In today's episode, Sathiya throws stones at the phrase "God loves the sinner, but hates the sin" While this statement certainly has truth to it, its usage comes with a lot of risks. Two in particular are addressed: 1) Using this to justify the continuation of sin in our lives 2) Implying the identity of a sinner, rather than that of a saint Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram Book A Time With Sathiya's Team...
Feb 17, 2023•11 min•Ep. 481
After years of struggling in isolation to overcome pornography and coming to realize the power of peer-based support, Chandler Rogers founded Relay — an app that helps people stay connected and accountable along the road to recovery. Chandler, 25, graduated from BYU in Business Strategy and Computer Science and lives with his wife in Salt Lake City, UT. In this discussion, he and Sathiya discuss: -Why community is so important for recovery -The reason communities are becoming more digital in tod...
Feb 16, 2023•45 min•Ep. 480
Today's episode is for both singles and those in relationships. While some loathe Valentine's Day, the reality is that they matter. You will learn how to approach valentine's day in a health way, while learning how NOT to handle his holiday based on a epic fail Sathiya shares from his personal life. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram Book A Time With Sathiya's Team...
Feb 14, 2023•12 min•Ep. 478
We know that working through trauma is an important part of the recovery journey. But what happens when no matter what you try, you can't seem to move on? Are you just hopelessly stuck with trauma forever? What if the traumatic situation is ongoing? Today's episode addresses both matters while providing 3 things you can do immediately to change your situation. 1) Give It To God (the right way) 2) Try Something New - You can't expect different results doing the same things 3) Be Patient - Trauma ...
Feb 14, 2023•13 min•Ep. 479
February 2023 marks 7 years that Sathiya has been clean from porn! In today's episode, he outlines 7 lessons he's learned that not only helped him get free, they have helped him stay free. 1) The power of close friends 2) The power of community 3) Act first, analyze second 4) Do the hard things first 5) Don't be afraid to ask for help 6) Pay experts for their expertise 7) Never stop giving thanks Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse...
Feb 13, 2023•18 min•Ep. 477
Teaching out of Matthew 5, today's episode breaks down what constitutes lust, why we beat ourselves up unnecessarily when it comes to how we view women, and why it is the intent of the heart that matters most. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse
Feb 10, 2023•16 min•Ep. 476
Jo Robertson is a qualified sex therapist who has completed her Master of Science in Medicine, with a focus on international consumption rates and impacts of porn on adolescents. Jo has trained health professionals, sexual health and sexual harm services, Police and Corrections staff and school communities on research based porn industry insights, the impacts on young people and navigating healthy conversations around porn. Her TEDx talk ""Why We Need To Talk About Porn"" in 2019 amassed almost ...
Feb 09, 2023•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 475
Friendships are the plumbline of life. This episode explains how to establish and maintain quality friendships that stand the test of time. Follow Sathiya on Instagram
Feb 08, 2023•18 min•Ep. 474
Edging is a neurobiological process that any man pursuing freedom must guard against. Today's episode breaks down edging, explaining why it is so dangerous, and offering practical ways to mitigate its effects to reduce and prevent relapses. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram...
Feb 07, 2023•17 min•Ep. 473
Without a clear understanding of what a feeling is, we actually further our emotional dysregulation and dysfunction. Today's episode explains the importance of defining a feeling so that we do not make the mistake of justifying behavior, attitudes or actions because "that's just how I felt." How you feel matters, so long as what you are communicating is in fact a feeling. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram...
Feb 06, 2023•13 min•Ep. 472
If you are interested in someone or currently dating, you have probably wondered when the right time is to have "the conversation" with your significant other. Today's episode provides a framework to bare in mind for assessing the correct timing of these conversations AND to ensure that they are done in a way that is positive for the relationship itself. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram...
Feb 03, 2023•17 min•Ep. 471
Larry Hagner is the founder of The Dad Edge, a movement of fathers around the world who are striving to be better for themselves, their wives, and their kids. Larry is known for providing tactical approaches that help men create communication, connection and intimacy in their relationships, while enhancing their overall quality of life in the process. In today's episode, Larry and Sathiya talk about: -Whether it's worse to have an absent father or the presence of an abusive father -The moment as...
Feb 02, 2023•54 min•Ep. 470
Focus continues to be the name of the game for the modern man looking to make a difference in this world. Today's episode is a friendly reminder, using personal examples and stories, to guard your focus and make every effort to protect it at all costs. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram...
Feb 01, 2023•13 min•Ep. 469
At some point in recovery, you will experience anxiety about a relapse, especially as you make progress. Today's episode outlines 2 areas you must address when experiencing relapse anxiety. The first is the real reason for the anxiety. Typically we resort to "fear of losing progress" or something of that nature, but if you dig a bit deeper you often find other areas that need more attention. Secondly, we want to "fear-set" any anxiety we experience, especially when we make progress. What is the ...
Jan 31, 2023•16 min•Ep. 468
With the first month of the year coming to an end, it's about time for a check-in. Today's episode explores 3 areas to assess your progress in 2023 so far – metrics, activity consistency, and relapse response. If you have a clear picture of where you stand in these 3 areas, there's a good chance you'll be able to course correct accordingly to ensure 2023 is the year you kick porn once and for all. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya...
Jan 30, 2023•14 min•Ep. 467
Faking it til you make it has little to no value in most behavioral psychology circles. While it is easy to throw out the concept, today's episode explores some of the hidden truth that can be applied to a recovery context. Calling yourself a "free man" doesn't make you free, but asking questions like "What would a free man do in this situation?" and acting accordingly can begin to shape your thinking until you become the person you long to be. Today's episode explains this dynamic in more detai...
Jan 27, 2023•12 min•Ep. 466
Today's special episode features Sathiya's wife, Shaloma, on the podcast for the first time! Shaloma has quietly supported Sathiya behind the scenes, but today you get a chance to hear from Sathiya's far-better half. In this interview/discussion, Sathiya & Shaloma talk about: -What it's like to be married to a former porn addict -Why enduring so much hardship during engagement was a blessing in disguise -How trauma played into health challenges -Why upholding firm boundaries during dating/en...
Jan 26, 2023•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 465
The porn-addicted brain often asks "what can I get away with?" We are used to towing the line and playing with fire. Today's episode explains why we must become intolerant to anything that is remotely dangerous to our recovery, otherwise we risk it developing into something that derails our progress and dominates our lives. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram...
Jan 25, 2023•13 min•Ep. 464
Recovery starts as a seed. While many wait until they hit big milestones, the reality is that every moment you are in recovery is PROGRESS. Today's episode outlines 8 improvements you can expect "instantly" once you begin to quit porn. While some of these changes are in seed form, the point here is that we are not to wait until we hit landmarks to deem our recovery "commendable". The minute you begin you must steward the 'seed' form of the benefits that are coming your way. Book A Time With Sath...
Jan 24, 2023•17 min•Ep. 463
Anyone who has had a struggle with sexual misbehavior wants to change things not only for themselves, but for their lineage. Using his own parents' example, Sathiya explains in this episode that sometimes leading by example is the best way to ensure your lineage walks in the freedom you want for them. Follow Sathiya on Instagram
Jan 23, 2023•15 min•Ep. 462
Sometimes, recovery doesn't work out the way we intended. Either we make progress but not the progress we intended, we find ourselves in the same situation as when we started, or we find our situation worse than when we started. Today's episode explains what to do in each of these situations, and how to know when to stop and when you need to keep on going. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram...
Jan 20, 2023•11 min•Ep. 461
Heidi is a therapist that specializes in betrayal trauma. She is especially passionate about addressing the specific needs of trauma unique to sexual and relational betrayal. Heidi's work with partners of addicts translates across the spectrum of addiction: chemical and process addictions including sex, drugs, alcohol and gambling. Additionally, Heidi works with depression, anxiety, addiction and transition and with clients from youth to later adulthood. If you are in a committed relationship an...
Jan 19, 2023•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 460
It's one thing to set priorities for your life, it's another thing to execute. Today's episode explains 4 things to consider when you are looking to set new priorities in your life habitually, including: 1) The importance of integrating with pre-existing routines 2) Starting with the one thing that will have the greatest impact 3) Keeping it small and building up 4) Evaluating longevity Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagr...
Jan 18, 2023•14 min•Ep. 459
Today's heartfelt episode is a "letter" to the wife of a struggling husband. Sometimes, men do not have the words or the right skills to explain our side, to bring understanding and ultimately provide hope to our loved ones. If you are a man that has been struggling for a long time and you are sick and tired of hurting your spouse with your struggle, this episode is something you should listen to for yourself first and then share with your spouse. This episode provides empathy and understanding ...
Jan 17, 2023•13 min•Ep. 458
Effective solutions are always measured by their philosophy/approach to recovery. A challenge many face is choosing something that appears different, when in reality it is the same dogma packaged differently. Today's episode explains what to look for in an effective solution, highlighting different examples of what NOT to do when you are looking for something new. Book A Time With Sathiya's Team
Jan 16, 2023•17 min•Ep. 457
Vulnerability is the name of the game when it comes to healing the heart, but what happens when you put yourself out there and feel naked and raw afterwards? Today's episode explains how to go about vulnerability with wisdom, and an easy way to recover/debrief after you choose to be vulnerable. Listen to Episode 12 - Man's Secret Weapon (on journaling) Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram...
Jan 13, 2023•14 min•Ep. 456
Sara Makin is the founder & CEO of Makin Wellness, Pennsylvania's #1 rated online counseling company. Under her leadership, Makin Wellness has established a proven track record of successfully shaping the mental health market & driving mental health transformation by executing on their mission of helping millions of people heal & become happy again. She has been featured in major media outlets including NBC, ABC, FOX, The CW, International Business Times, The Scientific Journal and h...
Jan 12, 2023•50 min•Ep. 455
A common concern among those struggling with sexual sin is whether or not God is holding things back due to their struggle. Blessings, increase, reward, favor, etc. Today's episode tackles the subject head on, using scripture to explain that "acquiring" God's blessings is not conditional upon our behavior, but our ability to sustain them is. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram...
Jan 11, 2023•16 min•Ep. 454
While there is no such thing as a quick fix in recovery, there is such a thing as concentrated seasons of growth and breakthrough. Today's episode explains how to approach these short term bursts/seasons that often expedite the process, and specifically explains why these 3 things are the easiest way to do so: 1) Cold showers 2) Talking to someone 5 mins/day 3) Eliminate distracting input Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Insta...
Jan 10, 2023•17 min•Ep. 453
It may not always feel like it, but the reality is that putting in the work to accomplish ANYTHING, recovery included, is worship unto God. Today's episode dives into the scriptural connection between work and worship, reminding us that in all things we do, we are to do it as unto the Lord. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram...
Jan 09, 2023•15 min•Ep. 452
