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You Are Not Crazy

Jessica Knightemotionalabusecoach.com

You’re exhausted from over-functioning. Always managing the chaos. Always trying to keep the peace.

You feel alone. Misunderstood. Like no one sees the full story—except you.


You question yourself constantly. You wonder if you’re the problem.


You’re not.


This podcast helps you understand emotional abuse, coercive control, narcissistic relationships, and trauma bonds—so you can stop doubting yourself and start trusting what you already know.


I’m Jessica Knight, emotional abuse coach and survivor. I help people make sense of confusing, destabilizing relationship dynamics—including gaslighting, manipulation, intermittent reinforcement, and post-separation abuse.


Here, you’ll learn to recognize the patterns of narcissistic abuse, understand the psychology of trauma bonding, and rebuild your sense of clarity, stability, and self-trust.


This podcast is especially for you if you are:

• Leaving or recovering from an emotionally abusive relationship
 • Navigating divorce or post-separation coercive control
 • Trying to co-parent with a high-conflict or manipulative partner
 • Questioning your reality after gaslighting
 • Rebuilding yourself after psychological abuse


You are not crazy. Your nervous system adapted to survive something real.


This is your space to understand what happened, reclaim your truth, and heal—on your terms.


🖤 Learn more and find resources at www.emotionalabusecoach.com

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Episodes

Emotional Abuse Q & A

The top 10 questions I've received since starting this podcast. I don't think he means it or knows what he is doing. Is it still abuse? Am I being gaslit? How do I know? What if I'm just too sensitive? Have you experienced a Narcissist or Abuser changing? How can I start to step away? Can I tell him that he's abusive? Can he really change? How do I start dating after an abusive relationship? How do I ask for help? My family and friends don't understand. Was I wrong to not apologize? What is the ...

Apr 27, 202217 minEp. 16

What do you do when the Emotional Abuser comes back?

What to do when an Emotional Abuser comes back into your life and tries to reconnect. I share a personal story, how I was stuck in flight or fight and how I could use all the healing and personal work I did for months to help me in that moment. If you need support: Website: jessicaknightcoaching.com Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknight...

Apr 20, 202220 minEp. 15

How to Diffuse a Narcissist

How do you communicate with a Narcissist? Most of the time, using communication tools (that are all the rage on Instagram) will not help you with communicating with a difficult partner. I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3 They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long...

Apr 13, 20226 minEp. 14

How to Set Boundaries with an Abuser

Setting a boundary with an abusive person is almost impossible. Today we are going to go over 3 things: Why it is so hard to set boundaries with an abuser How to regulate yourself so you can get in touch with what you need and how you feel How to actually set a boundary with an abuser If you need support: Website: emotionalabusecoach.com Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can...

Apr 05, 202228 minEp. 13

Learning to be There for Yourself

No matter what stage of leaving an emotionally abusive relationship you are in, you will need to learn how to put your oxygen mask on, and doing that starts with no longer living to expectations set by others or society. This episode talks about how to start to be there for yourself. I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3 Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that...

Mar 28, 202223 minEp. 12

Understanding the Cycle of Abuse

The Cycle of Abuse in a Domestic Partnership is important to understand if you are in an abusive relationship. The simplest way I’ve seen the cycle described is this: the person gets hurt, the abuser gets away with it, and they both claim the victim is the crazy one. On this episode, I will talk through the 4 stages and how you can understand them. You can find the diagram here: http://jessicaknightcoaching.com/the-cycle-of-abuse/ If you need support: Website: emotionalabusecoach.com Email: jess...

Mar 23, 202220 minEp. 11

An Abusers Apology and How to Know if they are Truly Sorry

An apology from an abuser never feels like a true apology - and you shouldn’t accept it. A real apology is remorse followed by silence, space and changed behavior. A real apology is less speaking and more personal work on yourself. A real apology is looking within and addressing what caused you to hurt someone you love. Have you ever noticed how some apologies make you feel worse after getting them? You thought you were getting the apology you so longed to have; but you got an excuse and a justi...

Mar 15, 202218 minEp. 9

I Hate the Rhetoric on Self Love

Most people don't know how to build up their own self worth. I've had my own battles with self love, self worth, self esteem and self care. I certainly didn't resented all of the words associated with it. When I was healing, all I knew is that I wanted to be able to trust myself. When I work with clients on this, I always come from a place small steps. I don't use the words "self love." I don't tell them they need to love themselves to move forward. I tell them I want to help them feel proud of ...

Mar 07, 20225 minEp. 8

What it Feels Like to be in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship

What it feels like to be in an Emotionally Abusive relationship. MAID helped me conceptualize my journey. I hope this gives you the courage to understand what is happening in your life. If you need support: Website: emotionalabusecoach.com Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3 Support the show *Please Note: ...

Mar 02, 202218 minEp. 7

What it's Like to Work with Me

I am traveling this week so I took a step back from the larger topics and explain what it's like to work with me when dealing with Emotional or Narcissistic Abuse. Use this link to schedule a free Clarity Call: https://jessicaknightcoaching.as.me/schedule.php?appointmentType=2523892 If you need support: Website: jessicaknightcoaching.com Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do...

Feb 23, 202214 minEp. 6

Common Signs of Gaslighting and How to Ungaslight Yourself

Gaslighting is incredibly painful and it's an actual form of psychological manipulation that affects your memory, your perception, your sanity, and your reality. To Gaslight someone is to basically plant seeds of doubt in their mind to make them question their own sense of truth and reality, like memory or sense of judgement, and their perceptions and their feelings. So my hope is that this podcast simplifies the concept of gaslighting to something that you can digest, because a lot of people ta...

Feb 12, 202230 minEp. 5

Trauma Bonding and How We Can Heal

Traumatic bonding is a strong emotional attachment between an abused person and his or her abuser, formed as a result of the cycle of domestic violence. If you are in a trauma bond, I personally believe that you saw the absolute best and the absolute worst of your partner. I am also sure his best was really good. I am sure it was sweet, kind, and raw. When you say you know who they really are inside, I know you mean it. But when we are in trauma we are not completely in reality. A trauma bond co...

Feb 07, 202240 minEp. 4

What are Signs of Emotional Abuse?

Signs of Emotional Abuse. We discuss Anger, Contempt, Control, Blame and Gaslighting. This podcast only scratches the surface of what is Emotional Abuse. Free Copy: Lundy Bancroft, "Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" Email me if you need support. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to...

Jan 30, 202241 minEp. 3

Will My Emotionally Abusive Partner Change?

Many victims of narcissism, manipulation and abuse desperately want to know if their abusive partner is changing, or if he even can change. This is very normal. You are likely an empathetic person who would make changes if you were hurting someone you care about. This is not true for manipulative people. Yes, abusive men can absolutely change, but as Lundy Bancroft explains: true, lasting change is a deeply transformative process requiring “deep work” and committing to living amends for a lifeti...

Jan 18, 202217 minEp. 2

My Story

In this episode, Jessica Knight bravely shares her past, revealing how an abusive childhood led to a pattern of attracting narcissists and struggling to leave unhealthy relationships. She details her difficult marriage and the challenging two-year healing period post-divorce, which ignited her passion to become a certified coach. Her story emphasizes self-validation and breaking free from abuse.

Jan 10, 202211 minEp. 1
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