inner child and approval: listener question

Hi Clare,
I've been inquiring into the intense anxiety and desperateness that shows up in nearly all situations where it looks like I'm responsible for something.
The child wants approval from everyone, all the time. And yet there's not enough assurance in the world to address this deep bottomless need.
Is telling that child "I approve" part of addressing it? Does that reinforce a separateness in the psyche? How is it different from simply saying "I love you"?
Any input you have would be appreciated,