When married to a narcissist, separating is only the first step to finding peace and starting your healing journey. There’s still the divorce, and most court systems encourage you to work with your abuser to find a peaceful resolution. Working with a narcissist can be an emotionally straining journey and almost always ends in a High-Conflict Divorce. This podcast discusses some signs you're co-parenting with a Narcissist. It ends with a Q&A of common questions on this topic. If you want to l...
Apr 05, 2023•32 min•Ep. 76
Ben Taylor, a self aware Narcissist, joins me to dive deep into shame, blame and guilt. In this episode, we discuss Ben's healing journey, how Ben defines shame, and how Narcissists will do anything to avoid feeling shame. We also touch on how to know if a Narcissist changed (spoiler alert, they haven't). Ben is a wealth of knowledge and has an amazing way to break down some complexities of narcissistic abuse in a way that we can actually really understand it. You can find Ben here: https://rawm...
Mar 29, 2023•49 min•Ep. 75
Ashlee Levitch, the host of the popular podcast, The Narc and Me, joins me to discuss her story of surviving Narcissistic Abuse. You can listen to Ashlee's podcast here: https://tr.ee/lTfSY1VJ-b Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I ca...
Mar 22, 2023•43 min•Ep. 74
Divorcing a narcissist requires you to be prepared - mentally, physically, financially AND emotionally. Tessa of Kind Mama Coaching joins me to talk about the ins and outs of divorcing a Narcissist and what it's like to Co-Parent with one. We talk through strategies to keep yourself sane while navigating insanity. I highly recommend listening to this episode with a pen and paper in hand, especially if you are co-parenting with a narcissist. Tessa Noel is a certified divorce transition and recove...
Mar 15, 2023•38 min•Ep. 73
Love bombing i s a controlling and manipulative tactic most often used by narcissists and abusive people. In this episode, I unpack Love Bombing: what it is, how it feels, how to know if you're being love bombed, and how to begin to let go of the false-potential it creates. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to reco...
Mar 08, 2023•23 min•Ep. 72
Nat joins me to discuss sexual and marital coercion within marriage. Sexual coercion is an insidious form of abuse in which one person routinely uses guilt, shame, feelings of depression and sadness, as well as anger and frustration to manipulate their partner into unwanted sex and physical touch. Nat breaks down what sexual coercion is and how it shows up in marriage. Nat emphasizes that sexual coercion can happen in any relationship dynamic, but it seems to be harder to spot in marriage, where...
Mar 01, 2023•45 min•Ep. 71
What does it take for an Emotional Abusive person to change? What do they have to do to change? How did Paul know he had to change? What does healthy look like? Paul is a Relationship Coach and founder of The Overwhelmed Brain and the Love and Abuse podcasts. He created the MEAN workbook, a 200 point assessment to identify manipulative behavior. Where you can find Paul: Love and Abuse The Overwhelmed Brain MEAN Workbook Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my servic...
Feb 22, 2023•53 min•Ep. 70
Do you appease an abusive person because it's the only way to stop the abuse and protect yourself? You may be operating in the Fawn response. You can develop a fawn response anytime in life if you’ve ever been with an emotionally abusive partner and dealt with narcissistic abuse from anyone in your inner circle. This episode unpacks the Trauma Response, Fawn. You can read more about it here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.medium.com/fawning-the-trauma-response-of-emotional-abuse-4f8dd5901ab4 Supp...
Feb 17, 2023•8 min•Ep. 69
Emmy Marie is a trauma survivor and Certified Trauma Informed coach with the mission to help others reclaim their power, reject shame, and walk boldly towards a life of balance, freedom, and joy. I found Emmy through her Instagram, @bloomingwithemmy, where she posts frequently on healing from abuse. This episode is about learning to heal from abuse and what healthy can look like. You can find Emmy here: https://www.emmymarie.com/ Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains...
Feb 15, 2023•38 min•Ep. 68
Do you appease an abusive person because it's the only way to stop the abuse and protect yourself? You may be operating in the Fawn response. You can develop a fawn response anytime in life if you’ve ever been with an emotionally abusive partner and dealt with narcissistic abuse from anyone in your inner circle. This episode unpacks the Trauma Response, Fawn. You can read more about it here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.medium.com/fawning-the-trauma-response-of-emotional-abuse-4f8dd5901ab4 Supp...
Feb 10, 2023•15 min•Ep. 67
I found the Pamela Anderson Documentary tremendously impactful -- especially through the lens of Domestic Violence. This podcast covers my initial thoughts and realizations. I highly recommend you watch it on Netflix. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my wo...
Feb 09, 2023•12 min•Ep. 66
Lee Hammock (MentalHealness) the Self Aware Narcissist, joins me to dissect the Mind of the Narcissist. Lee is a diagnosed Narcissist and we discuss so many aspects of NPD including common questions that come up in client sessions. We also get into a larger conversation about the danger of Narcissistic Abuse and what can happen/what we've seen happen. This is a really important part of the podcast and I really recommend listening. You can connect with Lee here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.c...
Feb 08, 2023•52 min•Ep. 65
I'm going to dive into an enormous topic today: No Contact. I carry a different perspective than others because it was so hard for me to get to. It felt like I was literally trying to saw off my hand with a butter knife. In this podcast, I explain why we go No Contact in abusive relationships and some strategies if the all or nothing feels possible right now. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins pas...
Feb 03, 2023•23 min•Ep. 64
On todays podcast, Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., joins me to discuss the Narcissistic Cycle of Abuse. Dr. McAvoy is a psychologist and writer, an expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. She's been featured on Mamami , YourTango , Scary Mommy , and The Good Men Project. Her memoir, Love You More: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross, gives an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of n...
Feb 01, 2023•48 min•Ep. 63
If you are in an abusive relationship and are struggling to get out, you are likely trauma bonded. Trauma bonds are part of abusive and Narcissistic relationships. When you're in one it feels impossible to break - and it feels like love. When we are in it, we don't really know that we want to break a trauma bond. We just know that we want to stop feeling the way we're feeling. How do you know it is a trauma bond? Do you feel you need to leave...but you just can't do it? Do you have a deep-rooted...
Jan 27, 2023•17 min•Ep. 62
Narcissism is very present in South Asian (Indian) Culture and effects the lives of many. Misha Patel is a British-born South Asian therapist and coach, specializing in supporting South Asians all over the world who have experienced narcissistic abuse and trauma to heal. She explains why it's happening, what it looks like, and how you can begin to take space from the Narcissistic patterns. You can connect with Misha: www.therapywithmisha.com And on social media @therapywithmisha Support the show...
Jan 25, 2023•47 min•Ep. 61
Manjit Kaur Ruprai joins me to discuss Narcissistic Personality Disorder. We discuss what it looks like, what it feels like, and signs to look out for. This is a very important, in-depth episode with an expert in the field. Manjit supports many to figure out who they are dealing with and to move forward with their lives. She offers global service via zoom and work with many throughout the world. You can find her: Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@manjitruprai?_t=8UO6VsNGHv4&_r=1 Instagram: htt...
Jan 18, 2023•37 min•Ep. 60
Are you Co-Parenting with a Narcissist? The yellow rock method is a spin on the gray rock method . This episode unpacks and explains Tina Swithin's Yellow Rock Method which is designed to diffuse conflict while setting boundaries with your ex. If you listened to my episode on Parallel Parenting, this one is really important to listen to 2nd. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will...
Jan 12, 2023•10 min•Ep. 59
I define parallel parenting as a method of parenting that allows each parent to use a separate approach to when they have the kids. Their parenting does not intersect, as each parent is independent (versus more of a team approach). It’s mostly used when co-parents want little to no contact with each other. Parents rarely attend the same functions, appointments, or child-related events. If they do, they do not sit together and are not expected to communicate. This is contrary to co-parenting whic...
Jan 11, 2023•21 min•Ep. 58
Most people don’t even realize they are getting into a relationship with a Narcissist. They are skillfully manipulative - which allows them to come off as charming and loving. But Narcissistic relationships are always emotionally abusive - which includes put-downs, accusations, criticism, gaslighting and threats. The end goal is always to keep their Narcissistic supply of constant attention and admiration. I am a completely different person than I was when I was with my ex - and while I do not w...
Jan 04, 2023•11 min•Ep. 57
Is it toxicity? Is it abuse? Are you "too sensitive?" Do you "attract difficult people?" In this episode, I describe three tools I used to identify when I was in an abusive relationship. I also discuss how hard the New Year can be for many of us trying to break out of an abusive relationship. This is the link to the MEAN workbook: https://theoverwhelmedbrain.gumroad.com/l/jkSo Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-...
Dec 29, 2022•10 min•Ep. 56
The Holiday Season with a Narcissist can be incredibly challenging and dizzying. On the one hand, they may promote the "most wonderful time of the year" while tearing you down and making the entire season miserable for you. In this episode, I share three stories of Narcissistic abuse before going through 5 reasons why Narcissists ruin the holidays. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This int...
Dec 21, 2022•24 min•Ep. 55
This is a question asks; did they love me? I offer two answers to this question that are short but gives some perspective to the topic. I plan to do a longer, in depth, episode on this. Send questions to me on Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free ...
Dec 18, 2022•3 min•Ep. 54
Questions and answers on Emotional Abuse and Narcissism 1. Is calling names, pointing fingers and degrading me during a fight when things go wrong abuse? Why do they pretend all is well during the calm cycle? How does one get out? 2. I love the Relationship Recovery Course. Did you always want to be a Life Coach? 3. Is it normal that I'm suddenly obsessed with learning more about Narcissism since I see these traits in my husband? 4. He's trying to hoover me back after I went no contact, but I ca...
Dec 14, 2022•30 min•Ep. 53
This is a rant. The rules of the game are not the same. The abuse is real. This page is called Emotional Abuse Coach so if this content is not for you, please go elsewhere, like Not Emotional Abuse Coach, and comment there. You are showing how un-empathetic you are to those who are going through Narcissistic Abuse. This has been happening since I created the page and I do not wish to argue, or even reply, to the comments, but I will not act like they aren't part of the problem because they are. ...
Dec 09, 2022•5 min•Ep. 52
A listener asked me this question: how do I leave an abusive relationship? It is different for everyone. This is an introductory episode on how to leave and what you should think about. I named it Part 1 because there could be endless episodes on this topic. I would love if you send any follow-up questions to me at jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com or DM me on Instagram @emotionalabusecoach If you are wondering if you are in an abusive relationship, I highly recommend signing up for my Relations...
Dec 07, 2022•20 min•Ep. 51
A lot of my clients will ask, what is a healthy relationship? What is a safe relationship? It can feel impossible to know after you've suffered from Narcissistic or Emotional abuse. This podcast covers 5 qualities of a safe relationship. If this podcast is triggering to you, I invite you to unpack it further by joining my Relationship Recovery program. https://emotionalabusecoach.com/relationship-recovery-course/ Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If ...
Dec 02, 2022•7 min•Ep. 50
The phrase "don't rock the boat," is toxic. People say it all the time, and you think they're being supportive, but it actually can be another way abuse is enabled. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast* Join th...
Nov 30, 2022•7 min•Ep. 49
You have more control over your thoughts than you think. Even though it's hard, it is important for us to take responsibility for our thoughts. This episode unpacks why that is important and how you can start having more control. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Of...
Nov 23, 2022•4 min•Ep. 48
It can be very hard to connect to your wants, needs and feelings when you are in an Emotionally Abusive or Narcissistic Relationship. This 8 minute meditation is intended to help you begin connect to you again. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is t...
Nov 20, 2022•8 min•Ep. 47
