Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex and relationship questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, record your question and send it to Q@Savage.Love, or call 206-302-2064. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savage.love and get yourself a subscription.
Don't just listen to podcasts. Learn from them with transcripts, summaries, and chapters for every episode. Skim, search, and bookmark insights. Learn more
In this episode, Dan Savage tackles complex relationship dilemmas, from a caller's guilt about age-gap BDSM in the shadow of the Epstein files to another listener's struggle with libido loss due to traumatic news. He offers advice on distinguishing consensual adult sex from abuse and navigating dating with differing levels of sex positivity. Other topics include practical tips for condom use, maintaining long-distance relationships, and a powerful pep talk for a woman starting over after leaving an abusive marriage, emphasizing self-liberation and future happiness.
Vanilla. Straight. Cis. Monogamous. How could this story possibly be sexy? A monogamous couple tried a dual massage in a foreign country. Mirrors on the ceiling. Pillows on the bed. Jacuzzi. Steam room. At first they wondered if they were allowed to have sex. They were. Hear the tale! If you have a story you think everyone should hear, write it up and send it in to Q@Savage.Love. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost...
This episode delves into the complexities of relationships, starting with a caller whose husband's hurtful comments about her weight have led to a sexless marriage, prompting Dan's frank advice. A harrowing ethical dilemma unfolds as another caller discusses her boyfriend's extreme BDSM play with a vulnerable, self-harming trans woman, raising critical questions about consent and safety. Dan also guides a bisexual woman on navigating her conservative Catholic mother's conditional acceptance. The episode features an insightful interview with intimacy coordinator Yehuda Duenyas, highlighting their crucial role in safe and authentic on-screen sex, alongside lighthearted and serious listener questions about everything from dry mouth during sex to accidental urination during ejaculation.
They designed, engineered and built their own fuck box. Dan's question: "So did you upholster it?" Hear all about it, how it fit into the sex party and whether they enjoyed it or not. Do YOU have a perverted tale to tell? Write it up and send it in to Q@Savage.Love.
A 60 year old woman wonders where she can score some poppers. A lesbian would like to score a queer dominatrix to work her over. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Rich Juzwiak of Slate's love and sex advice column, "How to Do It." They talk about how to make anal sex pleasurable when your partner is very, very, (some might even say "too") well endowed. How too many sex partners can be dangerous. And they discuss age gap relationships: are we are in an age of peak daddy? And, a woman's boyfriend comp...
A woman wanted to try out her dollification kink. So, she and her butch girlfriend went to a lesbian sex party. You may be wondering what do they do to dolls at lesbian sex parties. Listen, and find out. Did you have a wild night recently? Write us at Q@Savage.Love. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage....
This episode delves into a range of intimate topics, beginning with a humorous take on objectification and Olympic condoms. Dan addresses listener questions about the portrayal of gay sex in media, challenges with orgasm, and the emotional complexities of "widow's heat." He also offers advice to a man dealing with an unexpected divorce and a woman navigating dating amidst political polarization, all while emphasizing communication and self-acceptance.
Right after her ketamine infusion, she ran home as fast as should could. And then her boyfriend got busy... Have YOU ever seen the face of a lynx in the sky? Didn't think so. Have a sordid, sexy, weird, funny or freaky tale to tell? We are listening... Write it up and send it in to Q@Savage.Love This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the c...
This episode navigates a diverse array of relationship and sex-related dilemmas, beginning with an unexpected segment on dildo disposal during protests against ICE. Listeners share their most outrageous and heartbreaking breakup stories, followed by Dan's candid commentary. The show also addresses unusual sexual health concerns, such as uncontrollable sneezing after orgasm, and offers advice on complex ethical non-monogamy situations, STI disclosure, and partner expectations around vasectomies. The episode concludes with a lively listener feedback segment, covering everything from "woke scolds" to "lesbian dog drama."
This episode features Daniel, a polyamorous individual, recounting his first-time experience at a "clothed male, nude female" Christmas party in the UK with one of his four partners. He delves into the power dynamics, the organized nature of the event, and how it surprisingly fostered social connections despite his initial anxiety. Daniel also discusses his polyamorous relationship structure, addressing common fears about opening up relationships and offering practical advice for those interested in exploring similar kink events.
Dan interviews, argues and politely spars with gay evangelical Christian Matthew Vines, author of "God and the Gay Christian." Vines, who is married to his husband since 2022, was a potent advocate for gay marriage. Now he and Dan have a debate about the role of monogamy in gay life and society in general. They both take the gloves off, and somehow remain friends at the end of this long conversation. We are releasing about 20 minutes of it on the Micro version, and the whole thing is on the Magn...
Dan Savage and guest John Thomas explore a range of topics including Gen Z's evolving preferences for on-screen sexuality and the perceived inauthenticity of current depictions. They tackle listener questions about unequal polyamorous relationships, the impact of pets on intimacy, and the complexities of situational homosexuality in British boarding schools. The episode also covers navigating anal sex mishaps and challenges common assumptions about the duration of gay sexual encounters, offering practical advice and nuanced perspectives.
A swinging couple found a service that would fulfill their fantasy: a gang bang composed of men she chose. You may never think of gang bangs the same way again. Did you do something amazing? Tell us! Tell us! Q@Savage.Love This episode is brought to you by Feeld, a dating app where the open-minded can meet the like-minded. Download Feeld on the App Store or Google Play ....
This episode features Dan Savage addressing diverse listener questions, including a queer woman's surprising jealousy over her polyamorous partner's cat and an 81-year-old widow's dilemma after her gardener lover's priest intervention. Dan also delves into the nuances of asexuality, the challenges of maintaining self-attraction with age, and the ethical implications of creating personas for casual hookups. The episode begins with a strong political statement, explaining why Dan temporarily veered from his usual sex-focused content to discuss recent ICE-related tragedies and the public's unexpected response.
Louis, a self proclaimed cuddle-slut, found exactly what he wanted at the Liquid Love event. Hear ALL about it. If you have a SENSUAL tale to tell, scribble it down and send it in to Q@Savage.Love with the subject line: After Action Report. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage....
This episode of Savage Lovecast navigates the complexities of modern relationships and sex. Dan Savage provides advice on confronting a partner about poor oral hygiene and addressing a sex life where one partner is unfulfilled. He also empowers a listener embracing sexual freedom after divorce and debunks myths about anal play in straight relationships. The show touches on concerns about partners in the OnlyFans industry and discusses boundaries when a friend gifts lingerie to a monogamous partner.
A cautionary tale from Jennie who went to the sex club with an open mind and ended up with bruises on…well you’ll have to listen to find out what went wrong. We want to hear your story! The good, the bad, the ecstatic and the unpleasant. Write about your weird time, and send it in to Q@Savage.Love with the subject line: After Action Report. We’re listening.
Welcome to the first ever Sex and...Television! For those of you who are obsessed with the Canadian homo hockey romance Heated Rivalry, here's a convo for you. Dan and sex therapist Claire Perelman dish, discuss and swoon over the super-horny show. Enjoy!
This episode kicks off with a celebration of the "Feast of the Ass" and a roundup of recent, lesser-known sex scandals. Dan then tackles several listener dilemmas, including practical advice for hygiene during sex, the complex issue of introducing ethical pornography to minors, and navigating safety concerns in non-monogamous relationships. The episode also covers performance anxiety, achieving orgasm in specific scenarios, and sensitive conversations about circumcision and partner hookups.
Christine and her husband went to a kinky viking party (as one does,) and had a very HOT time. "How attached are you to these nipple hairs?" If you have an amazing or appalling story to share, DO NOT KEEP IT TO YOURSELF. Write it up and send it in to Q@Savage.Love with the subject line: After Action Report. Maybe we'll get back to you!
Celebrating 1000 episodes, Dan Savage and producer Nancy discuss the Lovecast's 20-year journey, including the normalization of bisexuality and the rise of polyamory. They tackle listener questions with quick answers and insights from guest experts like Ezra Klein and Esther Perel. Topics range from the psychology of bug chasing and relationship endings to spicing up sex and the true origin of "pegging," offering a diverse and candid look at modern sexuality.
Her needs were simple. She wanted to wear a trench coat with nothing underneath and to pretend to be a high-end escort for her boyfriend. He gladly obliged and their session was full of surprises.... If you have a dirty little story you would like to share of your first time doing something unspeakably hot, writer it up and send it in to Q@Savage.Love with subject line: After Action Report. Fill our inbox.
Dan Savage tackles diverse sex and relationship queries, including a gay man in an open marriage wrestling with past relationships, a woman's venture into selling used underwear, and a polyamorous woman's ethical quandaries about dating married men. He also addresses a husband's resentment over his wife's lack of affection and a woman's financial concerns when moving in with her boyfriend, offering practical and unconventional advice. The episode concludes with listener feedback and personal reflections.
The scene: it's a secret threeway, upstairs at the party. 2 men, one woman, 2 minutes, one orgasm. To hear more salacious deets, tune in. We've heard of speed dating...but this is a whole other level. Do you have a tale to tell? Write it up and send it in: Q@Savage.Love Do you have a comment for this show? Record it and send it in to Q@Savage.Love, or call 206-302-2064
Dan Savage discusses a variety of relationship and sex dilemmas, offering advice on navigating a casual coworker hookup and understanding a widow's heightened libido after loss. He also addresses a complex situation of betrayal within an ethically non-monogamous relationship, guides a gay man struggling to enjoy bottoming, and provides perspective on being dumped after a short romance. The episode concludes with listener feedback and a humorous discussion about new sexual identity terms.
A married woman and her husband agreed to open the marriage up, with clear rules and boundaries. Guess what! He flagrantly broke the rules. Now, she is considering sleeping with someone else as a form of revenge. Too toxic? A divorced woman is still very good friends with her husband. She's so close with him, that her boyfriends break up with her over it. Are they just jealous or is she part of the problem? On the Magnum, it's a "What You Got?" with Dr. Alicia Walker who recently published a stu...
Gift a Magnum subscription to a friend or enemy for 1/2 off! That’s just $24 from Dec 1-31. It was her first time pegging a man, though she'd dreamed of it for years. Dream fulfilled. How did it go? What did he wear? Who brought the gear? All of your (and Dan's) nosey questions are answered. Do you have a tale to tell? Write it up and send it in: Q@Savage.Love Do you have a comment for this show? Record it and send it in to Q@Savage.Love, or call 206-302-2064...
Hear the harrowing tale of the masochist lad who walked into the dungeon and ended up getting flogged...a lot. Did he like it? Would he do it again? Listen and find out. Do you have a tale to tell? Write it up and send it in: Q@Savage.Love Do you have a comment for this show? Record it and send it in to Q@Savage.Love, or call 206-302-2064 It's the Magnum Gift sale Dec 1–31! Gift a Magnum subscription to a friend or enemy at 50% off, just $24! Savage.love/gift. Who is Dan Savage? Dan Savage is a ...
Dan Savage tackles complex relationship and sex advice, including a wife's shock at realizing her friend was her husband's affair partner from a decade ago, leading to a deep discussion on forgiveness and radical honesty. The show also offers practical tips for women experiencing rapid orgasms during anal sex and explores entry points into BDSM for new practitioners. Additionally, a self-proclaimed feminist ally questions his dating patterns and fear of commitment.
Meet Chrissy, a bisexual woman and self-identified pervert, who went to a sex club for the first time. What happened there? Well, let's just say you may feel...shocked. Want to tell your tale? Write us at Q@Savage.Love Want to hear more from Dan Savage? Listen to the Savage Lovecast @Savage.Love. Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of pro...
