I have been reading Dr Shefali's new book Radical Awakening. She talks about many faces of the ego, the helpers, the takers, the controllers (under each one of these there are many facets). We often identify with 2 or 3 predominantly. I was shocked to see one of them I identified with was the Princess (not all of it was me but some of it). I can see over the years that as I became a Mum, gave up my job and have been setting up my own business I lost all confidence in my ability to make my way in...
Aug 30, 2023•13 min
My thoughts of the day.... "A belief is only a thought I keep thinking.” Abraham Hicks. 'A belief is a thought that we've been attaching to, often for years.' Byron Katie 'Often when you put a label on someone or something, you create a limit—the label becomes the limitation' Jim Kwick Some beliefs limit us, narrow our view, seperate us from others, cause conflict, trap us, allow us to bypass our experience, keep us small, make us superior or inferior. We live in a web of beliefs:- I can't, I sh...
Aug 29, 2023•6 min
Listener 1 I listented to it today and I struggle with the concept to just go into the anxiety, without further explsnation or help. I always experienced it as total retraumatizing, litterally devastating. In trauma therapy you first establish some ressource like eg a stable feeling in some part of the body and then oscillate between the safe space and the anxiety to not overwhelm the system. I don't think this is always necessary but some sort of connection to a bigger picture, like the space t...
Aug 28, 2023•14 min
I keep being told I’m too sensitive. I have an artistic temperament. And sensitivity helps with this. I am tuned into people’s energies. On the one hand sensitivity is seen as good thing and on the other it is an issue as people tell me I get offended too easily. Can you help me with this
Aug 27, 2023•9 min
Could you expand on these words "people are safe with the person who is prepared to hang out in the discomfort feelings and see what's going on there because it means no wars are started. To try and find peace within us, the war within us is identified and then peace."
Aug 26, 2023•6 min
https://tatyanasussex.substack.com/p/beauty-q-and-a-with-clare-dimond?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email#play From Tatyana: Dear Beautiful Friends, Are you ready for a mini-PhD in reality, freedom, and the awakened life—with some laughter thrown in? Meet my beloved teacher, guide, coach, friend, and playmate of the past three amazing years, Clare Dimond . I’m going to introduce her by going straight to the very last question I ask in my Beauty Q&As, because Clare’s answer is so 🤯 and ...
Aug 25, 2023•8 min
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Aug 23, 2023•9 min
Is it possible to have a good relationship with someone who is really traumatised. My partner had a terrible childhood and a lot of addiction as a consequence. They frequently have bouts of great anger and times of withdrawal from me. Is there a way through this for us to a healthy relationship
Aug 22, 2023•8 min
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Aug 21, 2023•7 min
On your podcast on 9th August you said that “the body is the judge.” I don’t know that I’ve heard it said that way. Could you talk more about that? Perhaps some details — I am wondering what there is for me to see in the severe pain that is felt in my body /- especially in my hands and wrists. More than that too, some itching and just all the other things that come and go. There have been insights around the tightness and contraction with regards to limited beliefs/stories/ideas or critical ways...
Aug 20, 2023•9 min
Reading your book ‘it’s not you and it's not me'. Please help me clarify exactly what you are saying and navigate my situation. I am in love with a woman let’s call her Ann. I think about her all the time. I get jealous when she talks about other men. I get upset if she doesn’t want to see me. This feels like love to me. There have been other women in my life who I haven’t felt that with . Are you saying the relationship with Ann is a play out of trauma and it is not with the other women? How ca...
Aug 19, 2023•11 min
Looping back to jiu jitsu again (also a metaphor for other things. And a complete mirror for me) - I’m tempted to say, well, it’s me who has decided that this is good for them. And clearly, it’s just not their thing. Let’s try another activity. Or no activities. And that’s probably true on some level, I suppose. But I’m also feeling that they haven’t actually experienced really doing jiu jitsu. Because they have been so caught up in “I don’t like going with this particular kid. They always go to...
Aug 18, 2023•10 min
Coming back to reality myself - the concept of the space within which everything, including shame and pain arises - how can attention notice both?
Aug 17, 2023•7 min
So in answer to the humiliation and discomfort question I asked is, what harm am I doing to my mind and body when feeling immense discomfort that spirals into illness on a large scale for me? It really puts me out of action and makes me fragile then in everyday living.
Aug 16, 2023•7 min
You teach about perfect design in suffering on individual level (micro level). Can it be also on macro level in all what's happening around the globe?
Aug 15, 2023•8 min
you mention unconditional love a lot but I still don’t know what that is and where boundaries fit in with it. Also what is there difference between unconditional love and Limerance?
Aug 14, 2023•11 min
In today's blog you say "This shift from shame, the lowest and most painful of experiences of existence to the blissful sanity of no-doer is, I believe, the reason why enlightenment is such a powerfully transformative experience." I can see this within the context of a something that "I" have done What about something that "another person" has done? Something I had no agency or control over. "Me/Control" I sometimes (rarely now) feel ashamed about putting too much money into my business for too ...
Aug 13, 2023•10 min
I‘m just reading this book: The way of integrity by Martha Beck and I have a question. She talks a lot about doing what you love and this confuses me. What is this even? Probably this inner yes. But what is this? Like the teaching. Do I love this? Would say no spontaneously. Having a family, baking bread, even cleaning, do I love this? Would say yes spontaneously. Does this mean I need to stop teaching to live in integrity from my inner yes? But I don’t. Why? Just don’t know why I’m doing it and...
Aug 12, 2023•12 min
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Aug 10, 2023•11 min
Five days ago our country was striked by catastrophic floods. Nothing like this happened before. And my question isn't from a place so people would feel sorry for us. It is from observing my actions/behaviours from this experience which brings this question. In these moments it feels that ego is stepped from the front stage. And things I wouldn't normally do are being done. Shame and fear to protect the identity don't run the show in these circumstances. My question is if this is due to being mo...
Aug 09, 2023•14 min
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Aug 08, 2023•13 min
Seeing the cycle of Face Fear -> Get Painfully Knocked Down -> Repeat lead to learning and growth and improvement for some. And (apparent) maladaptive response and (possible) traumatic experience for another. And wondering how much is possible to alter/influence for such young kids. And of course to remember to start with me and all the pointers Claire has given to people in similar situations. But seriously, can we help kids/others have less cycle of retraumatization? I’m recalling that C...
Aug 07, 2023•14 min
If a spiritual teacher says that future and past are an illusion. How does one write a biography about themselves? Is that an illusion from the past?
Aug 06, 2023•9 min
The world is imagination and that is all relationships are imagination. How do we navigate around arguments, disagreements, people leaving you. Is it just one illusion that we should not even investigate why it happened or should we just move on with our lives.
Aug 05, 2023•12 min
It’s not really a question, more of a comment really. I was just listening to your podcast, which I love btw, and saw how hard I have been trying to ‘get’ what you’re sharing, so that I can see who I really am and therefore be free, happy, content etc etc. I got that there is no me, so I was trying to secure my identity on Source energy or whatever you want to call it, but of course that concept of ‘Source’ that I had created was just another concept. My mind is scraping around, confused, desper...
Aug 04, 2023•12 min
‘as long as I am clear headed and not in a mental fog I can handle the discomfort and when I’m not I can’;t. Is that actually true though?
Aug 03, 2023•7 min
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