Welcome! Boy do we have a fun one today, I chat with an old friend and fellow entrepreneur Mr. Clinton Haby. He has crafted his own brand around the art of extracting stories and compiling them into priceless high quality legacy films. We discuss the "ethical will", end of life reflections, and tips on how to engage loved ones this upcoming holiday season. Find out more about Clinton: https://storykeeping.com/ Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curi...
Nov 08, 2023•55 min•Ep. 30
Welcome! In this episode I talk to Jackie (my Mom) again, focusing on her strained and difficult relationship with her father and how that played out in his final years. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational purposes only; it is not intended as formal legal, financial or medical advice My course "unSandwiched" is now LIVE If you are finding value in this podcast, ...
Nov 01, 2023•59 min•Ep. 29
Welcome! What a treat we have for your. In this episode we talk to psychiatrist Dr. Keyashian about the true meaning of self compassion, how to practice this as it relates to supporting yourself and aging parents. More information on Dr. Keyashian can be found here: https://amindfulmd.com/ And she has a retreat coming up, more info here: https://coaching.amindfulmd.com/retreat Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you...
Oct 25, 2023•34 min•Ep. 28
Welcome! In this episode we discuss my fantastic weekend spent with top interior designers... next we take a deep dive into 5 areas of design with some practical tips on aging in place. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational purposes only; it is not intended as formal legal, financial or medical advice My course "unSandwiched" is now LIVE If you are finding value i...
Oct 18, 2023•38 min•Ep. 28
Welcome! In this episode we look at the other end of the spectrum. What if you are the hyper-prepared or hyper-responsible type and you are the one more worried than anyone else? How do you approach your parents? How do you navigate these difficult topics? Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational purposes only; it is not intended as formal legal, financial or medical...
Oct 11, 2023•46 min•Ep. 27
Welcome! In this episode I pass the mic to Liz as we discuss the podcast itself, how it's meant to connect with others and where we are heading in the future. Want to be a guest? contact me at story@rebeccatapiamd.com Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational purposes only; it is not intended as formal legal, financial or medical advice My course "unSandwiched" is now...
Oct 04, 2023•33 min•Ep. 26
Welcome! In this episode we talk to Craig about his Midwestern upbringing with his "mountain" of a Dad and "strongest person ever" Mom to learn more about how they are navigating this current chapter of health issues and aging. We talk about balancing responsiblities with a sibling, dealing with incontinence, and what boundaries are in place. Thanks Craig for such a great episode! Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for...
Sep 27, 2023•46 min•Ep. 25
Welcome! In this episode I share a quick story from a podcast listener then take a deep dive into the concept of seasons throughout life, ups and downs, and how to use our brains to better engage in the here and now by being clear about the coming and going of seasons in our lifetime. Send me a story!! story@rebeccatapiamd.com Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational...
Sep 20, 2023•21 min•Ep. 24
Welcome! In this episode I borrow from a recent presentation I was invited to create for the "Demystifying Inflammation Summit", a free three day online event next week. I talk extensively about the concept of a "zero sum game" and how it applies to our finite resources of time, attention, money and health. This is a concept borrowed from my course, unSandwiched , which is currently LIVE and 15% through end of September with coupon code FALL15. Check out the Demystifying Inflammation Summit: CLI...
Sep 13, 2023•32 min•Ep. 23
Welcome! In this episode I have the exciting opportunity to pick the brain of an Elder Law attorney, and turns out she is super nice and ready to answer all the questions! This is jam-packed with great lessons and insights, and I'll be sure to do a Part 2 in the future. Please enjoy and have those tough conversations! Find more about Lisa here: https://www.harrisbeach.com/people/powers-lisa-m/ Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what w...
Sep 06, 2023•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 22
Welcome! In this solo episode I explore the Swedish tradition of "death cleaning" or "dostadning" and how it is relevant in all stages of life. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational purposes only; it is not intended as formal legal, financial or medical advice Heads up! My course is now LIVE. Head over to my website for more information. If you are finding value i...
Aug 30, 2023•37 min•Ep. 21
Welcome! In this episode I talk to my three children about what their current (early) concept is about taking care of aging parents. Turns out, it largely maps back to what they have seen on the Simpsons. Yup. Anyway, I explore the topics with them with modest success. Thanks for listening! Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational purposes only; it is not intended as...
Aug 23, 2023•47 min•Ep. 20
Welcome! In this episode we speak again with Esther Greenhouse, but this time about her personal journey with her own mother. We explore relationship dynamics, living next door, vascular dementia, and much more. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational purposes only; it is not intended as formal legal, financial or medical advice My course "unSandwiched" is now live ...
Aug 16, 2023•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 19
Welcome! In this episode I explore three different factors that have produced the modern sandwich generation... 1) extension of life expectancy 2) career and economic opportunities 3) assisted and senior living communities Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational purposes only; it is not intended as formal legal, financial or medical advice My course "unSandwiched" i...
Aug 09, 2023•14 min•Ep. 18
Welcome! In this episode we speak with Alexis about the dementia journey with her Dad and recent life changes she has made in order to support her mother. We talk about taking the keys away from her father, the stressors of inflexible physician careers, and deep dive the delicate decisions made when weighing out a life on pause. Alexis can be found on Instagram: @alexisgopalmd Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you...
Aug 02, 2023•59 min•Ep. 17
Welcome! In this episode we hear the story of a lifelong journey of supporting an aging parent through multiple complications and cognitive impairment. We also discuss the complexity of divorced parents, geographic distance, and the importance of self-care. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational purposes only; it is not intended as formal legal, financial or medica...
Jul 26, 2023•45 min•Ep. 16
Welcome! In this episode we have an expert guest, Esther Greenhouse, talking all things environmental gerontology (how cool is that?). We talk about design challenges, caregiver labor shortages and tips/tricks for aging in place. Find out more about Esther... Esther Greenhouse, CEO of Silver to Gold Strategic Consulting , is a strategist and environmental gerontologist bringing a unique constellation of experience and expertise in design, gerontology, environmental psychology, and planning to he...
Jul 19, 2023•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 15
Welcome! In this episode we continue the discussion I started last week about my great Aunt Margie. We get my Mom's perspective on the entire experience, and deep dive the relationship history along with some lessons learned. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational purposes only; it is not intended as formal legal, financial or medical advice My course "unSandwiched...
Jul 12, 2023•56 min•Ep. 14
Welcome! Triggers: death/dying discussion In this episode we talk about the last few years of life for my great-aunt Margie. I go in depth of my experience being at her bedside as she passed, and highlight some of the difficult decision making about that time. I also touch on my Mom's role in her life, how it grew over time, with a promise to dive deeper in a later episode. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, l...
Jul 05, 2023•25 min•Ep. 13
Welcome! In this episode we step through breathtaking moments of Cecilia's life with her father. We talk about the pain of abandonment and the tough decisions she made as her father got more and more ill. Join me for this fascinating story of overcoming adversity to find peace in your own mind. If you are interested in working directly with Cecilia - please check her out! Dr. Cecilia Minano is a practicing gastroenterologist and certified trauma informed and somatic life coach. Her passion is to...
Jun 28, 2023•44 min•Ep. 12
Welcome! This is a conversation with my oldest brother, Josh, that followed the one you may have heard published on Father's Day. We talk about how he thinks of aging and the role of his daughter, and more on living with an aging parent (from the male perspective). It was so unique I figured it should be it's own episode. You can find out more about Josh at his website. Also - check out my course coming soon! July 20th unSanwiched: five steps to managing mental drama about aging parents Caveats:...
Jun 25, 2023•17 min•Ep. 11
Welcome! In this episode I am talking about the concept of reasonable risk and how it applies to our mindset with significant elders or aging parents. How does risk calculation change over time? How does quality of life factor in? How do we approach this topic? Want to check out the video - it's posted on YouTube . Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! My course "unSandwiched: 5 steps to managing ...
Jun 21, 2023•34 min•Ep. 10
Welcome! I know I ask tough and probing questions. My life is NOT off limits. Join us for this episode as I interview my Dad about his life planning. For context, my parents divorced ten years ago and I am "the daughter" in the family (I have three brothers, one of which you will hear from in a future podcast). Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! If you are finding value in this podcast, please ...
Jun 14, 2023•36 min•Ep. 9
Welcome! In this episode we talk about four different significant elders with Sally. She shares about her worries, her hopes, her experiences with both her in-laws and her parents. Her father has had dementia for several years, and her mother is still very sharp and active. Join us for this nitty gritty conversation! Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! If you are finding value in this podcast, p...
Jun 07, 2023•55 min•Ep. 8
Welcome! In this episode we talk about pressure to move across the country to be located near an aging parent. It's a complex decision, one which requires to dig deep and examine your reasons and thought process. Tip & spoiler alert - an eternally unhappy person will not suddenly become happier when you relocate geographically closer. Can't wait for you to listen! Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave t...
May 25, 2023•50 min•Ep. 7
In this episode we talk with Jaylenn. She spent the first part of her retirement years heavily involved with her mother's care. Per usual, we hit the sticky topics: Caring for a demanding and ungrateful person A financially supportive but otherwise unavailable brother Exploring tolls on physical, emotional and marital health Lessons learned Caveats: This is a judgement free zone! If you would like to dig deeper - check out my upcoming course and join the waitlist . Enjoy! Disclaimer: The informa...
May 18, 2023•44 min•Ep. 6
Welcome! In this episode we explore Terry's experience with her father who fell into poor health shortly after she relocated back home after living in Australia. You know we love sticky topics, here are a few: Another female in the picture: girlfriend bails A morally supportive brother but can't (won't) provide hands on care Handling incontinence issues Lessons learned Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave ...
May 11, 2023•55 min•Ep. 5
I love diverse voices on this topic. Males have aging parents too! Imagine that. Today we talk to Paul, who has been estranged from his mother for over 20 years. She is aging, currently diagnosed with breast cancer, and we explore his thoughts and approach in an open conversation. Watch for the cliffhanger at the end... Standard caveats: This is a judgement free space Take what helps, leave the rest No "shoulds" allowed - this is about curiosity and sharing Thank you SO much for listening and su...
May 04, 2023•1 hr•Ep. 4
Welcome! In this episode we continue the banter with my friend Rene. Enjoy! Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! If you are finding value in this podcast, please share and leave a review so others can find it too! If you would like to dig deeper - check out my upcoming course and join the waitlist . Rebecca Disclaimer: The information presented on this podcast is solely for information purposes. ...
Apr 27, 2023•38 min•Ep. 3
Welcome! In this episode we dig deep into several topics, so many I had to create a Part 2! Yes the first line is real regarding my dogs fighting right before I hit record, it's reality so I kept it. Anyway here is a sampling of topics: Background story for Rene Aging parents who are divorced and living very different lives Her late grandmothers fear of dying Professional women and caregiving Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what wo...
Apr 20, 2023•58 min•Ep. 2
