Have you ever thought to yourself "why can't I just be happy" or "why do I keep getting in my own way"? If so, this episode is for YOU! In this episode, we discuss: How the Ego part of the brain works. What the Higher Self brain looks like. Why the brain craves routine, loops, patterns and consistency. Why the thing or feeling you want is always out of reach. How to create more capacity for the feelings you want. Practical exercise to start to increase your ability to hold the feelings you want....
May 10, 2023•31 min•Ep. 128
Episode 127- Cultivating Compassion, Curiosity and Connection Through Conflict with Tim Ludeman LPC How do you feel about conflict?? If you’re like most people, it’s not your favorite and you may even go to great lengths to avoid it. This avoidance or fear robs couples of the opportunity to really connect and grow on a deeper level. In this episode, Licensed Professional Counselor, Tim Ludeman, joins Kim to talk about how conflict can actually create connection and improve intimacy in romantic r...
Nov 19, 2022•1 hr•Season 2Ep. 127
Do you ever find yourself feeling stuck in a rut? Like you feel like you "can't" get out of it no matter what you do? In this episode, Kim talks about how to cultivate empowerment by swapping "can't" for "how". This pivitol shift can create clarity, spaciousness and curiosity in helping you identify and meet your needs.
Oct 29, 2022•26 min•Ep. 126
It can be really easy to get overwhelmed when you get triggered by others, circumstances or things you feel you can't control. It's so easy to jump into self-soothing behaviors like eating, busyness, shopping, binging, scrolling etc. When that happens, wouldn't it be nice to have a tool that was quick and easy to use that actually helps?? Tune in to learn how to use Stop, Drop and Roll to help you calm down no matter where you are or what you're doing.
Jun 06, 2022•38 min•Season 1Ep. 125
Have you ever said "they made me feel____"? Maybe you have felt like people had the power to make you feel a way. The truth is, people are mirrors and reflect back that which we are uncomfortable with in ourselves. In this episode, Kim explores what it looks like to take control back and empower yourself to understand your feelings and communicate them so you feel seen and understood. With practical tools, you can confidently say "It's not you, it's me!".
Dec 05, 2021•29 min•Season 2Ep. 124
I'M BACK!!!! After an 6 month hiatus from the mic, I finally found inspiration to record this episode all about wanting, lack and abundance. I am sooo excited to be back with you and can't wait to share my thoughts on law of attraction and manifesting with you!!
Nov 05, 2020•40 min•Season 2Ep. 123
Quarantine weight gain is a real struggle for so many of you right now (and myself included). I wanted to use this episode as a space to share a framework for you for feeling more in control of your body, thoughts and emotions.
May 18, 2020•41 min•Season 2Ep. 122
This was my first time leading a guided meditation online, so bear with me in this episode! My heart and intention was to bring nature to you wherever you are. Take a moment for yourself to listen and participate. Fill up your diffuser with some tree oils, grab some crystals or a comfy blanket and let's venture out under the trees together.
May 09, 2020•25 min•Season 2Ep. 121
I have another fabulous Licensed Professional Counselor joining me on the show today! Connie Baker is an LPC, author, speaker and creator of Dear Survivor, a line of mantras and support for trauma survivors. Her passion is to help people give themselves permission to be, heal and grow. In this episode, we chat about Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs and how this pyramid can help you find your place of peace and rest as we all navigate the ever changing stressors that this time is bringing. You can fin...
Apr 19, 2020•55 min•Season 2Ep. 120
My very first male guest also happens to be my HUBBY!!! After 40 interviews and 118 episodes, I finally convinced my husband, Tim Ludeman (who wanted to title this episode Ludeman After Dark), who is a therapist/counselor to come on the show!! In this hilarious and real conversation we talk about anxiety, uncertainty and control and how to release control so you can embrace freedom. You can learn more about Tim at www.lighthousecounselingpdx.com ....
Apr 14, 2020•59 min•Season 2Ep. 119
In this time of uncertainty, stress and anxiety, you are being given an invitation. This invitation is ultimately a chance to connect with yourself on a way different and deep level. Will you accept it?? Let's dive into what you're being invited into and how to feel your feelings but also CHOOSE how you want to feel.
Mar 25, 2020•28 min•Season 2Ep. 118
I have been sick this week so apologies for my voice. In this episode, we are briefly chatting about how fear doesn't have to be "in the car" so to speak. Fear doesn't have to be present in your process. Join me as we talk about how to choose how you want to feel and how to say YES to more and NO to fear.
Mar 11, 2020•19 min•Season 2Ep. 117
After 115+ episodes of "How To's" and "Do This, Not That" and "Change This" I am ready to switch gears. For this next season of the Captivatingly Confident Podcast, we will be looking at the idea of how BEING and BELIEVING impact confidence. We will move into more of a flow of conversations around raw, authentic living while in pursuit of flow, ease and alignment. I invite you to join me on this new adventure and continuing chapter of the show.
Feb 27, 2020•26 min•Season 2Ep. 116
I had a miscarriage two weeks ago. I wanted to share my story in hopes of connecting with those who have gone through this. Every woman's experience with miscarriage is different and I don't claim to know how it is for everyone, just for me. I want this episode to help open up the conversation around pregnancy loss because it's still not talked about openly. I want to offer some ideas about how we can talk about it and support one another in grief and loss. *This is raw and unedited and has some...
Feb 14, 2020•52 min•Season 1Ep. 115
Sleep is one of the most underrated activities in this culture. Sleep is critical for weight loss, digestive health, hormone balance, nervous system resetting and so much more. In this episode, Sleep Teachers Sleep Consulting founder Brittney Stefanic and I chat about how sleep is misunderstood and what some practical steps you can do to sleep like never before!
Feb 12, 2020•39 min•Season 1Ep. 114
Boundaries get a bad rap. They can be used incorrectly and cause you and others pain. In this Reveal episode, I talk about the different kinds of boundaries and how they can be used as self-care and teaching others how to treat you. I also share about a hard boundary line I had to draw in my own life with my father.
Feb 03, 2020•27 min•Season 1Ep. 2
Do you ever get a complement and then dismiss it? Or when someone says something nice about you, in your head, you think of how it’s not true? Why is it so easy to believe the negative about yourself? Why does it feel like work to accept and receive the positive? What would happen if you started choosing to believe what’s good and true about yourself?? How would your life (and the lives of those around you) shift? In this episode, Kim dives into why it’s easier to believe the negative and how to...
Jan 15, 2020•32 min•Season 1Ep. 113
I hear it all the time. "I just want to get healthy" Sounds great, right? The problem is that "healthy" is subjective and varies person to person. Diets, food labels and moralization of foods, exercises and behaviors leads to shame, guilt and frustration as being "healthy" looms further out of reach. In this episode, we talk about how the stress of being "healthy" can actually keep you stuck. We talk about how to ditch labels and start making decisions about what you eat and how you move from a ...
Jan 07, 2020•30 min•Season 1Ep. 112
As a Personal Trainer, Nutrition Coach and Confidence Coach, I have learned a LOT about what my clients fear. It comes out as a desire to lose weight, get healthy or get fit. But what's underneath all of that is a fear that drives the decision making car into the proverbial tree (hello self-sabotage). In this episode, I talk about how to put fear in the backseat instead of letting it drive. We'll take a hard look at making the switch to making decisions from a place of SELF and BODY respect....
Jan 02, 2020•27 min•Season 1Ep. 111
This time of year is hard for those who struggle with resisting, controlling, restriction and running from sugar and yummy foods. I used to do the same thing. Now, I have the freedom to enjoy whatever food I like no matter what time of year without GUILT!!! Wanna know how? Listen on my friend!!!
Dec 17, 2019•27 min•Season 1Ep. 110
Welcome to the first episode of the Reveal Series! I am thrilled to be starting these monthly conversations about the struggles and challenges of tough topics like faith, sex, marriage, parenting, disordered eating, codependency and more! These episodes will be raw and real, so be ready for some unpolished moments! Being a "Christian" has been a major part of my identity for over 30 years. Having spent the last 15 months silently deconstructing, I am ready to start opening up conversations about...
Dec 09, 2019•1 hr 4 min•Season 1Ep. 1
Trauma is not new, but it is definitely a hot topic in the mental health community right now. There is a huge movement in the recognition of just how much trauma affects individuals physiologically, mentally, physically and emotionally. In this episode, I chat with Licensed Professional Counselor and owner of Pacific Counseling and Neurotherapies , Esther Prelog, about how somatic reprocessing modalities like EMDR, Neurofeedback and Brainspotting can provide radical relief and support for those ...
Dec 03, 2019•44 min•Season 1Ep. 109
Where are my people pleasers at?? If you feel: -Taken advantage of -Anxious/stressed about the holidays -Worried about how others are feeling/thinking -Trapped by traditions or expectations Then this episode is for YOU!!! We're going to chat about how to use boundaries in real life as a means of self-care and enjoyment. Join me for a discussion of how to teach others about how to treat you in a loving non-apologetic way.
Nov 26, 2019•35 min•Season 1Ep. 108
We talk a lot about confidence on the show and Rachel O'Rourke embodies confidence that is contagious!! Rachel is a mom of four, a coach, founder, CEO, speaker, author and all around badass. In this packed episode, we talk about how she manifests success and what the major turning point that catapulted her into her dreams was. Grab a notebook and pen and buckle up, friends, because this episode is going to blow your mind!!!
Nov 25, 2019•47 min•Season 1Ep. 107
The process is of body acceptance is not an easy one. It requires moving through the 5 stages of grief to finally achieve the freedom and peace that comes from accepting. In this episode, I talk about what each stage looks like and how to support yourself as you move through it. As Fritz Perls said, "the only way out is through". If you're ready to begin accepting your body, then this episode is a MUST!
Nov 18, 2019•46 min•Season 1Ep. 106
**If you haven't listened to Episode 104, do that FIRST** When I talk about personal style and dressing for confidence, I hear a lot of the same objections.... -I don’t know what my personal style is. -I don’t have anything that fits right. -I am in a style slump. -I need to lose weight first. -All my clothes are outdated. -I am waiting to fit into my “before/after” clothes. -I don’t have money for new clothes. -I don’t know how to put together outfits. -I don’t know how to dress for my body typ...
Nov 11, 2019•28 min•Season 1Ep. 105
When I talk about personal style and dressing for confidence, I hear a lot of the same objections. -I don’t know what my personal style is. -I don’t have anything that fits right. -I am in a style slump. -I need to lose weight first. -All my clothes are outdated. -I am waiting to fit into my “before/after” clothes. -I don’t have money for new clothes. -I don’t know how to put together outfits. -I don’t know how to dress for my body type. -I’m too tired to dress up. -I just want to be comfortable...
Nov 05, 2019•34 min•Season 1Ep. 104
We all know about stress and the tips and tricks to manage it or reduce it. BUT what if you were to discover the one true source of your stress and ELIMINATE it??? How would your life be different if you stressed less, had more peace and knew you were truly ENOUGH??? Join me as we break down what stress REALLY is and how you can relieve it starting NOW!
Oct 22, 2019•36 min•Season 1Ep. 103
As a Personal Trainer, it was my job to put my clients on the scale and track their "progress". The last ten years have taught me so much about what that does psychologically and emotionally to women, especially. Yet the struggle remains to be a certain weight and to depend on a metal box to tell you if you are Enough or not. Join me as we discuss the confirmation bias you are seeking and how the beliefs you have around weight and health keep you addicted to this tool.
Oct 13, 2019•38 min•Season 1Ep. 102
Do you ever get that high excited feeling when you start something new?? Like a new diet, exercise program or habit? This high will always let you down because it's usually unsustainable and relies on things like momentum, motivation or willpower. Join me for a discussion about what it looks like to care for your body and mind well and to let go of the need for momentum and motivation.
Oct 07, 2019•32 min•Season 1Ep. 101
