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A woman who really wants a long term partner has gotten a "tantric opportunity" she may not be able to refuse. Hours and hours of hot sex? But the dude isn't boyfriend material. Should take this once in a lifetime opportunity anyway? A woman's friend only dates women much younger than himself. He insists he's being respectful and mindful of power imbalance. But it still gives her the creeps- should it? On the Magnum, a man asks if hypnotism as a means to control someone sexually is a bunch of no...
A man who wanted to confirm his hetero-flexibility gives his first BJ. But did he pass the cocksucker test? Not everyone does. Hear all about it. Want to share your first time doing something? Write us at Q@Savage.Love. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage....
Dan Savage dives into a scandalous story involving Australian police, consensual sex, and a non-consensual finger, exploring blame and consent. He then offers advice to a woman reeling from a sudden engagement breakdown, emphasizing healing and intentional new connections. The episode also navigates sensitive topics like pregnancy risks for trans men in sex clubs and the complexities of maintaining friendships when a partner holds radical views. Finally, comedian Eric Andre joins to discuss group masturbation and the shame associated with it, while a caller shares her surprising enjoyment of dick pics, challenging common perceptions.
What a feel-good story for the ages. Victor managed to amass three sexual "firsts" in one potent session with a transwoman domme:Experience subspace- check.Have sex with a transwoman- check.Dick in the butt? Check! This sizzling story also offers a study in sex worker professionalism. Listen in and feel the joy. Have you gone through some new interesting times? Tell us, tell us, tell us!Write it up and send it in to Q@Savage.Love. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated su...
This just in! Man thinks he's special because he has a Madonna/whore complex! When a woman first started dating her boyfriend, he had a drinking problem, and made some bad moves. The caller told her friends and family about this. But now that he is better and truly working on himself, no one but the caller will forgive him. How can she convince them that he's a good guy? On the Magnum, Dan chats with NYC-based comedian Jamie Wolf on why it's good for men to sleep with women who have a lot of exp...
Anne thought that finding a professional to tie her up in exquisite Shibari bondage in her little, small town would be impossible. She was wrong! Hear all about her encounter in the rope top’s studio. Do you have something for us? Fork it over. Write to Q@Savage.Love. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage....
Dan Savage tackles listener dilemmas, advising a man whose girlfriend repeatedly takes breaks to treat them as breakups, and exploring the evolving etiquette of gay sex acts. Guest comedian Jackie Kashian joins to discuss the complexities of age-gap relationships, particularly a man interested in a much younger woman at a family Seder. The episode also delves into nipple play, finding partners in queer spaces, and responds to listener feedback.
Ever wonder what it’s actually like to get a “happy ending” massage? Wonder no more. Just press play. Tell us a story: Q@Savage.Love This episode is brought to you by Feeld- the dating app that so many Lovecast listeners are already using. Try Feeld’s new feature “Reflections” now by visiting feeld.co/reflections or by downloading Feeld on the App Store or Google Play....
A trans woman enjoys chastity play. But most cock cages use the testicles to keep the device in place. She had an orchiectomy for her gender affirming care, so what is she to do? A gay man has a pattern of losing attraction to the people he's seeing. The instant they break up he gets hot for them again. And now, it's happening with his husband. On the Magnum Dan chats with super bad-ass journalist, lawyer and author Jill Filipovic about the horrifying "Rape Academy" and how feminism is on the ro...
Meet Spring and Nix or "Sprix" as they are called together. These foxy sex party veterans embarked on an adventure at a religious themed event that became a team sport. Somewhere in Mormon heaven, Joseph Smith and Brigham Young are high-fiving each other. If you would like to tell us about a high-five-worthy sexscapade, write it up, and send it in to Q@Savage.Love! This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost a...
Dan Savage explores the intersection of sex, relationships, and societal norms, from the Pope's evolving views on sexual morality to the intricacies of dating app etiquette and maintaining excitement in long-term partnerships. The episode also tackles unique listener dilemmas, including a friend's questionable wedding choices and a couple's desire to safely enact a consensual non-consensual abduction fantasy, emphasizing communication and ethical considerations.
They say we don’t choose our kinks- our kinks choose us. But what if you get turned on by a mundane, routine experience most of us either just tolerate or even dread? Meet Mitchell, who had to regularly suppress erotic excitement all his life, until his GGG girlfriend created the perfect scenario for him. Do you have a GGG girlfriend? Huh? Have you tried something new with her? Let us know ALL about it here: Q@Savage.Love. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplement...
Dan Savage fields a variety of sex and relationship questions, from navigating early dating expectations and dealing with violated boundaries in a throuple to a practical query about drying a Fleshlight. Dr. Rachel Gelman offers expertise on sexual dysfunction following a traumatic injury and calls out doctors who dismiss sexual health concerns. The episode also explores the complexities of sexless marriages and the difficult choices partners face regarding open relationships or alternative sexual outlets, rounded out by listener feedback.
Meet Michael who with the help of “Gary” goes through the looking glass into the twilight world of the bisexual male. It all starts out with your typical, wholesome 100-guy jack-off session. And then things take a bit of a turn…Whoever invented Zoom, most likely didn’t predict *this* sort of thing would happen. If you have a perverse, degenerate experience to share, write it up and send it in to Q@Savage.Love. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work ....
A happily married lesbian is super turned-on by a male acquaintance's cologne. She barely knows the guy. So how can she ask him "What are you WEARING?" Here's a conundrum: a sub serves two different masters. So what should she do when they give her conflicting orders? On the Magnum, everybody loves Doc Chocolate! The former pastor turned porn star, adult educator and content creator is back to help Dan answer a question about use of the potentially problematic term "BBC." (Look it up.) Is it a p...
Meet Marie, a shrewd, savvy, former businesswoman who tried something new, and drives a hard bargain. Sex work! Foot fetishism! Mommy issues! This episode has it all. Surely, you have SOMETHING to tell us about... Write your story and send it to Q@Savage.Love This episode is brought to you by Feeld- the dating app that so many Lovecast listeners are already using. Try Feeld’s new feature “Reflections” now by visiting feeld.co/reflections or by downloading Feeld on the App Store or Google Play....
A woman was invited to the bachelorette party for her co-worker's wedding, which required costly travel. She was presented with a bill to cover all of the expenses of the bride to be. The caller was just laid off her job and simply cannot afford this. Now the bride is miffed, and the friendship is strained. It's an outrage! Oopsie daisy! A woman came across porn featuring an old estranged friend.The sketchy video looks like the ex-friend wasn't aware that she was being filmed. Should the caller ...
Meet Ember, a trans man who, after going to a few sex parties, decided to host his own. It turns out that normie dinner party etiquette and sex party etiquette is the same: DO NOT SHOW UP ON TIME. What else happened at this party? Do you have a story to share of a leap into the sexual unknown? Write us at Q@Savage.Love. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.He...
Dan Savage discusses Donald Trump's false claims about the gay vote and repurposes a lesbian separatist slogan to address "MAGA gays." He advises a caller on defining her "heteroflexible" identity and provides practical tips for a woman interested in pegging a military man. The episode features an interview with Christine Emba on "looks maxers" and the impact of visual culture on Gen Z men. Lastly, Dan offers guidance to a woman rekindling an old crush with a married man, exploring how to delicately inquire about the openness of his marriage.
Somewhere, deep in the woods in Holland, in cabins patrolled by volunteers, there's a very, very kinky gathering. Meet Tom, who indulged his new friend's girlfriend and helped to abduct her, throw her in a van and speed her off to an adventure in consensual non-consent. This is varsity level stuff and not for the faint of heart. Hear all about it. Tell us your story! Q@Savage.Love
This episode delves into various relationship and sexual quandaries, starting with a woman's struggle with a partner's small penis size and Dan's frank advice on sexual compatibility. It also explores the gradual, pleasure-focused process of introducing anal sex, drawing lessons from pop culture. Other topics include differentiating types of cheating, setting sexting boundaries in open relationships, handling unreciprocated interest in polyamory, and celebrating the diversity of vulvas.
Have you ever wanted to be a fly on the wall during a MFM threeway? Listen in as the F tells the tale. How did she set it up? What was it like when they first met and shook hands? Who did who and where? Which one had a food sensitivity? You’ll have to listen to find out. Do you have a ribald, salacious story of sexual experimentation? Or maybe you found yourself in an awkward, unpleasant UNsexy situation. Tell us anyway! Write it up and send it in to Q@Savage.Love. This episode is brought to you...
A kinky, submissive woman's last relationship went down in flames when her dom insisted on a power exchange, all-the-damn-time lifestyle. She is raising kids and caring for her sick father. She doesn't have time for this kind of commitment. How can she set reasonable boundaries in the future? A married man despairs that he'll never kiss his wife again. Smooching is central to his experience of sexual pleasure, and the wife is repulsed by it. Sounds grim. Speaking of kissing, on the Magnum, it's ...
Meet Trina, who indulged her dom's desire. Did she love it? Did she hate it? Listen and learn. Did YOU try something new to you, and want us know about it? Write it up and send it in to Q@Savage.Love. This episode is brought to you by Feeld- the dating app that so many Lovecast listeners are already using. Try Feeld’s new feature “Reflections” now by visiting feeld.co/reflections or by downloading Feeld on the App Store or Google Play....
In this episode, Dan Savage tackles complex relationship dilemmas, from a caller's guilt about age-gap BDSM in the shadow of the Epstein files to another listener's struggle with libido loss due to traumatic news. He offers advice on distinguishing consensual adult sex from abuse and navigating dating with differing levels of sex positivity. Other topics include practical tips for condom use, maintaining long-distance relationships, and a powerful pep talk for a woman starting over after leaving an abusive marriage, emphasizing self-liberation and future happiness.
Vanilla. Straight. Cis. Monogamous. How could this story possibly be sexy? A monogamous couple tried a dual massage in a foreign country. Mirrors on the ceiling. Pillows on the bed. Jacuzzi. Steam room. At first they wondered if they were allowed to have sex. They were. Hear the tale! If you have a story you think everyone should hear, write it up and send it in to Q@Savage.Love. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost...
This episode delves into the complexities of relationships, starting with a caller whose husband's hurtful comments about her weight have led to a sexless marriage, prompting Dan's frank advice. A harrowing ethical dilemma unfolds as another caller discusses her boyfriend's extreme BDSM play with a vulnerable, self-harming trans woman, raising critical questions about consent and safety. Dan also guides a bisexual woman on navigating her conservative Catholic mother's conditional acceptance. The episode features an insightful interview with intimacy coordinator Yehuda Duenyas, highlighting their crucial role in safe and authentic on-screen sex, alongside lighthearted and serious listener questions about everything from dry mouth during sex to accidental urination during ejaculation.
They designed, engineered and built their own fuck box. Dan's question: "So did you upholster it?" Hear all about it, how it fit into the sex party and whether they enjoyed it or not. Do YOU have a perverted tale to tell? Write it up and send it in to Q@Savage.Love.
A 60 year old woman wonders where she can score some poppers. A lesbian would like to score a queer dominatrix to work her over. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Rich Juzwiak of Slate's love and sex advice column, "How to Do It." They talk about how to make anal sex pleasurable when your partner is very, very, (some might even say "too") well endowed. How too many sex partners can be dangerous. And they discuss age gap relationships: are we are in an age of peak daddy? And, a woman's boyfriend comp...
A woman wanted to try out her dollification kink. So, she and her butch girlfriend went to a lesbian sex party. You may be wondering what do they do to dolls at lesbian sex parties. Listen, and find out. Did you have a wild night recently? Write us at Q@Savage.Love. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage....
