Feelings and vigilance: listener question
Is there a time and a place when we don't need to go into the feeling. Is there a danger of becoming too hypervigilant around feelings

Is there a time and a place when we don't need to go into the feeling. Is there a danger of becoming too hypervigilant around feelings
Can you say more about what you mean by 'pinning the mind down'?
There's an experience of 'head-funk' right now (an indication of separation/mind entanglement) so I'd appreciate some feedback.. Responsibility. It comes up A LOT here and in coaching conversations. In the sense of a heaviness of personal responsibility for children/team at work (as a team leader) and others in general. It's a pervasive story about their wellbeing resting on me. That obviously can't be true but looks SO true. Especially with the blurred lines with children in the context of guid...
Dear Clare, For some time I wanted to ask you how you see quriosity in this process of inquiry of who we truly are? Looks like its energy brings openness and lightness. It carries little self identification and is true balsam in life in comparison with heaviness and devastation that shame brings. Thank you a lot :) All the best Urska
Hello Clare, The last few times I felt shame, I got excited as the realisation hit me: “Oh… I’m feeling shame!” … like in ‘discovering a hint in a treasure hunt’ Who knew shame could be exciting?? You make me curious of my ‘worst nightmare’. :) I then heard ‘Clare in my head’ saying: “What’s at stake here? What is being protected? Shame is where you are most identified. There’s a ‘you’ doing, a ‘you’ deciding…” Indeed! So much energy involved in trying to control the way people see ‘me’. So much...
Firstly thank you, I feel so lucky to have found you & your teaching. I feel my grounding is accelerating & I am living in the home space so much more. Can we talk about hormones? This month I have been feeling a low grade depression, I feel it is hormone related as it happens after ovulation. This has been my pattern all my adult life but once I saw through it with the principles I saw that it was not two weeks low mood & I had good days and bad days in the 2nd half of my cycle. But...
hi Clare I loved your book it’s not me and it’s not you. Would you say that When we heal do we get what we want to have in our life?'
This course is blowing me away - quite literally 🤣 and I’m loving the journey. It is so powerful to confront the ego and feel into that contraction and inquire into the story from the position of neutral, curious awareness. I am wanting to get more experientially connected with the portal of powerful healing. Your book recommendation for this portal is Dr Nicole LePara How to Do the Work. So before buying, I listened to a podcast with Dr Nicole speaking about the book and what she teaches in it...
I am on the Be the Change course and I love what you are saying. Is there a risk though that it might open the doors to victim blaming? How do we make sure that doesn’t happen.
What was your most intense spiritual experience this year?.
I don't understand a word of what you are saying. Can you tell me the basics?
I was on a retreat and the teacher and the participants laughed at the idea of non-dual therapy because all of it is an illusion anyway and yet your work seems to be going more and more in that direction. Can you say more?
Cycle of retraumatisation: example from social media My partner moved in at the beginning of the year, a month later we bought our first puppy. Neither of us has owned a dog before but were both super excited. I hate my life now. I was so happy with my partner moving in, it felt so natural and my 12 year DD adjusted well too. Home has always been my favourite place and now I absolutely hate being here. My partner is very active in caring for pup so it’s not like he’s not helping. We’ve just had ...
OMG, I just realised the “I can’t do xyz or I’ll die” (the basis of nearly all of our/my fears) doesn’t mean my body will die, it means the construct of ‘I’ will die!! It’s total bullshit, all of it, because I doesn’t even exist!
How can the mirror exercise not lead to self recrimination - something that I am very good at?
I would like to be "love", "hope", "freedom", "peace", "joy", and me. How? The "me" would love to wake up one day and be the definition of these words.
Does anyone have a story they can share with me of suffering = healing. It really doesn’t feel that way right now!
I listened to today’s podcast and found it really helpful, but I have a further question if that’s ok? Clare talked about going into the body being the way in which we come into reality, into the present moment and into true healing. But if we feel our thinking, then surely the sensations in the body are a result of our current thinking, in that moment, which is made up of the continual searching to find peace? I do find it helpful going into the body but it also revs up my mind, but perhaps tha...
This morning I went into the body instead of the narrative. Within a few minutes I experienced quiet and then got out of bed. 5:15 am which I often would go back to sleep but I thought I'd journal. There wasn't much there. I could have gone back into the narrative while journaling but I didn't. Okay so here I am SANE as you would say. My mind goes - Now what?
I spent years doing a method where I would question thoughts/beliefs. It served me to see that "I" was making a choice and that if I wanted to feel happier then I could choose to believe something else. It was powerful to discover that my thoughts created my reality. After 15 years of this approach, I entered the coaching world and found an infinite number of approaches to feeling happier, content, grounded including meditation, 3Ps, falling into the space of who/what I really am, etc. When I ca...
Dear Clare, Regarding The Mirror - is this what you mean? I am resentful of my badly behaving teenage daughter because SHE is limiting MY freedom. She won't do what I say. She's out of control. I can't control her. And I need her to behave differently as I cannot continue with this intolerable situation. As a result of her constant drama, my life is out of control and not as I want it. The Mirror: Where I am I doing what I am accusing her of? My daughter is appearing as she is because I am limit...
I've been experimenting. I'm a new coach and a few days after listening to the abundance subliminal secured my first paying client, hehe! I am immersed in your youtube podcast ... and have read the Home and It's not You books ... so far! I hope you are feeling better ... and thank you for your work!
What does "heart not in it" or "going through the motions" mean if there is no self? "to do the base functions of an activity without much thought or interest or enthusiasm" also to do it without commitment or insincerely. If emotions are continuing to shift, is this just the system doing what makes sense without the emotions ending up as interested or pleasurable? I do dishes every day, I wouldn't describe it as going through the motions, and also wouldn't say it's interesting or that I do them...
I just found out that my daughter is self harming again or still. Also she thinks she can’t anything and so she just doesn’t care. About school in this case. She still cares a lot about animals. I have like a black out in an exam. I want to see my equivalent but I don’t know what to look for. Ok, the don’t care was quite a pattern but not so much anymore. But the self harming? Yes I used to smoke, and take drugs and binge eat, but I‘m not for decades/years. This can’t be it?
1. Can we revisit the "real world" bit as in where information about reality stops and imagination begins and vice versa. 2. I noticed in a recent call you said "isn't it interesting how reality can shift so dramatically from one moment to the next?" The speaker had been commenting about what I have noticed as well, that for example in the morning there will be "bad" feelings about a specific situation, and then in the afternoon it somehow looks different although nothing about the situation has...
I get confused around the notion of "privilege" that's more and more common these days. How do racism, sexism, classism, etc. all fit into our understanding? As a valid, white, heterosexual cis-woman I sometimes feel the social pressure to acknowledge my "privilege" or witness people confessing theirs, but it doesn't quite make sense on a deeper level. How can I be responsible or sorry for my race/gender/sexual orientation, etc? I was at an anti-racism workshop lately and the vocabulary appeared...
Do things need to become conscious to change? What is the value of an experience being had at a conscious level
I've often heard you talk about the love that we find when all our believed thoughts and illusions are finally dropped. Obviously, I've never gotten anywhere near a million miles away from even first base in this respect, but I'm feeling a tad anxious and lacking that even in my most "oh, I think I just had a bit of a glimpse of what everyone's pointing at" moments, I never seem to have any kind of connection with anything like a love feeling. I can feel nice and peaceful and calm enough, yes, b...
I am doing the Be the Change course. I understand the message that change happens from within us . but there are still terrible acts out there. People’s behaviour can be violent and dangerous. is there not a risk that we will let this go untacked while we are working on ourselves?
Since starting to learn about non duality and having some big shifts in realisation I am finding myself getting frustrated with my friends and the inconsequential things they discuss. I feel like saying to them that none of these things are real anyway but of course I don’t but I do end up withdrawing from the conversation and getting quieter. What should I do about this. Is it only possible now to have friends that are in this conversation?