Okay, before we jump into this episode, we do recognize that there are women out there who just don't want to have sex and do have AMAZING husbands. We totally get that, and our hearts break for the husbands because sexual intimacy is so vital and important in marriage. But... what if there are things that some husbands are doing (that they don't realize) that are causing their wives not to want to be sexually intimate? We had a wife reach out to us and express that her husband has a temper, get...
Aug 16, 2024•39 min
Have you ever wondered how unresolved emotional pain can manifest into destructive habits like pornography addiction? Today, we welcome back Austin Ellis, a dedicated therapist specializing in sexual addiction recovery, who shares his intimate journey from personal struggle to professional savior. Austin’s deeply personal anecdotes and professional wisdom provide a roadmap for couples grappling with the devastating impact of pornography on their marriages. Austin tackles the root causes of addic...
Aug 13, 2024•43 min
We get so many of you reaching out to us with questions and concerns or stating things that you are facing in your relationships. The 4-5 questions or statements we get are almost always the same things that couples are navigating or seeking answers and solutions to. To help us answer these important topics, we wanted to bring on a marriage expert who deals with thousands of couples that also struggle with many of the same things. In this episode, we talk with Austin Ellis (LMFT). Austin offers ...
Aug 09, 2024•53 min
In this episode, we explore how establishing thoughtful morning and evening routines can significantly enhance intimacy and connection in your relationship. The way you start and end your day together sets the tone for your relationship and can create a deeper bond between the two of you. This episode can be one of these transformative podcasts that can bring significant change to your relationship by doing some of these things in your relationship. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultim...
Aug 06, 2024•22 min
In this episode we talk about the 15 ways to be more attractive to your spouse. Do we get ready for them and look good on date nights, or put forth and effort, or do we go out looking like we just got done waking up from a 3 day nap? Do we take care of our hygiene, are we exercising and trying to stay in shape? Do we have positive attitudes and treat our spouse good? It is all about putting forth effort in our relationships. When we put forth effort, it shows we care. Join us for this episode on...
Aug 02, 2024•30 min
Do we make marriage harder than it needs to be? For most of us, the answer is a resounding yes. It's easy to fall into patterns and habits that complicate our relationships, often without even realizing it. Drawing from personal experiences and observations, we delve into the common ways couples inadvertently make marriage more challenging. In this episode, we explore the specific behaviors and mindsets that add unnecessary stress and strain to marriages. From communication breakdowns to unreali...
Jul 30, 2024•22 min
Part 2 of ask us anything. We continue our conversation and answering questions that you as an audience submitted to us. Some of the questions we received and answer in this episode are: What if my wife never wants to have a high sex drive? What are your thoughts on backdoor (anal) sex? My husband is cheating; should I divorce? Is TV in the bedroom healthy or not? Why do men keep trying so hard for their family when they know their marriage is over? Can you be friends with the opposite sex? What...
Jul 26, 2024•31 min
In this episode, we dive deep into the questions you submitted on social media, and no topic was off-limits. We encouraged you to ask anything, and you delivered with a wide range of insightful, thought-provoking, and sometimes challenging questions. From dealing with conflict resolution and communication barriers to managing finances and balancing personal and relationship goals, we tackle the real issues that many couples face. Each question opens up a discussion that not only provides answers...
Jul 23, 2024•29 min
Yes, we know this can go both ways and it's not always the wife, but in this episode, we tackle the 6 types of wives who don't enjoy being intimate with their husbands. We discuss the reasons why women make excuses to not be intimate with their husbands, and many of them are valid excuses. As we always talk about, we are trying to help marriages become more connected and find "Ultimate Intimacy." For that to happen, sometimes we need to recognize the mistakes or things we are doing that keep tha...
Jul 19, 2024•28 min
In Episode 277, we explored the habits wives should stop doing to foster a more peaceful and intimate marriage. Now, it's time to turn the spotlight on husbands. There's no question that as men, we can develop some bad habits or make mistakes that create conflict in our relationships. Nick can personally attest to this. Often, we don't even recognize these habits or the impact they have on our marriages. In this episode, we will identify the common habits that husbands tend to fall into that pre...
Jul 16, 2024•26 min
Ever wondered how a simple query like "What do you need from me right now?" can revolutionize your marriage? In a heartfelt exchange, we unravel the complexities of marital intimacy and uncover the keys to a deeper connection. We discuss how open communication and teamwork are essential in understanding and fulfilling each other's needs. If you feel like your marriage isn't where you want it to be (which is many of us), then this episode is for you. In this episode we share the 8 questions you s...
Jul 12, 2024•27 min
There are many habits that a wife can get into if they are not careful, that can cause disconnect and conflict in the marriage. Habits are things are being done or said constantly and could include, nagging, complaining and other things. Sometimes these habits are completely understandable and justified... but often times can turn into "habits" that occur regularly and become normal in the relationship. In this episode, Nick and Amy discuss the habits that wife's should stop doing to have a bett...
Jul 09, 2024•24 min
This is an episode that both the high desire and low desire spouse (every couple) is going to want to listen to. As many of you know, Nick is a high desire spouse, and Amy is a low desire spouse, yet they have a great sex life. In this episode Nick puts Amy on the spot and she answers all the important questions about how she (as a lower desire spouse) makes sexual intimacy a priority, and she also shares the things high desire husbands need to know about their low desire wife. If you are lookin...
Jul 05, 2024•30 min
The big myth that a hefty paycheck equals husband of the year. We get a ton of men telling us on our social media, "My wife should be intimate with me because I provide for the family," not realizing that there is so much more to being a good husband than just providing for the family, although that is very important. Although bringing home the bacon is a great thing, there is much more, which we unpack in this great episode. So if you are a husband who is a good man and wants to connect more wi...
Jul 02, 2024•28 min
Can you really mess up foreplay? Oh yes, you can! Are you focusing too much time on the wrong area? Are you communicating with your spouse about what they like or dislike? Are you experimenting enough? What about focusing on your spouse's needs more than your own? In this episode, we discuss the 10 mistakes you might be making during foreplay and how to have much better foreplay in your marriage, because better foreplay leads to better intimacy! If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate ...
Jun 28, 2024•28 min
We must admit that we are not morning people and typically don't make love very often in the morning, but after this podcast episode and understanding all the benefits, we are going to re think our lovemaking, and when we do it. There are some serious benefits to making love in the morning. For many couples, sexual intimacy is the last thing on their "to do" list, so when the night time rolls around, couples are too tired mentally and physically to enjoy sex to the fullest, or they make excuses ...
Jun 25, 2024•24 min
Your first thought is that this is a podcast on how to be more physically attractive to your spouse... right? Wrong! This podcast episode focuses on the various other ways to be attractive to your husband, such as self-confidence, and other ways like: Initiating romance and intimacy Communication in and out of the bedroom Taking care of yourself Surprising him, being spontaneous - doing fun things together Having a positive mindset about intimacy - prioritizing it! Sense of humor Your husband is...
Jun 21, 2024•26 min
In this fun and candid episode, we dive into the things no one wants to talk about or admit—the funny, awkward, and sometimes uncomfortable moments that happen in the bedroom during intimate time. Let's face it: our bodies make noises, we might need to take a break due to discomfort, things can get messy, and sometimes we just have an "off" night where things don't go as planned. These experiences are all part of the reality of intimacy, but they can often leave us feeling embarrassed or self-co...
Jun 18, 2024•27 min
People lock their cars to protect them from getting stolen. They lock their house to protect everything inside. We protect the things that are most important to us. So why don't many of us set boundaries to protect the most important thing in our life.. our marriage and family? Settings boundaries is like putting a fence around your marriage to keep things from coming in and hurting your marriage. Setting boundaries with the opposite sex together as a couple can be a great protection to your mar...
Jun 14, 2024•32 min
If you really think about it, just about any argument, conflict, or issue in marriage can probably come back to this one thing... humility (or the lack of). When couples are humble, and get the pride out of their relationship, there is going to be much less conflict, and more harmony and intimacy in the relationship. When there are arguments, resentment and conflict, it is most likely due to pride, or the lack of humility due to one, or even both spouses. In this episode, we discuss how humility...
Jun 11, 2024•29 min
Have you ever pondered how your childhood shapes the way you love and trust your spouse, forms your relationships, and how it impacts your own marriage? The truth is we are shaped and influenced greatly by our childhood epxeriences, and how our parents (or caregivers) raised us. These experiences can form our "attachment style" which impacts how we handle and react to things in own relationships. We have talked about this in our own marriage as we were both raised quite differently, but understa...
Jun 07, 2024•36 min
Have you ever considered that true intimacy is about so much more than just the physical act? We've all had times when we get done having sex and we feel empty, and not much of a connection. However we have probably all experienced other times when the sexual connection was amazing and connecting like never before, and we crave sexual intimacy to be like that every time. If you remember the most amazing sexual intimacy experiences with your spouse, chances are they were extremely intimate and co...
Jun 04, 2024•29 min
We've all had times in marriage where we get into a rut and feel like our marriage and life has become boring. We do the same things day after day, run the kids to the same places. Even our sexual intimacy can get routine and boring. When this happens what do you do? In this episode, Nick and Amy discuss the 14 signs that your marriage has become boring (and routine), and how it can be having a negative impact on your intimacy and connection. We know all about this because we have been there in ...
May 31, 2024•30 min
What does it mean to "seduce" your spouse (or romance your spouse)? Why should you seduce your spouse? In this fun episode we talk about the various fun ways to seduce your spouse, and the benefits of bringing the fun, passion and excitement back into your marriage. We also share the poll answers and experiences that we have had in our own marriage and how they still have an impact on our marriage many years later :) If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app store...
May 28, 2024•39 min
Have you ever felt like your phone controls your life, or your spouses life, and takes priority over everything else? Your device is with you when you wake up, when go to bed, and go on date nights. We go into full blown panic mode if we forget it somewhere. These devices are the most addicting thing in our lives, and they are having profound negative impacts on our marriages and relationships. If you have listened to our other podcast episodes such as 234. with Nate Kemp , or 197. Why you need ...
May 24, 2024•31 min
Have you ever felt like your marriage has gotten to a place where you never imagined it would be? Maybe you've made some bad financial decisions that have hurt your marriage, or your intimacy isn't want you want it to be, or you've done something that has caused you or your spouse to loose trust in the relationship. Do you wish you could just hit a "reset button" or “start over” button in marriage? You are not alone. The truth is, there was a time we felt this exact way before, and it is common ...
May 21, 2024•24 min
Ok, we never thought about doing a podcast on the importance and benefits of kissing, but we must admit, this was one of the funnest episodes we have done... and more importantly, we learned how important it is to do daily in your marriage! If you are like us, the longer we are married the less we kiss passionately... unless we are in the bedroom. But it shouldn't be that way as there are many advantages and reasons to kiss your spouse passionately every day... even it if doesn't lead to sex. If...
May 17, 2024•34 min
Quite a while ago we did a game changing podcast on conflict resolution with a divorce attorney named Tamara Fackrell, who is trying to save marriages in episode 111. The Podcast Episode That Will Transform Your Marriage! If you haven't heard that podcast episode, it is a "must" listen and we have put the link in above for you. As we have a ton of new listeners, we wanted to do a "part two" on conflict resolution titled "13 rules for fighting fair in marriage." In this episode we share the ways ...
May 14, 2024•30 min
Have you ever felt like your marriage is missing the sexual intimacy you desire? Could it be because the emotional intimacy is lacking in your marriage? Good sexual intimacy wont happen unless you have built a good foundation of emotional intimacy in your relationship. In this episode, Nick and Amy discuss the 20 ways to build emotional intimacy for better sexual intimacy in your marriage. If you want better connection both emotionally and sexually, then this episode is for you. If you haven't a...
May 10, 2024•29 min
As we often discuss, many couples find it challenging to openly communicate their feelings, desires, fears, and life goals to each other. In this episode, we aim to make this process easier by exploring 30 intimate questions designed to cover both emotional and physical intimacy in your marriage. Bringing up difficult questions with your spouse can be uncomfortable, as you may fear rejection or confusion about the source of your thoughts. However, by listening to this podcast together and discus...
May 07, 2024•33 min
