It seems like we need to develop an identified Separate sense of Self before we can ‘unidentify’ it. Is that true or is the way to bypass that step? Do you talk to your children about this understanding and If so, what does that look like?
First of all, I am so happy with your courses and podcasts. I learned so much! And with your openness and honesty and vulnerability and down to earth spirituality I could not thing of a better teacher for me! I am writing to you because I am not sure of one concurrent issue in my thought patterns and that is „not having a partner and wanting one“ I see a pattern of thinking about it, making it „my big life problem“ but not doing anything (which means not being on a dating platform or meeting any...
Thank you for a brilliant 'How does it fit together' webinar. I really loved it. The question came up about what to say to introduce this conversation to a client who doesn't already have any knowledge of it, and your response was for the teacher/coach to go within to see where the issue that the client has come with is a reflection of them/their experience. Can you please say more about this, and how this may inform the conversation.
Few days ago I was part of a work meeting and during that meeting I noticed how my emotions were roller coasting from totally being pissed off by the other participants to enormous self pity. A day later my period arrived a bit earlier this month and I contributed all of this emotional spinning to this fact. My question is if emotional experiences of these hormonal changes are in any connection with reality? Do they magnify some conditioning that needs to be enquiry? Or is body-mind just hijacke...
I can't decide if the feelings I am feeling are sadness at the loss of my marriage or doubt as to whether I have made the right decision. We have let go of a lot of the past and come to a place of love & understanding. We have been in counselling for nearly a year & a half which has helped. We are separated but live together but we just can't seem to come back together & connect, it feels like we have come too far down the road & the gap is too wide between us now even though we ...
I noticed yesterday feeling sad and hurt for no apparent reason. The mind made up a bunch of possible reasons later, but I don't know if an of them are true. Here is also an intense desire to ball up and hide, again no apparent reason. No arguments, mo losses, no imminent stress. If part of this exploration is the system changing patterns, then are random emotional releases part of it? You say we are here to have these experiences fully, are we doing that when there isn't a clear narratives much...
When you say reality literally changes, is that different than saying the our view/perception of reality changes. I have heard the phrase 'nothing changes but everything is different’ and am wondering if that is what is meant by that. It seems to me that as my perception shifts, I behave differently and then others may or may not shift? Is that how the whole world is set free or is there something more for me to see here?
So I have been in this conversation a while and I have seen that there is no I, I get that it’s a system with no chooser etc. But, “I” would really like to lose some weight! However that must, in some way, not make sense to the system for that to happen because there is no inspiration, motivation, willpower or action happening. If there is a decision to do so it loses its momentum after a couple of days, I guess my heart isn’t really in it but at the same time I don’t want to keep gaining weight...
I'm reading Real. And just to be clear I’ve read a ton of non duality so not a beginner so to speak. Could you just quickly clarify your difference between custodial responsibilities but yet having no control over say thought. It makes it feel a bit that if I have responsibility I have some control over that. Maybe just a brief clarification of what is meant by this phrase. Thank you. I like the book, just can’t quite square that. Thanks very much,
Is taking CBD oil for my anxiety spiritual bypass?
I found your work about 3 months ago. I am slowly understanding your teachings. Tonight I listened to your talk about desire and it was such absolute Truth with a capital “T”. While I was listening I fell into ease, I relaxed for the first time in weeks and I saw it all. Desire ——I don’t get what I want…I blame someone or something or myself…I try harder….I, I, I, …..whew. Thank you Clare for helping me. I just realized the word “myself” is really interesting suddenly. The word seems to encapsul...
hi Clare what is your view on anti-depressants and anti-anxiety medications. Do they have a role in this conversation. Can they help understanding or do they make it harder?
How does attention shift if there is no do-er? Listener question
In your book “Inside-out guide to life, unlimited”, pages 58, 59:It looks like when someone dies that they have gone. In reality, they have not gone anywhere because the Awareness and Love that they really were, is the same Awareness and Love that we are. The way we experienced them through Thought while alive, is still the same in death. As Byron Katie says, “No one can leave me.”… Whether he is physically here or not, his life lives for me, as it always did, in the Awareness that I make possib...
Why explore reality if it's not real?
Morning Clare. I’ve listened to this understanding for a few years now and a feel no wiser. I have recently done a course with Amy Johnson. I feel more confused than ever. It’s like everybody talks in riddles. I’m 62 now and I think if I haven’t got it now I never will. I feel like my mind as a mental block and no information gets past that. I had a nervous breakdown 6 years ago with phsicotic events. It’s left me a bag of nerves I rarely leave my home now unless someone is with me. I’ve recentl...
How does writing go for you? An insight flows through. An ah-ha. And I’m moved to write about it. The process of writing it out always seems to deepen the insight, making it richer, deeper and more delicious. The words flow through and express themselves on the digital page. I am writing this? Not really, I seem to be reading this. When the writing seems to be done and no further tweaks are needed and reread, it feels too good not to share. So I post it. People respond. They resonate with the wo...
I saw this quote: Late diagnosis (of autism) means grieving all the time spent trying to fix parts of you that never needed fixing. How does that fit with what you are teaching?
I have heard you say a few times now how the healing we do for ourselves, sets the whole world free. Can you please say more about that as I am not sure I follow how that works.
I am wondering what I should look for when I choose a spiritual teacher. In theory if someone is enlightened then they are living life from love and abundance and should therefore have everything they want. Can I ask about your personal life? Would you say you have everything you want? If not why should I listen to what you say because this is obviously not working for you.
What about autism? “I am autistic” is an identification of the self as something other than what we really are. But to simply say it’s therefore untrue feels like a denial/spiritual bypass. And are the challenges this particular diagnosis presents with still ‘gifts’ that are portals to healing? I saw this quote: Late diagnosis means grieving all the time spent trying to fix parts of you that never needed fixing. How does that fit with what you are teaching?
“Specificity forces the mind to say what it wants and get what it wants" Can you say more about that
Is there a risk that this self reflection is creating more identitification and ego?
My first post in here. Absolutely love everything you share Clare Dimond . It's life changing. Just had a really cool experience I wanted to share. This morning I went to type an email greeting. My usual greeting is, 'Hi there' but on this email I had it in my head to write a different greeting. But my body remembered 'Hi there' and typed that instead. So the thoughts said one thing and the hands typed another. Would love to hear thoughts on what is happening. I think I can see a link between th...
You often use the words aliveness, consciousness, intelligence, love and presence interchangeably but there are huge differences between them. Why don’t you stick to one?
Do things need to become conscious to change? What is the value of an experience being had at a conscious level
Dearest Clare, I think I understand this concept but want to check it out to be sure and clear – forgiveness A few times you have mentioned not using forgiveness or acceptance anymore --- as a bypass is how I heard it. Now in Be the Change (and yes, I laugh along with you as you love this course and so do I !!!!), you bring in the Ho-oponopono for us to use with the mirror exercise. It does say, I am sorry, Please forgive me –etc. Is this forgiveness “right” because we have already seen and ackn...
I hear you talk about the absolute, the relative and the illusory. Can you remind me what these terms mean? I have it in my head that the absolute is the infinite/mind. The illusory is our constantly changing experience of form via the medium of thought. But then there this in-betweeny thing of the relative that is neither and the body, I’ve heard you say, sits in that category, and the body you talk of as ‘real’. I’m not sure why the body doesn’t also fall under the category of the illusory and...
Is there really an advantage to the separate self if so what is it and why does it make sense to dissolve it
Hi Clare, I've been inquiring into the intense anxiety and desperateness that shows up in nearly all situations where it looks like I'm responsible for something. The child wants approval from everyone, all the time. And yet there's not enough assurance in the world to address this deep bottomless need. Is telling that child "I approve" part of addressing it? Does that reinforce a separateness in the psyche? How is it different from simply saying "I love you"? Any input you have would be appreci...
