This is my final collection of thoughts on becoming an influencer. It makes sense we're all spoon fed the aesthetic/proactive/positive side of things and that means a lot of reality is lost to "behind the scenes" footage that is never shown. So, let's talk about nuance, today! SOME RESOURCES : https://www.nytimes.com/2022/03/24/well/family/child-social-media-use.html https://medium.com/to-the-pxint/the-problem-with-influencer-culture-in-2020-5a1008966ad6 https://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/b5...
Apr 19, 2023•7 min
The reality is, all the good shit that makes us want to become famous influencers is really good - but all the bad shit is really bad. So, be realistic + find your "why" before you get lost in the sauce of the "social media" trap. SOME RESOURCES : https://www.nytimes.com/2022/03/24/well/family/child-social-media-use.html https://medium.com/to-the-pxint/the-problem-with-influencer-culture-in-2020-5a1008966ad6 https://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/b5488f38-e9c4-4e0c-95e2-3002f47f88f8 https://www....
Apr 18, 2023•6 min
HELLO CUTIE! I HAVE MISSED YOU SO MUCH. Today we're talking about the sexy siren song of the influencer culture + why it's not all sunshine and rainbows. RESOURCE : https://www.cbsnews.com/news/social-media-influencers-86-of-young-americans-want-to-become-one/ WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com...
Apr 17, 2023•7 min
Automatic Negative Thoughts are common reasons we get stuck in negative loops - to get out, we have to address where our thoughts are working against us, rather than for us. RESOURCE: https://www.mindwell-leeds.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/Automatic-Negative-Thoughts-ANTs-and-unhelpful-thinking-styles-Accessible.pdf WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=...
Apr 13, 2023•7 min
My pup is getting old and DAMN it's been tough to watch her change. I am having to address my ability to let others struggle for their own wellbeing - because I have a tendency to interject and "help" simply because I am uncomfortable watching others struggle. We're all learning, though. Also, don't be afraid to be the neighbor that checks in - even when it's a painful check. You never know how powerfully important that interaction can be to someone. "While spiritual bypassing may be less harmfu...
Apr 12, 2023•7 min
"While spiritual bypassing may be less harmful than some other coping mechanisms, it can still lead to negative outcomes that hurt an individual’s ability to grow as a person and fulfill their potential. It can stifle emotional development and even stand in the way of fully realized spirituality." RESOURCE : https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-spiritual-bypassing-5081640 WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.tee...
Apr 11, 2023•6 min
"While spiritual bypassing may be less harmful than some other coping mechanisms, it can still lead to negative outcomes that hurt an individual’s ability to grow as a person and fulfill their potential. It can stifle emotional development and even stand in the way of fully realized spirituality." RESOURCE : https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-spiritual-bypassing-5081640 WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.tee...
Apr 10, 2023•7 min
Unfortunately, there is no way to avoid the reality that sometimes, shitty things are going to happen. What makes matters worse, when shitty things happen to us - we have a tendency to shame ourselves and almost exaggerate the impact of a negative outcome. Fortunately, though, we can formally restructure our interpretation of the event to reshape the way we experience the situation, so we can move forward with a new lesson rather than an unpleasant memory. Basically, by reframing how we think ab...
Apr 09, 2023•7 min
WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a sub...
Apr 08, 2023•6 min
Becoming a problem solver is one of the most crucial foundational skills a human needs to get through life - so why not hone that shit? WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Ma...
Apr 07, 2023•7 min
I could rant about the education system for years, but instead of subjecting y'all to my critiques - I'd rather offer some potential actions we can consider taking to put the power back in individual's hands when it comes to their own learning journeys. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpo...
Apr 06, 2023•6 min
Many of us have a tendency to remember things more fondly than we felt about it in real time. A great coping mechanism but can also be restrictive if we're not aware of it. RESOURCES : https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rosy_retrospection + https://effectiviology.com/rosy-retrospection-and-declinism/ . + https://neuroleadership.com/your-brain-at-work/rosy-retrospection WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.c...
Apr 04, 2023•7 min
I promise. Even when you fuck up, YOU are not a fuck up. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make You...
Apr 03, 2023•6 min
sometimes the shit we do is more automatic than intentional, so tiny shifts are not only simple but ENCOURAGED. RESOURCE: https://www.un.org/sustainabledevelopment/takeaction/ WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast The o...
Apr 02, 2023•7 min
We got this, y'all. Just let your hair dry naturally when possible, compost, and use your freezer?!?! EVERYTHING WILL BE FINE. JK but FR we do "got this". and I genuinely believe that. RESOURCE: https://www.un.org/sustainabledevelopment/takeaction/ WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast...
Apr 01, 2023•7 min
You ever get so desperate and motivated to save the planet and then remember it's a big planet and give up entirely!? Oh, no? Yeah, no me neither... But if it does, I can offer you the beautiful gift of nuance/middle-ground/compromise. Once I figure out how to master nuance, I'll share with you - but in the meantime, here's a hopeful lil guide from the U (fricking) N - which is probably more reliable than anything I can create on my own (this is very obscure foreshadowing. because looking to oth...
Mar 31, 2023•7 min
I didn't realize how little I thought about my walking form and how much it really mattered. Here's a lil wikihow moment to give us a few pointers so we can make our walking more conscious + ideally, more enjoyable. RESOURCE: https://www.wikihow.com/Walk-Properly WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram....
Mar 30, 2023•7 min
I'm always looking for ways to "do less" and feel okay about it, and now - according to recent studies - I can! HELL YES. RESOURCE: https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/walking-at-brisk-pace-for-11-minutes-daily-slashes-risk-of-death/ WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM +...
Mar 29, 2023•6 min
Not to harsh any vibes but the "bridal bootcamp" industry can be.. a lil predatory if we're not careful with figuring out our "why". WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make ...
Mar 28, 2023•6 min
Sometimes it's nice to remember there is humanity in humanity, y'know? RESOURCES : https://mashable.com/article/2023-news-good WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your D...
Mar 27, 2023•7 min
Sometimes it's nice to remember there is humanity in humanity, y'know? RESOURCES : https://mashable.com/article/2023-news-good WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your D...
Mar 27, 2023•7 min
Existential dread is honestly, kinda to be expected?! But there are ways to get out of it. 1. Limit the causations - social media, news, etc. 2. stay in the present by honoring your fight, flight, or freeze response. 3, zoom in so you can eventually zoom out. RESOURCES : https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/meaning-lost-and-found/202108/existential-anxiety-and-4-ways-cope WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www....
Mar 26, 2023•7 min
Oh the beauty and tragedy that goes along with the belief we have free will. RESOURCES: https://positivepsychology.com/narrative-therapy/ WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and ...
Mar 25, 2023•6 min
Putting our story Into words allows us to see new perspectives and shape our choices to rewrite future chapters. RESOURCES: https://positivepsychology.com/narrative-therapy/ WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast The opi...
Mar 24, 2023•7 min
According to https://positivepsychology.com/narrative-therapy/ We can map our stories through asking: Characteristics and naming or labeling of the problem Mapping the effects of the problem throughout each domain of life it touches (home, work, school, relationships, etc.) Evaluation of the effects of the problem in these domains Values that come up when thinking about why these effects are undesirable Thus allowing us to deconstruct + rewrite them to better serve our desired futures. WATCH: ww...
Mar 23, 2023•6 min
According to https://positivepsychology.com/narrative-therapy/ Narrative therapy is a form of therapy that aims to separate the individual from the problem, allowing the individual to externalize their issues rather than internalize them. Reality is socially constructed, which means that our interactions and dialogue with others impacts the way we experience reality. Reality is influenced by and communicated through language, which suggests that people who speak different languages may have radi...
Mar 22, 2023•6 min
The reasons for not choosing a library card over a Netflix membership are endless, but there are countless ways to make cracking a book more attractive in general. I personally used audiobooks to figure out what I actually liked + used the Narrative Transportation Theory to get me there. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COO...
Mar 21, 2023•6 min
People inherently WANT to love photos of themselves but go in with a very critical filter that makes them expect NOT to like it - which adds a whole nother level of discomfort that can have a tangible effect on the result. To me, the overthinking that happens is very much a metaphor for overthinking any of our insecurities in relationships. We end up nurturing the problem by honoring the insecurity instead of the reality. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyou...
Mar 20, 2023•7 min
The most important part of the show I think is so chronically overlooked in the breakdowns I have read is that we are constantly hearing about Joe’s crimes through Joe’s perspective. He stalks because he “cares” he kills because he “loves” he lies because he “protects” and the audience is now only attuned to the perpetrators perspective of the crime. If they made this part more clear, maybe we would know to not be so understanding or empathetic with his violence. It’s muddled because we’re stuck...
Mar 19, 2023•8 min
If you have been listening a while, you know I am constantly adding disclaimers so that my messages aren’t misconstrued or taken out of context in a way that can promote harm or danger. That said, it’s nearly impossible to accommodate for every type of perspective that can be taken towards every message. But still, I try. I listen back and try to put myself in the shoes of a more depressed or more angry version of myself and I interpret the message with my worst intention just to ensure I’m not ...
Mar 18, 2023•7 min
