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Having It A.L.L.

Matthew Bivenswww.matthewbivens.com
Welcome to Having It A.L.L., the podcast that flips the script on what it means to “have it all” in life. I’m Matthew Bivens, your host and friend, and I’m inviting you to join me in conversations designed to help you radically shift your confidence, self worth, and clarity. In order to create new results in your life - whether that’s in your relationships, your health, your money, your family or your life’s purpose - you must make new decisions and build new habits. This podcast will not only deliver the lessons and action items that will help you move the needle in your life, but also share the vulnerable and honest truth about the challenges of working to improve and ultimately master yourself. Each breakdown can lead to breakthrough, and we cover it all on this podcast. Personal development is not an easy road, but you can create meaningful change that lasts. Let’s do it together one choice at a time. Tune in each week and see that it’s not only possible to have it all, but that you were meant to all along!
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Episodes

7 Gratitude Truths That’ll Rewire Your Mind (This Will Change How You See Everything)

What if gratitude isn’t what you think — and what you’ve been taught is keeping you stuck? In this episode, I’m breaking down 7 powerful gratitude truths that will flip the way you think about appreciation, happiness, and abundance. This isn’t your typical gratitude list — we’re going deeper. You’ll discover: ✅ How gratitude can instantly shift your mood ✅ The surprising link between gratitude and your finances ✅ Tools to build a gratitude habit that actually sticks ✅ Why gratitude during confli...

Mar 27, 202523 minEp. 554

The Danger Of Seeking Work-Life Balance

In this episode I tear apart the concept of “work-life balance” and explain why it’s dangerous, leads to unhealthy living, and why we have to replace it with a healthy and sustainable construct. We’re all familiar with the idea of work-life balance. It’s a phrase and concept we’ve been fed for years. But have you really thought about the implications? What the phrase implies? And have you been able to create a work-life balance in your life for a significant period of time, and kept it going?! I...

Mar 25, 202528 minEp. 553

How To Melt Your Fears Like Butter

I’ve talked about facing fears a number of times on this show. Most people who have a "self help" type of show probably talk a lot of about fears. And for great reason: Fears keep us from experiencing LOVE in life. You can boil your decisions down to a choice between fear and love, and that includes your decision on how and who to BE in life. So yes, fear is worth talking about! Today I’m sharing with you a powerful new way to look at your fears, and what it takes to overcome them, that gave me ...

Mar 22, 202518 minEp. 552

Do You Know Your Center? The Success Of Your Relationships Depends On It!

This episode was inspired by a conversation I had with my father. Like many topics I cover in this podcast, my own life is the testing ground where I attempt to choose LOVE over FEAR, and share with you the things I've learned. Today I'm talking about the importance of knowing what your center is - the lens through which you see the world and relationship that shapes your values, thoughts and behaviors. There are many different centers you can have. You can be Spouse centered, Money centered, Fa...

Mar 12, 202545 minEp. 551

Who Are You When No One Is Watching?

The self improvement game is, many times, a public one. Spiritual, physical, mental and emotional self work can all be done in the open or with a group of people. And with group meditation and yoga and other similar things really taking off these days, one could buy into the idea that self improvement is a public act. But there's something so much more important than the things we're DOING to improve our relationship to our selves, others and life, and that's who we're BEING. I've talked about D...

Mar 05, 202540 minEp. 550

Here's Why You Keep Getting Into Unhealthy Relationships

Today's podcast was inspired by an email I received from a listener. Her situation is something that I think many of us can relate to, and it has to do with RELATIONSHIPS. Situation: you're in a relationship, it ends for whatever reason, you feel hurt/betrayed/wronged, you do some soul searching, learn a few things about yourself, seek out and find a new relationship, get hurt/betrayed/wronged all over again, and wonder "Why this keeps on happening to me?". Sound familiar? I'm proposing that you...

Feb 27, 202534 minEp. 549

What The Birth Of My Child Has Taught Me About Faith (It's Not What You're Thinking)

This episode is all about FAITH, but not in the most widely used sense. I’m talking about having supreme confidence and trust in someone or something. I look at faith like this: FAITH = TRUST + SURRENDER. On Sunday September 11th, 2016 Sarah and I welcomed the birth of our daughter Maya. Through that experience I both witnessed and practiced the most humbling amount of trust and surrender that I have in my life thus far. Sarah surrendered to her body, to the labor waves, to her coaches. I truste...

Feb 20, 202528 minEp. 548

How To Expand The Great Things In Life Through Focus

You've probably heard sayings like"What you think you become." (Buddha) and "What you focus on expands." (T. Harv Eker). They are great and make for awesome social media quotes and refrigerator magnets. But I think the fact that they are used (perhaps overused today) so much has watered down the impact of the message. The things that we choose to focus our time, energy, thoughts and resources on, grow and multiply and become more real for us. We can all conjure up examples of this in our lives. ...

Feb 04, 202534 minEp. 547

Breaking Your Fear Patterns Once And For All

By now you might have heard of the Tony Robbins documentary “I am not your guru”. It’s been making its way around Netflix and the internet. If you haven’t seen it, I recommend you give it a watch! Well, I checked it out the other day and can honestly say that few other documentaries have inspired me as much as this one. It wasn’t Tony Robbins who inspired me. Instead, I was inspired by the people in the documentary who recognized their opportunity for breakthrough, and boldly stepped into it. Th...

Jan 25, 202537 minEp. 546

Your Relationships Are Killing You

I truly believe that your relationships are the most important factor to your health (and I'm not talking about relationships in the way you might be thinking). You don't want to miss this one because this episode will get you thinking! What you’ll learn in this episode : The types of relationships that take away from your health How to reframe “stress” so you regain your power A simple process for relating more powerfully to any circumstance STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY? Download the free "trust...

Jan 23, 202528 minEp. 545

The One Thing I Use to Get Back on Track to Achieving My Goals

This episode was inspired by an article titled “The one sentence that finally inspired me to lose 70 pounds”. I read that and thought to myself, “I want to know that one thing!!!” Not because I feel I need to lose 70 pounds, but because anytime someone claims to know the one thing/secret/habit I really want to hear it. So I checked it out….and liked what I read! But the point of the article made me think about my one thing and about a topic that I address regularly on this show --- personal miss...

Jan 10, 202523 minEp. 544

Who Will You Become In 2025? My Favorite Practice For Ensuring A Healthy, Wealthy and Amazing New Year

Who will you become in 2018? We're all used to setting new years resolutions and goals for what we want to DO in the upcoming year, but rarely do we make time for a much more important exercise -- being clear on who we want to become in the new year. STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY? Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today! Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.co...

Jan 01, 202525 minEp. 543

The 6 F's - Having It A.L.L. Framework Part 3

This is part 3 in my series where I'm breaking down the meaning of A.L.L. - Abundant Loving Life, and where I'm sharing my framework for "having it all". In the A.L.L. framework, I've chosen to focus on what I think are 6 key areas of life: Faith, Family, Friends, Fitness, Finance, and Fun. STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY? Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today! Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balan...

Dec 17, 202433 minEp. 541

What is Your Love Conversation? - Having It A.L.L. Framework Part 2

Continuing our series on the Having It A.L.L. framework, today's episode is all about LOVE. I have a special guest on this episode with me today, one perfectly suited to chat with me about love. In this conversation you'll learn: The difference between conditional and unconditional love Where love falls in David R. Hawkin's "Scale Of Consciousness" The distinction between attachment and connection when it comes to love STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY? Download the free "trust account" app from the Y...

Dec 10, 202439 minEp. 540

What is Abundance and How Do I Invite More Into My Life? - Having It A.L.L. Framework Part 1

I’ve always been inspired by the genius men and women who were able to take a concept such as love, or effectiveness or even personal finance, and find the patterns within them that can allow ordinary mortals like you and I to tap into and experience these things fully. Well before I had a podcast called Having It A.L.L., I had an idea about what “having it all” meant to me, and I witnessed much passion, anger, conviction, judgement, confusion and frustration around the topic. I knew there was s...

Dec 06, 202429 minEp. 539

A Simple Framework for "Having It All" in Your Life

What does "having it all" mean to you? It’s a question that I ask all of the guests I have on the show, and it’s a question to which I’ve never heard the exact same answer twice. I started this podcast partly because of the polarizing nature of that question. On one side you have people who believe that you can have it all, and who are quick to give their version of what it looks like. On the other side you have people who vehemently argue that having it all is not possible and that saying you c...

Dec 04, 202446 minEp. 538

What To Do When Someone Challenges Your Beliefs

We have all been in a situation where another person has challenged a belief that we held. Big or small, we know what it feels like to be questioned and to then feel like we need to defend our beliefs. Well, I'm no stranger to this either, and I had an excellent opportunity to experience this very thing during a recent podcast interview! The episode that you're about to listen to was recorded just minutes after I had my belief challenged on air. I decided that I wanted to capture the moment as i...

Nov 21, 202423 minEp. 537

A Story of Healing: Using Curiosity and Courage to Find Yourself with Monique Ruffin

Monique Ruffin is a celebration of living. She is one of those people that folks say has “A beautiful soul”. And I completely understand why. Monique grew up in the neighborhood of Watts in Los Angeles. Yes, that Watts. It's where Sanford And Sons was set, and was where Denzel Washington and Ethan Hawke duke it out in Training Day. That neighborhood is not known for many empowering things, but it’s where Monique called home. Growing up in an area impacted by crack, with parents in and out of jai...

Nov 12, 202449 minEp. 536

Why You're Failing to Tap Into Your Full Creative Potential and How to Actually Do Something About It!

“We are all creators. Whether or not we create is not up to us. We are human, and creating is what we do.” - Michael Gungor You are a creator! Yes, you. Whether you not you believe it is irrelevant, because like Michael Gungor said, “We are human and creating is what we do.” In every role we play in life -- parent, spouse, friend, lover, community member, coach -- we create experiences and meaning. Today’s episode is an exercise in creation. I followed the advice of a friend and fellow podcaster...

Nov 07, 202442 minEp. 535

Why Personal Mission Statements Are the Most Powerful Way to Uncover Your Direction and Path

At the end of last week's episode I left you with a cliffhanger. Last week I was talking about FEEDBACK and the power of feedback to ensure you stay on path in life. I introduced the question, "What's the point of being on path if you don't know where the path is leading you to?" I left you with the promise that the next episode would be about Mission Statements and would feature a special guest. Well...here we are! This week I have an incredibly awesome guest with me, live in the studio (first ...

Nov 01, 202459 minEp. 534

Learning How to Be Awesome When Life Hits You With Circumstances with Faydra Koenig

I’m a firm believer that life is always going to throw circumstances your way, especially when you say (or think) you’re ready to handle them. Circumstances can look like a fender bender, a letter from the IRS, a pet needing to go to the vet, and pretty much whatever other not-sought-after experience that you can think of. Enter Faydra Koenig, a woman who has been through her fair share of circumstances! I was inspired to connect with Faydra after watching a personal and candid video on the circ...

Oct 22, 202452 minEp. 533

Moving Through Hell and Rising Above Circumstances with Colleen Crain

We’ve all been through situations that, at the time, felt never ending. Time crawls by. Our bodies respond to the tension. Our minds race from present to future to past. Going through hell feels like going through hell. But if you’re reading this, if you’re here right now, then that means you made it through hell.You survived! Because when you walk through hot coals, your feet get tougher and more resilient. Colleen Crain knows that is like. A traumatic event as a child left her physically impai...

Oct 17, 202452 minEp. 532

How Do I Make Sure I’m “On Path” To My Greatest Self?

What is simultaneously the most significant factor and biggest barrier to becoming your greatest self? Without this thing, airplanes would not make it to their final destination, corporate managers would have less work to do, and you would reach a ceiling with your potential. It's something that confronts the ego so directly that many people shy away from it at any cost. Yet, it is a powerful tool for self realization, growth and transformation. Any ideas yet?!? What you’ll learn in this episode...

Oct 10, 202429 minEp. 531

A Story of Dreams, Perseverance, and Taking the Road Less Traveled with Mike Mills

This powerful conversation stemmed from a tip a friend gave me, “Matthew, you have got to interview this guy!” The guy I was being encouraged to speak with was Mike Mills. Mike is an exceptionally unique guy. He has what I call the Small “s” success and Big “S” Success. Mike is the owner and operator of the Buffalo Outdoor Center, a lodging and outfitting resort sitting on the historic Buffalo River in Ponca, Arkansas. The Small “s” success is the thriving business that Mike has built over the p...

Oct 02, 202454 minEp. 530

How Aware Are You of Your Influence on Others?

We are all influencers. Everyday we influence, without fail, we influence three groups: our Selves, Others and Life. However, many of us go through life unaware of just how much we influence these groups, and unconscious of the power of influence we really have. Yet, despite this lack of awareness and intention, we are still wielding this power of influence in many ways, some more responsibly than others. In today’s episode I share a powerful story of influence and ask you to ponder a question t...

Sep 26, 202418 minEp. 529

How to JUMP Into the Life You Truly Want to Live

Love and Fear. It's what all decisions in our lives can be boiled down to. Fear can be one heck of a beast! We all know because we all can recall times when we let fear overpower our ability to make clear decisions. I lived much of my life in fear and can vividly remember making choices from a place a fear since early on. And I also remember the feeling after those choices. The feeling of having to sit with myself knowing that I choose a lesser path. This past weekend I faced a different kind of...

Sep 19, 202439 minEp. 528

How to Create the Biggest Shifts in Your Wellbeing - Dr. Michelle Robin

How do you define "wellbeing"? How about breaking down the word into it's two parts -- WELL and BEING -- what do those words mean to you? My guest in today's conversation is clear on what those words mean to her, and is on a mission to spread her message of whole wellbeing. Dr. Michelle Robin is a chiropractor by trade, but has expanded herself into an author, speaker, and podcaster. STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY? Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start build...

Sep 12, 202439 minEp. 527

The Massive Difference Between Big "S" Success and Small "s" Success

You have been lied to about success. Like most of us, we've been told that success is determined by factors "out there". Achievements, accolades, possessions, titles, certifications, promotions - you know the deal. But you've also been told that success is simply a mindset. You are successful if you feel successful. But I'm introducing a new concept to the mix. The concept of little "s" success and big "S" Success. We may all define success in our own unique ways. But the big "S" and little "s" ...

Sep 04, 202419 minEp. 526

Igniting Your “Guttural Brushfire”: The Impact of Mission Statements, Powerful Words, and Unconditional Love with Sandy Chambers

What would your life look like if you were fully engaged? If you were living your life to the max? If you were experiencing a "guttural brushfire"? That’s the question that my guest today has been meditating on. Sandy Chambers is very close persona friend of mine and one of the most consciously mature people I know. She devours books, videos, podcasts -- anything that she can get her hands on that will elevate her consciousness. She has read and re-read the works of authors like David R Hawkins,...

Aug 28, 20241 hr 3 minEp. 525

How to Use Discontent to Create Your Finest Moments with Dianne Crampton

Have you experienced true discontent in your life? That’s totally a rhetorical question because if you’re alive then that means you’ve been in situations that you haven’t liked. The real question is, how did you handle those situations? My guest in today’s conversation is Dianne Crampton, and she would guess that you did one of three things: blamed someone else, ignored it all together, or asked yourself “What is this here to teach me?” Dianne has spent most of her life asking herself “What is t...

Aug 21, 202455 minEp. 524
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