version of the person you are today. The exercise of creating your Future Self Vision and the value this practice provides can be transformative in and of itself. Imagine your future self, a more healed, gracious and polished you. What is different. Do...
Dec 30, 2022•15 min•Ep 224•Transcript available on Metacast Steve was trapped in a high conflict marriage for a long time. He knew he had to get out when he "didn't even want to be in the same zip code" with his wife. He reached out for coaching support when the constant barrage of texts and emails filled with contention and accusation was hijacking his every day. He discusses the benefits he received through coaching and encourages everyone to get the support you need. Steve also shares tips on what to do and what to avoid when navigating the court syst...
Dec 26, 2022•33 min•Ep 223•Transcript available on Metacast One of the many aspects of our lives that changes during divorce is the way we spend the holidays and more specifically, holiday traditions. Today Karen talks about how to make the decision about what to keep, what to let go of and what to add that is new. A key element in making a healthy choice is to consider what your choice is based on. Are you choosing based on what others want you to do? Based on your anger and resentment? Or perhaps on your fear of disagreeing with your STBX or ex? The be...
Dec 23, 2022•14 min•Ep 222•Transcript available on Metacast This is our LAST episode of The High Net Worth Divorce Playbook series, and today’s experts explain the critical role of Trust and Estates attorneys as part of your All-Star divorce support team. While most people assume that a Trust and Estate attorney is only needed at the end or AFTER the divorce, Nancy and Britt highlight the financial advantage of enlisting them from the beginning. We discuss the Trust and Estate attorney’s role in assisting your matrimonial attorney as they determine what ...
Dec 19, 2022•1 hr 4 min•Ep 221•Transcript available on Metacast In this Team Talk episode, KP discusses with Karen the Pros & Cons of Nesting. Nesting allows parents to share custody time without kids moving back & forth between two houses. Generally, the kids remain in the family home with the parents taking turns living in the family home and a separate apartment. This child-centered approach gives kids a slower transition into a new family structure. Many professionals give pause to Nesting as a practice due to the hardship it can be for the parents. KP s...
Dec 16, 2022•45 min•Ep 220•Transcript available on Metacast Kim unexpectedly found out her husband of 26 years was having an affair…moments before a celebration dinner with her daughter. What transpired next was a testament to the coaching work Kim had done and her dedication to keeping her daughter out of the chaos of divorce. Tune in as Kim shares her challenges with change, trust and forgiveness as she became laser focused on her needs and priorities in the earliest stages of her marriage dissolving. Kim shares her deep desire to trust in the process ...
Dec 14, 2022•55 min•Ep 219•Transcript available on Metacast Perhaps like me, you’ve never heard of an employability expert. When I began designing this Series, the topics of employability and vocational analysis weren’t even on my radar. As I spoke with our experts, I realized how vital this piece is to the overall success of your divorce, whether you are the primary earner or the other spouse. Today’s expert takes us through the function of an employability expert, how to determine if you need one, what they do and the value that they bring to the settl...
Dec 12, 2022•1 hr 6 min•Ep 218•Transcript available on Metacast Are you tired of being controlled by the chaos of divorce. Do you wish you could think clearly and make the big decisions before you with confidence. Do you question what happened to your ‘old self’ and wonder how you have become so angry, fearful and reactionary? What if you could find a resource custom designed for you that could guide you to navigate your divorce with less pain and conflict? Journey Beyond Divorce has created exactly that resource. Our signature Divorce Recovery Plan provides...
Dec 09, 2022•47 min•Ep 217•Transcript available on Metacast In the complex world of High Net Worth Divorce there is often a need for a forensic accountant who helps to find hidden assets OR missing money, which is considered divorce fraud. Today’s episode focuses on the red flags that can help you ascertain whether or not you need a forensic accountant, what the process looks like should you hire one, how to choose the right forensic accountant and the role you will play in the process. Peggy Tracy, CFP ®, owner of Priority Planning LLC (Priorityplanning...
Dec 05, 2022•55 min•Ep 216•Transcript available on Metacast Part 3 of our series focuses on how to appreciate and benefit from the different voices in your head and their unique perspectives by using “The Brain Huddle” , a practice author Jill Bolte Taylor, PhD refers to as a “Power Tool for Peace”. The four voices or characters generated by four different types of neural tissue in our brains are somewhat stereotypical in their behavioral patterns which means that the more that you are willing to observe their responses/reactions to circumstances the mor...
Dec 02, 2022•55 min•Ep 215•Transcript available on Metacast The neurons in our brains are not all alike. Our brains think and feel in four different ways, every one of us. We may be more aware of certain ways than others, and define ourselves by the ways of thinking that are habitual...which does not always serve us well, especially when navigating divorce and post divorce life. In today’s show, Part 2 of You’re Not Crazy: Exploring the Voices in Your Head , Lisa and Karen familiarize you with the four distinct thinking and feeling modes in your brain in...
Nov 30, 2022•1 hr 13 min•Ep 214•Transcript available on Metacast In today’s episode our guest speaks to the importance of hiring a matrimonial attorney who is both financially savvy and has the wisdom to acknowledge the limitations of their expertise and enlist the necessary financial experts. NYC Matrimonial attorney Lisa Zeiderman walks us through how to pick choose the right attorneys to interview AND how to use that initial consultation to assess the their qualifications for leading your support team. Once you have retained an attorney, Lisa talks us thro...
Nov 28, 2022•1 hr•Ep 213•Transcript available on Metacast It is an all too human tendency to react to stressful situations in counterproductive ways, to attack out of intense emotion without a clear purpose, to accommodate long after it's healthy to do so, or to avoid addressing situations that are destructive. While these are rarely wise strategies, they are disastrous strategies prior to, in the midst of, and post divorce. During this episode and the following two Team Talks, Karen McMahon and Lisa Brick discuss an alternative approach to attacking, ...
Nov 25, 2022•54 min•Ep 212•Transcript available on Metacast Welcome back to Life After Divorce. Today Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor and I are discussing “A Roadmap to Deep Inner Peace: Understanding the Four Characters in your Brain”. We are exploring Jill’s concept that our brain has “Four Characters”. She shares the role (dare I say personality) of each of these characters. She also shares a powerful tool she has created called the Brain Huddle. This tool guides us to consciously invite all our characters into conversation with one another. We can then tap int...
Nov 23, 2022•1 hr 15 min•Ep 211•Transcript available on Metacast This is the 3rd episode of The High Net Worth Divorce Playbook and focuses on Avoiding Retirement Nightmares. It is jam packed with vitally important and rather complex information about retirement benefits. Today’s guest, Emily McBurney lives, breathes and loves this area of law and explains why it is so important that you understand the basics and that your attorney does as well. Emily explains why It is essential that you hire an attorney that specializes in retirement benefits to ensure that...
Nov 21, 2022•1 hr 11 min•Ep 210•Transcript available on Metacast The holidays can be a particularly challenging time for couples who have separated or are going through divorce. It is natural to feel lonely, sad, disappointed, displaced, resentful, and even angry as the holidays approach. What used to be a positive, joyful season now feels painful and dreaded. Your mindset during this time can either increase your suffering or create space for you to practice self-care and compassion, be present, and even experience some joy, gratitude, and connection. In thi...
Nov 18, 2022•38 min•Ep 209•Transcript available on Metacast Welcome to our 2nd episode of The High Net Worth Divorce Playbook where we examine the intricate finances related to your divorce and the critical importance of understanding them and enlisting the right professionals to support and guide you. Today's guest, Stacy Francis brilliantly walks us through the complexities of Executive Compensation packages, the importance of assessing the business’s value if you or your spouse own one as well as understanding the worth of alternative investments such...
Nov 14, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Ep 208•Transcript available on Metacast Today we look at the time, energy, and relationship challenges and triumphs when blending two parents and one or two sets of children into one new family. On the relationship front you face complexities around bonds with your children…yours, mine and ours along with co parenting relationships and challenges on both sides. Add to that differing financial, educational and religious beliefs and behaviors…and that’s just scratching the surface. If you’re considering a blended family, listen closely ...
Nov 11, 2022•1 hr 7 min•Ep 207•Transcript available on Metacast Judy was married for 12 years before she decided to file divorce. After several attempts at couple's therapy, things were still not getting better. And at that point, Judy's health was starting to decline due to the stress her marriage was causing. To stay healhty for her kids, she chose to file for divorce. Judy shares her financial fears and acceptance through her divorce journey. In 25 years of her career, she had built her retirement and paid off her house and all debt. But when she met with...
Nov 09, 2022•51 min•Ep 206•Transcript available on Metacast 
