Jim loved watching me play with my nieces. He especially loved the costumes and getups they put me in Who knew we’d fly back to Colorado with him singing “Let it Go-“ Jim/Elsa style We turned it into part of our lingo. I’ve turned it into part of my healing journey. On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss when it’s necessary to let things go. I also discuss healthy ways to do so! Remember that you can reach out anytime - with questions, feedback, to work with me, for referrals and ...
Aug 12, 2024•37 min
Chaos. That’s the one word that comes to mind right now. About what, you ask? Pick a topic. Weather. Politics. Colorado has another inmate death that won’t reach your local news. Colorado mental health facility laid off 10% of their staff. Bomb threat in Fort Collins yesterday. Chaos. On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss ways to survive the chaos. I also discuss the added toll stress and chaos have on those who are already struggling in some way. Remember that you can reach out ...
Aug 07, 2024•22 min
My dad used to say “let me see your eyes” when I wasn’t feeling well. Dead giveaway. I’m not the kid who got a fever. Ever! He also could tell when I was “faking fine.” You know - when I knew I was sick but still wanted to do something. One look. That’s all it ever took. I’m not the best at evaluating that look myself, and I’m absolutely prone to adult faking fine….. doing something when I should be resting! On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss the importance of prioritizing hea...
Aug 06, 2024•28 min
The world doesn’t discuss grief, so how can we expect work places to address grief? It’s necessary, because people will inevitably deal with loss. And then they’ll return to the work place. Where everything is exactly the same - except for them! Today’s guest on The Be Ruthless Show is all too familiar with loss and loss in the workplace. Dr. Kimberly Harms has been around the block in life. She has served as a Commissioned Officer in the United States Public Health Service, a dental school prof...
Aug 01, 2024•36 min
It’s been a year. I have so many incredible things happening, but Sassy not being ok has been my main focus. I’ve even been neglecting myself because I’ve been so preoccupied with her. On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss the importance of taking care of YOU. I discuss when we don’t have to listen to doctors or people in positions of authority. Because if I had listened to mine - I’d be doing much worse! We tend to assume that others know better than we do, but when it comes to ...
Jul 29, 2024•11 min
Show notes: I talk all the time about the secondary losses people experience while grieving. Loss of the futures imagined, loss of friends or family who don’t understand the grieving process. As if anyone does. Going through this recent crisis with Sassy took me right back to those feelings. Complete gratitude for so many who show up that I never would have imagined. As well as people you expect to show up - who don’t. On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss Who Shows Up - as well ...
Jul 24, 2024•24 min
In Sickness & In Health Vows. Commitments. Morals. Values. What happens when people have different definitions of such important aspects of life? What happens when someone disregards their commitments? On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss the importance of looking at your own health. In a world full of judgments and expectations, we don’t discuss the importance of our own well being when someone or something isn’t healthy. And Remember that you can reach out anytime - with q...
Jul 22, 2024•27 min•Ep. 1
This world minimizes certain mental illness. “The weather is bipolar” and someone who is anal is OCD. In reality, these diagnoses (and so many more) have symptoms that are much more debilitating than the world’s stereotypical versions. What do we do for people living through these illnesses? and what do we do for caregivers? On today's episode of The Be Ruthless Show, my guest discusses her late brother who lived with OCD. Danielle Booher shares her story of healing, including her book "Inside C...
Jul 18, 2024•53 min
Being Present I’m not doing the greatest - and if you know me, you know I wear my heart on my sleeve. I can’t fake it. And I won’t. So on today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I share what’s going on, along with the positive and negative feedback I’ve been hearing. I discuss the importance of being true to yourself - and share how I’m being true to me. I’m tuning out the noise and listening to my instincts. It’s not always easy, but we pay a bigger price in the end when we ignore our intuitio...
Jul 15, 2024•21 min•Ep. 332
6 and a half years. Ten years. The waves still come, and we learn better ways to navigate the waters. Today’s guest on The Be Ruthless Show has a special relationship with water. Camille Woods is a Faces of Grief Author, a licensed school social worker, private practice clinical therapist, storyteller, and Moth Story Hour Two-time Grand Slam winner, through which her storytelling has been featured on National Public Radio.Camille is also the founder of Project "I Got You. -Big Mack," an educatio...
Jul 10, 2024•44 min•Ep. 331
Grief is the one thing we’ll all experience. But that doesn’t mean we experience it the same way. On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss what to do when you live or work with someone grieving differently than you. And I discuss why this matters! Remember that you can reach out anytime - with questions, feedback, to work with me, for referrals and resources, and just for support and connection: sam@samantharuth.com Join the Griefhab Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/griefh...
Jul 08, 2024•31 min
Grief brings anxiety and depression issues for everyone. But what about people already dealing with mental illness? My anxiety reached levels I didn’t know existed after losing Jim. My brain responds differently than someone who never had anxiety to begin with. Today’s extremely special guest on The Be Ruthless Show, Kristina Bottenberg, also struggled with anxiety and depression before her losses. Today, she shares the impact grief has had in her life, as well how she’s coping through the heali...
Jul 03, 2024•43 min•Ep. 329
Therapy. It’s a major word in our culture. What comes to mind when you hear the word therapy? Lying on a couch talking about your childhood? Medication? How about “Lifelong Client?” On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss therapy vs. coaching. I discuss the impact of letting a word stand in your way of receiving the support and resources to make life more manageable. And I discuss the ripple effects these decisions have on your friends, loved ones, and even careers. Remember that y...
Jul 01, 2024•25 min•Ep. 328
Grief comes in all different shapes and sizes. My definition of grief is an ending of some kind. This definition encompasses so much more than the end of life. There are actually different kinds of grief, and one that is not talked about enough is Ambiguous Grief. To simplify - these are the not so obvious (ie ambiguous) losses. Today’s guest on The Be Ruthless Show, Faces of Grief Author Connie Mae Inglis, shares her story of ambiguous grief. Connie is an award-winning author, editor, speaker, ...
Jun 26, 2024•43 min•Ep. 327
Do you schedule things in advance? Do you live by your calendar? Or are you someone who puts things off? Maybe you “perform better under pressure?” On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss when it’s ok, when it’s necessary, and when it’s problematic to put things off. Whether it’s homework or a conversation, your decision impacts more than just you! Remember that you can reach out anytime - with questions, feedback, to work with me, for referrals and resources, and just for support ...
Jun 24, 2024•27 min•Ep. 326
Some families come together during traumatic times, and others drift apart. We all handle things differently in the best of times. During traumatic times, these differences can feel even bigger. The families that have the conversations - the uncomfortable conversations - learn how to navigate the unclear healing paths ahead. Together. Sisters Molly Cohen & Leslie Rott lost their father unexpectedly almost ten years ago. They had the conversations - and continue to have the conversations, and...
Jun 20, 2024•54 min•Ep. 325
I always talk about the invisibles. The invisible populations, the invisible awareness dates. The invisible symptoms. It’s difficult enough going through something invisible - it might impact your sleep or appetite. Maybe your mood or your ability to concentrate. On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss why it’s so important to have certain people involved when working with the invisibles. I discuss different levels of involvement, ranging from absent to enmeshed, and I discuss your...
Jun 17, 2024•23 min•Ep. 324
How many accidents do you pass when you’re driving? My parents will tell you stories of me traumatized as a little girl. Asking questions hours after seeing accidents. Wanting to know if everyone was ok. I’m still that same little girl when I see any accident. It doesn’t matter whether or not I know the people. It stays with me. SO many people have lost loved ones in tragic accidents. Today’s guests on The Be Ruthless Show, Jennifer & Jeff Forlastro, lost their son in a motorcycle accident a...
Jun 12, 2024•34 min•Ep. 323
I’ve always been confused by some of the things we’re conditioned to believe. Ya know, the girls can’t do this and only boys can do that kind of things. It’s Men’s Mental Health (Awareness) Month. And Men’s Mental Health (Awareness) Week. Necessary? Absolutely! On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss why all mental health awareness days matter. I discuss why having the conversations matter - and more importantly, why not having them matters more. Remember that you can reach out any...
Jun 10, 2024•26 min•Ep. 322
The S Word. Suicide. If mental health has a stigma, suicide is in a world of its own. There’s less support - when there should be more. We heal together. We heal through having the conversations. Today’s guest on The Be Ruthless Show cared about helping others long before she really understood how much it would truly come to mean to her. Jen Allen is the CEO of Front Range Family Resource Center, a counseling clinic, in Wheat Ridge, Colorado. Prior to this, she was a registered nurse and spent m...
Jun 05, 2024•52 min•Ep. 321
How is it already June? Did you know that June is Alzheimer’s and Brain Awareness Month? National PTSD Month? Men’s Health Month? It’s also Beautiful in Your Skin Month, which celebrates the unique beauty of each person's skin. It's a time to embrace individuality, foster self-love, and boost confidence. On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss insecurities. I discuss what to do when you don’t feel beautiful in your skin. Because it’s another lesson we need to be taught in schools -...
Jun 03, 2024•23 min•Ep. 320
Addiction. Recovery. Words many are ashamed of and won’t even discuss. Even those with years, even decades, of sobriety. Not today’s guest on The Be Ruthless Show. Racquet Garcia shares her story of addiction and recovery with pride. It’s her “badge of honor.” Racquel Garcia is a passionate advocate for change, working tirelessly to destigmatize and educate on the challenges of overcoming substance misuse and systemic and familial obstacles. She is deeply committed to advocating for underserved ...
May 29, 2024•43 min•Ep. 319
Ohhhh the noise. It can convince you that you should stay silent when silence is the enemy!! It isolates you. On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I’m coming Straight Outta the Fire to share 5 tips you must know when you’re dealing with haters. Because they’re everywhere. Remember that you can reach out anytime - with questions, feedback, to work with me, for referrals and resources, and just for support and connection: sam@samantharuth.com Join the Griefhab Community: https://www.faceboo...
May 27, 2024•36 min•Ep. 318
I really am a clutz - it’s genetic. But lately, my bruises aren’t from me. I have people literally coming to knock me down. I’m coming back even harder. Because it’s NOT. ABOUT. ME. On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss Betrayal. I discuss not knowing who you can trust after ONE betrayal in life. What happens if you e had more than one? As always - I discuss the importance of listening to our bodies. Learning how to tune out the noise so we learn what our intuition is - because i...
May 23, 2024•35 min•Ep. 317
“Accused of being kind!” Legendary Hall of Famer, Terry Bradshaw, believes Quarterback, Dak Prescott, is not winning Superbowl’s because (wait for this one!) he’s “too kind 😳” Pardon my French, but I. Shit. You. Not. Advocating for Mental Illness. Too Kind. Connecting with fans who have experienced loss. Too Kind. Sharing his message that Together We Can - Too Kind. On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss tuning out this exact kind of negative noise. The world always has something...
May 22, 2024•28 min•Ep. 316
Drug overdose is the leading cause of accidental death in the United States. Americans are more likely to die of an overdose than they are from a car accident or by a gun. Black Balloon Day helps create awareness around the important issue of providing support to those struggling with substance use disorder and their loved ones. On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss addiction. Not many people do - including those who have overcome addiction. The stigmas are real! If you or someon...
Mar 07, 2024•29 min•Ep. 295
It’s National Eating Disorder Awareness Week, and on today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I get into not only eating disorders, but disordered eating. No carbs. All soup. Fasting. Lemons only. I’ve heard it all. This world glamorizes dieting and we’re surrounded by unrealistic images of beauty everywhere. And unlike other diseases - we can’t stop eating. An alcoholic can choose not to go to a bar - but we need food to survive. I also discuss how to have conversations with someone you’re conc...
Feb 27, 2024•28 min•Ep. 292
Have you put off something small only for it to turn into something bigger? So many people avoid things because of fear. Others are too busy. The reasons are endless. On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss how avoidance can ultimately feed in to stigmas. You can reach out anytime at sam@samantharuth.com Relief From Grief Team Ruthless
Feb 20, 2024•22 min•Ep. 290
People hear the word trauma and think of something major: war, death, rape. But people are traumatized and tolerating it every single day. It doesn’t have to be something major. Trauma looks many different ways! On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, we’re discussing workplace trauma, minimized trauma, unresolved trauma. James Keddington is the owner of Better Me Nation. Better Me Nation is on a mission to help every individual develop healthy habits and lifestyles that empower them to conf...
Jan 25, 2024•48 min•Ep. 283
Middle school to high school. High school to college. Moving. New jobs. Everyone talks about the positive changes when, in reality, these are also examples of overwhelming times. On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss the Growing Pains we all experience during transitions. You can access the library / register for Healing Together Through the Holidays. Join Griefhab. Reach out to me anytime at sam@samantharuth.com Join Team Ruthless Holiday Promo. Faces of Grief Author an...
Jan 09, 2024•25 min•Ep. 278
