Yes, you can get a great girlfriend! And dating coach Connell Barrett will show you how to confidently connect with women by being authentic—no creepy pickup moves needed. On the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, Connell offers the kinds of tested dating tips he shared in his bestselling book, Dating Sucks but You Don’t, and in his TV appearances (GMA, “Today.”) In his 12 years as a coach, Connell has helped thousands of men in 17 countries find love. No wonder Psychology Today named him “America’s top dating coach for men.” Connell personally faced—and fixed—every common dating problem, from not knowing how to flirt to dating-app struggles to low self-confidence. After meeting his dream girlfriend Jess, Connell now helps nice guys and gentlemen find love by dating with “Radical Authenticity.” Ready to meet your soulmate? Join Connell and his expert guests every week for game-changing advice. Carpe date ’em. Seize the date!
You think a date went well, only to get that frustrating text: “You’re a nice guy, but I just didn’t feel a connection...” The Friend Zone can be brutal. Dating coach Connell Barrett knows this from experience. “I didn’t just live in the Friend Zone,” he says. “I owned real estate there.” But he also knows the way out. Now he’s sharing the 7 Friend Zone Destroyers simple, tested moves that you can make to spark attraction on your next date! You’re about to learn: 8:24: Friend Zone Destroyer #1: ...
Are you exhausted by dating apps? Tired of first dates with people who aren’t right for you? What if someone hand-picked incredible women for you to meet—women who are just your type? Dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes elite matchmaker Amy Andersen, founder of Linx Dating, to break down the world of high-end matchmaking. Amy shares the key advantages of working with what she calls “your own personal cheerleader” and offers expert first-date tips to help you make a great impression. Connell an...
Do you ever struggle with what to say to women—either in person or when trying to craft the perfect text? Dating coach Connell Barrett gives you the 7 Best Banter Topics so you can keep conversations flirty and free-flowing. Whether you’re talking to her in person or messaging on your phone, just reach for one of these foolproof topics for instant banter. And you don’t need to be naturally witty. These simple tips will work for any guy! Plus, you’ll learn the Playful Pivot, a powerful technique ...
You know you should make moves with women—say the flirtatious thing, go for the kiss. But what if you come off as creepy? So you hold back… and nothing happens. You feel stuck, right? Renowned dating coach for women Evan Marc Katz is here to get you unstuck! Having coached thousands of single women, Evan knows exactly what they want. And today, he’ll tell you how to make the right moves to attract the ideal woman for you. You’re About to Learn: 02:15: What Women Really Want: Evan Breaks It Down ...
In this episode, Connell Barrett introduces the "3 Classes of Human Experience" framework to help listeners transform their lives and dating experiences. He explains how to identify and eliminate "empty comforts" (Class 3), and shift "necessary struggles" (Class 2) into fulfilling and enjoyable "ideal experiences" (Class 1). By applying mindset and mechanical shifts, listeners can transform dating from a grind into a fun and rewarding part of life.
“It’s Rom-Complicated!” returns, helping you find love by watching rom-com movies. This time, dating coach Connell Barrett shares love lessons from the 1989 Cameron Crowe classic “Say Anything.” He’s joined by special guest Cristina Nava, a Hollywood producer who specializes in making rom-coms! (Her latest movie, the very funny “Say a Little Prayer,” is now streaming on Amazon Prime and Apple TV.) Can a quirky nice guy like Lloyd Dobler (John Cusack) really win over his dream girl, Diane Court (...
So, you finally get a first date with a smart, attractive woman… only for her to say, “no thanks” to a second. It’s discouraging. Let’s fix that! After last week’s special 4-part Valentine’s Day series on meeting and attracting women IRL, you don’t want to put in all that effort only to hit a first-date roadblock. Connell and his girlfriend, Jess, break down what made their first date a fun, flirty success—and what you can do to get a LOT more second dates. (Originally aired in November.) In thi...
Do women send you mixed signals—and you have no clue what they mean? Get ready for the raw, unfiltered truth about what women really want, from straight- talking dating expert Sabrina Zohar. A social media sensation with over 2 million followers, Sabrina reveals why “nice guys” lose out, the texting mistakes that get you ghosted, and how to finally land dates with great women on the apps. Sabrina Will Tell You: 13:33: How to Stop Taking Rejection Personally and Bounce Back Stronger 20:15: The On...
It’s Valentine’s Weekend—get ready to flirt with women and get dates! In the last of a 4-part series about attracting women IRL, dating coach Connell Barrett shares the final steps in becoming a 1 Percent Man—the rare guy who can confidently approach women without weird pickup lines. You’ll hear ACTUAL AUDIO of Connell meeting and flirting with bright, beautiful women, for an inside look at how simple and powerful it is when you approach with authenticity. Plus, you’ll get great openers for 10 s...
You’re talking to a woman you like—now what? How do you avoid running out of things to say and awkward silences? And how do you ask her out? In Part 3 of this special dating IRL series, dating coach Connell Barrett gives you a simple, 3-step roadmap to keep the conversation flowing, spark attraction, and smoothly get her number. Plus, discover the 7 biggest conversation fails that kill attraction (and how to fix them). And you’ll learn the right way to meet women at the gym, without being “that ...
You see a woman you’d love to talk to, but your brain locks up. You overthink what to say, and the moment is gone—so is she. In part 2 of this special 4-part series on meeting women IRL, dating coach Connell Barrett reveals his foolproof Natural Approaching Method—a simple, tested way to start authentic conversations and almost always get a positive response. And it works 90% of the time, whether you’re at a bar, coffee shop, or the gym. What You’ll Learn: 3:40: How to Confidently Break the Ice ...
You’re tired of the apps, and you’d love to confidently talk to women at bars, cafes, stores or your gym. But hesitation and overthinking stop you. With Valentine’s Day here, it’s time to break free and start meeting women in real life. Dating coach Connell Barrett presents a special 4-part series to teach you how to meet women IRL the right way—not with weird “approach tactics” but with authentic confidence. In Part 1, Connell reveals the 5 mental blocks keeping you stuck and shares the 5 break...
Sick of sending openers that women ignore? Not sure what to write on Hinge, Tinder, or Bumble? In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett shares his top 10 best flirty online-dating openers—tested and proven to get responses. You’ll get copy-and-paste openers for every type of woman to get them writing you back and going on dates with you. Plus, Connell reveals his no. 1 opener that works on ANY woman … and gets him replies 81% of the time! You’re about to learn: 05:30: Connell’s Lowest Onlin...
You want a bright, beautiful girlfriend, right? But you’re not sure how to connect with women. And maybe the girls you’re attracted to keep picking other guys over you. Not anymore! Because you’re about to learn the 7 Dating Superpowers. Dating coach Connell Barrett reveals the 7 most powerful attractors that make women say, “I want him!” From confident flirting to texts she can’t resist, you’re about to go from Peter Parker to Spider-Man… no radioactive arachnid required! Plus, you don’t need a...
Do you ever feel like you’re just not what women want? Like you’re not charismatic or interesting or attractive enough? It’s frustrating. The good news? You can fix it—fast! In this special live coaching episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett guides his client Nick to a powerful breakthrough. In just one hour, Nick transforms from feeling insecure to truly magnetic, simply by destroying his biggest limiting belief. (This coaching session first aired in 2023. Now, in 2...
Are you just not sure how to talk to women, either on the apps or in real life? Top UK dating expert Hayley Quinn is here to show you how to flirt effortlessly, confidently read women, and get them asking YOU out. She knows exactly what creates attraction—and how you can get better results fast. You’ll learn how to talk to women in a way that feels authentic and sparks real connection, without overthinking or using weird “pickup” moves. Hayley and dating coach Connell Barrett will teach you: 2:5...
You see a stunning woman across the room and want to talk to her… but what do you say? How do you start a conversation without fear of rejection? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett helps his client Jason master this skill—live on air. Plus, hear how Jason conquered crippling approach anxiety and dated an L.A. Lakers Cheerleader! Connell shares actionable strategies to help Jason (and you!) connect with women. No cheesy “pickup artist” tricks. Just authenti...
What if watching so-called “chick flicks” could make you a chick magnet and bring romance into your real life? It may sound far-fetched, but dating coach Connell Barrett has learned a lot about finding love—what works and what doesn’t—from rom-com movies. Introducing “It’s Rom-Complicated,” a new series that reveals the dating wisdom hidden in Hollywood’s most beloved comedies. In the first episode, Connell and his special guest—his charming, witty girlfriend Jessamin—analyze “Groundhog Day,” th...
Not getting enough quality matches on Hinge, Bumble or Tinder? Here’s the problem: Your photos aren’t making the right impression. But there’s a simple fix. Dating coach Connell Barrett reveals the 6 essential photos that he and his clients use to consistently get good matches on the apps. Connell’s client Ben puts it best: “I went from zero good matches on Hinge to getting 83 matches in one week. Suddenly I had too many dates!” Connell also reveals the 5 photo mistakes that make women swipe lef...
How do you make her want YOU to be her boyfriend? It’s simpler than you think. Just show her these 10 “green lights.” In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett teaches you 10 attraction triggers that help women see you as boyfriend material. And these are NOT sketchy pickup moves. They’re practical strategies to showcase your most authentic, confident self, and create true connections. Because women are drawn to authentic gentlemen! You’re ...
Ready to finally get great matches on Tinder? Who better to guide you than the man who invented swiping and changed dating forever: Tinder’s visionary co-founder, Jonathan Badeen. Back in the day, Jonathan was struggling to meet women and get dates. (Sound familiar?) He launched Tinder in part to help his own love life, and the world has never been the same. In this exclusive interview with dating coach Connell Barrett, Badeen shares the lightbulb moment when he came up with the swiping idea, re...
Ever had a woman ghost you, friend-zone you, or suddenly lose interest—and you had no idea why? Odds are, you accidentally pushed her away. There are 10 invisible red flags that turn women off, and most men don’t even realize they’re making these mistakes! In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett reveals these attraction-killing errors and shares easy, practical fixes for each one. Here are the 10 red flags that turn women off: 04:29: #1 Hiding Your Authentic Self and Being Someone You’re N...
Do the apps frustrate you because you just don’t get many good matches? Here’s the problem: Your bio is boring women! Let’s fix this fast. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares his 7 secrets for writing an online-dating bio that women love—and that’s authentic to YOU. Using his simple formula, you’ll finally get good matches on Tinder, Bumble, or Hinge. Plus, his 10 funniest bio prompts will get women giggling… and swiping right. You’re about to learn:...
It’s time to “Ask the Dating Coach!” as Connell Barrett takes your questions. If you struggle with what to say on dates, Connell shares three essential flirting moves to help you spark romantic connections. (Farewell, Friend Zone!) He also reveals why women prefer nice guys over so-called alpha males. And a listener has a “sheepish” question about talking dirty in bed. Highlights from this episode: 01:51: Andrew Asks: “A Woman Wants Me to Baa Like a Sheep in Bed. What Do I Do?” 03:19: How to Tal...
Burnt out on dating apps? The endless swiping, the lack of quality matches, the fake profiles—it’s exhausting! But Inner Circle is changing the game. Equal parts social club and dating app, Inner Circle is built for ambitious singles who want to swipe less and connect more, forming real, meaningful relationships. In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes Inner Circle’s founder David Vermeulen. He shares how his innovative platform helps successful, driven men and women connect authe...
The new year is here, and now’s the time to attract your dream girl. But not knowing where to start can feel overwhelming. You need a clear, tested plan for success. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares 5 proven strategies that practically guarantee you’ll find love in 2025. These aren’t flimsy resolutions you’ll abandon by February. They’re bold, revolutionary daily rituals to authentically connect with wonderful women. Using Connell’s tested moves, ...
Feeling stuck in a dating dry spell? So was Jake. At 30, this shy, nerdy engineer (and proud Creed fan) felt too afraid to talk to women. And he hadn’t had a girlfriend in a decade. But with personalized guidance from dating coach Connell Barrett, Jake learned how to confidently connect with women on the dating apps and IRL. In one whirlwind week, Jake went on five first dates. “That’s more than I’d had the entire previous year,” he said with a laugh. Then he met bright, bubbly Allie, who’s now ...
With over 1,000 dating apps out there, it’s hard to know which one is right for you—and which will waste your time and money. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals his top 7 apps that he and his clients used in 2024. Whether you’re looking for meaningful connections or fun, casual dates, this guide will help you find the perfect app to help you get matches and dates… and even find your soulmate! Here’s what Connell covers in thi...
Do you struggle to attract the kinds of women you want to date? Chances are, you’re making some big mistakes that turn women off, and you don’t even realize it. Help is here! Lisa Hickey, CEO of the Good Men Project, joins dating coach Connell Barrett to identify—and fix—the hidden dating mistakes men make. You’ll learn how to connect with women authentically, flirt with charm, and boost your confidence. Plus, Lisa shares invaluable wisdom on modern masculinity. (Check out the Good Men Project f...
It’s Christmas, and Santa Connell has a gift for you: Matches galore on the dating apps! Because endless swiping and ZERO matches makes you say, “ho, ho, NO!” It’s getting old, right? In this episode of the “How to Get a Girlfriend” podcast, dating coach Connell Barrett helps his client Zach fix the same issues that frustrate you. Zach—a personal trainer and 40-year-old single dad—learns 15 proven online-dating moves to turn his phone into a date-generating machine. And hey, the more good matche...
