Savage Love Episode 1021

A woman who really wants a long term partner has gotten a "tantric opportunity" she may not be able to refuse. Hours and hours of hot sex? But the dude isn't boyfriend material. Should take this once in a lifetime opportunity anyway?

A woman's friend only dates women much younger than himself. He insists he's being respectful and mindful of power imbalance. But it still gives her the creeps- should it?

On the Magnum, a man asks if hypnotism as a means to control someone sexually is a bunch of nonsense. Dan brings on science journalist Sadie Dingfelder to look into the matter.

And, a man dated a woman, broke up, came out, and remains very good friends with his ex. She feels like his platonic but important partner. He had a boyfriend for a while, but the guy was a bit of a dullard and couldn't hold a candle intellectually to his female bestie. Can he find a partner who will accept his gal pal as a part of his emotional life?

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Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From throuples to tantric sex, orgies to orgasm control and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.