In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 26 November 2023, the wonderful Suvarchala (S02E15) comes back to ask me questions about how I relate to myself. Topics mentioned in the episode: The story of who I was 10 years ago and my first identity dissolution When I achieve my goals and I am not happy, what's next? The questions that drive me today The experiences that have defined me How these stories changed my relationship to myself and my romantic relationships Talking to my inner parts...
Feb 21, 2024•1 hr 3 min•Season 3Ep. 24
In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 25 September 2023, the amazing Bryan Kam (S03:E03) comes back to ask me questions about how I relate to myself. Topics mentioned in the episode: How I relate to myself now, as opposed to a year ago The power of collective practices The shift from the mind to the body when it comes to the question "what am I?" Doing relating to self work in held spaces for other practices Being a fully empowered being with agency Sex-positive events - consent cultu...
Feb 14, 2024•1 hr 3 min•Season 3Ep. 23
In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 27 April 2023, I have a conversation with Nathan Vanderpool, a father, a seeker, an artist. Someone who's striving to grow. who suffers. who gets petty. who feels overwhelmed. who relaxes. who opens. who connects. Topics mentioned in the episode: Embracing Despair: Finding Meaning in Difficult Emotions Internal Family Systems: Releasing Tensions in the Body The Impact of Meditation on Wellbeing Refraining from Labeling Experiences as Good or Bad B...
Feb 06, 2024•46 min•Season 3Ep. 22
In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 24 April 2023, I have a conversation with Richard, a consultant, Sandboxer, and improvisation-enthusiast. Topics mentioned in the episode: The Impact of Language on Perception Consistency of Social Interactions during COVID Lockdown Introspective Relationship with Oneself Influenced by Interactions with Others Altering Internal Dialogue to Promote Positivity Advocating for Precise Language to Enhance Emotional Experiences Transmitting Personal Mea...
Jan 31, 2024•48 min•Season 3Ep. 21
In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 23 April 2023, I have a conversation with Anne-Lorraine, who really likes to thoroughly enjoy food to the last corner of possible experience. And who is increasingly less shy to call herself a poet. She is also the creator of Touchcards, a wonderful game to explore touch . You can follow her on Twitter/X . Topics mentioned in the episode: The evolving nature of the self The impact of depression on self-perception Choosing the right posture for eac...
Jan 23, 2024•45 min•Season 3Ep. 20
In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 17 April 2023, I have a conversation with Jessica, whose mission is to empower women as a purpose coach. You can find Jessica on Instagram . Topics mentioned in the episode: Embracing the Self as a Community of Parts The Healing Power of Writing One’s Life Story Transformative Journeys Through Writing Inspiring Others Through Our Personal Story Commitment Despite Challenges Rewards of the Writing Process Self-Compassion and Personal Development Th...
Jan 16, 2024•38 min•Season 3Ep. 19
In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 17 April 2023, I have a conversation with Dave, a minimalist nomad who has built a journaling business. You can find Dave on Instagram . Topics mentioned in the episode: vulnerability and following initial impulses learned behaviors, shame, and jealousy cravings and desires in life the connection between repressed aspects of oneself and shame gut bacteria and cravings internal family systems journaling as a reflective practice revisiting thoughts ...
Jan 09, 2024•50 min•Season 3Ep. 18
In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on April 12, 2023, I have a conversation with Steven Emery. Steven is an intuitive artist and product manager. You can find Steven's website here , and you can follow him on X/Twitter . Topics mentioned in the episode: The self as a group of individuals Journaling for self-discovery Art as a reflection of identity Music’s tension and release mirroring self-acceptance Anxiety’s impact on creativity Embracing anxiety as a motivator Silence and nonverba...
Jan 02, 2024•47 min•Season 3Ep. 17
In this episode of Relating to Self, I have a conversation with Will Curran. Will wears many hats and seems to have grown up with a healthy sense of self. How will that translate to how he relates to himself? You can find Will's website here . Topics mentioned in the episode: Embracing self-love and awareness The role of music as a personal sanctuary Childhood influences on appreciation for silence Church as a structure for meditation habits Spiritual practices shaped by inspirational figures Le...
Dec 26, 2023•43 min•Season 3Ep. 16
In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 8 April 2023, I have a conversation with Imma, a sommelier who is inviting people to live in conversations. You can connect with Imma through her linktree . Topics mentioned in the episode: Self as a Construct: Imma views the self as a construct defined through relationships with others and the environment. Sensory Experiences: the role of touch and other senses as essential for understanding and interacting with the world. Influence of Microorgan...
Dec 19, 2023•42 min•Season 3Ep. 15
In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 17 January 2023, the wonderful Mary Bajorek (S03E05) comes back to ask me questions about how I relate to myself. Topics mentioned in the episode: How my understanding of Relating to Self keeps changing Relating to Self as being truly present to what is real in the moment Brutal honesty with the self as an act of kindness The gradual path of leaning into that honesty with oneself My light switch moment during his very first meditation retreat Prac...
Dec 12, 2023•54 min•Season 3Ep. 14
Joachim's Musings In these short-form solo podcast episodes, I share some of my thoughts, experiences, and insights. This week, I speak about Story-based Desire vs. Erotic Aliveness and my experience at a temple night in Berlin. I will also answer your questions. If you have any, just email me at joachim@relatingtoself.com If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletter Follow Joachim on Twitter...
Dec 07, 2023•20 min
In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 3 Feb 2023, I have a conversation with Max Stossel. Max Stossel is an award-winning poet, filmmaker, and speaker, named by Forbes as one of the best storytellers of the year. You can find him on his website: https://www.wordsthatmove.com/ and you can follow him on X/Twitter . Topics mentioned in the episode: The dangers of allowing rage to transform into control and manipulation The importance of accepting life's outcomes A contemplation of life a...
Dec 05, 2023•41 min•Season 3Ep. 13
In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 6 December 2022, I have a conversation with Renee. Renee was a graphic designer and was burned out from that very high-status industry work. She then went into bodywork, spirituality, and coaching, and she became a polarity therapist. You can follow her on X/Twitter . Topics mentioned in the episode: Renee's journey of healing and self-discovery after burnout the significance of understanding yourself how our relationship with ourselves shapes our...
Nov 28, 2023•39 min•Season 3Ep. 12
In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 6 March 2023, I have a conversation with Theo. Theo comes from a career in finance and has pivoted to exploring a path of self-healing and spirituality. You can follow him on twitter/X and read more on his website untanglingself.com Topics mentioned in the episode: Quitting a finance job to embark on a journey of self-discovery Emphasizing curiosity and wonder in exploring inner experiences Embracing discomfort as a catalyst for growth Cultural di...
Nov 21, 2023•48 min•Season 3Ep. 11
In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 7 March 2023, I have a conversation with Victor. Victor is in a transitional phase, learning more and more to follow his internal pull. He is also really into building a community of conscious creators, and hosts vibecafe.xyz . You can follow him on Twitter/X. Topics mentioned in the episode: Self-discovery as an evolving process Understanding mental processes and emotional triggers The importance of addressing conflicts and making changes Embraci...
Nov 14, 2023•42 min•Season 3Ep. 10
In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 20 December 2022, I have a conversation with Andrew Rose. Andrew builds social structures, co-living places, a university, and cities. You can follow him on Twitter/X , and you can read his thoughts on Substack . Topics mentioned in the episode: Emotional resilience and the choice of feeling good Meta-questioning and self-reflection Identification with ego and its fluctuations Internal Family Systems (IFS) and parts work for self-navigation Writin...
Nov 07, 2023•40 min•Season 3Ep. 9
In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 9 Dec 2022, I have a conversation with Priya Rose. Priya is a community organizer and co-founder of Fractal . She's also an active contributor to tpot, so you can follow her on X/Twitter . Topics mentioned in the episode: Self-talk and personal growth. Influence of parental criticism on internal dialogue. Therapy and its role in developing a supportive internal voice. Internal Family Systems (IFS) as a concept. Importance of positive influences. I...
Oct 31, 2023•44 min•Season 3Ep. 8
In this episode of Relating to Self, I have a conversation with Tasshin . Tasshin is a bodhisattva (one whose goal is awakening, in Buddhism) and an online pilgrim who strives to spread love, follow his curiosity, and empower others. You can follow him on X/Twitter . Topics mentioned in the episode: Spreading love and empowering others Significance of bodhisattva vows in Buddhism Telling a positive story about oneself and the world About death and the value of life Making a home out of moment-to...
Oct 24, 2023•49 min•Season 3Ep. 7
In this episode of Relating to Self, I have a conversation with Jessica Svenningson . Jessica is an art + tech innovator, digital transformation designer, creative business + market strategist, digital heritage researcher, public speaker + educator, entrepreneur, and killer storyteller. And many other things. You can follow her on Twitter/X . Topics mentioned in the episode: The importance of improving one's relationship with oneself. Self-connection, finding joy, and following intuition. Immers...
Oct 17, 2023•49 min•Season 3Ep. 6
In this episode of Relating to Self, I have a conversation with Mary Bajorek . Mary guides professionals through transition points in their careers towards feeling agentic, confident, and capable so that their work can become aligned with who they are and the impact they want to make in the world. You can follow her on Twitter/X . Topics mentioned in the episode: Relating to self and the importance of relationships with others Self-love and spending time with oneself Identity, autonomy, and conn...
Oct 10, 2023•54 min•Season 3Ep. 5
In this episode of Relating to Self, I have a conversation with Elena Lake Elena transitioned from a career in mathematics and physics to bodywork, massage therapy, and being a forest spirit. You can follow her on Twitter/X . Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode: The importance of self-trust and enjoying one's own company Growth in accurately witnessing oneself The process of unlearning The realization of unmet emotional needs Pursuing a more holistic life The power of a ...
Oct 03, 2023•43 min•Season 3Ep. 4
In this episode of Relating to Self, I have a conversation with Bryan Kam . Bryan is a philosopher and writer, exploring the history of ideas, amongst other things. He has a podcast called Clerestory , works for the British Library, and is an InterIntellect Fellow . You can also follow him on Twitter/X . Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode: Relating to Self, the mundane, and identity The role of the observer and the inner voices Meditation and the concentration states ca...
Sep 26, 2023•54 min•Season 3Ep. 3
In this episode of Relating to Self, I have a conversation with Richard D. Bartlett . Richard helps people grow high-trust communities & decentralized organizations. He's a co-founder of tech co-op Loomio , community building network Microsolidarity , non-hierarchical management consultancy The Hum , and director of the social impact collective Enspiral . Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode: Why Richard is suspicious of the Self Relating to Self as inner conversation...
Sep 19, 2023•57 min•Season 3Ep. 2
In this episode of Relating to Self, I have a conversation with Helena Roth . Helena Roth wrote the book Doing Gentle with an Edge and leads the project tankespjärn . You can read her thoughts on Twitter . Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode: what does Relating to Self mean to Helena? the sense of returning to Self healing by getting out of your own way what does that mean for trauma? the voices in our head who's in the driver's seat? dependent, independent, interdepende...
Sep 12, 2023•44 min•Season 3Ep. 1
This is a bonus episode that is not really about Relating to Self. My friend Bryan Kam and I have been experimenting with a new podcast format. An epistolary of sorts, in which we send each other voice notes. In this episode, we explore beauty, quality, and esthetic enjoyment . Sit back and relax while listening to Bryan and me exploring our thoughts on the subject. This bonus episode is the second epistolary we have published. You can find the first one on Bryan's podcast Clerestory: Joachim &a...
May 30, 2023•47 min
In this episode of Relating to Self, Mary Lemmer ( S02E01 ) comes back to ask Joachim all the things she wants to know about how he relates to himself. Mary Lemmer brings joy to empowering people to improve themselves and the world around them. She believes that improvisation is a practice that can lead to a better relationship with yourself. Mary is the founder of Improve , a company that improves people’s lives by using techniques inspired by improv comedy and behavioral research. Topics, reso...
May 23, 2023•48 min•Season 2Ep. 24
In this episode of Relating to Self, Joachim speaks with Meg Pagani who when relating to self sits with her Council of 12. Meg is an entrepreneur, speaker, and impact strategist. She writes and teaches about power, leadership, and the Way of Nature You can find Meg and her work here: https://www.megpagani.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/margheritamegpagani/ https://www.instagram.com/meg_pagani/ Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode: Relating to self first The practice of ...
May 16, 2023•47 min•Season 2Ep. 23
In this episode of Relating to Self, Joachim speaks with Ana Zarzosa for whom success in relating to self means getting comfortable with the crap too. Ana is a yoga teacher and a project manager for the biotech industry. You can find Ana and her work here: https://www.instagram.com/az.yoga https://www.linkedin.com/in/ana-zarzosa/ Ana's YouTube Yoga channel Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode: Relating to Self as permanent change, and not always up How to get out of negat...
May 09, 2023•52 min•Season 2Ep. 22
In this episode of Relating to Self, Joachim speaks with Asmaa who relates to herself by slowing down and creating a supportive community. Asmaa Guedira is a Moroccon-born, French-adopted, queer digital nomad who works as a catalyst, facilitator, consultant, artist, writer, and designer. You can find Asmaa and her work here: http://www.asmaaguedira.com/ https://www.instagram.com/asgued https://www.linkedin.com/in/asmaaguedira https://twitter.com/asgued Topics, resources, and useful links mention...
Apr 25, 2023•43 min•Season 2Ep. 21
