Welcome to Having It A.L.L., the podcast that flips the script on what it means to “have it all” in life. I’m Matthew Bivens, your host and friend, and I’m inviting you to join me in conversations designed to help you radically shift your confidence, self worth, and clarity. In order to create new results in your life - whether that’s in your relationships, your health, your money, your family or your life’s purpose - you must make new decisions and build new habits. This podcast will not only deliver the lessons and action items that will help you move the needle in your life, but also share the vulnerable and honest truth about the challenges of working to improve and ultimately master yourself. Each breakdown can lead to breakthrough, and we cover it all on this podcast. Personal development is not an easy road, but you can create meaningful change that lasts. Let’s do it together one choice at a time. Tune in each week and see that it’s not only possible to have it all, but that you were meant to all along!
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Are your relationship beliefs actually creating the connection you want—or quietly sabotaging it? In this honest conversation, Sarah and I unpack the subtle, sneaky beliefs that shape how we show up in love—and often lead to frustration, resentment, and emotional burnout. These are the misconceptions we bought into for years, that quietly crept into our marriage, and that we had to challenge in order to grow individually and as a couple. From the myth that your partner should “complete you,” to ...
What will you regret when your time is up? In this confronting and thought-provoking episode, I explore the five most common regrets people share as they approach the end of their lives—insights captured by palliative care nurse Bronnie Ware after years of supporting individuals in their final days. These reflections aren’t hypothetical or abstract. They are raw truths gathered from real people who were able to reflect on their lives with total clarity. And what they revealed is both sobering an...
How healthy would you say your attachment is with your partner? In today's episode I share an email from a listener who opens up on her relationship attachment. I appreciate her vulnerability and courage in this one because it gives us all a chance to heal and grow. STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY? Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today! Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https...
How stressed out do you feel right now? Have you dealt with stress earlier today or this week? We all experience stress, it's part of life. But not everybody relates to stress in the same way. You have your own go-to methods for dealing with your stress, and some are more effective than others. Years ago it became a personal mission of mine to get on top of my stress and anxiety, and learn how to deal with it in more healthy ways. Drinking, smoking and pornography were not leading me down the pa...
What does it mean to heal your inner child? The process of growing up into adulthood is filled with many impactful events, some empowering and others not. As children, we are experience life with little to no filter, leaving us open to experience hurts, fears, angers and traumas with an extreme level of intensity and realness. Those "wounds", when not addressed properly, carry into our adulthood and have a profound influence over our lives. In today's episode I'm sharing with you a recent experi...
Ever feel like the more you achieve, the emptier you feel? You’re hitting goals, growing your business, and pushing hard—but the burnout is real. In this raw and real episode, I answer your powerful questions about how to avoid burnout, build a meaningful business, and create content that actually aligns with your energy and purpose. We unpack: The hidden costs of Type A success How to balance performance and capacity (without sacrificing your health) Why your business plan might be missing the ...
Matthew Bivens shares his experience with weekly juice fasting, revealing how emotions like stress and apathy can derail personal commitments. He argues that often, breaking promises to ourselves isn't a failure of willpower but a surrender to our feelings. Through real-life examples, he illustrates how practicing emotional discipline, even in small acts, builds integrity and empowers individuals to consistently show up for themselves.
Matthew Bivens addresses a listener's email about feeling stuck despite outward success, offering a powerful six-step process to regain clarity and motivation. He highlights principles like defining your "beingness," clarifying desired results, crafting a personal mission statement, and building an accountability network. The episode culminates in developing an action plan and committing to consistent action with self-awareness, underscoring that fears melt with sustained effort, not just introspection.
Who are you unconsciously giving permission to quit on themselves? In this episode, I share a powerful story from a recent Play Camp where one small decision to avoid discomfort triggered a ripple effect of playing small. We unpack what it means to be a watcher —and how your fear (or your courage) directly impacts the greatness of others. I also reflect on a personal moment where I bailed on a commitment—and how that moment shaped my relationship with leadership, alignment, and integrity. If you...
This episode explores a revolutionary approach to fitness, moving beyond physical gains to cultivate emotional mastery. Host Matthew Bivens shares his personal journey, revealing how exercise creates a unique environment to practice managing stress. Learn to use breath control to shift from "force" to "power" during workouts, developing a resilience that translates into calmer responses to life's challenges.
Feeling like life’s got the upper hand? When everything around you feels unpredictable—your relationships, your career, your body—it’s easy to spiral into anxiety, frustration, or helplessness. But here’s the truth: you’re never truly powerless. In this episode, I take you into a personal season of chaos—infertility struggles, business breakdowns, and emotional overwhelm—and show you how two deceptively simple commitments helped me take my power back. If you’re craving stability and self-trust i...
When was the last time you stood at the edge of something, heart pounding and stomach knotted, knowing you could either stay safe… or jump? In this episode, I share the story of an early morning hike with a friend that turned into one of those rare and real "f**k it!" moments. This story is more than a thrill-seeking stunt — it was a masterclass in recognizing the exact moment life invites you to grow. If you’ve been waiting for a sign to stop hesitating, this is it. STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?...
Ever found yourself staring at a situation thinking, “This isn’t what I wanted”? What if it’s exactly what you needed? In this episode, I share a powerful and unexpected conversation with a stranger that turned into a divine download—and cracked open a deeper truth about fatherhood, faith, and surrendering control. Whether it’s relationships, parenting, or just navigating life when things don’t go your way, this one is about learning to trust what’s being handed to you… even when it wasn’t part ...
What happens to your body when your thoughts turn on you? In today’s episode, I walk you through two real-life moments from the gym that illustrate just how powerful your inner dialogue truly is. One man dropped the weight the moment fear crept in. One woman nearly fainted from the emotional weight she carried into her workout. Both were physically capable—but their thoughts hijacked their performance. Your mindset is a multiplier—or a limiter. And the stress you feel in the gym? It mirrors the ...
What game are you playing so well… it’s keeping you stuck? If you feel like life isn’t working, pause before you call it failure. You’re winning . You’ve just been unconsciously training for the wrong game. This episode isn’t here to fluff you up or give you a participation ribbon. It’s here to hold up the mirror and show you exactly where your energy, time, and identity are going—and what it's actually producing. Because whether it’s the Game of Burnout, the Game of Victimhood, the Game of Play...
We all say we want change—more peace, better health, deeper connection, stronger boundaries. But the results we crave only show up when our effort matches our expectations. In this episode, I explore the invisible gap between what we say we want and what we’re actually doing to create it. Inspired by those powerful before-and-after transformation stories, I draw the connection between physical weight loss and the emotional, mental, and relational baggage we claim we’re ready to release. But here...
What do you do when your values get tested—and the cost of staying true is real? This episode is about the moments that reveal who you actually are—not who you say you are. Not the version that shows up in your journal, on your vision board, or in your next coaching session. But the version that steps forward when life applies pressure. Because the truth is, your growth isn’t proven by how many books you’ve read or breakthroughs you’ve had. It’s proven by how you respond when staying in alignmen...
Ever find yourself stuck in the same kind of relationship drama—even when you swore it’d be different this time? In this episode, I’m breaking down seven relationship must-haves that go way deeper than communication skills or love languages. These are the tools I wish someone had handed me years ago—before I got tangled up in relationships that looked good on paper but left me feeling lost, drained, or straight-up stuck. We’re talking about the internal work most people skip: knowing your missio...
You hit the gym, eat clean, take the solo date—but deep down, something still feels off. Why? In this episode, I unpack a version of self love you don’t hear about often: the kind rooted in standards . Not surface-level habits or nice-sounding affirmations—but the real, gritty way you build self trust by keeping your word to yourself. This one came to me mid-walk (literally—I recorded it while heading to the movies solo). I started reflecting on how treating myself to a film was more than just a...
Are you filtering out the very thing that could break your patterns? You say you want to grow. You say you’re ready for the next level. But when feedback hits—do you lean in, or get defensive? In this episode, we break down the three essential types of feedback that shape your evolution. I’m pulling back the curtain on why you're seeing the same results in your life—over and over—and how these feedback loops are your invitation to change, if you’re willing to receive them. This isn’t about criti...
Ever feel like you're doing all the right things but still not getting what you want? That’s where the Be-Do-Have paradigm comes in. Most people have it backwards. They think once they have the success, time, love, or clarity—they’ll do the right things and finally be who they want to be. But that’s not how it works. If you want lasting results, alignment, and peace that doesn’t crack under pressure—you’ve got to flip the script. In this episode, I break down the Be-Do-Have framework through a p...
Are you really living... or just reacting? In this episode, I’m handing you a tool for deep, no-BS introspection: the 5 W’s of Radical Self Awareness. This isn’t some surface-level journaling prompt. This is a mirror. A spotlight. A call-out and a call-forward—all in one. You'll explore: Who is influencing your thoughts, energy, and identity What you’re truly committed to (and what you say you're committed to) When you tend to abandon yourself Where your environments are either draining or fueli...
What if the reason life feels so off... is because your wheels are out of balance? In this episode, I introduce you to a powerful framework called The Body Vehicle —a tool I learned through the YourDay Balance Game that completely shifted how I understand (and live) life balance. Here’s the idea: If your life is a car, you’ve got five essential wheels— Spiritual, Mental, Emotional, Social, and Physical . When those wheels are under-inflated, over-inflated, or straight up missing... your ride thr...
Are you showing up like the person you say you want to be? Or are you still stuck in habits that keep you in survival mode—burnt out, resentful, and playing small? In this episode, I’m joined by my powerhouse wife Sarah—Balance Lifestyle Coach, Personal Trainer, and walking embodiment of what I call a Humble Badass . Together, we break down the 8 habits she uses (and teaches) to help high-performing women reclaim their power without losing their softness . This isn’t about hustle. It’s about ali...
Today’s guest is a father to three daughters, a husband to a beautiful wife, friend to myself and so many others, and an economist by profession. His name is Robert Monroe, and if you met him in person, the first thing you’d probably notice is his smile. He’s got one of those ear to ear smiles that tends to come with a hearty laugh and come from a place of joy. But behind the smile is a man who has been some incredibly trying times in his life. At a young age Robert was orphaned and learned some...
When’s the last time you stopped to actually see your growth? Not the goal you're chasing. Not the next version of you that you think you should be. I'm talking about a real, honest pause—to look back and say, “Wow, I’ve come a long way.” In this episode, I unpack a few powerful moments where I caught myself in the act of growth—one with my wife, one with myself—and what it taught me about self-mastery, presence, and how easily we overlook our own evolution. If you're someone who's been "doing t...
What if the real reason you’re stuck isn’t a lack of time or willpower—but a lack of trust in yourself? Every broken promise to yourself chips away at your confidence—and you don’t even realize it’s happening. From missed workouts to late-night scrolling instead of journaling, it’s not about discipline—it’s about self-trust. In this episode, I break down why the seemingly small commitments you flake on matter more than you think. Because if you can’t count on YOU…who can? We talk about: How brok...
In today's episode I'm sharing with you three mindsets that have been the biggest catalysts for my personal transformation over the past 4 years. From my self confidence, to the quality of my relationships, to my ability to attract money and create wealth, these 3 things have been the spark for them all. This episode was inspired by a question I was asked last week, "What would you attribute to the huge transformation you've made in your life over the past 4 years?". Here's where I was: I didn't...
What do you lean on when life blindsides you, again and again—and you’re too tired to pretend you’ve got it all together? When life throws you into the fire—when the hits keep coming and you’re running on fumes—it’s easy to spiral, snap, or shut down. In this episode, I’m handing you two powerful beliefs to anchor you when everything feels like too much. They were given to me in the middle of a tough moment. My basement flooded. No hot water. A wave of inconvenience that could’ve easily wrecked ...
There can be a tremendous amount of fear and anxiety associated with honesty, despite the freeing impact that complete honesty can have on ourselves and in our relationships. This episode was inspired by an article I read titled "The Pros And Cons Of Brutal Honesty". The following quote from the article sets up this episode perfectly: " People that stop growing are individuals who decide they can no longer handle brutal honesty." I believe part of what it means to love someone unconditionally - ...
