This podcast is about finding the sweetspot between the textbooks and real life when it comes to parenting. Dr Billy (a developmental pediatrician) and Nick (a developing parent) are a couple of dads having honest discussions about parenting day to day
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Episode 131 is out now! Rewards and punishments reflection goes deeply into how developmental theory and the evidence can be used in the real world to guide our kids. We hear amazing listener reflections, questions and advice including a mum whose seven year old caught her mid-bad-parenting and handled it better than she did, a dad fighting the daily battle between connection and control, and a teacher who runs a no-detention, no-suspension school and has never needed either. We cover the differ...
To finish up our first PCP Guides series we ran a live Q&A with our amazing Patreon community. People seemed to think it was helpful so we thought we would share it more broadly. We answer as many questions as possible and cover some great areas about how we can better support neurodivergent kids. Thank you to everyone who submitted questions and for attending the session. Your relentless efforts to help the kids you care for motivates us to keep going. How lucky those children are to have y...
Rewards and punishments are a part of daily life for anyone supporting children, sometimes consciously but often without us even realising. In this episode we discuss the developmental psychology behind them, how it can help us to guide our kids to healthier choices and behaviours and where we might be caught out ("it's a trap!"). We want them to choose the light side of the force by understanding the how, when and why of rewards and avoid pushing them towards the dark side through punishments, ...
In this final reflection episode of supporting neurodivergent kids we explore how we can true nurture the kids we love and care for. We explore safety, masking, communication and evidence-based care along with some incorrect and unhealthy beliefs about neurodivergence. To finish this PCP Guides series we will be running a live Q&A via out Patreon in the coming weeks. Please join that community to send in questions and we can't wait to diver deeper into how we can all support neurodivergent k...
Well this was a big one diving deeply into chaos and control. We go deep into the balance between chaos and control in family life, especially when anxiety, neurodivergence, and survival mode are in the mix. Through honest listener stories, questions and practical insights, we explore why control can feel safe, how to loosen it without everything falling apart, and how real balance comes from safety, flexibility, and gently learning how we go let go of some of the feelings, beliefs and behaviour...
A heavy but important re-listen this week about survival. So many of us feel like we are constantly in the arena battling to survive and in this ep we discuss how real and tough that can be with two messages sent in from the beautiful PCP community. Thank you all for helping us to keep moving forward and we hope this helps in some small way too. We can't wait to host a Patreon live Q&A at the end of this PCP Guides bundle on supporting neurodivergent kids too!
What a movie, what a topic! So much of life is the balance between chaos and control and mental illness Mental illness can present when we become either overwhelmed by unchecked emotion and unpredictability or constrained by rigid, overprotective attempts to stay safe. Just like riding waves children can learn how to successfully ride the waves of chaos and control in their lives with the right support leading to healthy emotional regulation, positive relationships and improved wellbeing. We hop...
In this reflection episode we hear from so many parents & professionals about their worries regarding children they care for. We discuss early development, neurodiversity, teenagers, schools and the best practice approach to assessment and building support around kids. Thank you to every single person who sent in a message. We can only read a fraction but every message helps choose what we cover and where we go next.
One big challenge of supporting children is figuring out when to worry. What difficulties are a typical part development and what are signs of something more worrying? Research highlights that many parents and professionals feel lost as to signs of developmental or mental health concerns so in this episode we try to offer guidance so that people can be comfortable to keep sailing or help realise it's time to find a safe harbour for support. Please send in your questions, reflections and advice a...
Few episodes are more important and full of practical tips than this one! In this re-listen we reflect on what we can do to support our kids in healthy sleep. Poor sleep impacts 30-40% of children with up to 80% of neurodivergent children experiencing childhood insomnia. We hope you like this PCP Guide and please listen to the reflection episode 20 as it's full of gold form the beautiful PCP community. We hope this helps your child sleep better and succeed more in their waking hours.
Well this is a big one folks! Thanks to so many amazing questions, reflections and advice about motivating our kids this episode is jam packed with PCP gold. Dr Nick gets a little emotional at the end as he reads out guiding advice from an amazing paediatric OT about how he brings motivation and strength into his work with children and the families who support them. We hope this episode helps to guide the kids you love and care for and thanks for guiding us too.
This was a big re-listen. This episode was first released two and a half years ago following an email from an amazing parent trying to find a way through supporting their child after another child had made them feel different and less worthy of being celebrated. This movie helps remind us that kindness, seeing the best in people and loving unashamedly are the qualities we should elevate above intellect or power. We hope you like it and please join us on Patreon for additional resources we are bu...
So many kids struggle with focusing impacting their learning, relationships and self-esteem. In this PCP Guide we look back to an episode from over 3 years ago that explores how we can best support these kids in our homes, school and the broader community. We hope it helps and please come over to our free patreon community to learn more together.
PCP Guides: supporting neurodivergent kids part 1 is out! Hi beautiful PCP community! We asked you what you'd like us to cover in future episodes and so many of you asked for topics we have covered in our 4 year back catalogue. After a team huddle we are excited to announce PCP Guides!!! We will reflect on previous episodes covering requested topics with a reflection at the beginning, new resources within our free patreon community and a live Q&A to diver deeply into where the textbooks meet...
To kick off the year we explore the key components to goal setting and motivation to help set the kids we care about up for success. We talk about why this matters, the common pitfalls and how to put the science into practice in the real world. From building this early in kids to helping the out the teens who are stuck in amotivation. We are so excited to be back and we can't wait to read your reflections, questions and advice. Special thanks to our sponsor Sound Slam for supporting this episode...
In our final episode of the year we answer some important short questions about how we can have impact in the face of difficult challenges in the world right now. We then read out the reflections from some of the beautiful PCP community who generously share their journey. As always there is laughter and tears. Thank you all for being a part of PCP in 2025. We feel privileged to share this community with you and hope you are able to slow down and rest over the coming weeks. See you in 2026 to fac...
Dr. Billy Garvey and Nick McCormack explore the science behind child development, particularly Yuri Bronfenbrenner's ecological systems theory, highlighting how environment shapes a child's potential. They share personal reflections on healing, community impact, and discuss the influence of various systems on kids' lives, from micro-interactions to broader cultural beliefs. The episode integrates insights from "Love Actually" and key parenting takeaways from the past year, emphasizing hope and the power of individual and community support.
This is a big one folks. In this ep Nick & Billy dive deep into how we can build hope in our kids at different ages and levels of development, how hope is different to optimism and resilience, and how it can be used following set backs and failure. We discuss hope in the setting of heartbreaking experiences such as school expulsion, trauma, suicidal thinking and grief. As always we also read beautiful reflections and advice that bring laughter and tears. Thank you to everyone for sharing you...
Hope is an essential part of life that keeps us moving forward, especially during adversity. It's not a feeling but a skill that kids can learn if we know how to guide them. In this episode we discuss the importance of hope, how it changes through life and how the research can be used in the real world to help develop it in our kids. We hope you like it and we can't wait to read your reflections, questions and advice.
In true form to the topic this reflection episode is rather playful between Nick and Billy as they explore how to play with kids. We discuss why it can be tough, how to target specific struggles, the role of educators and how play changes from kids to teens. As always there are beautiful reflections, questions and tips from the wonderful PCP community. Thank you as always and we hope you like it.
Dr. Billy Garvey and Nick McCormack discuss the vital importance of play for children's mental health and development, highlighting how many parents struggle to know how to play effectively. They delve into strategies for child-led free play, emphasizing observation, mirroring, and narrating emotions to build communication, empathy, and resilience. The episode uses The Sound of Music as a compelling analogy, contrasting rigid parenting with the transformative power of playful connection and supporting children to safely navigate challenges.
In this special episode we talk with the phenomenal Dr Tina Payne Bryson, New York Times best-selling author, psychotherapist, researcher and wonderful human. Tina helps us understand how the science can be translated into practical strategies regarding emotional difficulties, attachment, neurodiversity, trauma and so much more. Thank you Tina for your generosity and if you somehow don't know her work please check her out. As you can tell in the beginning of this episode Billy is a HUGE FAN.
In this reflection episode we discuss how we can set our kids up to succeed through their teens, how to spot when something is wrong and what we can do to help. We also chat about how to support teens through bullying, keeping things from us, finding their identity, phones and much more! Thank you to everyone who sent in questions, advice and reflections, we hope this episode honours your story.
Adolescence is an important developmental window during which identity is explored and relationships are strengthened. It can also be a turbulent time during which mental illness spikes and the kids we care about become lost. Luckily there is so much we can do to prepare ourselves and our younger kids for this period. The evidence can also guide us if we are currently supporting a teen even if it all seems hopeless. We hope you like this latest episode and we can't wait for your reflections, que...
In this reflection episode we hear from PCP listeners who generously share their stories of survival with reflections, questions and advice. It's a vulnerable conversation with an emotional ending but we hope it helps people find the kindness and compassion for themselves that we work on for ourselves. Thank you to everyone who contributed, we feel so lucky to have you in the area with us!
This episode challenges the notion that parents must constantly fight against hardship, drawing parallels with the movie Gladiator and the philosophy of Stoicism. It introduces the concept that sometimes just "surviving" day-to-day is a courageous act, emphasizing self-compassion and kindness over relentless self-improvement, especially for parents facing significant challenges. The hosts share personal anecdotes and a powerful listener letter, advocating for better societal support for families, particularly those with neurodiverse children, rather than placing the entire burden on individual parents.
In our second reflection episode about nurturing neurodiversity we dive into the science of neurodiversity and how it can be used in the real world to support the kids in our lives. We hear from exceptional educators about how to best support neurodivergent students, discuss research about pathological demand avoidance (PDA) and explore mental health and trauma relating to neurodiversity. We end on a message that can help all of us understand the power of inclusion. We hope you like it and thank...
In this part 1 reflection episode we discuss how the evidence can guide us regarding many of the challenges neurodivergent kids face. We cover questions about masking, rejection sensitive dysphoria, neurodiversity and emotional sensitivity, fitting in, medication and many more. Thank you for the wonderful questions, reflections and advice that the amazing PCP community sent in. We hope you like it and we can't wait to dive into this topic even further in the next reflection episode.
After so many requests from the amazing PCP community we are diving back in to talk about neurodiversity and how we can better support these beautiful kids. We discuss how movies, beliefs and a deficit approach can cause harm and limit potential. We dive into how we can help neurodivergent children and teens feel safe and experience success using the science in the real world. We can not wait to hear your reflections, questions and advice on nurturing neurodiversity as it's our favourite part of...
In this reflection episode we go deeper into conflict resolution using reflections, questions and advice from the wonderful PCP community. We explore how we can support conflict resolution at different developmental stages from toddlers to teens, what schools can do and how we can work on this within ourselves. Thank you to everyone who sent in their messages and we hope you like the episode.
