"Silence is the warmest hug you can ever receive," Priya Jain explains, Founder Seventh Chakra Institute of Spiritual Sciences. So why are we so afraid of it? Why do we fill our days with a sensory overload to the point we actually believe it is reality. It isn't. "Reality" exists in the non-tangible truths of life - in our heart, intuition, and knowing - all of which are available to us through silence. The challenge is that silence requires us to put down our ego and simply just be, exactly as...
Oct 04, 2024•39 min•Ep. 65
Don't let shame be a roadblock in your recovery, relationships, and life! Shame, or a secret belief you are defective, acts like warfare on our soul, spirit, and relationships, separating us from our true selves and one another. In this episode, Nadia continues to share how to spot shame when it shows up, quell it, then transform it into healing and personal power. You get additional tips and mantras to use throughout your day if shame shows up within you, or other's seem to be project theirs on...
Sep 27, 2024•49 min•Ep. 64
Studies show 83% of men want their partner to respect them, rather than love them, an astounding statistic "when many have not yet learned to do the work" to earn it, Dr. Stephan Poulter, PhD, explains, author of "Modern Masculinity, A Compassionate Guide to Men's Mental Health" and "The Shame Factor." What is "the work"? "'Hugging the cactus' is learning to sit with discomfort," the unresolved emotions and issues within, Dr. Steve says. "Before "the pain outweighs the pleasure," physical sympto...
Sep 20, 2024•33 min•Ep. 63
"If what you've tried up until now hasn't worked, it's not failure, it's a wake up call!," Dr. Stephan Poulter, PhD. says, or an urge from the universe to actually "do the work!" A renowned Clinical Psychologist and Author of the groundbreaking "Modern Masculinity, A Compassionate Guide to Men's' Mental Health" and "The Shame Factor," Dr. Steve explains "the work" is to "learn to sit with yourself," your deepest fears, and every other uncomfortable feeling motivating unhealthy and/or destructive...
Sep 13, 2024•36 min•Ep. 62
Part 2 of 3 in Nadia's #BANSHAME Series. Don't let shame be a roadblock to your recovery, relationships, and life! Nadia believes the feeling of shame, or a secret belief you are defective, acts like warfare on our spirit and relationships, separating us from our true selves and each other. She found a way to spot it by creating a sense of home within, and today, transforms it into healing and personal power. YOU CAN TOO! In this episode, you get additional tips and mantras you can use anytime t...
Sep 06, 2024•27 min•Ep. 61
Kim Bellas is an extraordinary woman that transformed an important lesson she wanted to teach her child into her own empowering self-care, love, and respect, as well as a phenomenal movement normalizing the choice to be sober, regardless of motivating factors. Sober is the New Cool is a social media sensation bringing sobriety into every day households! In this episode, Nadia and Kim also dive into how shame showed up in her life as a feeling she "was never enough," how opening up about it quell...
Aug 23, 2024•47 min•Ep. 60
STORY TIME for Parents and Caregivers in Recovery is intended to inspire anyone seeking family reunification and healing. In this episode, Nadia talks about the key foundational shift from making others proud to making ourselves proud. She believes "success" is measured by the level of internal peace within, or heartsease, the lack of stress and anxiety. As a result of recovery, actions and words begin to align more and more with core values, and internal peace grows. As a result of this shift, ...
Aug 16, 2024•37 min•Ep. 59
Nicole Dake is a spiritual life coach, blogger, author, and mom of three. In this episode, Nicole shares her personal journey of healing, the sources she used to overcome shame, and how she transformed it into power through her work writing about mental health and spirituality for moms and kids, with a focus on whole person wellness. Nicole graduated from the University of Colorado, Boulder with a BA in Psychology in 2008. In her spare time, she enjoys swimming, yoga and playing Magic the Gather...
Aug 09, 2024•52 min•Ep. 58
Why should we care about quelling our own internal shame? Why should we stop the shaming of others? Shame is "spiritual warfare," Nadia explains in this episode, Part 1 of 3 in the Stop Shame & Shaming Series. Shame "attacks" us individually and collectively. It erodes at our sense of self-worth, but even more so, prevents us from building a deeper connection with our true selves, a higher power, and others. Often a major roadblock during trauma and addiction recovery, shame impedes meaningf...
Aug 02, 2024•35 min•Ep. 57
Dr. Monica Krishnan, Pharm D, joins Nadia for a meaningful discussion about the interplay between grief and shame-based emotions, including guilt, fear, and anger, and why it is important to build awareness. Whether death of a loved one, divorce, or separation, grief comes in various sources, and so does the shame that tags along with it. In this episode, you'll hear steps you can take to ensure shame does not impede healing but rather leads to it. Dr. Monica Krishnan, PharmD, is a Clinical Phar...
Jul 26, 2024•55 min•Ep. 56
What is that hole in our heart? Why won't it go away, no matter what we surround ourselves with and do? What steps can we take to quell that longing for something more in life? In this episode, part 5 of 5 in the Core Wound Series, Nadia gives us the important answers, shares her experience, strength, and hope, and then challenges us all to go back to the home within our hearts, giving a road map and steps to get there. A powerful episode for anyone seeking a spiritual awakening and/or in trauma...
Jul 19, 2024•46 min•Ep. 55
Happiness can't be a by product of success - it must be pursued as it's own goal, says Brandi Hudson, a sought after happiness coach and motivational speaker with over 20 years in leadership and strategy. In this episode, Brandi shares the roots of her childhood shame, how she overcame it, and the work she does today to empower others into happiness. Her B.A.S.E. Program (beliefs, alignment, self-awareness, and emotional resilience) enables others to realize they hold all the answers and transit...
Jul 12, 2024•46 min•Ep. 54
Karma & Dharma, with guest Priya Jain. What is the purpose of life? What is the difference between karma and dharma, and why should we care? In this episode, you'll get the answers. "Our soul is in our body intentionally, and we come here to fulfill our dharma, often creating karma," Priya explains, Do our actions, words, and beliefs align with or go against the intentions of our soul? Are we using life experiences to get closer to our soul, or feeding entanglements and shame that hold us ba...
Jul 06, 2024•49 min•Ep. 54
Part 4 of 5 in Nadia's Core Wound Series. The Core Wound series is designed to help us discover and release false beliefs our ego uses to create shame-based thoughts. Self-awareness of these beliefs and thoughts prevents a sense of separation from our true selves and each other. In this episode, Nadia discusses the false belief that death is an end. She shares how a deep rooted belief that death is an end drives unhealthy habits and patterns, and then steps we can stake to find freedom from it. ...
Jun 28, 2024•45 min•Ep. 53
In this deeply informative and moving episode, Dr. Donna Bevin-Lee, Ph.D., MSW , known for her pioneering work in childhood trauma, shares her incredible story and expertise, including: What keeps people stuck after trauma; What allows others the ability to move forward; and How we can get to a safe middle ground within. A Seattle-based psychotherapist in private practice for over forty years, Dr. Bevin-Lee has worked with everyone from sexual assault and domestic violence victims to first respo...
Jun 07, 2024•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 51
This episode is part of Nadia's Story Time Series, full of inspiring moments when recovery learnings gracefully play out in life today as a mother and woman. This episode includes an excerpt from her book, a zip-line story with her children, and reflections on fear, trust, and the workings of our mind as we enter a new relationship. She shares past and current learnings to connect with and inspire others in recovery, hoping together, we all keep going, one day at a time, believing wholeheartedly...
May 31, 2024•46 min•Ep. 50
Arlina Allen believes wholeheartedly "If you can change your mind, you can change your life!" She celebrates 30 years of a sobriety and is a Certified Recovery Coach (IAPRC), Certified Hypnotist CH, the Founder of Sober Life School, and Host of award winning "The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast" with over 300 episodes. In this inspiring episode, Arlina dives into the healing process that initiated her sobriety, including how shame showed up as a child, how she overcame it, and why unfreezing ...
May 24, 2024•56 min•Ep. 49
In this episode, Dr. Stephan Poulter, PhD, explains what attachment theory is, the four different styles, and how each is a template for how we create relationships today, including how we emotionally connect/disconnect and feel secure/insecure. He describes the different styles: Distant, Depressed, Anxious, and Secure, as well as their impact on our intimate relationships. There are underlying reasons why one person becomes co-dependent, while another keeps their distance, and why one person ge...
May 17, 2024•32 min•Ep. 48
Do you feel ashamed for having had a "bad picker"? Let's change that. Did you know trauma affects the functioning of the pre-fontal cortex, the part of the brain that assesses what or who is safe? In this episode, you'll learn how to re-activate and balance it through "the negative mind," as it is referred to in kundalini yoga teachings. Special guest Priya Jain, Founder of Seventh Chakra Institute of Spiritual Sciences , explains the role of the negative mind when assessing safety and danger. S...
May 10, 2024•35 min•Ep. 47
Part 3 of 5 in Nadia's Core Wound Series, helping uncover original sources of shame-based thoughts that harm us today. In this episode, Nadia dives into the sense we are always in battle with ourselves, where it comes from, how it impedes growth, as well as steps you can take to get out of it. She shares details about a near death experience, its revelations about human existence, and how our minds work. Nadia believes everyone can tap into the truth she witnessed through breath and mantra, and ...
May 03, 2024•57 min•Ep. 46
WE ignore red flags when dating because they feel familiar to us! Whoa! But, ladies and gentlemen, something that is familiar doesn’t make it right! Are you familiar with being blamed, berated, and punished by a past or current partner? Do they never, or rarely, take responsibility for their actions, even possibly hide unhealthy behaviors? If so, this episode will resonate with you. You’ll get a list of red flags, learn why you ignore them, understand the role of shame and, most importantly, rec...
Apr 26, 2024•35 min•Ep. 45
This is a short inspiring solo episode from Nadia dedicated to all the sons of the world, and anyone who knows and loves them. She challenges us all to move beyond the blame and shame game as we walk through tensions, accusations, and strife between the genders, and instead into a place of choosing love over judgment-driven responses. She advocates for the healing of all sons as one of the best means through which interpersonal violence and abuse can be prevented and end, leaving us with a readi...
Apr 23, 2024•21 min•Ep. 44
In this episode, we learn how to approach men's mental health with compassion, understanding, and grace, contrary to the antagonistic approach that seems so common these days. Here, Dr. Steve and Nadia put an end to the blame and shame game, embracing the fact that WE are all in this life together. You'll learn tips about how to hold each other accountable with mutual empathy and respect, as well as gain a deeper understanding of why the "masculine" often treat emotions and feelings a certain wa...
Apr 19, 2024•37 min•Ep. 43
In this episode, Dr. Steve lays out the brutal truth, then empowers us with details to walk away with. “It gets down to the need to be needed,” he says. When unaware of this shame-driven emotion, reflags are ignored, and we so often become the target of another’s shame and blame game. He gives helpful lists of red flags, such as love bombing, disrespecting others, blaming, never owning one’s part, punishment, ghosting, triangulation, getting grilled about past relationships. “That’s not companio...
Apr 12, 2024•29 min•Ep. 42
In this episode, Nadia shares two different stories with her sons, one who accidentally used his middle finger, and another who showed empathy for a fellow student. Using empathy, Nadia found the truth behind one of her son's actions, and thereafter learned of her other son demonstrating empathy for another. She discusses: What is empathy? Why is it critical to having a healthy relationship with ourselves and others? How does shame impede empathy? And what can we do about it? As parents in recov...
Apr 05, 2024•31 min•Ep. 41
What is self-acceptance? Why is it key to empathy? How does SHAME impede both? In this episode, Dr. Steve beautifully defines and explains all three, as well as the interplay between them in our intimate relationships. Self-acceptance is the roadmap for overall happiness, direction, and interpersonal success is life. "It's going within, taking an inventory, and knowing our blind spots...It can't be found in another person!," he says. Without self-acceptance, shame goes unrecognized and interrupt...
Mar 29, 2024•36 min•Ep. 40
Part 3 of a 6 Part Core Wounds Series, for anyone on a recovery journey feeling disconnected to their soul and/or a higher power. Here, WE ARE NOT DEFECTIVE, rather our mind creates defective thoughts based on false beliefs detrimental to our physical and emotional sobriety. By identifying core wounds, the source of shame-based thoughts becomes clear. When we used to habitually ignore or numb these thoughts away, Today we work to acknowledge, process, and lift away, empowering ourselves to gain ...
Mar 22, 2024•39 min•Ep. 38
In this episode, we dive into the spiritual journey and heart of Wes Geer , Founder of Rock to Recovery and best known as a founding member of the band Hed PE . As a guitarist, songwriter and producer in the band until his departure in 2003, Geer then toured with nu metal band Korn . Here, Wes and Nadia talk deep - How did a 'rock star', once ruled by unaddressed trauma and addiction, transform struggle into a powerhouse helping others heal with music? What is Wes' spiritual, trauma healing, and...
Mar 15, 2024•50 min•Ep. 37
Listen in to this episode to learn: 1) What is the "ego mind"?, 2) How does it develop and create a game of life?, 3) What is our true identity? 4) What is the quest of our soul? 5) How does shame, or "ego" in action, impede our relationship to the soul? and 6) How do we stop "hitting a wall" in life? For anyone seeking a straightforward overview of human existence and the purpose of life, this a short, insightful, and powerful discussion between Nadia and Priya Jain, a Spiritual Psychology Coac...
Mar 08, 2024•26 min•Ep. 37
How can we replace shame-based responses to trauma survivors with trauma informed policies and practices? Why is this so important to end the cycle of trauma? In this episode, Jesse Kohler, a leader of the Campaign for Trauma Informed Policies and Practices (CTIPP), a national organization building a cross-sector movement, provides answers to these important questions and more, including sharing his personal story of tragedy to triumph, the powerful work of CTIPP and its collaborators, as well a...
Mar 01, 2024•55 min•Ep. 36
