As this part of the year our courses are in the direction of purpose I feel nothing as opposite from that. Feels like I'm functionally stoned. And there is absence of any pull or push feeling towards something. Have you ever had any experience like this?
Sep 29, 2023•10 min
hi lovely i just wondered if you could talk about how, you can stay true to your own self in the mist of everyone's else's truth like today I lost someone that I love very much and it was her funeral today and of course i went but i couldn't stay at the wake for very long i felt very sick i aways do even at my own dads i left i slip out i duck out the back i just go and be on my own just to be by myself. but after i do this behaviour my family don't talk to me they ostracise me; they won't talk ...
Sep 28, 2023•14 min
I wonder also, if you'd be able to go through an experience from start to finish from an unquestioned mind perspective and then the same experience, step by step, from a wholly sane perspective. In slow motion?
Sep 27, 2023•13 min
Is separation upheld in numbing? Listener question
Sep 26, 2023•12 min
I'm watching the rest of the conversations from the THEM course that I hadn't finished yet. In one you say, "The gift is (insert whatever it is that we want that isn't happening or is happening and we don't want - in her case it's his not saying hello), so that the past response can be unlearned, can be healed. Because otherwise it doesn't get healed." Can you say more about how the parent, or the wholeness/truth that we are, has the potential to heal the panic, frightened response that was lear...
Sep 25, 2023•13 min
Many thanks for your podcast response to validation question today. Very apt for me that you refer to existential safety, as the first module I picked for my membership was Safe. For me, the formal validation was that I actually existed, as I was repeatedly told by my mother that in being born, I ruined her life etc. It is the suffering of separation on some level that makes one seek what is the Real of our existence. For those who have lived on the whole,full and happy lives without having felt...
Sep 24, 2023•10 min
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Sep 23, 2023•8 min
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Sep 22, 2023•10 min
I know not everyone needs to do this, but do you think some must do some healing around their trauma in order to have the capacity to feel all of the emotions from a more regulated system. Perhaps this is also necessary to shift and see things from more than an intellectual level.
Sep 21, 2023•9 min
Can you do a podcast expanding on this quote "The agenda to never feel jealous, or angry, or insecure is the opposite of peace." Thank you,
Sep 20, 2023•11 min
What about regret. I was not a good mother when my children were growing up. I spent a lot of time very angry and confused and I deeply regret that now. What can I do about that?
Sep 19, 2023•10 min
hi Clare, I've been around your work on and off for a while and read your most recent book which made me see how I’ve unconsciously used my daughter as a way to secure myself up until when she was about 11 when I had another child, before which we were inseparable. In physical terms I did all I could to include her when the new baby came but somehow my system made the new baby the way in which to secure itself (because my daughter was going to high school, which felt like she was leaving me) and...
Sep 18, 2023•15 min
Several times, I've heard you recall a personal story. It's that your family would enter the lottery each week, and each week, after you didn't win, your grandmother would say something like, "Oh, thank goodness for that." I'm not sure that I understand what you mean by it. Could you explain it a little more, please?
Sep 17, 2023•8 min
Dear Clare, I am beginning to see the possibility of this, but I get stuck on the same thing, over and over. I AM a separate physical entity in the relative world. Therefore there is a form of separation in my life. According to my understanding, what you are saying is that genetics and conditioning create my nervous system and thus Larry’s action figure goes on and does his thing and suffers in the world. Then, Larry acquires through his nervous system another understanding that says he is powe...
Sep 16, 2023•16 min
Hi Clare. Just a thought re todays podcast following person’s comments about validation needing to come from within the self and not from outside as no one can give us validation. - I was thinking that it would usually be the lack of formative validation or reassurance by a parent that would lead to the sense of need to repeatedly seek it thereafter. But when parenting is nurturing/ validating/ good enough there wouldn’t be the need to search for it within. This kind of validation from the loved...
Sep 15, 2023•10 min
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Sep 14, 2023•7 min
can you please talk about intuition. There have been many times I have listened to inner wisdom - which I guess is the same thing as trust my intuition and it has turned out right. Is there such a thing as intuition and is this different from what you are talking about?
Sep 13, 2023•7 min
I keep wondering about faith (and I don’t just mean religious ideology), which seems to be fundamental for us to be able to come to awareness and let go of old conditioning patterns of belief. I do have an inner sense of spirituality and faith which I think I have brought to awareness through lifelong study, creative expression and trying to understand the causes of my suffering. But maybe what is missing for many people is a formative strong sense of faith that already knows on some level, its ...
Sep 12, 2023•7 min
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Sep 11, 2023•6 min
I realized I am confused about accountability. I think of accountability as responsibility, self-responsibility or personal responsibility vs. ultimate accountability. Can you shake out this confusion for me? I can understand taking responsibility regarding one's conditioning, but then I can't put my arms around ultimate accountability as something other than self-responsibility, which it must be since there is no self. Thanks so much for the help through this confusion.
Sep 10, 2023•10 min
What if I am thinking stressful thoughts on purpose? I have once had an obsessive thought about sth. I remembered that I recently read that if you just let it be it will go away on it's own. So I just let it be and it went away. But than I thought "but if I think about it again it will come back".And then I started thinking about it on purpose to prove to myself that there is still danger. It has been two years now and I am still thinking about it on purpose. It is not a particular thought now. ...
Sep 09, 2023•12 min
Hi Clare. I’m just re-listening to the Voice course I did with you a while ago. In it (on day 10) you mention about how our barriers go up and we literally can’t take in the information because we’re so busy trying to protect the I, the me. Is that what overwhelm is? I’ve noticed a lot recently when someone asks for advice or help or says something that threatens to take me out of my ‘hiding place’ of self protection that my system is doing its absolute best to stay in, I feel immediate overwhel...
Sep 08, 2023•10 min
Yes it's a bit woo woo question this one. As we are learning about our true nature being life's intelligence in this apparent form. It seems somewhere on the way taking the form, this intelligence suffered severe loss of memory. Only explanation that came up for me about this is that, it gets access to the richness of all experiences that can come up in this complexity of the human body. And secondly if life's intelligence is absolute - omnipresent. Do all these experiences gathered from all for...
Sep 07, 2023•8 min
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Sep 06, 2023•13 min
THE DIZZINESS OF FREEDOM The rain falling on your head, and you brought no protection. Exposed, raw, you find yourself taking the next step. The heart breaking open, torn, ruptured, a bloody mess; only to reveal a thrilling courage you had forgotten in your search for comfort, and a kindness that only those who have suffered will understand. This strange love affair with uncertainty. The dizzying vastness of freedom. A tingly aliveness in the gut that you mistook for pathology. The path leading ...
Sep 05, 2023•8 min
I'm re-doing Them 2022. I came up with an exploration about criticism. Because I hate my wife criticising me. So I had a look at who I criticise. My wife for her criticism! I also noticed a link between anger and criticism. Criticism of me angers me. And yet. I criticise the same people that I get angry about.
Sep 04, 2023•8 min
Please expand on these words "people are safe with the person who is prepared to hang out in the discomfort feelings and see what's going on there because it means no wars are started. To try and find peace within us, the war within us is identified and then peace."
Sep 03, 2023•12 min
The mind: two capacities, one truth
Sep 02, 2023•9 min
How do beliefs change? I hear about people doing "belief coding" which seems both ridiculous and sensible depending on how it is looked at. I guess now that the limitless nature of things has been glimpsed....the identified mind is looking for ways to open portals...but also there must be a logical way to do this...maybe? How do I make myself believe I'll earn £500,000 next year???
Sep 01, 2023•12 min
What is the role of belief in whether or not food is good for us?
Aug 31, 2023•10 min
