For most couples, during the early years of marriage things are passionate and sex seems to happen often. But as time passes on, sex in the relationship dwindles and couples stop having frequent sexual intimacy and the passion wears off. This is a very common theme for MANY couples. According to experts, couples that find themselves in this type of relationship have around an 80% of ending in divorce. So you have the relationships where couples just aren’t having sex due to one of (or both) the ...
Jan 19, 2024•37 min
Valentines Day is approaching, and if you are like many couples, it is difficult to find that perfect gift for your spouse. Many couples often struggle with what to get their spouse for V - Day, but finding that perfect gift might not be a hard as it seems. In this episode, Nick and Amy share how to find your spouse the perfect gift that will sure to please your spouse using their love language. So if you are a spouse that struggles to find the perfect gift, then this episode is for you and will...
Jan 16, 2024•25 min
For many couples, they think that once the excitement of the relationship (or the infatuation stage) wears off, they are falling out of love, or the relationship is not good. This is why so many people have affairs, or you see single people jump from relationship to relationship. They think that infatuation means love. It does not, there is a big difference. In this episode Nick and Amy talk about the difference between infatuation and love, and also help you understand limerence. If you haven't...
Jan 12, 2024•41 min
It is staggering how prevalent anxiety and depression are, affecting individuals at varying levels and profoundly impacting marriage, including emotional and sexual intimacy among couples. In this podcast episode, Nick and Amy dive deep into this crucial topic with Dr. Wyatt Fisher. They explore the far-reaching effects of anxiety and depression on relationships, but more importantly, unveil effective strategies for couples to conquer these challenges together. This episode reveals eye-opening i...
Jan 09, 2024•45 min
We all have expectations when we go into marriage. Some expectations are realistic and others are very unrealistic. When we have unrealistic expectations, we often get disappointed and have resentment when those unrealistic expectations are not met. This can cause great disconnect and unhappiness in the relationship. In this episode we share the realistic and unrealistic expectations couples have in marriage and how to get on the same page with your expectations. If you haven't already, go check...
Jan 05, 2024•33 min
Most of us totally suck at keeping goals that we set for ourselves and for our marriages, but in this podcast episode, we share the 5 simple game changing goals you should implement (and ones you can actually keep) to transform your relationship into the kind you dream of having. Join us for an important episode that can truly change your relationship. We also share our FREE goal setting files that will help you in achieving your goals together as a couple. If you haven't already, go check out t...
Jan 02, 2024•26 min
You've all heard of our NMN (Naked movie night), but what about naked game night? What are the various legit benefits to naked game night? How can naked game night improve my marriage? We answer all of these questions in this podcast episode talking about the benefits of implementing naked game night into your relationship. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to downlo...
Dec 29, 2023•19 min
How often do we feel our own issues are "are own" issues and we don't stop to think how our issues or struggles impact our spouse. For example, If you are a spouse that suffers from depression, do you recognize the impact it can have on not only yourself, but your spouse? Or for a spouse that has past trauma they are working through. This not only impacts you, but also your spouse. In this episode we talk about how issues that one spouse is dealing with almost always has a negative impact on the...
Dec 26, 2023•25 min
Ready to reignite the passion in your marriage? Let us help you rediscover the lost art of flirting and its magical influence on relationships. We'll guide you through the concept of "flirt to convert", and share a list of 20 flirting ideas that can bring back the spark in your relationship. These ideas, rated on a ‘flirt to convert’ scale, range from writing love notes to sending playful texts, showcasing the impact of these small yet significant gestures. Tune in and prepare to inject some fun...
Dec 22, 2023•32 min
Life’s storms are inevitable, and they often hit our relationships the hardest. However, resilience is a virtue that can shield us from the harshest impacts. It's not a matter of "if" the storms are going to hit, but "when". Sometimes the storms are light and pass over quickly and other times it seems as if the storms will never pass and cause havoc in our lives. In this episode, we talk about how to be resilient through the stormy times in marriage and share experiences from our own marriage. I...
Dec 19, 2023•34 min
In our previous episode we talked about the impact of sexual rejection. In this podcast we dive into emotional rejection in marriage. Of course we know emotional and sexual intimacy go hand in hand and it is very difficult to have a great relationship without both! However, there are many more aspects and ways to be emotionally rejected vs sexually rejected. Emotional rejection could include, communication, love languages, quality time, trust, and so much more! In this episode we talk about emot...
Dec 15, 2023•31 min
You often hear us talk about how there is typically (in most marriages) a low desire spouse, and a high desire spouse when it comes to sexual intimacy. This imbalance can potentially cause a lot of disconnect and for many couples, even leads to divorce. In most of these relationships the lower desire spouse controls "if" and "when" sex happens which can be very frustrating for both spouses. The low desire spouse is constantly rejecting, and the higher desire spouse is being rejected. In this pod...
Dec 12, 2023•41 min
We are going to probably get a lot of blowback from this episode from people declaring that you don't need physical intimacy (or sex) to be happy. And although there might be a very select few instances where both spouses have no sexual desire, for most couples that is not the case. Here is the reason why. In the majority of marriages, there is a high desire spouse (sexually) and a low desire spouse. The low desire spouse does not need sexual intimacy to be happy, but the high desire spouse does...
Dec 08, 2023•34 min
Are there small yet infuriatingly childish behaviors in your marriage? Are these behaviors negatively impacting your intimacy and connection? Well.. you're not alone. In this episode we expose how the silent treatment, scorekeeping, and other toxic behaviors can wreak havoc on a relationship. Drawing from our personal experiences and a revealing poll with our listeners, we talk about these behaviors and how to foster a healthier, happier relationship. If you haven't already, go check out the Ult...
Dec 05, 2023•34 min
In this episode we talk with world renowned urologist Dr. Tracy Gapin about how declining testosterone is becoming a silent epidemic among men and women. Dr. Gapin talks about the causes of why testosterone is dropping and why this decline is such a big concern. He also addressed the symptoms and things to look out for, but more importantly, the things you can do to combat this epidemic. If you are a husband (or wife) that has noticed a decrease in your sexual desire, energy levels, focus, weigh...
Dec 01, 2023•32 min
Are you stuck in a rut with your relationship, seeing more yawns than sparks in the bedroom? You are not alone. It is so easy for our marriages to get mundane and boring doing the same thing over and over again. We are managing work, kids, activities and everything else that comes with life. When life gets mundane and boring outside of the bedroom, it also works its way into the bedroom. But it doesn't need to be that way and it is easy to turn around. So what can couples do to take their relati...
Nov 28, 2023•32 min
The holiday season can be a very stressful time for many couples. The financial stress of buying gifts. The stresses of family events, parties, inlaws and so many other things. It is not uncommon for couples to argue or have conflict during this time of year with all the demands and stresses they face. But it doesn't have to be this way. There are literally simple things couples can do to take away the stresses and make the holiday season something to enjoy and draw closer together as a couple. ...
Nov 24, 2023•38 min
We often hear what the men are going through and the struggles they face with a porn addiction, but we seldom hear how their addiction impacts their wive's, and the struggles and anguish women go through as well because of their husbands addiction. In our last episode 210, we interviewed Jason, a husband who has a porn addiction, lost his job and tried taking his own life. In this episode (211), we interview Jason's wife where she shares her perspective and experience in dealing with this addict...
Nov 21, 2023•1 hr 2 min
In episode 203 - Why Keeping Porn Out Of Your Marriage Matters, we talked about the impact porn has on marriages, shared some important statistics and ways to keep it out of your life. We also discussed why you should keep porn out of your marriage at all costs. In this episode, Nick has the pleasure of interviewing Jason, a good Christian husband and family man who started looking at porn at an early age, and eventually became so addicted to it, he lost his job, and even tried taking his own li...
Nov 17, 2023•42 min
In today's digital age, it's hard to escape the allure of social media. We're constantly bombarded with carefully curated snapshots of others' lives, and it's easy to fall into the trap of comparison. But have you ever considered how this seemingly harmless habit can have a profound impact on your marriage? Join us on this episode as we explore the perilous consequences of constantly comparing your life on social media to others. We delve into why this habit can erode the foundations of your rel...
Nov 14, 2023•33 min
How do your parenting boundaries impact your sexual intimacy? In this episode we dive in and expose the reasons why you need to have boundaries with your kids to keep your sexual intimacy strong in your marriage. Some of the boundaries we discuss are: Why you shouldn't allow your young kids to sleep in your bed (and you shouldn't let your older kids as well). Why you need to prioritize your marriage. Why it is essential to have curfews for your bedroom and alone time. Why you need to be on the s...
Nov 10, 2023•32 min
What if the key to a fulfilling marriage was right at your fingertips? We're talking about emotional intimacy, the foundation of a vibrant and satisfying relationship. In our recent poll, an overwhelming 94% of you agreed that a strong emotional bond should be the cornerstone of a thriving marriage and that you emotionally have to be connected before the desire for the sexual connection. In this episode, we'll unpack this concept, exploring the things that shut down both emotional and sexual int...
Nov 07, 2023•39 min
Being extremely vulnerable in marriage involves sharing your deepest thoughts, feelings, fears, and desires with your spouse in a way that creates a deep and intimate connection. The more you are vulnerable with each other, the more trust and connection you will have as a couple. In this podcast episode Nick and Amy share the ways you can be more vulnerable and open up together as a couple. If you want your emotional and physical intimacy to grow deeper and stronger, then this episode is for you...
Nov 03, 2023•39 min
We get asked a lot of common questions on our social media and through email about sexual intimacy, so for this podcast we thought it would be great to answer the common questions people have. Some of these questions include: How can I get my spouse to want more sexual intimacy? What are the best ways to talk about sex as a couple without having it cause an argument? Sex is not a priority and we can never find the time for it. What can we do? How to deal with differences in sexual desire (high d...
Oct 31, 2023•33 min
We love the saying "actions speak louder than words" because it is so true! We can say "I love you" to our spouse all the time but that really means nothing unless it's backed up by actions. Love is a verb which requires action on our part. Yes, it is important too to express love verbally as well, but words without actions mean nothing. In this episode we talk about how you need to show and express love in ways your spouse will know you love them, and it is not good enough to just say "I love y...
Oct 27, 2023•28 min
In this episode we discuss why you should keep porn out of your marriage, and life. We share some shocking statistics, share experiences and talk about how to know if you have a porn addiction. Pornography is like a plague that can (and will) destroy marriages and families and we believe this is one of the things that will destroy our society. Pornography is everywhere! It shows up on social media, tv, movies, and romance novels. So what can you do to keep porn out of your life? Find out in this...
Oct 24, 2023•44 min
We did a fun video on our social media sharing a wife's needs list compared to a husbands needs list and of course it went viral and we got a ton of great comments and feedback on the video. Most the people who saw the video did agree with what we stated, but shared the reason why they believe it was like that. In this episode we share many of the comments from the video and discuss why a woman's needs list is typically longer... but this is not the case in Nick and Amy's marriage :) If you have...
Oct 20, 2023•33 min
When a couples priorities, values and goals are not aligned in marriage, it can throw everything off and cause a lot of disconnect. And let's get real.. there are a lot of couples that deal with this in their relationship. These things could include: Different financial goals. Maybe one spouse is a saver while the other is a spender. Different religious beliefs and expectations. Health and lifestyle. Careers and ambitions. Political beliefs. Friends and family (relationships). And of course the ...
Oct 17, 2023•35 min
In most marriages, there are a few key and essential things couples need to do to have a happy and long lasting marriage, and the couples that do these things (or most of them) find enjoyment and fulfillment in their relationships. In this episode Nick and Amy talk about the keys to a long lasting and happy marriage. Yes, we understand we have only been married over 21 years and still have a long way to go, but these key things are essential in most relationships. If you haven't already, go chec...
Oct 13, 2023•40 min
Over 2 years ago, we did a podcast episode with sex and health expert Cindy Scharkey titled: It's all about the clitoris, the key to unlocking female pleasure which you can listen to HERE. That has been one of the most downloaded episodes to date and has helped a lot of women learn to enjoy sexual intimacy. The statistics are crazy about how hard it is for many women to have an orgasm, largely due to not understanding what the clitoris is.. or how it works. The sole purpose of the clitoris is fo...
Oct 10, 2023•30 min
