In this episode, I discuss how we can support ourselves after sexual assault, rape, and sexual trauma. I share advice on how survivors can begin to feel safe in their bodies again, take their power back, and navigate the journey towards a new normal. Drawing from my own personal experiences and a listener question, I provide heartfelt guidance aimed at helping survivors feel less alone and more empowered on their healing journey. Timestamps Introduction: 0:15 Poem: 2:00 Listener Question: 3:27 O...
Oct 16, 2024•27 min•Season 5Ep. 108
In this episode, I dive into regret and how to forgive ourselves when past decisions. I answer a listener question who regrets telling the truth and questions whether it was the right thing to do. I offer guidance on how to process our feelings of regret and how to let go of past burdens. Timestamps Introduction: 0:15 Listener Question: 2:04 Outro: 26:36 For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/107 For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit:...
Oct 09, 2024•27 min•Season 5Ep. 107
Why do so many of us feel alone? Why do we feel alone even when we are with other people? Where does this feeling of loneliness come from? In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is wondering why they always feel lonely. I discuss the feeling of loneliness, how it is present for so many of us, and how we can begin to heal, feel, and process feeling lonely. My intention for this episode is to offer you a new view on feeling lonely as well as help you to feel less alone, no matter...
Oct 02, 2024•42 min•Season 5Ep. 106
Why is it that our head understands that a relationship is over but our heart still struggles to let it go? In this episode, I answer a question from a listener moving through the break up grieving process. I talk about the grief we feel at the end of a relationship and how so often the grief stage lasts longer than we expect it to. I offer a new view on healing from a broken heart and why this process will take as long as it’s going to take, and that there is nothing wrong with that. My intenti...
Jun 19, 2024•18 min•Season 4Ep. 105
In this episode I outline my Self-Love System and the 6 pillars for practicing self-love. By practicing the self-love system, you will learn how to love yourself one step at a time. Through self-love you will remember your worth, enoughness, and lovability, and feel confident attracting the love you are seeking. My intention is to assist you in remembering your own worth and helping you to feel confident in finding love. Timestamps Introduction: 0:15 Poem: 2:21 Question: 3:43 6 Pillars of Self-L...
Jun 12, 2024•26 min•Season 4Ep. 104
In this episode we talk about self-love. I answer a question from a listener who wants to know how do you love yourself if you can't remember a time when you ever loved yourself. I also talk about why so many struggle with self-love and why self-compassion is the key. I also share a poem I wrote and that can be found on my website. Timestamps ⏱️ Introduction: 0:15 Poem: 2:20 Question: 3:28 Outro: 19:22 For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/103 For more free resource...
Jun 05, 2024•20 min•Season 4Ep. 103
Join special-guest Erica Wernick and I as we discuss self-trust and following your intuition. In this episode we get honest about our own struggles with self-doubt, and how it can be really hard to trust ourselves. Erica and I discuss that following our hearts often triggers fears, but we continue to follow our inner guidance anyways because we have found that it leads to happiness and fulfillment. We also discuss how we both have learned to trust ourselves before it's logical, how trust trigger...
May 22, 2024•55 min•Season 4Ep. 102
In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who wants to know whether they need to feel guilty for cheating on someone they aren’t technically dating? We will explore the feelings of guilt and learn why avoiding difficult conversations with partners and lovers can lead to unforeseen difficulties down the road. By the end of this episode, you will have a new view on guilt and new tools for processing guilt and handling tough situations in relationships. Timestamps Introduction: 00:15 Lis...
May 15, 2024•23 min•Season 4Ep. 101
In honor of New View Advice’s 100th episode, Amanda Durocher gives a behind-the-scenes look into why she started the podcast and what she has learned on her healing journey. Amanda discusses her passion for helping trauma survivors and anyone seeking guidance along any type of healing journey. This episode features questions about starting new view advice, entrepreneurship, and the continued support of the new view advice community. Thank you to everyone in the New View Advice community for your...
May 08, 2024•28 min•Season 4Ep. 100
In this episode, Amanda Durocher discusses imposter syndrome and why these feelings often have nothing to do with your current job or situation. Imposter syndrome is often a form of self-sabotage and self-doubt and we don’t even realize it. By the end of this episode, you will learn to embrace self-kindness and identify the root causes from your past that are causing you to feel like an imposter at work. Timestamps Introduction: 00:15 Listener Question: 1:26 Outro: 24:36 For episode show notes, ...
May 01, 2024•25 min•Season 4Ep. 99
This episode focuses on the partners and loved ones of survivors of sexual assault rape, and sexual trauma. Sexual violence impacts more than just the survivor and it is so common for the loved ones to feel overwhelmed, scared, angry, alone, and confused. In this episode, I will outline six steps for how to support a loved one who has experienced sexual trauma and also the importance of helping yourself throughout this process. My intention is to support you in learning more about the experience...
Apr 24, 2024•27 min•Season 4Ep. 98
In this episode we dive into the fear of putting yourself out there and the fear of abandonment, and how to begin to identify the root causes for these fears and how to heal. I answer a listener question from someone who enjoys being alone, but still struggles to put themselves out into the world authentically. They desire connection, but fear being left all alone or unaccepted. I discuss abandonment and how it is often connected to self-abandonment, and how these moments throughout our life can...
Apr 17, 2024•25 min•Season 4Ep. 97
What do we do when we develop romantic feelings for a friend and they don’t feel the same? In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is in love with their best friend and they don’t know what to do. I discuss how to navigate this situation, steps to gain clarity around the relationship, how to be honest with yourself and your friend, and how to decide if you should remain friends or let the relationship go. My intention is to help you to access your feelings and connect back to yo...
Apr 03, 2024•24 min•Season 4Ep. 96
In this episode I reflect on the healing journey and what that means to me. I spend time talking about how healing is a journey of transformation and how healing transforms our life for the better. This episode is here if you are looking for some inspiration, hope, or a new view on the healing journey. For episode show notes & transcript, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/95 For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ Want ...
Mar 27, 2024•19 min•Season 4Ep. 95
This episode is about how to develop emotional maturity as an adult. Have you begun developing self-awareness but realized there are some immature patterns you’d like to change? Or have you noticed that in certain relationships you can be emotionally immature? Or do you struggle to handle or process your emotions? In this episode, I answer a listener question from someone who read the book Adult Children on Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C Gibson and not only saw their parents’ behavior...
Mar 20, 2024•24 min•Season 4Ep. 94
Are you curious about EMDR and wonder if it could help you on your healing journey? Have you tried it and wonder why it may not be working the way you expected? In this episode, I answer a listener question from someone who is starting EMDR and wants an honest opinion from someone who has done EMDR before. I talk about my own experience with EMDR and share 7 things I wish I knew before starting EMDR. My hope is that for anyone considering EMDR or currently in the process this episode will help y...
Mar 13, 2024•24 min•Season 4Ep. 93
Are you looking to heal from generational trauma but feel guilty moving forward? Are you afraid that by moving forward you could be forgetting the very real struggles of your ancestors? Are you afraid if you don’t continue to talk about it, then you are not honoring your family? This is a follow up episode 90: Generational Trauma: How to Heal the Impact of Family & Parental Trauma. In this episode, I focus on how to honor our ancestors and their experiences, while letting go of the guilt for...
Mar 06, 2024•24 min•Season 4Ep. 92
Many women experience feeling naive throughout their life and one way this happens is through dating abusive and harmful men. In this episode, we are going to explore how and why women can end up in a pattern of dating “bad” men and not even know why it is happening. Today I am answering a question from a listener who grew up without a male role model and now finds herself in a pattern of dating men who hurt her. My intention for this episode is to help you to see that there’s nothing wrong with...
Feb 28, 2024•23 min•Season 4Ep. 91
Generational trauma can feel like a heavy burden, but so many people, myself included, feel guilty and shameful for feeling anything other than positive feelings and gratitude towards their family and cultures. Today I will be discussing generational trauma and how to heal from the impact of our parents and family’s unresolved trauma. We will focus on trauma that is passed down from our parents to us and how we can begin to break the cycle so we do not pass that trauma onto future generations. I...
Feb 21, 2024•27 min•Season 4Ep. 90
So many of us struggle to feel confident in who we are, and often feel insecure. In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who wants to know why they have low self-esteem and how can they begin to build confidence. In this episode, I will share learnings from my own experiences healing my self-esteem, insecurities, and self-worth. I share four areas where I think many people’s insecurities and low self-esteem originate, and I also discuss four steps for building confidence in your own...
Feb 14, 2024•35 min•Season 4Ep. 89
Today I will be discussing why vulnerability can be so challenging men (and all people). In this episode, I answer a question from a man who is struggling to be vulnerable with his wife and feels defeated and angry by her criticisms of him. In this episode, we will learn about how society and culture impacts male vulnerability and how women can often have unrealistic expectations of men. This episode is about honoring the male experience and we’ll discuss how to ask your partner to honor your fe...
Feb 07, 2024•40 min•Season 4Ep. 88
Do you ever find yourself feeling triggered by feeling like a third wheel? Do you struggle to hang out with your couple friends? Or do you even end up fighting with friends because you don’t want to be a third wheel? In this episode, I will be answering a question from a listener who has been single for awhile and enjoys time alone, but struggles with feeling like a third wheel. In this episode I will be helping this listener to dive deeper into their insecurity of not feeling like they are enou...
Jan 31, 2024•27 min•Season 4Ep. 87
Perseverance is important on the healing journey because it reminds us of our strength when life feels challenging. In this episode, I explain perseverance and how resilience and delayed gratification can help you to continue to move forward. I also discuss my own healing journey and how I have learned to persevere over time, and that perseverance and hard work were not qualities that came naturally to me, but skills I developed throughout healing. Timestamps ⏱️ Introduction: 00:15 Why Persevera...
Jan 24, 2024•24 min•Season 4Ep. 86
Welcome to Season 4! In honor of this new season, I wanted to share a love letter I wrote to the New View Advice Community. New View Advice would not be possible without all your love and support, so today I wanted to take a moment to thank you from my heart to yours. I hope you enjoy. Sending you all my love. Timestamps ⏱️ Introduction: 00:15 Love Letter: 01:00 Outro: 4:24 For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/85 For more free resources and to learn more about New ...
Jan 17, 2024•5 min•Season 4Ep. 85
Do you feel insecure in female friendships? Do you sometimes find it easier to be alone or with men than with other women? Do you find yourself feeling jealous, competitive, or mistrusting of women? If so, you may have a female friendship wound. In this episode, we discuss how to heal the female friendship wound. I’ll be answering a question from a listener looking for advice on unhealthy female friendships. This listener recently went through a friendship break up, and sees a pattern, but doesn...
Dec 20, 2023•35 min•Season 3Ep. 84
Do you find yourself having fearful thoughts and living life in fear? Do you struggle with anxiety or always fear that bad things are going to happen and you have no control? In this episode, I’ll be discussing what to do when we are living life with fear, general anxiety, or anticipatory anxiety over things that we can’t predict or control. I’ll be answering a question from a listener who is struggling with feeling like they are afraid of everything and always coming up with worst case scenario...
Dec 13, 2023•31 min•Season 3Ep. 83
Do you find the holidays overwhelming and stressful? Do you have a hard time setting boundaries? Do you find yourself hoping that the holidays will just get over with rather than finding ways to enjoy this time of year? In this episode, I will be answering a question from a listener who struggles with the holidays because of people pleasing tendencies and being an empath. I talk about what it means to be a people pleaser and where this pattern often originates from, and what it means to be an em...
Dec 06, 2023•41 min•Season 3Ep. 82
In this episode, we discuss how to make a relationship work when you love your partner, but their parents disapprove because you are from a different religion or culture. I answer a question from a listener who is struggling after a break up. Her and her ex broke up because his family did not approve of her because she is from a different culture. They have struggled to communicate about the problem and now she wants to know if she should wait for him or if it’s time to move on. My intention for...
Nov 29, 2023•28 min•Season 3Ep. 81
In this episode, I discuss why disappointment hurts so much and why it can feel like failure or a punishment. I answer a question from a listener who is having difficulty navigating a disappointing year that has them feeling down and defeated. We will learn how disappointment is often our psyche’s way of telling us that we have unrealistic expectations or that we are attached to a future outcome rather than living in the present. My intention for this episode is to help you in understanding that...
Nov 22, 2023•27 min•Season 3Ep. 80
It is so common for wounds and beliefs from your teen years to continue negatively impacting your adult life and relationships. In this episode, we learn about your inner teenager, the types of false beliefs that we create in our teenage years, and why the root of many of our adult problems are actually based on those untrue beliefs about life that we developed in our teen years. My intention for this episode is to assist you in connecting back with your inner teenager so that you can identify a...
Nov 08, 2023•36 min•Season 3Ep. 79
