Today I'm going rogue from my standard style and sharing some direct quotes from the iconic Janelle Monae. RESOURCES: https://hbr.org/2020/09/lifes-work-an-interview-with-janelle-monae WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended fo...
May 22, 2023•5 min
and I quote: "Isn’t this what we are all longing for, on some level? To be real with each other? To be a real person, consequences be damned? To be loved, and to love? To know what a vitally alive love-filled life feels like, and be living it, each blessed moment?" RESOURCES: https://psiloveyou.xyz/if-you-want-fulfilling-intimacy-try-subtext-free-relating-ccfc23baaf7b WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTE...
May 21, 2023•8 min
Unfortunately, we can't outrun ourselves (I tried, Confucius tried, it's hopeless) so we better get to work on the internal work before we get started on the external. RESOURCES: https://briefer.com/books/go WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed ...
May 20, 2023•7 min
Experiencing hyper vigilance can make it feel impossible to relax. It's exhausting. Today, we discuss some ways to cope. RESOURCE: https://www.healthline.com/health/hypervigilance and https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fixing-families/202105/are-you-hypervigilant WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast T...
May 19, 2023•6 min
I talk (often) about how important it is to learn how to read the room, but today I'm sharing "how" to practice the skill. This timely message brought to you by the realization I'm hypervigilant because of trauma not because I'm sooooo nice. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast The opinions expressed by Ju...
May 17, 2023•7 min
How do you fight the feeling of internal/emotional isolation? My strategy is taking any type of action - but ooof it can hurt! WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast ...
May 16, 2023•7 min
Personal grooming is just that: Personal. Do what you want, when you want, for YOU. If you let society decide, you may end up with a long face and cat poop on your head (please listen to the episode for context.) RESOURCES : https://www.mic.com/impact/women-removing-their-body-hair-is-a-deeply-sexist-tradition-that-wont-end-16470015 AND https://rosie.org.au/blog/razors-lasers-internalised-misogyny-reflections-on-body-hair/ WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyo...
May 15, 2023•7 min
If you tend to get defensive or want to negate arguments, these tools can come in handy: Ask questions – Get things moving with questions. They show you’re interested and help others contribute. Mirror feelings – Let others know you recognize what they’re feeling e.g. “I can hear that you’re upset about that” or “It sounds like you want to make a change.” Paraphrase to show understanding – Show you understand by putting what they’ve said in your own words e.g. “To make sure I’ve got this right; ...
May 14, 2023•7 min
Have you heard of the concept of a Fool's Choice? I saw a meme and looked it up only to end up in a deep dive into a likely incredible book that I’ll more likely never read in it’s entirety called but I encourage you to do so - it’s called "Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High" written by Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, and Al Switzler. Either way, I’ll share now what I found online in various places: According to the authors, The Fool's Choice is the false...
May 13, 2023•7 min
Yesterday we practiced enhancing the mind-body connection through visualization, and today we're talking about how we can create a "vacation mode" sensation for easy access. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertain...
May 12, 2023•6 min
This may feel strange to imagine, but imagining yourself actually licking a wall can create a mind body connection that increases presence, gratitude, and our general well-being. Try it! or not. Do what makes you happy. LUH YOU. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast The opinions expressed by Julie Merica an...
May 11, 2023•7 min
Our language matters, but what happens when the only language we have is negative? RESOURCES : https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/where-did-spinster-and-bachelor-come-180964879/ and https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20220405-single-shaming-why-people-jump-to-judge-the-un-partnered https://www.slice.ca/what-is-the-origin-of-the-spinster-how-society-villainized-the-single-woman/ and WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON I...
May 10, 2023•7 min
Less than a week ago I begged for more optimistic content and now I'm delivering with an incredible listener suggestion (and a terrifyingly good algorithm). RESOURCES : https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Solarpunk WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed...
May 09, 2023•7 min
Do you workout better in a class? Or write more in a cafe vs. alone? If so, you may benefit from body doubling - or having someone sit with you to motivate you while you do a task you've been putting off. RESOURCES : https://www.healthline.com/health/adhd/body-double-adhd WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodca...
May 08, 2023•5 min
People-pleasing can be manipulative because it involves trying to control how others perceive and behave towards us. RESOURCES : https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/toxic-relationships/201704/are-you-being-manipulated WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make ...
May 07, 2023•6 min
To me, this idea that your brain can FULLY convince your body a fake treatment is the real thing is pretty fucking magical. Of course, it’s not magic and nothing is a cure-all. But that doesn't mean we shouldn’t stack the deck for ourselves as much as we can as often as we can. Improving the connection between our body and mind is a beautiful place to start as long as we remember that Placebos tweak our experience of symptoms, not their underlying cause. RESOURCES : https://www.health.harvard.ed...
May 06, 2023•6 min
Bee bonus fun fact: Melittin — found in the venom of honey bees — may prevent HIV. It’s also known that the substance can relieve pain in people who have rheumatoid arthritis. (I found this one after I recorded and wanted to include it) RESOURCES : https://www.nwf.org/Educational-Resources/Wildlife-Guide/Invertebrates/Bees https://beemission.com/blogs/news/22-amazing-facts-about-bees https://petpedia.co/bee-facts/ WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbed...
May 05, 2023•7 min
What if we practice radical acceptance through a healthy detachment to OUTCOMES so we could stay present and grateful for the present moment without dreading the "what if's" and "when will's" RESOURCES : https://stevenkharper.com/thiscupIsalreadybroken.html + https://www.marlaneainsworth.com/post/the-cup-is-already-broken + https://jackkornfield.com/the-wisdom-of-insecurity/ WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COO...
May 04, 2023•6 min
So next time your favorite metaphorical sweater rips on ya, maybe not all is lost + we can embrace the imperfections and our time we spent in it. “There is a crack, a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.” ~ Leonard Cohen RESOURCES : https://visiblemending.com/ + https://www.bhg.com/decorating/do-it-yourself/fabric-paper-projects/visible-mending-basics/ + https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kintsugi WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast....
May 03, 2023•7 min
misery flourishes in company - but so does joy. Pity parties are meant to be short-lived. Eventually, you’ll need to start recognizing your victimhood in conjunction with your confidence. Don’t get me wrong, you don’t have to constantly be productive to heal, but you do need to make space for positive action if you want to get out of the rut that pity parties can often lead us into. It may help to remember that one of the best solutions for wallowing in self pity is with action. If resolution of...
May 02, 2023•6 min
Accessibility is a human right. Resources : https://universaldesign.org/definition and https://www.washington.edu/doit/universal-design-process-principles-and-applications and https://accessibility.umn.edu/importance-accessibility/impact-people-disabilities WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast The opinions...
May 01, 2023•7 min
Turns out, there's evidence that physical shaking can release tension and stored trauma. TRE is a formal strategy but there are plenty of ways to improve our relaxation through intentional release methods. RESOURCES: https://traumaprevention.com/what-is-tre/ WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast The opinion...
Apr 30, 2023•5 min
This really does... change everything - if we let it. RESOURCES : https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/This_Changes_Everything_(book) WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast ...
Apr 29, 2023•5 min
Listen, I like Black Mirror as much as the next guy but DAMN I am ready for a clear vision of the future with a sense of hope and optimism. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn...
Apr 28, 2023•6 min
What gets me the most fired up about Greta's work is how ANGRY she makes these corporations, because she's winning. Greta Thunberg is an inspirational reminder we all are capable of major change + we can take action now, where we are, with what we have. Mobilize, take action, and don't be afraid of criticism from the bad guys. RESOURCE : https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Greta_Thunberg and https://www.biography.com/activists/greta-thunberg WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM M...
Apr 27, 2023•7 min
To prevent thrashing in both humans and computers, it is important to prioritize tasks, manage resources effectively, and reduce unnecessary overhead. By focusing on the most important tasks, breaking down large tasks into smaller, more manageable ones, and reducing distractions, both humans and computers can stay productive and efficient. RESOURCE : https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thrashing_(computer_science) WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcas...
Apr 26, 2023•5 min
Laughter can have many benefits for both your physical and mental health including: reducing stress, boosting immune system, relieving pain, improving mood, enhancing social connections, and our cardiovascular health. RESOURCES: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-health/laughter-is-the-best-medicine.htm https://online.uwa.edu/news/benefits-of-smiling-and-laughter/ https://www.cnn.com/2021/07/01/health/science-of-laughter-scn-wellness/index.html WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MON...
Apr 25, 2023•7 min
TW: Grief + pet loss (damn it) RESOURCES : https://www.cnn.com/2021/09/12/health/five-stages-of-grief-kubler-ross-meaning-wellness/index.html and https://www.verywellmind.com/five-stages-of-grief-4175361 WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podc...
Apr 24, 2023•8 min
Many of our natural responses are maladaptive. Though, they are here to protect we must be conscious of how they affect. SOME RESOURCES : https://www.huffpost.com/entry/anxiety-good-things_l_5ca78fc1e4b047edf959e2fe WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PA...
Apr 21, 2023•6 min
The backwards law can be helpful to keep in mind when we're "desiring" something so intensely that we actually create "resistance". The key to being happy is discovering it naturally, rather than looking for it. SOME RESOURCES : https://aspiringfemale.com/what-is-the-backwards-law-understanding-the-paradox/ and https://www.theknowledge.io/the-backwards-law/ WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stor...
Apr 20, 2023•7 min
