Disclaimer: This topic and episode are for couples in loving, respectful, and healthy relationships, but where the lower desire spouse isn't interested in sexual intimacy. We receive many messages from lower desire spouses who express sentiments like, "Our relationship is great, but my wife just doesn't like (or want) to have sex. She tells me no, or just to 'deal with it.'" We hear statements like this all the time. This is saddening because it isn't the high desire spouse's fault, yet they are...
May 03, 2024•39 min
What does it truly mean to submit in marriage? We often address the significance of sexual intimacy in marriage through our videos, and we frequently encounter comments asserting that wives should be submissive and provide sex to their husbands, citing biblical references. However, is this interpretation accurate, or is it a misrepresentation of the biblical message? In this episode, we share our insights on the genuine meaning of submission in marriage and how it manifests in a healthy relation...
Apr 30, 2024•33 min
Have you ever felt the cold sting of sexual rejection from the one person who's supposed to desire you the most? It's a pain that many married individuals know all too well, yet it's a topic that often remains in silence. Couples don't and won't talk about it. And in many cases, if a spouse is getting rejected often, they will stop even trying because rejection is much more painful than not even trying. In this episode, we dive into this delicate subject, providing a safe space for exploration a...
Apr 26, 2024•38 min
Words and phrases are VERY powerful and can often have life changing effects both good and bad depending on how we are using them. But can saying these 3 things to your spouse daily really transform your relationship? That answer is yes.. they can, and they will, and we talk about how and why! In this episode, Nick and Amy share 3 things that you should say to your spouse daily that will change everything. If there is an episode that can have the most impact on your relationship, this might be t...
Apr 23, 2024•25 min
For many couples, they can envision what a "successful" marriage looks like for them, but they often don't know how to get there, or what tools or plans they need to follow to achieve it. imagine you were building a house. You have a picture of exactly what it looks like when completed, but imagine trying to build that house without any blueprint or plans! It would probably end up looking quite different than the picture, and lack a lot of things vital to the structure, integrity and foundation....
Apr 19, 2024•51 min
99% of couples (both men and women) from our social media poll stated that sex is a need (and important) in marriage. If 99% believe sex is a "need" and important, why are so many couples failing horribly when it comes to connecting intimately? In this podcast episode, we share the 8 things (podcast episodes) that will revolutionize your sexual intimacy.. "if" you both put forth the effort. We discuss common issues couples face when it comes to sexual intimacy including making the time, talking ...
Apr 16, 2024•32 min
Ok so your first reaction from our title is probably something like "what is wrong with trying to help your spouse make some positive changes?" Well.. nothing if it is something they want to change, but often times spouses try to shape or form their husband or wife into what "they" want, or what "they" think the perfect spouse should be like. The truth is we are all unique individuals with different strengths, weaknesses and perspectives about life. There is nothing wrong with trying to help eac...
Apr 12, 2024•37 min
Now if you have heard our previous podcasts, you know we have talked about how sometimes it is ok to have transactions in marriage. After all, everything you do in life is a transaction. You trade your time for money at a job. You pay for groceries so you can feed your family. But what about when your marriage becomes so transactional, it has devastating affects, such as scorekeeping, lack of teamwork, rewards and punishments, or conditional love? Does any of that sound familiar? In this episode...
Apr 09, 2024•32 min
All throughout life and up to a few years ago, we thought sex toys were for couples or individuals who were into crazy things in the bedroom. We had a very negative view of them.. that is until we tried them. And wow, were we wrong! Now we are HUGE proponents of intimacy aids (or sex toys/aids) if used the right way together! Sex aids/toys can be a great way to explore and learn about each other's bodies, connect on a deeper level, and make sexual intimacy amazing for both spouses. Yes, women, y...
Apr 05, 2024•44 min
Ever wondered how to elevate the love and connection in your marriage to amazing new heights? That's precisely what we unpacked after returning from an immersive marriage retreat we put on, that left us, and all others that attended, transformed. Join us as we share insights from the retreat we hosted with marriage experts Greg and Julie Gorman, who imparted wisdom on transforming the master bedroom into an intimate sanctuary free from the world's clamor, and many other marriage tips. If you hav...
Apr 02, 2024•26 min
When we walk down the aisle and say “I do,” we often have a picture perfect image of what we expect marriage to be like, thinking ours will be just like we imagined. We envision endless romance, passionate sex, having fun, and staying connected. Both men and women expect certain things based upon what was being "sold" to them while dating. When dating, of course we only show our perfect selves and sell our spouse on what we will be like or vice versa. For example, many men state that when they w...
Mar 29, 2024•35 min
What the heck is chore play? Is it ok to do things because you want something in return? Does chore play really work? Also, hear great insight and responses from our answers on social medial. In this episode Nick and Amy talk about chore play in marriage. It sounds like a boring subject, but I think this is an episode you will enjoy and get a lot of valuable information from. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ult...
Mar 26, 2024•35 min
Sexual intimacy is an essential part of any healthy relationship. But, there is a big difference between just having sex and making love. While sex is a physical act that fulfills a physical need, making love involves a deeper emotional connection between two people. It is an intimate experience that connects both the mind and the body, and even the soul. Making love requires vulnerability, communication, and a focus on creating a deep connection together. It is not just about physical pleasure;...
Mar 22, 2024•42 min
Have you ever wanted to know if you are truly madly in love with your spouse? What characteristics do couples that are madly in love have and how are they different than other spouses? in this episode, we share the 11 (we added extra) clear signs that you are madly in love with your spouse! See what you think about the list we present in the episode and if you agree that you are "madly in love" with your spouse! If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or...
Mar 19, 2024•22 min
Have you been guilty of running from, or hiding your issues in your marriage because they are just too hard to talk about and you don't want it to cause an argument, or you don't want your spouse to know? It's natural to wan't to run from our problems or issues especially if they are (or could be) a source of contention in the relationship. We often think if we just leave it alone, or sweep it under the rug, it will get better. But the truth is, it will most likely only get much worse until it t...
Mar 15, 2024•26 min
"Purity Culture" wields an immense influence over numerous marriages, affecting not only women but also their husbands. From a young age, many of us were taught that sex is bad, taboo, and should be avoided at all costs, and it was a topic that was off limits for many people to talk about. Yet, upon marriage, suddenly it's deemed not only acceptable, but something you should do and enjoy often.. which we believe is true! It's hardly surprising that such ingrained beliefs can create obstacles for...
Mar 12, 2024•40 min
We often do videos and talk about how important it is to put your marriage before your kids.. and we get destroyed! People think we mean you have to spend more time with your spouse than your kids, or that we are implying neglect on the kids. Putting your marriage first has nothing to do with spending less time with your kids, or neglecting them! It means you take time every day to prioritize your relationship with your spouse even if it's only for 15 or 30 minutes a day! You make sex a priority...
Mar 08, 2024•35 min
There are so many couples living in marriages where there is little to no sexual intimacy happening. Rejection is constant, and many times they are so hurt by the rejection, they stop even trying. They are frustrated, hurt and broken. They have tried talking to their spouse about how they feel, but their spouse doesn't want to talk about it which causes even more hurt and conflict in the relationship. We have people reaching out to us ALL THE TIME asking us what they can do. We are heartbroken o...
Mar 05, 2024•27 min
We wanted to find out what the top 10 most common complaints from spouses are when it comes to marriage, so of course, we polled our audience. The results were very close to what we thought they would be, with the husbands most common one's being wanting more physical intimacy, to be desired, and have their wife initiate, while the wife's wanted more emotional intimacy and connection. So what we learn is it comes back to the emotional intimacy and physical intimacy balance. In this episode we sh...
Mar 01, 2024•34 min
For most couple's, talking about sex is a very difficult thing to do. It often times turns into an argument and can cause even more of a disconnect in the relationship. If you are one of these couples, you are not alone and will see from our poll that most couples have a hard time talking about sexual intimacy in their relationship. But consider this, if something causes an argument in your marriage, that means it is a problem. And if you have a problem, wouldn't that make it even more important...
Feb 27, 2024•44 min
In this episode and discussion, we (Nick and Amy talk) about if there is really such thing as low libido, or if that is just an excuse. We also share the poll answers from the audience about this topic and the answers will really surprise you as to how many people use this as an excuse. There are things low desire spouses can do to increase their sexual desire so listen to the episode to find out what they are. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or ...
Feb 23, 2024•31 min
There is nothing more deflating for a high desire spouse than being rejected sexually by the one they love. It really sucks! Feeling like you are so un desirable that they can't take 15 minutes to connect together and make love? Or that your spouse would rather sit on their phone and waste time scrolling through meaningless things versus connecting intimately? Rejection often sounds like this: "I am not in the mood" "I am too tired" "I have a headache" "We just had sex ___ days ago!" And there a...
Feb 20, 2024•31 min
Many couples wonder why their sex life isn’t like what they expected, or what they see on tv, or in the movies, and they compare their marriage to things that are not realistic. Couples have myths about sex that keep them from having the “Ultimate Intimacy” in their marriage that they deserve to have. In this podcast episode Nick and Amy talk about the "truths" about sex and why you need to ignore the myths that keep you from having the sexual intimacy you desire. Some of these myths include: - ...
Feb 16, 2024•41 min
We always talk about emotional intimacy needing to be strong before sexual intimacy, but we also say that sometimes sexual intimacy needs to be prioritized too! Which one comes first? What does emotional intimacy coming first even mean? What does this balance even look like, and how do we find it in our marriages? So many couples struggle with this because a lot of husbands say that the emotional intimacy requirements from their wives are too high and they can never fulfill them, so sexual intim...
Feb 13, 2024•30 min
Have you ever considered how destructive our devices can be to our marriages and relationships? You've heard many of the social media polls we have done that offer shocking insight as to how many couples are negatively impacted by our screen time/devices. And how addictive our devices can be. In this fantastic podcast episode, Nick and Amy interview Nate Klemp who is the author of the 80/80 Marriage and his new book called "OPEN - Living With An Expansive Mind In A Distracted World." In this int...
Feb 09, 2024•43 min
It’s human nature to want to be right. We all crave validation. However in relationships, striving to be right at all costs can lead to conflicts and strain in your marriage. We have all either been in, or have seen couples argue about the most small and ridiculous things. And instead of letting it go and moving on, the argument escalates and turns into something HUGE because one of the spouses has to be right. In this episode, we share experiences of our own, and discuss why it is more importan...
Feb 06, 2024•34 min
Have you ever wondered what the different stages of marriages are, and why some seasons seem to be so much more difficult than others? Why does intimacy change and why is it so hard to keep intimacy strong during the different seasons in life? In this episode, we discuss the different stages in marriage and why each stage is unique, and how it can negatively impact intimacy. We also share the ways to keep the romance, passion and intimacy strong during each one of these stages of life. Regardles...
Feb 02, 2024•36 min
We always talk about the importance of both emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy in a marriage. Both go hand in hand and are VITAL to a happy and successful marriage, and good sexual intimacy. However, they are both extremely different! One's needs can often be met and satisfied outside of the marriage, while other needs cannot. So how does this impact a relationship? For most women, they need the emotional connection with their husband before they are going to be interested in the sexual conn...
Jan 30, 2024•42 min
In about 90% of marriages, there is a high-desire spouse and a low-desire spouse, meaning there are typically differences in libido or sexual desire in the relationship. This discrepancy can cause a lot of issues between a couple. Don't believe us? Just listen to the poll results and comments we received about this topic in this episode. Most couples just assume that "this is the way it is" and that nothing can be done about it, but that is not true! There are several things couples can do to fi...
Jan 26, 2024•36 min
Are you wondering what the temperature of your marriage is, or how your spouse feels about certain things? Does your spouse feel the same way about your marriage (or different aspects of your marriage) that you do? In this episode, Nick and Amy share questions to rate your marriage and then discuss with your spouse to gauge the temperature of your marriage, and prompt great conversations. They also share the poll results from the questions they asked on social media about this topic. This episod...
Jan 23, 2024•26 min
