In this episode, I answer the question: "Why do I cry every night ever since that one man broke my heart?" I explore five possible reasons the pain still lingers—grief, the stories we tell ourselves, the impact of toxic relationships, identity loss, and old wounds that heartbreak can reopen. I discuss why healing can feel so hard, share new perspectives, and offer gentle, actionable tips to help you start moving forward. 🕘 Timestamps: Intro: 05 Listener Question: 2:20 Outro: 25:29 🗒️ Show note...
Aug 13, 2025•26 min•Season 5Ep. 137
Grieving the end of a friendship that turned romantic? This week I answer a listener question about the grief and confusion that comes when a close friendship becomes romantic — and then ends. Whether you're experiencing a friendship breakup, a "friends-to-lovers" heartbreak, or navigating unspoken feelings, I offer compassionate advice to help you process the pain, find closure (even if it's one-sided), and validate your emotions. 🎙️ In this episode: How to grieve a friendship breakup with rom...
Aug 06, 2025•26 min•Season 5Ep. 136
In this episode, I respond to a listener struggling with limerence and intense infatuation for their best friend—a love that feels impossible and is tangled with self-hate, shame, and depression. We dive into the power of self-love, self-compassion, and curiosity, offering practical guidance for anyone caught in obsessive thoughts or fantasies. Together, we explore why our minds turn to fantasy and limerence, especially when past trauma and grief remain unresolved. I also share my own experience...
Jul 16, 2025•37 min•Season 5Ep. 135
In this episode, I dive deep into the emotions and challenges that arise when you don’t get along with your partner’s parents—especially when toxic and hurtful behavior is in play. I answer a listener question about a difficult first meeting with a partner’s mother. I share insights on how to process the pain, anger, and fear that surface in these situations. I focus on strategies for regaining your sense of safety, honoring your feelings, and navigating triggers rooted in past family dynamics. ...
Jul 09, 2025•31 min•Season 5Ep. 134
In this episode, I open up about the painful journey of healing from sexual violence—especially the heartbreak of not seeing your rapist held accountable. As a fellow survivor, I share how I’ve navigated a world that often protects the “nice guy” and fails survivors. We talk about validating our emotions, reclaiming our voice, why justice and healing don’t always align, and how to keep choosing ourselves. I also share practical resources, tips for finding support, and ways to reconnect with purp...
Jun 25, 2025•29 min•Season 5Ep. 133
In this episode, I dive into the tough question of when to let go of a relationship, especially when addiction is involved. We explore how even culturally accepted addictions can impact a relationship and cause real harm. I respond to a listener’s question about loving a partner who won’t change, coping when your needs aren’t being met, and the painful tension between the good moments and ongoing hurt. We talk about how to be honest with yourself about what you truly need and why acceptance does...
Jun 11, 2025•17 min•Season 5Ep. 132
In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about healing after betrayal in a long-term relationship. A year and a half ago, this listener cheated on their girlfriend, and ever since, the relationship has been continued falling apart with no signs of improvement. We explore what it really takes to rebuild trust, how betrayal reshapes both people, and when letting go might be the most compassionate choice. I share insights on navigating emotional triggers, making difficult relationship decisi...
Jun 04, 2025•21 min•Season 5Ep. 131
Losing a friendship can be painful and unexpected. In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about how to heal after the end of a female friendship. I explore why these relationships can be difficult, how to process the loss, and why it’s okay that not all friendships last forever. I also touch on the role of childhood wounds and patterns in our connections. If you’re navigating friendship heartbreak, you’re not alone. I open the episode with a poem I wrote about friendship breakups. Times...
May 28, 2025•25 min•Season 5Ep. 130
In this episode, I answer a listener’s question: “How do we begin again after a major life change?” I dive into the emotions and feelings that come with starting over—whether after a breakup, moving to a new place, or losing friendships. I share my own personal stories of beginning again, from navigating unexpected loss to switching life paths more than once. I offer compassionate advice on reframing the narrative around “square one” moments, emphasizing that new beginnings are natural and often...
Apr 30, 2025•26 min•Season 5Ep. 129
In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is navigating heartbreak after the end of relationship where they believed they could change someone, only to realize they could not. We discuss the question – how do we let go of the potential of someone and accept the truth of the relationship? Throughout the episode we discuss why we can’t change others and how we only have the power to change ourselves, the importance of recognizing your own worth, why you deserve someone who doesn’t h...
Apr 16, 2025•28 min•Season 5Ep. 128
In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who struggles to speak aloud their experience of sexual assault. I think this is a very common experience for survivors of sexual violence, and I give a few reasons why I believe it is hard for survivors to speak about their experiences of sexual trauma. I share from my own experiences as a rape survivor and offer insights on the healing journey. I also share tools on how you can begin to share your story in ways that may feel safe for you. My...
Apr 09, 2025•30 min•Season 5Ep. 127
In this episode, I answer my own question - what do we do when things don’t go according to plan? After a disappointing couple of week’s I found myself needing a reminder about how to pivot when faced with feeling lost and feelings of heartbreak, disappointment, and just like nothing would go my way. I discuss the challenges of suppressed memories, how to pivot after a creative “failure”, not being where I want to be, and how to find the gifts in the tough chapters of life. I also discuss self-d...
Apr 02, 2025•29 min•Season 5Ep. 126
In this episode, I welcome special guest Kelly Schooner, a licensed marriage and family therapist, to discuss what is EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and how EMDR can help people on their healing journeys. We discuss who EMDR can help, how EMDR can help people with “big T trauma” and also “little T traumas”, the difference between suppression and repression, how EMDR can help people with ADD, and more. We also touch on the question - can you trust an EMDR memory. If you have...
Mar 12, 2025•54 min•Season 5Ep. 125
In this episode, we discuss the feeling of frustration. Responding to a listener's question about feeling stuck and overwhelmed by frustration, we explore various emotions that often accompany feeling frustrated, such as anger, hopelessness, and disappointment. I talk about the importance of understanding the root causes of our frustration and offer advice on how to process and work through it. As always I emphasize the value of being kind to oneself, acknowledging feelings as part of the human ...
Mar 05, 2025•23 min•Season 5Ep. 124
In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about how to forgive oneself after cheating in a relationship. This listener is struggling with feelings of loneliness, sadness, and fear, and they feel as though they have to carry this burden and heavy shame by themselves. We discuss why it’s important to be supported throughout the healing journey, the importance of beginning to communicate with partners, and self-compassion. We also dive into discussing inner child work and how the inner child ...
Feb 26, 2025•29 min•Season 5Ep. 123
In this episode, I delve into a listener's heartfelt question – what does it mean if I fail at love? This listener is feels like they are getting a second chance at love with an ex, and finds themselves feeling fear arise. They have been in love before and are worried they will “mess up” this new relationship. Through the episode, we explore the intricacies of love, vulnerability, and self-worth, while also emphasizing the importance of self-love and being kind to oneself on the journey to findi...
Feb 19, 2025•23 min•Season 5Ep. 122
What do we do when life feels too good to be true? We often expect to embrace happiness when things are good, but the truth is many people struggle and feel triggered when things are going well. Many people ask themselves – is it too good to be true? In today’s episode I answer a question from a listener who is struggling with anxiety, fear, and overwhelm because they are afraid of “the other shoe dropping” during a happy time in their life. They faced many challenges during the COVID-19 pandemi...
Feb 12, 2025•28 min•Season 5Ep. 121
In this episode, I answer a listener’s question: Why am I scared of love? I dive into the reasons so many of us experience a fear of love, including the fear of vulnerability, childhood trauma, low self-worth, and even the anxiety that love or a relationship might be “too good to be true.” This episode is for anyone who’s afraid of love but is ready to embrace it rather than pull away. If you’ve struggled with opening your heart, this episode offers insights to help you move through those fears....
Feb 05, 2025•26 min•Season 5Ep. 120
In this episode, I explore how to overcome the fear of rejection. I answer a listener's question about struggling with the fear of rejection in love, specifically feeling frozen when it comes to asking someone out on a date. I also dive into how and why the fear of rejection can leave us feeling paralyzed, triggering the freeze response. Throughout the episode, we discuss why the fear of rejection is so overwhelming, how it's a very human (and unavoidable) experience, how to recognize fear cycle...
Jan 29, 2025•27 min•Season 5Ep. 119
For this episode, I am joined by special guest, Kate Chisholm, founder of Survivors RISE, for a candid discussion about the realities of healing and surviving rape. We discuss our personal journeys of healing from rape and sexual violence, and Kate shares her story surviving rape, as well as her experience going through the criminal justice system and the impact of institutional betrayal. The episode also highlights the importance of community support, empathy, and various healing modalities we ...
Jan 22, 2025•1 hr 20 min•Season 5Ep. 118
In this episode, I chat with mental health counselor Katie Landrum, to discuss our personal experiences with “good” and “bad” therapy. We discuss what makes therapy beneficial, and also what we have found harmful throughout our own experiences. We emphasize the importance of finding a therapist who is the right fit, offers a safe space, and is non-judgemental. Katie provides us with a list of questions you can use when interviewing a therapist. We also discuss how to prepare for your first sessi...
Jan 15, 2025•41 min•Season 5Ep. 117
In this episode, I share about my own mental health struggles in 2024 and why I believe prioritizing mental health is so important. I discuss how I believe society impacts our mental health, and how I felt impacted by the 2024 election (specifically as a rape survivor), living through a pandemic, and social media. I also discuss how the healing journey impacts mental health and how for me healing from rape and family dynamics has continued to impact my mental health. I also discuss a few suggest...
Jan 08, 2025•30 min•Season 5Ep. 116
Where is the holiday season magic? In this episode, I answer a listener question from someone feeling sad, depressed, and lonely this holiday season. I explore ways to process and accept these emotions, reconnect with your inner child to rediscover holiday magic, and practice self-love. We also discuss the importance of taking care of yourself this holiday season. Happy Holidays from me, Amanda Durocher! Thank you all for your continued support! Timestamps Introduction: 00:15 Listener Question: ...
Dec 18, 2024•22 min•Season 5Ep. 115
In this episode I talk about how to become comfortable with physical touch after sexual assault. Many survivors of sexual trauma struggle with sex and being touched after sexual violence. In this episode I discuss the importance of being kind to yourself, how to practice awareness and listening to your body, and reconnecting to your body . My intention is to help you connect back with yourself while also assuring you that it's okay no matter where you are at on your journey. You are healing. Tim...
Nov 27, 2024•29 min•Season 5Ep. 114
In this episode, I answer a listener question about processing repressed memories of childhood sexual trauma and how we can learn to trust ourselves. Throughout this episode, I discuss my own experiences with repressed memories of sexual trauma. I discuss how self-doubt is common when processing repressed memories of trauma, how to listen to your body, the importance of acceptance, and how to practice gentleness with yourself throughout this process. My intention is to offer you some solace if y...
Nov 20, 2024•32 min•Season 5Ep. 113
In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is wondering why they still seek validation from their parents even though they already know their parents are unsupportive and are often left feeling unhappy. I discuss how so often our need for parental validation and approval is tied to deep rooted human fears, including the fear of rejection, the fear of abandonment, the fear of criticism, and the fear of being unlovable. My intention is to help you to feel less alone, validated in you...
Nov 13, 2024•36 min•Season 5Ep. 112
In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who was sexually assaulted by their biological father and is looking for guidance on how to navigate this situation and get support from their family. Navigating relationships with family and friends after sexual assault often feels scary, uncomfortable, overwhelming, and uncertain. It becomes even more complicated when the perpetrator of the abuse is intertwined within the family. We discuss how to navigate hard conversations with family afte...
Nov 06, 2024•33 min•Season 5Ep. 111
In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is debating leaving her husband who has narcissistic traits and has been manipulative and controlling in the past. When she told him that she was leaving the relationship, he begged for a second chance and did start to change his behavior. Now, the listener is having trouble deciding if she should stay or leave the relationship. In this episode, we learn about trusting our intuition and listening to our bodies when we are making challengin...
Oct 30, 2024•25 min•Season 5Ep. 110
Welcome to Reflections, a New View Advice minisode series! Each week I read short stories from my own healing journey. This week I share a story about a time I got really really angry after finding out that one of the guys that raped me got engaged. I share this story as an inside look at what it can look like to heal from trauma and to hopefully help someone out there who may have intense feelings and not be sure if they are normal. I know that I judged myself for this moment in time for a long...
Oct 24, 2024•8 min
In this episode, I dive into the complexities of creativity for trauma survivors. In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is a religious cult trauma survivor and wants to be a film writer / director, but is struggling with putting too much pressure on themselves to tell their story the “right” way.I share personal insights and advice on embracing the messy, emotional journey of creativity. I talk about the importance of releasing pressure and perfectionism, embracing the anger, ...
Oct 23, 2024•30 min•Season 5Ep. 109
