Paul Colaianni has not always led an authentic life. Experiences as a child taught him that authenticity and self expression were detrimental to his health and the health of those around him, so he bottled them up. The result was a life rife with unsteady relationships, frustration, and disillusionment. It wasn’t until facing the end of another relationship, that Paul reached an emotional, mental and spiritual breaking point, which sent him on a 10 year journey to study and self examine. Today, ...
Aug 15, 2024•1 hr 12 min•Ep. 523
What does it mean to “lead from center”? It's a question that many high achievers ask themselves (or are asked of themselves), and it's a question that my guest today is going to help us answer. To Amy Balog, leading from center means being so in-tune with yourself -- knowing who you are, and what makes you tick -- that you're able to create amazing results in your life and the life of others. It's about gaining clarity, calmness and conviction, and being acutely aware of the environment inside ...
Aug 07, 2024•53 min•Ep. 522
Colleen Patrick Goudreau lives a life of compassion. She has compassion for animals, which influenced her to choose a vegan lifestyle (on which she is a leading authority). She has compassion for other people, which influenced the message she spreads to the world. And she has compassion for herself, which, through intentional practice, has allowed her to experience herself fully and manifest her deepest values. In this episode, Colleen and I have a powerful conversation on the practice of manife...
Jul 31, 2024•44 min•Ep. 521
Here we are, my friend. The final episode of Having It A.L.L.! It has been an awesome 8 years, and in today’s episode I’m going to share my thoughts, memories and takeaways with you all. Let’s do this! RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE Get in touch with Matthew: matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn about the YourDay Balance Game coaching programs: https://theydbg.com/ STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY? Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF tod...
Jul 24, 2024•23 min•Ep. 520
What is emotional regulation and what part does it play in having it all? In today’s episode I’m diving deep into the world of emotional regulation and emotional intelligence because these two concepts (and their related parts) are critical components of living a self fulfilled life. Without a healthy level of emotional intelligence, it’s extremely hard to get from where you are now in your life to where you’d like to be. It’s like trying to navigate an obstacle course with the lights off --- te...
Jul 19, 2024•37 min•Ep. 519
Can every relationship be improved? And if so, how would you actually do it?? Today I'm sharing with you an incredibly effective way to improve any relationship in your life, from a marriage to a friendship to your relationship with your boss or neighbor. This episode pulls from my own personal life and the relationship experiences that I have created. The conversation today will impact how you engage in your current relationships, and will help you create amazing future relationships. RESOURCES...
Jul 11, 2024•43 min•Ep. 518
Which of life’s circumstances do you feel a victim to? There was a time in my guest's life when his answer to this question might have been very lengthy. In today’s episode I’m bringing you a conversation I had with my friend, Brian Thomas. Brian is an author, husband, father, and a man who is boldly choosing to have it all in his life. When Brian was 13 he underwent the first of several kidney transplant operations. The experiences leading up to and after the surgery played a significant role i...
Jun 30, 2024•1 hr 23 min•Ep. 517
What does it really mean to treat your partner like a King or Queen? As Sarah and I have grown in our marriage, the concept of treating one another as a King and Queen has grown as well. At first the idea brought up our own issues with self worth, love and relationship roles. But today, we both powerfully fill our roles of King and Queen respectively, and we make it priority to not only treat one another with the utmost love and respect, but to do the same for ourselves as well. In today's episo...
Jun 21, 2024•1 hr 40 min•Ep. 516
Do you believe that balance is possible for you? So many people seek out balance, yet they fall short again and again. It’s been my experience as a BALANCE Lifestyle Coach, that the biggest reason why people fail at balance isn’t because of their lack of effort or plan, it’s because of their perspective on balance in the first place. In today’s episode I’m debunking common myths around balance, and I’m giving you 3 new perspectives on balance that are going to make it more simple and achievable ...
Jun 11, 2024•35 min•Ep. 515
What do you do when your life feels out of control? Whether it’s a single area of your life, or everywhere all at once, when things feel out of control it can be debilitating. I’ve been there and I know the feeling of helplessness and frustration that comes as a result. However, you don’t have to stay there! There are simple things that you can do that are entirely effective at putting you back in the driver’s seat of your life. In today’s episode I’m sharing with you 2 simple ways to regain con...
May 27, 2024•29 min•Ep. 512
What morning habits do all great leaders and people who are doing BIG things in life have in common? (And no, it’s not meditation or cold showers!) They all start their day off by building proactive momentum. Not sure what that means? No worries! In today’s episode I’m explaining the concept of proactive momentum and I’m helping you break the habits that are driving your stress, frustration and burnout. STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY? Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance G...
May 15, 2024•25 min•Ep. 511
Do you know why affirmations, self help and success books and “positive talk” just don't work for many people? It has nothing to do with those things being ineffective, and everything to do with the emotional state a person is in when they attempt to connect with those things. In today’s episode I’m breaking down exactly how this all works and helping you to unlock the true reason why you keep creating the same outcomes despite desiring new results. RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE Power vs Force by ...
May 07, 2024•25 min•Ep. 510
What does living a balanced life mean to you? Similarly, how do you define health and fitness? And how do your perceptions of these concepts impact your overall wellbeing? In this episode I'm talking about how you can view the idea of "balance" in a way that doesn't leave you feeling defeated and frustrated. I'm here to present to you an idea of how you can balance out your health and fitness in a way that's sustainable and holistic. DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE YOURDAY BALANCE...
May 02, 2024•1 hr 12 min•Ep. 509
What shame are you hiding? Fellas, this episode is for you. As a man, I've carried with me different types of shame through my life that have had a big impact on how I see the world and operate in it. I learned early on that burying my shame and pretending it wasn't there was the safest way for me to operate. The truth is, it's not. And for me, it took years of living in denial and robbing myself of true joy and fulfillment, that finally helped me see that. In today's episode we're tackling a to...
Apr 24, 2024•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 508
What does it take to create an episode of the Having It A.L.L. podcast? If you’ve ever asked yourself that question then you’ll love today’s episode! I was recently asked by a friend, “How do you continue coming up with ideas for your podcast after 8 years and 500 episodes?”. It was a great question and one that got me thinking about sharing with you a behind the scenes look of what it takes to create an episode of the show as well as keep the podcast going for years to come. RESOURCES FROM THIS...
Apr 16, 2024•44 min•Ep. 507
What does your calendar say about your priorities? Whether you use an online calendar, a paper calendar, or simply store all of your appointments and todos in your head (which is impressive!), you have some sort of way of divvying out your most precious resource -- your time! Where you invest your time says A LOT about what you prioritize! A common trait of people who feel fulfilled in life and who “have it all” is that they regularly make time for the people, environments and things they value ...
Apr 08, 2024•25 min•Ep. 506
How comfortable are you saying "no" in your life? So many of us struggle with saying no when people make requests of our time, space, energy, money, or love. We want to please. We want others to like us. We don't want to be seen as unhelpful or unavailable. In today's episode I talk about the challenge of saying "no", and give you very concrete and actionable tips for strengthening that muscle within you. DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE YOURDAY BALANCE GAME Android: https://play.g...
Apr 03, 2024•49 min•Ep. 505
How do you relate to feedback? Feedback scares the heck out of most people, but if you run from it then you're handcuffing your potential. I was one of those people for a very long time. I did everything I could to NOT receive feedback, and when I did I usually took it very personally and sat in a funk for a few days afterwards. Today, however, I understand how important feedback is to growth. Point blank: you will NOT grow without feedback. And that’s growth in ANYTHING -- your job, your health...
Mar 26, 2024•28 min•Ep. 504
Are you feeling stuck in life? We all feel stuck at some point in life. How long we stay feeling stuck depends on a few factors. Today's day 7 of the awareness suite, and in this conversation we are applying the lessons from the last 6 days so you can finally get unstuck! DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE YOURDAY BALANCE GAME Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 WATCH T...
Mar 17, 2024•17 min•Ep. 503
How much of your time each day is spent with the people, places, and activities that you say matter most to you? Today's day 6 of the awareness suite, and in this conversation we are taking a look at exactly where you invest your most precious resource: your time. DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE YOURDAY BALANCE GAME Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 WATCH THE #1 OB...
Mar 16, 2024•12 min•Ep. 502
How aware are you of the impact that your environment is having on you? From where you spend most of your time, to who you spend most of your time with, your environments shape your health, your attitudes, and your behavior. Today is day 5 of the Awareness suite, and in this episode we’re taking a look at the environments where you invest your time and energy, and shining a light on the fact that your environments very well may be keeping you from having it all. DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT"...
Mar 16, 2024•17 min•Ep. 501
Do you have clear personal standards in your life? If so, what are they?? Most people understand the concept of a personal standard, but in practice have vague personal standards (at best). Yet, if you knew the impact that not having or holding personal standards was having across all areas of your life, I bet you’d get to work creating some! Today is day 4 of the Awareness suite, and in today’s episode we’re getting real about personal standards, and why not having clear personal standards that...
Mar 14, 2024•14 min•Ep. 500
What emotions did you experience today and what insights into yourself did you glean from those emotions? Most people go through their day feeling any combination of the spectrum of emotions, completely unaware that those emotions are giving insight into what’s going on in their inner world. Today is day 3 of the Awareness suite, and in today’s episode we’re digging into the layered messages of your emotions, and making the case that your emotions pack so much more insight than you are aware of!...
Mar 14, 2024•17 min•Ep. 499
Are most of your thoughts in a day empowering thoughts or disempowering thoughts? Turns out, the VAST majority of most people’s daily thoughts are disempowering. If every thought is a seed that’s being planted into your psyche, then what kinds of fruit are you growing in your life? Today is day 2 of the Awareness suite, and in today’s episode I dive into the world of your inner monologue, and we talk about the importance of being aware of your thoughts and where they’re originating from. DOWNLOA...
Mar 13, 2024•19 min•Ep. 498
What communications is your body giving you right this very moment? Today’s episode kicks off a suite that we’re doing all on the topic of Awareness. When you’re seeking change in your life, no matter what area you want to shift, AWARENESS is step #1! If you are unaware of the thoughts, beliefs, words and habits that are keeping you stuck, then you’ll never be able to break free and build a life where you are having it all. In today’s episode I dive into the communications of your body, and we t...
Mar 11, 2024•19 min•Ep. 497
Have you ever felt like life moves in a never-ending cycle of ups and downs, advances and setbacks, victories and defeats? The Law of Rhythm teaches us that "Everything Flows, Out and In", "All Things Rise and Fall", and "The Pendulum Swing Manifests in Everything". From the waves of the ocean to the rise and fall of empires, this law governs the rhythm of life itself. In this episode, we delve into practical ways to work with the Law of Rhythm rather than against it. Discover how to recognize t...
Mar 05, 2024•30 min•Ep. 496
What do you feel are the biggest benefits to exercising? Whether or not you’re currently exercising at the level you feel you should, you probably have some thoughts about why exercise is important and what the benefits are. For years my perspective on exercise was one that most of us have: it’s important to keep you healthy and keep your body strong, it can improve your mood, it promotes longevity in life, it provides energy and vitality for a happy life, among other reasons. But years ago I be...
Feb 27, 2024•22 min•Ep. 495
Are you feeling like your relationships are stuck in a rut? Or are you simply wanting to see and feel your relationships improving? In today’s episode I unveil a simple yet powerful method that has transformed my connections with others. It's not a quick fix or a manipulation tactic, but rather a genuine approach to fostering trust, intimacy, and understanding. RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE 2x10 Relationship Building: How to Do It (and Why It Works!) DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE ...
Feb 20, 2024•25 min•Ep. 494
Are you doing what you love in life? Many times a question like this makes us think about turning our passions into a career. Pro athletes come to mind, the men and women who have taken a love for a childhood game and turned it into a lucrative career. But that’s not the only way to do what you love and live a life with passion. You can 100% live with passion, joy and excitement EVERYDAY, without changing careers or completely shifting your life around (you can of course do that too if you want)...
Feb 11, 2024•55 min•Ep. 493
What crossroads moments has your life contained, and what lessons did you learn? In 2013 I faced a major crossroad moment. The job path that I had chosen was making me miserable, and each day that I stuck on it I felt more frustrated, more helpless and more like a victim. I had experienced many crossroads moments in my life up to that point, and in the majority of them I chose to stay safe, remain comfortable, and give into the fear. But not this time. In today’s episode I share with you one piv...
Feb 05, 2024•43 min•Ep. 492
