This week I wanted to wrap up the conversations around anxious attachment that I've shared over the past couple episodes, finishing with tools and mindset shifts that have been the most helpful for me and that are helping me move in the direction of someone who experiences secure relationships, beyond the advice to just find someone who is secure and have them be who heals this part of me (though that is still a part of this process as well in some ways). I hope these learnings and practical pra...
Dec 19, 2019•58 min
As a follow up to last week's episode about attachment and having a hard time letting go of a person or relationship, I felt nudged to share a post I wrote on my blog six years ago. This was a visualization that truly felt divinely inspired, as if it was directly channeled through me. A visualization about letting go when I needed it the most. I return to this post often as it brings me great comfort, and I had the thought to record it in an audio version, for myself, and for anyone who might li...
Oct 17, 2019•19 min
I felt nudged to share a more personal part of my healing journey, one that I'm currently in the midst of working through, because it's an area I think many people can relate to. And that is the "stuck-ness" of being attached to someone and the frustrating feeling of not being able to let go, even when we don't understand our feelings in the first place. If moving on was easy, so many of us wouldn't struggle with this. But the reality is that there are much deeper forces at play when we find our...
Oct 08, 2019•50 min
Checking in with a few updates on life lately: what it's been like to re-incorporate alcohol back into my life after taking a year off, moments where I've been able to witness the ways in which my personal growth journey have started to make noticeable and tangible differences in my relationships and personality, and a big decision I just made that I believe will help take me into this next chapter of my life that I've been envisioning for awhile.
Sep 12, 2019•34 min
It was such a joy getting to chat with Morgan Day Cecil, a Feminine Wholeness expert who I have followed and looked to for wisdom for years now, and to get to benefit from all of the life-giving goodness that poured from her story and the words she shared during our conversation. A question I often ponder, and hear from other single women, is around sexuality and how to incorporate it or delight in it without the presence of another human. Morgan's definitions of romance and adventure had me "Am...
Aug 22, 2019•58 min
Learning how to create and cultivate an abundance mindset has been one of the most beneficial practices of my life. I decided to publish this episode coming from a place of lack (in the world's eyes) in the areas of love and money, rather than wait until I have "achieved" both of those things, to show what it looks like to hold onto this mindset even in the midst of waiting for abundance to arrive, and demonstrate how I practice claiming abundance no matter where I'm at in life. Choosing to view...
Aug 15, 2019•32 min
As I've struggled to stay productive in certain areas of my life, specifically as it relates to my work, the practice of imagining and then invoking the behaviors of my higher self has been so beneficial for me. In this episode I explain who your higher self is, how to get really clear in defining it, and then how knowing those answers helps direct all of the decisions in your day to day life. Learning this concept blew my mind, and even though I'm still in progress with learning how to constant...
Aug 08, 2019•22 min
This week I had the pleasure of talking with Brooke and Heather - the women, wives, mothers and entrepreneurs behind Sōlspace - a community for women that creates a space for those who are balancing all these roles together. In our conversation we talk about one of my favorite things: not waiting on certain milestones to more fully live your life, and what that has looked like for each of us. We also share how "the grass is always greener" game is pointless - from both sides of marriage - and wh...
Aug 01, 2019•44 min
One of the most life-altering things I have learned and incorporated into my life has been the revelation that my thoughts and my thoughts alone are what cause my feelings, and in turn, affect the actions I take and the experience I have in this life. As I've witnessed first hand the power I have to completely change my feelings and experiences towards something - anything from my relationship with cockroaches (trigger warning but also not really cuz it's a happy story :) to my relationship with...
Jul 26, 2019•41 min
Lately I've become so aware of the amount of joy and delight I experience on a daily basis, and so much of it is thanks to steps I've taken to fill as many tiny corners of my day and life with things that light me up and spark joy. And so I wanted to share those delightful little details with you, and also ways in which you can go about doing the same in your life - because I believe the practice of learning how to make ourselves happy and learning how to create a world in which we're constantly...
Jul 18, 2019•46 min
In my own life experience, a message I have received through various areas of my life has been that it can be unsafe to have friendships of the opposite sex. Whether that's because it's impossible to be friends with a guy without it turning into a romantic or sexual relationship, or because it's not appropriate to be close friends with a man who's married, these messages can lead us to believe that ourselves and others are ultimately untrustworthy and that we need to proceed with fear or strict ...
Jun 27, 2019•30 min
Expanding on the topic of intuitive dating and sharing stories of times I felt pressured into dating situations because of outside factors and how I've learned to tune those out and only do what feels right for me. I also share the importance of shifting my mindset around dating to one that's positive and hopeful rather than one that has given up all hope of ever meeting someone decent in this app-saturated world. See more over at hifriend.co.
Jun 13, 2019•30 min
Thoughts on the things I wish we did more of in our friendships rather than saving them for romantic and married relationships. See the show notes over at hifriend.co.
Jun 07, 2019•11 min
When a topic is repeatedly put in my path, I pay attention to what it's there to teach me. And the concept of the mind-body connection and the ways in which our unreleased emotions and anger manifest as pain or dis-ease in our bodies is one that seems to be everywhere I look these days. Confirmed by a mini incident I recently experienced, I decided to share what I've been learning around this from multiple sources, and the tools I've started to use to healthily release unwanted and toxic emotion...
May 23, 2019•59 min
This is a topic I've had rolling around in my heart for the past year or so. The topic of who we're here to "help," how we know which path to follow in finding our purpose, and releasing the guilt around not feeling called to a life of sacrifice and service (as you may currently understand those words). You can even hear the resistance I'm still wrestling through in this episode as I try to justify the path I've currently set myself on when it comes to choosing the ways I'll use my life as a ser...
May 17, 2019•29 min
Sara and Kalee back together again! We may not have gotten to record sitting shoulder to shoulder on the floor of Sara's room, but after months of living apart, we finally got the chance to hop on the phone and catch everyone up on what Kalee's been up to the past few months, all the major and exciting life shifts she's experiencing at once, and how being long distance has affected our friendship. We don't leave out the hard and messy parts of being two different humans in very different chapter...
May 09, 2019•1 hr 3 min
As I've continued to be on a journey of discovering the ways in which I can change my thoughts, and in turn, change my beliefs, I want to keep sharing the mindset shifts that have been the most helpful for me. Today's episode focuses on reframing jealousy, an emotion that I find particularly bothersome, and how I turn those thoughts into helpful ones rather than harmful ones. I cover the practical ways I'm able to quickly flip my views around when it comes to things that used to make me jealous,...
Apr 26, 2019•29 min
In this episode I'm sharing the morning routine I've created for myself that allows me to start every day with peace and calm, and I get specific on what I'm reading each day and the products I use to help wake me up, and most importantly, the feature on my phone that I believe makes all of this possible. It's been such a game changer for me and I love telling everyone about it these days, and since you're all my friends, I wanted to share it with you too. Head to hifriend.co for more notes from...
Apr 19, 2019•40 min
Through a series of revelations over the past several years, I started to recognize that there were beliefs I had been carrying with me around things I was waiting until marriage to do - whether that was a certain part of my life I could engage in, a specific thing I wanted to buy, or whatever made-up truth I had been telling myself - and have now slowly but surely started to reframe them in a way that allows me to step into those things now, without waiting on any unknown timeline. And the resu...
Apr 11, 2019•46 min
Favorite times, repeating numbers, signs that show up in the most random places right when you needed them. All of these things are ways that I believe the Universe uses to speak to us in order to guide, comfort, or encourage us wherever we're at in life. I invited my long-time friend Lauren onto the show to share the beautiful story behind her sign, and tell the background and significance around mine as well. Head to hifriend.co to see accompanying photos to both our stories and important snap...
Apr 04, 2019•56 min
In August of 2018 I was led to give up alcohol for an entire year as an experiment. Seven months into that journey I'm sharing the story behind coming to this decision, the biggest benefits I've seen in my life because of it, the things that have made not drinking way easier for me, and how I believe I'll approach alcohol in the future. I also disclose the super extra ceremony I hosted to help with my grief around saying goodbye to red wine. Most importantly, I share the biggest takeaway this ex...
Mar 28, 2019•1 hr 7 min
It was so special to have my soul sister Jessie on for our first guest spot on Hi Friend. Jessie and I have my favorite BFF meet-cute love story filled with synchronicities and overlap long before we met that we had the pleasure of sharing with you all, mixed with a peek into what our day-to-day conversations have evolved to (we've come a long way since bonding over 7 jeans), and how we help coach, guide and encourage each other through the ever-shifting and expansive realm we've found ourselves...
Mar 21, 2019•1 hr 10 min
The ability to quickly alter or up-level my mood by changing my thoughts or by knowing what activities or practices will get me there has been something I've been deeply intrigued by lately. I have created quite a personal list of things that get me into alignment (AKA my best and fullest self), and because I believe in the power of this concept so much, I love sharing what those different tools are for me. This episode is about a quick and easy way to change your mood or channel a specific emot...
Mar 14, 2019•32 min
I've recently had a big shift in the way I view my singleness and this season of life, partially thanks to the clarity I've gained around how I envision my immediate future, and partially thanks to months worth of mindset shifts that have transformed the way I view myself, my dating life, and my status as a single person. So I sat down and spilled my heart on all the revelations and new beliefs that have made the biggest difference in my life around releasing attachments, fully letting go of the...
Mar 07, 2019•57 min
Hi from Sara for the first solo episode of Hi Friend! In this episode I share the reason Kalee doesn't live down the street from me anymore, the story behind how "following my purpose" has led me on a winding yet surprisingly peaceful path, and the reasons I haven't totally freaked out after being somewhat job-less and without a clear direction even 10 months after leaving my career. I also give some sneak peeks of what topics are to come and what I hope you'll be able to take away from this pod...
Feb 28, 2019•45 min
We're back with a brand new season and direction for Hi Friend! While this episode was recorded 6 months ago (we're aware of the dated references), the overview on where we're headed remains and we wanted to make sure we kicked this new chapter off with a check-in from both of us. So enjoy a mid-2018 update on our lives, and a peek into what's to come for both of us and this space.
Feb 26, 2019•32 min
Since it's been awhile (oops), we share some life updates about the exciting things filling our time these days and the realities of how pursuing your passions and dreams can sometimes leave little space for romantic relationships. We talk about helpful questions we've asked ourselves when determining where our current priorities lie, and allow ourselves to dream even bigger about the abundant and full lives that are possible for each of us.
May 18, 2018•42 min
We hesitated having our next episode be about dating and relationships since we both have such little to report in that area these days, then realized that's exactly the part of it we'll choose to talk about. The waiting and the ways we're both choosing to view and hold that desire in our lives. We're hopeful there are parts of our journey in hoping and longing for good things that everyone can relate to, even if your hope isn't for a relationship.
Feb 28, 2018•43 min
The discussions around needing to untether ourselves from our phones and social media are nothing new these days, we all know we're straight up addicted to the tiny dopamine hits all those notifications give us. And yet we're (statistically) the most anxious and unhappy we've ever been as a nation. So something has to change. This convo is full of confessions (anyone else used a friend's account to check an ex's story?) and helpful disciplines we've both put into practice to start moving towards...
Jan 25, 2018•51 min
Organic tampons, menstrual cups, natural ways to fight cramps, removing shame around periods, and our general thoughts towards that time of the month. Not much is off the table in this conversation and though it should be pretty obvious by this point, males, you've been forewarned.
Jan 17, 2018•49 min
