"When reminding my partner that he needs to take responsibility for his emotions, and that I can't be blamed for his anger, he responded that it should be the same for me and that he shouldn't be held responsible for my feeling abused, and that I should be responsible for those feelings." This was a question that came in through my Instagram . I answer this question in the episode. Here are the resources I mention in the episode: Free PDF - Lundy Bancroft, "Why Does He Do That" - https://emotion...
Nov 18, 2022•7 min•Ep. 46
When you're in a Trauma Bond it feels impossible to break. It feels like love. When we are in it, we don't really know that we want to break a trauma bond. We just know that we want to stop feeling the way we're feeling, but we can't leave. Lisa Sonni is an expert on Trauma Bonds. We explore trauma bonds and why they’re so hard to break, how you feel when you are trauma bonded, and what impedes healing. As a survivor of domestic assault and narcissistic abuse, Lisa's experience led her to become...
Nov 16, 2022•45 min•Ep. 45
Matt's behavior on Love is Blind is the text book definition emotional abuse. Their interactions triggered me all season long, and after seeing Colleen visibly scared on the reunion, I wanted to record a podcast breaking down the behavior and looking at their interactions through the lens of Emotional Abuse. Netflix should add a trigger warning to the episodes and provide resources for victims of abuse. Cycle of Abuse: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1916632/10300770 Netflix "Love is a Rollercoaster"...
Nov 10, 2022•17 min•Ep. 44
Tina Swithin, the founder of One Moms Battle and Advocate in the Family Court System, discusses her story, post-separation abuse, strategies a safe parent can employ to cope, and some of the current issues in the Family Court System. Tina survived a “Category Five Divorce Hurricane” while acting as her own attorney in a high-conflict custody battle that turned her family’s life upside down for over a decade. While divorces are never easy, Tina quickly learned that divorcing a narcissist or anoth...
Nov 09, 2022•46 min•Ep. 43
A Narcissist projects their feeling onto you. Projection is sometimes an unconscious way of dealing with the presence of something inside of yourself, yet it gets externalized because it is so uncomfortable to be within yourself. A healthy person will notice they do this (or accept it when they are called out). A Narcissist continues to use it as a tool and project it onto you. This episode unpacks this concept and offers tools to help you see it for what it is. Support the show *Please Note: th...
Nov 04, 2022•7 min•Ep. 42
Gaslighting affects your memory, your perception, your sanity, and your reality. To gaslight someone is to plant seeds of doubt in their mind, and make them question their own sense of reality, their perception, and their feelings. Since gaslighters lack self-awareness and empathy, they may not even realize that they're being manipulative. But when you don't know that you're being gaslit, you defend yourself endlessly. And the problem arises when they realize it (whether or not you told them) an...
Nov 02, 2022•16 min•Ep. 41
A conversation with a Narcissist can be extremely frustrating and dizzying. The communication tools you'd engage with a healthy person do not work. Promises are not kept. Words are not aligned with actions. In this episode, I discuss how hard a conversation with a Narcissist can be, and why you continue to try. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recording...
Oct 28, 2022•4 min•Ep. 40
How did you end up in an abusive relationship? You are likely trauma bonded. When you're in one it feels impossible to break - and it feels like love. When we are in it, we don't really know that we want to break a trauma bond. We just know that we want to stop feeling the way we're feeling. This episode will give you some insights on how to identify a Trauma Bond. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mi...
Oct 26, 2022•11 min•Ep. 39
This episode explores the difference between a therapist and a life coach. A life coach helps you look at the present and the future. We help you identify patterns in your past behavior so you can work towards a healthy future. We work on specific goals and actions to keep you motivated in your journey and unpack things when you get stuck. Most times, the work is tailored to you, and will help you work through limited beliefs and unhealthy patterns. You can sign up for a Clarity Call here to see...
Oct 21, 2022•5 min•Ep. 38
Emotional Abuse is not easily understood by those who haven't been through it. Some common signs include: you may feel insecure and have a low self-esteem. You might be depressed or anxious (or both). You may feel you need to justify everything you say. You may withdraw from people even when you're around them. You might no longer go out and socialize. In this episode, I discuss signs of verbal, psychological and emotional abuse, and how it feels to be in it. You can also share this episode with...
Oct 19, 2022•9 min•Ep. 37
What does it take for an Emotional Abusive person to change? What do they have to do to change? How did Paul know he had to change? Paul is a Relationship Coach and founder of The Overwhelmed Brain and the Love and Abuse podcasts. He created the MEAN workbook, a 200 point assessment to identify manipulative behavior. We talk through these questions in depth and I give real examples from my story of going through, and healing from, an emotionally abusive relationship. Where you can find Paul: Lov...
Oct 12, 2022•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 36
While the title may infer you are healing your relationship with your partner…that is actually not the intent of this course that I talk about in todays Podcast. This course is to help you heal your relationship with yourself if you're in a toxic relationship. In this episode, I break down what I offer in the Relationship Recovery course. Understand the level of emotional abuse in the relationship. Identify your needs and where you have compromised. Identify if you are Trauma Bonded. Understand ...
Oct 06, 2022•5 min•Ep. 35
Abuse is not just physical. There are many types of abuse within domestic partnerships that have been normalized in our society. This episode breaks down emotional, verbal, financial, sexual and post separation abuse. If you feel you may be in an abusive relationship, you can reach out to me at jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com or use the resources below to get support. Website: http://www.emotionalabusecoach.com Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/emotionalabusecoach ----- Emotional Abuse is Ab...
Oct 05, 2022•23 min•Ep. 34
A quick season break update :) If you need support: Website: emotionalabusecoach.com Email: jessica@emotionalabusecoach.com Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3 I will email them to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services....
Sep 05, 2022•17 min•Ep. 33
30 episodes and 1000+ downloads later and Season 1 is complete! I didn't intend to have a "season" but I am feeling a need (and want) to refocus the podcast, work on my episodes, and plan out what I will talk about next season. This has been a really great learning process for me. I totally ripped off the bandaid and just started doing it. I leaned on the information I've learned, what I've gone through, and trusted that if I keep showing up, everything will align. Season 2 will begin in October...
Aug 26, 2022•3 min•Ep. 32
Narcissistic Abuse feels like living in a purgatory. This podcast explores what that feels like, hoping to validate your experiences. I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3 They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want...
Aug 10, 2022•7 min•Ep. 31
You are likely an empathetic person. You have compassion when you hurt someone. You have feelings and don't want to hurt people. This is exactly what the Narcissist takes advantage of. This episode will help you learn how to see the whole picture so you can protect yourself. If you need support: Website: emotionalabusecoach.com Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get the...
Aug 03, 2022•10 min•Ep. 30
A description of the Narcissistic Cycle of Abuse. If you need support: Website: emotionalabusecoach.com Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3 Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed...
Jul 28, 2022•8 min•Ep. 29
Trauma Bonding is a very well-known phrase for good reason: it is a universal experience for almost everyone that experience Narcissistic and Emotional Abuse. On today's podcast, I discuss 3 ways to break a Trauma Bond. If you need support: Website: emotionalabusecoach.com Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f...
Jul 18, 2022•12 min•Ep. 28
Other people will claim to know what is best and give you advice based on their history and perspective, but most people, who have not been through emotional abuse, will not understand emotional abuse. I hope this episode is a permission slip for you to let the opinions of others fade -- so you can focus on your own reality. I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3 They will be em...
Jul 13, 2022•3 min•Ep. 27
I have been traveling and a little MIA. I give you a quick update on where I've been, why Clarity Calls are so hard to book right now, and I go over the key books that helped me identify emotional abuse so I could heal. This is a list of the books: "Why Does He Do That?" - Lundy Bancroft The Verbally Abusive Relationship - Patricia Evans Whole Again: Healing Your Heart and Rediscovering Your True Self After Toxic Relationships and Emotional Abuse - Jackson MacKenzie Should I Stay or Should I Go ...
Jul 10, 2022•9 min•Ep. 26
Interview with Sensual Coach Gwen Walsh . Gwen is a Tarot Reader, Intuitive and Sensual Coach. Working with Gwen throughout my Emotionally Abusive and Toxic relationship helped me experience my life as a viewer and step out of my own way - offering a new perspective on my situation when "thinking" through it didn't. I've worked with Gwen through all areas of life, including my romantic relationship, business, my daughter and my former marriage. This episode explores how working with Tarot can he...
Jun 17, 2022•44 min•Ep. 25
Canned Responses for Toxic Relationships. Using Canned Responses is often the first step in creating boundaries. Boundaries allow you to draw a line between you and another person - and you and yourself. However, setting boundaries in an abusive relationship is almost impossible. You'll find yourself in endless text, calls and emails with no way out having the same conversation again and again, explaining the same things repeatedly and getting absolutely nowhere -- often. Using Canned Responses ...
Jun 15, 2022•7 min•Ep. 24
I clear up the question of my work because if you head to my other website, you'll likely be a little confused :) If you need support: Website: jessicaknightcoaching.com Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3 They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your...
Jun 07, 2022•5 min•Ep. 23
Starve them of your interest . If you keep giving them your attention and engaging with them, their toxic presence will stay in your life. If you stay emotionally neutral, uninterested, and unengaged, the narcissist will turn to someone else to get their needs met. I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3 They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in you...
Jun 06, 2022•11 min•Ep. 22
On this Podcast I continue unpacking Narcissistic traits, how they present themselves, and how you might feel when engaging with them. If you need support: Website: jessicaknightcoaching.com Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3 They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your li...
Jun 01, 2022•15 min•Ep. 21
Narcissistic traits, how they present themselves, and how you might feel when engaging with them. If you need support: Website: emotionalabusecoach.com Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3 They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails. Support t...
May 25, 2022•11 min•Ep. 20
A lot of clients are seeking to understand Narcissistic Behaviors, so I am going to spend the next few podcast discussing Narcissistic traits, how they present themselves, and how you might feel when engaging with them. I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3 They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails. Support the ...
May 17, 2022•14 min•Ep. 19
5 ways you can protect yourself - even if you are still in the relationship. If you need support: Website: jessicaknightcoaching.com Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3 They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails. Support the show *Please Not...
May 13, 2022•14 min•Ep. 18
Many people who are in an abusive relationship will refer to their Abuser as a Narcissist - which is problematic because it put all abusers in the narcissism category when it's much more complex than that. In todays episode, we talk about the difference between an abuser and narcissistic traits, the 9 traits of a Narcissist as defined by the DSM, and the effects of calling all abusers Narcissists. --------- I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You c...
May 04, 2022•19 min•Ep. 17
