In this episode, I’m talking about why receiving often feels uncomfortable — especially for women with anxious attachment — and how this survival pattern shows up in your body and your relationships. We’ll explore: Why high-functioning women resist support The somatic signs you’re in survival mode How childhood patterns shaped your ability to receive What it really takes to let love land And if you’re ready to shift this not just in your mind, but in your body — join me for my upcoming live work...
Jun 26, 2025•29 min•Ep. 34
You never “need” anything. But underneath, you’re anxious, and wishing to feel more held. In this episode, we explore what happens when high-functioning anxiety plays out in relationships — from early dating to long-term partnership. And most importantly, how it impacts your ability to be met, supported, and chosen. You’ll hear: Why overfunctioning can push love away — even when your intentions are pure How emotional management erodes polarity and leads to mothering The kinds of men we attract w...
Jun 09, 2025•25 min•Ep. 33
You look like the woman who has it all together — grounded, reliable, composed. But underneath? You’re feeling urgent, worried, and overthinking. Managing everything. And maybe quietly unraveling. This episode is for the high-achieving, high-functioning woman who knows something feels off but can't break through on it. We’re talking about the kind of anxiety that hides behind performing calm. Inside, we’ll explore: What high-functioning anxiety really is — and how it hides in plain sight How emo...
May 20, 2025•34 min•Ep. 32
We talk so much about how anxious attachment plays out in romance—but what about friendship? If you’ve ever felt too sensitive, too intense, or too dependent in friendships—or you’ve abandoned them for romance—this conversation is for you. In this episode, I explore the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways anxious attachment shows up in our platonic connections: overthinking texts, people-pleasing, jealousy, and the pain of feeling replaceable. We also look at deeper patterns—like recreating dynamics...
May 09, 2025•27 min•Ep. 31
If you’ve ever felt guilty for having needs, setting boundaries, or taking up space—this episode is for you. We’re unpacking the kind of guilt that doesn’t come from doing something wrong, but from trying to stay safe. For those of us with anxious attachment, guilt can feel like a constant hum in the background—shaping our choices, silencing our truth, and keeping us small. In this episode, I’m diving into: The difference between true guilt, false guilt, and shame How guilt shows up in anxious a...
Apr 14, 2025•23 min•Ep. 30
After a breakup, it’s easy to feel lost—like you don’t even recognize yourself anymore. In this episode, we’re diving into how to reconnect with you after a relationship ends. We’ll explore what that relationship revealed about you, where you may have lost yourself, and the moments that felt out of alignment. I’ll guide you through ways to help you reclaim your identity and step back into your truth. Connect with me on Instagram @johhhannamaria . Please send me a DM letting me know that you're c...
Mar 17, 2025•17 min•Ep. 29
Breakups are hard, but if you have an anxious attachment style, they can feel almost unbearable. In this episode, I’m diving into why breakups hit so hard for AA women, the weight of fresh grief, and how to move through it with clarity and self-honoring choices. We’ll talk about the power emotional release, the importance of clear boundaries (especially when no contact might be the best option), and how to stay anchored in your truth—even when it feels impossible. _____ As always you're invited ...
Mar 12, 2025•19 min•Ep. 28
It can feel like anxious attachment runs you. Doubt, fear of relationship ending, and low confidence are symptoms of something deeper that your body wants to release and heal. _____ Becoming Secure Membership 🎆 Learn more here. Mentioned in this episode: July 3rd Workshop - Held: Letting Love In 👇🏼 Sign up for the Becoming Secure Community to join me Live Thursday July 3rd 8pm ET for the Letting Love In somatic healing workshop. https://www.skool.com/healing-anxious-attachment/about...
Mar 04, 2025•25 min•Ep. 27
Valentine’s Day can bring up a lot—comparison, overthinking, and that deep desire to be chosen. In this episode, we’re unpacking why V-Day feels so triggering for anxiously attached women and how to shift from chasing love to attracting it—starting with yourself. Join the Becoming Secure membership, click for info Here’s what we cover in this episode: 💔 How anxious attachment amplifies fears of rejection & abandonment on romantic holidays 📱 The IG highlight reel vs. reality (with real life...
Feb 13, 2025•20 min•Ep. 26
What is a genuine need and what is me attempting to seek validation? How can I leave conversations when I don’t like where it’s going but don’t want to be rude? I feel isolated because don’t look to others for support, I feel safe when I maintain the control what do I do? During this episode I share answers to highly relatable questions from inside the Monthly Membership. Join for live calls, somatic practices, and to have me support you in your growth and healing process. ___ Did you like this ...
Jan 27, 2025•19 min•Ep. 25
In this episode, we dive into what it truly takes to become secure within one year . Whether you're healing anxious attachment, building self-trust, or creating healthier relationships, this conversation breaks down the key shifts, practices, and mindset changes required to transform your inner world. If you're ready to step into a version of yourself that feels calm, confident, and worthy of love, this episode is your roadmap to getting there. 🌟 Join the Becoming Secure Live Call membership an...
Jan 09, 2025•27 min•Ep. 24
If you’ve ever felt stuck on your self-love journey or wondered why it doesn’t feel as deep as you’d hoped, this episode is for you. Discover the essential practices, inner and outer work, and mindset shifts that create a true, lasting sense of self-worth. ✨ Go Deeper and Join the Becoming Secure Membership When you join this women-only membership , you’ll discover how to: calm your anxiety heal from the past stop self-sabotaging patterns and become the Secure, confident, empowered version of yo...
Dec 17, 2024•31 min•Ep. 23
You’ve always been the one who gets it done—the problem solver, the caretaker, or highly self-reliant. But under that strong exterior, there’s a part of you that feels anxious, unseen, or unsure in your closest relationships. In this episode, we’re diving into the paradox of being a strong, high-achieving woman with anxious attachment tendencies, and the desire to feel TRULY seen and rest into a man. We’ll explore: ✔️ Why does “the capable one” get overlooked ✔️ Which past experiences of self-re...
Dec 02, 2024•32 min•Ep. 22
Anxious attachment isn’t just an emotional struggle—it impacts every area of your life. From the endless overthinking to strained relationships, staying stuck in anxiety comes at a price. In this episode, we’ll explore: ✔️ The emotional toll of living with anxious attachment ✔️ How it damages relationships and pushes people away ✔️ The financial costs of quick fixes versus real healing ✔️ Why prioritizing your healing is the ultimate investment in yourself I also share real-life stories—from my ...
Nov 21, 2024•22 min•Ep. 21
Creating boundaries that feel authentic, life-giving, and empowering. In this episode, we explore how to set boundaries that reflect who you truly are. Learn how to stop over-accommodating, start respecting your own limits, and find peace in boundaries that align with your life. Also mentioned, the 5 Part, Master Your Boundaries Series, instant access within in the Becoming Secure membership. Set yourself up for: -Getting your needs met in a healthy way -A strong ability to stay in alignment -Fe...
Nov 14, 2024•25 min•Ep. 20
Your framework for uncovering and healing the core wounds that may be hidden deep within. I share my experience of facing a core wound of ‘wrongness’ and the steps I took to move beyond it. Learn how to identify your own buried beliefs, understand how they impact your relationships, and self worth, and start releasing the patterns that no longer serve you. This episode offers both insight and practical steps for healing, so you can move closer to feeling secure, whole, and worthy. ✨Go Deeper and...
Nov 11, 2024•34 min•Ep. 19
What's the difference between the version of you who attracts emotionally unavailable, avoidant men, and the version of you who is attracting a partner who will choose you, and gives you the deep love you crave? This episode cracks it open and breaks in down. 🧡 Get the tools and practices to heal anxious attachment on the subconscious level: If you listened to this episode, message me on Instagram , I'd love to hear from you! ✨Go Deeper and Join the Becoming Secure Membership When you join this...
Oct 12, 2024•20 min•Ep. 18
Learn about the 4 distinct anxious attachment archetypes that may be shaping your inner world and relationships: The Sensitive Soul, The Calm & Collected Overthinker, The Affection Enthusiast, and The Distant Dreamer. I discuss how each archetype copes with triggers, their unique challenges, and what healing looks like for each type. Take the quiz here. << Learn more about the membership! Episode guide: 0:00 There are 4 different types of anxious attachment.. 4:30 - 4 Archetypes Overvi...
Sep 24, 2024•30 min•Ep. 17
Affirmations give our mind new and better ideas for empowering beliefs and new paths for our thoughts. Listen to this episode for 20 affirmations to rewire negative self beliefs and focus on healing anxious attachment tendencies. ❤️ Access the full practice within the Becoming Secure membership. By joining the membership you also receive: 🪷 Coaching support from me, Johanna - a somatic therapy facilitator and inner work guide.🪷 Live Q&A calls and workshops 🪷 Community of like minded women...
Sep 13, 2024•9 min•Ep. 16
Inspired by a question from a woman in the Becoming Secure membership I had to respond will a full episode because there is some major distortion around the word detached and how to be detached. In this episode I discuss: -Trauma bonds -Love versus attachment -Choosing better men ...and more! Dive Deeper: Hang on Instagram . ✨ ✨Go Deeper and Join the Becoming Secure Membership When you join this women-only membership , you’ll discover how to: calm your anxiety heal from the past stop self-sabota...
Aug 29, 2024•16 min•Ep. 15
Your need for control is fuelling your anxiety, pushing away love, and ironically..leaving you feeling more out of control. In this episode, we explore the complexities of control and how unconsciously trying to control everything shapes our lives, drains our energy, and causes tension in relationships. You'll learn: How grasping for control affects you emotionally and physically How control in an anxious attachment tendency and how it pushes away relationships and signifies a lack of trust Sign...
Aug 15, 2024•37 min•Ep. 14
Exploring the concept of Inner Child work and what it means to heal your inner child. Resources Mentioned: Guided Practice - Inner Child Healing: Instantly accessible within the Becoming Secure library . Month-to-month access, cancel anytime. Anxious Attachment Quiz: Which Anxious Attachment Archetype are You? ✨Go Deeper and Join the Becoming Secure Membership When you join this women-only membership , you’ll discover how to: calm your anxiety heal from the past stop self-sabotaging patterns and...
Jul 31, 2024•25 min•Ep. 13
Exploring the 7 types of mothers and how they affect your attachment system. -Overprotective Mother -Critical Mother -Emotionally Unavailable Mother -Enmeshed 'Best Friend' Mother -Narcissistic/Addict Mother -Supportive Mother -Absent Mother Associated Practices , Meditation and Journal Prompts can be found in Becoming Secure my community and library space to go deep on the inner work. I would love to have you in there ❤️ ✨ Join the Becoming Secure Membership When you join this women-only member...
Jun 25, 2024•36 min•Ep. 12
Analyzing 8 different father dynamics and why it's relevant to look at for our inner healing journey. Mapping the patterns that drive us to: -seek validation -fear abandonment -emotionally close -attract men who 'need fixing' -feel like we need to earn love You'll learn how to free yourself from these patterns by identifying them and healing them through the body. ✨ Join the Becoming Secure Membership When you join this women-only membership , you’ll discover how to: calm your anxiety heal from ...
May 07, 2024•34 min•Ep. 11
Holding back on your needs is not serving you in relationship. When we don't feel seen and loved we constrict and control. It is embracing authentic communication which will transforms your love dynamics, and nurture deeper connections. Let's talk about it. ✨Join the Becoming Secure Membership When you join this women-only membership , you’ll discover how to: calm your anxiety heal from the past stop self-sabotaging patterns and become the Secure, confident, empowered version of you who receives...
Apr 26, 2024•24 min•Ep. 10
My ayahuasca plant medicine ceremony shared some profound insights as to what provokes anxiety and how we can avoid being run by it. In the episode I share the model I saw for understanding and eliminating anxiety, thoughts, overthinking, and fear. Join the Becoming Secure Membership When you join this women-only membership , you’ll discover how to: calm your anxiety heal from the past stop self-sabotaging patterns and become the Secure, confident, empowered version of you who receives from life...
Apr 17, 2024•26 min•Ep. 9
Why somatic work is key when it comes to making lasting change. Why body based and nervous system work is not just helpful, but a requirement to your healing journey Tracking your own subsconcious mind Where you anxious tendencies live in the nervous system Energy release to calm the system What it looks like to do somatic work Join the Becoming Secure Membership When you join this women-only membership , you’ll discover how to: calm your anxiety heal from the past stop self-sabotaging patterns ...
Apr 05, 2024•18 min•Ep. 8
In this episode we explore the importance of your relationship to anger. When we don't have a healthy expression of anger it can stay suppressed in the body which usually manifests as having a short fuse, pain, or feeling like you can't connect to your anger at all. You'll learn: -How to know if your anger is suppressed and why you might feel disconnected from anger -Why we feel sensitive, easily irritated, or frustrated -The conditioning of anger within women -How to move it out of the body ✨ J...
Mar 22, 2024•16 min•Ep. 7
When a relationship ends anxious attachment personalities often feel a strong need for closure, replaying conversations in our minds and yearning for explanations. The fixation on closure stems from a primal urge to gain reassurance and understand why, but can often end up driving us into a spiral. I'll share why closure is so important to you, and why the other person may not be willing to have a closure conversation. I hope this episode can provide some solace and clarity amidst the chaos of h...
Mar 07, 2024•14 min•Ep. 6
I've extracted the 5 things that made real shifts when it came to my healing . I was inspired to create this episode after watching a tiktok with a similar title but hearing THEIR list was quite different . Anxious attachment manifests differently in different people, so I'm hoping this episode gives another relatable perspective. Becoming Secure Membership When you join this women-only membership, you’ll discover how to calm your anxiety, heal from the past, stop self-sabotaging patterns, and b...
Feb 18, 2024•23 min•Ep. 5
