This isn't Therapy-- it's an episode about the not/new trend of "Quiet Quitting." In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about the pros and cons of quitting quietly. They also talk about "quiet firing", Gen-Z and the effect of social media on work culture, and the passive aggressive nature of non-communication. Tune in to find out if quiet quitting is for you! Article: Quiet quitting, firing, even dumping: Americans are falling in love with passive-aggression, and it’s hurting our careers, relatio...
Sep 08, 2022•37 min
This isn't therapy, baby, it's the two year celebration episode. In this episode, Jake and Simon answer listener questions and ask questions of each other. They talk about family grief, use of social media, what they hate about queer culture, and a very exciting announcement! Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon Episode Mixed by Jordan Paluck...
Sep 01, 2022•54 min
This isn't Therapy but this is a conversation about working through grief and loss. Jake and Simon read two stories from our #lovelylisteners. The first, explores letting go of a partner and the other, about the recent loss of a loved one. What follows is a convo about the stages of grief (DABDA!) and so many metaphors - boulders, balls, and jars, oh my! Also, grab your spelunking gear because we're going down that rabbit hole: what function does loss and grief serve?! Okay, Wendy?! Follow us on...
Aug 19, 2022•42 min
Hello, hi! This isn't therapy, it's a chitchat about how to navigate periods of change and growth. You know what they say: Change is inevitable and the only constant in life is change. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about how to stay the course when change is too destabilizing. They also talk about the four most effective ways of working through the big feelings that accompany change. Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon Episode...
Aug 05, 2022•41 min
Thissssss isn't therapy, y'all, it's the sequel to the episode about therapy myths. In this episode, Jake and Simon discuss more of the myths about therapy by answering the questions submitted by the lovely listeners. They tackle questions such as: What happens if you run into a client in public? Are you intentional about what you wear and how you design the therapy room? How do you keep stories straight? And do you ever not know what to say as a therapist? Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypod...
Jul 21, 2022•35 min
This isn't therapy... it's an episode about the end of "Forced Fun" in the workplace. Jake and Simon discuss a BBC article that discusses how "the pandemic put an end to required birthday cupcakes, team happy hours, and 'forced fun’ activities." Jake and Simon chat about whether forcing fun is good or bad for our cultures at work and what we can do to solve the problem of forced fun. Article: The death of 'mandatory fun' in the office by Kate Morgan Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast Ja...
Jul 07, 2022•32 min
This isn't therapy... it's a conversation about navigating a difference of opinions. In this episode, Jake and Simon ask the lovely listeners to submit a story about a time they had a difference of opinion with someone and it didn't ruin the relationship. They discuss how they approach having disagreements without throwing others in the garbage for thinking or feeling differently. Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon Episode mixed ...
Jun 23, 2022•36 min
This isn't therapy... it's a conversation about breaking up with a friend. In this episode, Jake and Simon share two stories from the lovely listeners about how they know it's time to say goodbye to a friend and how they know when a friendship has run its course. Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon Episode mixed by Jordan Paluck...
Jun 09, 2022•43 min
This isn't therapy... it's part two of our conversation about Foreboding Joy. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about how the act of foreboding joy protects us from shame and judgment and serves as a reminder that feeling good isn't permanent. Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon Episode mixed by Jordan Paluck...
May 26, 2022•40 min
This isn't therapy -- it's a discussion about foreboding joy. Coined by Dr. Brene Brown, foreboding joy is described as that moment when joy is interrupted by thoughts of “but what if something bad happens.” In this two-part episode, Jake and Simon discuss the ways we avoid feeling extremely happy to avoid feeling extremely disappointed. Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon Episode mixed by Jordan Paluck...
May 12, 2022•33 min
This isn't therapy, but it's a long-awaited conversation about Big Box Therapy™ companies. Jake and Simon dive deep into the world of digitizing mental healthcare - they talk data privacy, accessibility, and the blurred lines that exist as both a tech company and a healthcare provider. Be sure to read the article linked below for background info about this important discussion. Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon Episode mixed by ...
Apr 28, 2022•42 min
This isn't therapy, but it *is* a conversation about common myths about therapy. Jake and Simon asked their lovely listeners to submit their need-to-know questions about therapy without holding back. Jake and Simon answer questions such as: Do therapists have favourite clients? Do therapists have therapists? What happens if a therapist is sexually attracted to a client? You didn't hold back, so neither did they! Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @dire...
Apr 15, 2022•47 min
This isn't therapy... and we don't talk about Bruno (no, no, no, no). In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about intergenerational trauma through the lens of the hit Disney movie Encanto. They talk about how trauma patterns are passed down through families from generation to generation and dissect the themes that show up in the movie and in real life. Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon Episode mixed by Jordan Paluck...
Mar 31, 2022•49 min
This isn't therapy, but this is an episode about loneliness. Jake and Simon chat about the ways that loneliness shows up in our lives and talk about the crisis of connection we all seem to be experiencing to some degree. They unpack what makes us feel lonely and how to increase meaningful connections in our lives. Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon Episode mixed by Jordan Paluck...
Mar 10, 2022•41 min
This isn't therapy, but this is an episode about boundaries. The pandemic has caused a noticeable shift in the way we interact and spend time with others. Jake and Simon talk about what boundaries are and how to know if you need them or not. They go through the five different types of boundaries and walk us through how to set better boundaries in order to get what you need in life. Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon Episode mixed...
Feb 25, 2022•45 min
Forming new habits that last is hard to do. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about why that is and how to build habits that stick. They talk about the science of forming a new habit and discuss how habits, both good and bad, affect our mental health. Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon Episode mixed by Jordan Paluck...
Feb 03, 2022•43 min
Cue the "New Year, New Me" resolution machine. This isn't therapy but in this episode, we check in on how your resolutions are going. Do New Year's resolutions actually work? What percentage of resolutions are successful? Jake and Simon unpack the barriers that get in our way of following through on our goals and resolutions. Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon Episode mixed by Jordan Paluck...
Jan 20, 2022•32 min
This isn't therapy but it is an episode about receiving feedback that might be hard to hear. Jake and Simon read submissions from the lovely listeners and share their own stories about how they receive tough feedback. Let's get into it! Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon Episode mixed by #1 bossbabe Jordan Paluck...
Dec 29, 2021•47 min
This isn't therapy but it is an episode about relationships and the four signs that might signal the end of one. In this episode, Jake and Simon discuss Dr. John & Julie Gottman's concept of The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. These relationship researchers have identified the four traits and their associated behaviours that could lead to relational collapse. Check out the article below for more information! Article: The Four Horsemen and Their Meanings Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypo...
Nov 18, 2021•39 min
Hello, season two! This isn't therapy but it *is* our grand re-entrance into our regularly scheduled programming. In this episode, Jake and Simon have a check-in chat about where we're at and how we're feeling in this stage of the pandemic. They also imagine what our post-pandemic future will look like and what we can do right now to manage fear and uncertainty. Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon Episode mixed by Jordan Paluck...
Nov 04, 2021•30 min
This isn't therapy but this is a conversation about breaking up with your therapist. Join Simon and Jake as they talk about how to know it's time to find a better fit. Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon Episode mixed by Jordan Paluck
Sep 10, 2021•46 min
This isn't therapy but this is a conversation about psychological and emotional safety (what!?!) and the pathways we travel to feel safe again. This week, we discuss the Routes of Safety model - a therapeutic tool that helps us achieve a felt sense of safety. Let's dive in. Content note: Discussion of self-harm (27:48-31:44) Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon Episode mixed by Jordan Paluck...
Aug 12, 2021•43 min
This isn't therapy but this is a conversation about Nature vs. Nurture and the role each of them plays in shaping who we are. This week, we discuss themes from the hit Disney+ movie Cruella to guide our discussion about trauma, relationships, childhood experiences, epigenetics, and more. We also talk about Internal Family Systems, a therapy modality developed by Dr. Richard Schwartz, to discuss the role our 'parts' play in making us who we are. Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast Jake Er...
Jul 22, 2021•43 min
This isn't therapy but this is part two of our conversation about perfectionism. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about the type of perfectionism that keeps us from getting started. Have you ever put something off for fear that it won't be perfect? Have you ever felt so frozen and immobilized by the task ahead of you? Have you ever kept quiet because you won't say ~the perfect thing~? We dig into these questions and more in this week's episode. Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast Jak...
Jul 09, 2021•37 min
This isn't therapy but this is Part 2 of the episode where we answer your questions! In this episode, Jake and Simon finish their game of 21 questions by asking each other deep questions about life, mental health, and relationships. Tune in to find out which one of them cries first. :') Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon Episode mixed by Jordan Paluck...
Jun 24, 2021•43 min
This isn't therapy but this is the episode where we answer your questions! In this episode, Jake and Simon play 21 questions with a list of questions submitted by our lovely listeners. Tune in to hear them answer your questions about life, mental health, vulnerability in friendship, and more. Be sure to check out the next episode, Part 2, where they ask each other their own set of questions! ;-) Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon ...
Jun 17, 2021•42 min
This isn't therapy but this is a conversation about perfectionism. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about how perfectionism can fuel our desire to grind, hustle, and achieve more. They also discuss how perfectionism can foster a culture of competition and how we can stop it from dominating our thoughts, feelings, and behaviour. *chefs kiss* Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon Episode mixed by Jordan Paluck...
Jun 03, 2021•42 min
This isn't therapy but this is the final episode in our four-part pandemic series. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about The Big Return and what life could look like beyond face masks and pandemic restrictions. They also discuss how our cultures might shift and how we can adjust to The "New" Normal. P.S. Like, comment, subscribe, give us a rate! We will love you forever for doing so. Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon Episod...
May 20, 2021•31 min
This isn't therapy but this is a *timely* episode about pandemic burnout. In part three of this pandemic series, Jake and Simon talk about how burnout keeps us locked into patterns of stress. They also discuss how burnout results in that "blah" feeling and how it impacts something known as our "surge capacity". P.S. Tune in to the end of the episode for a fun ~contest~ where you can win a ~fabulous prize~! Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedby...
May 13, 2021•36 min
This isn't therapy but this is an episode about the social struggles we anticipate beyond pandemic times. In part two of this pandemic series, Jake and Simon talk about how pandemic social anxiety might manifest and how we can work through it. They discuss Jake's recent appearance on the CBC podcast Sickboy and make a big mess in the final segment (sorry, Jean-Luc Picard!). Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon Episode mixed by Jord...
May 06, 2021•39 min
