Have you ever wondered how to become immune to rejection? Rejections happen to all of us in life. It’s unavoidable. Yet, not everyone is impacted the same way by rejections. Some people are crushed, while others use the rejection to grow. Which are you? Today's episode dives deep into understanding why rejection impacts us and provides actionable steps to develop resilience and use rejection as a catalyst for growth. This one is inspired by a heartfelt listener email, and I’m grateful for the vu...
Jan 29, 2024•33 min•Ep. 491
Wondering why your efforts for improvement often fall short? If you've faced discouragement, tried various programs/plans/systems, or found yourself in the cycle of starting and stopping, this conversation is tailored for you. In today’s episode, we uncover a colossal mistake that could be sabotaging your progress when you’re seeking change and improvement in your life, and I’m going to help you spot the mistake and overcome it if you’re doing it yourself! RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE Don’t Be Un...
Jan 21, 2024•35 min•Ep. 490
Have you ever looked back on an experience in your life and thought, "Yeah, I don't want to go through that again!". 2023 held many of those moments for me. Truth be told, there was a lot that I struggled with in 2023 that had me feeling overwhelmed, stressed and maxed out. But I didn't tell anyone, and so I struggled in silence. In today's episode I'm breaking that silence and letting you in on why 2023 was my most challenging year yet, I'm sharing what contributed to my internal challenges, an...
Jan 14, 2024•54 min•Ep. 489
What is a simple yet effective tool that can help you create the best year of your life? Answer: a Word For The Year! Each year on the Having It A.L.L. podcast, I guide you to creating a Word For The Year. And it's that time once again! New Year's Resolutions focus on the DOING, while Word For The Year focuses on the BEING. And that's where your best results will come from! Join me in today's episode as I take you through the 6 simple steps to create your powerful Word For The Year, and teach yo...
Jan 08, 2024•45 min•Ep. 488
Do you find yourself being overly self-critical when someone else's advice just doesn't work for you? I've read, listened to and watched thousands of pieces of self help content over the years, and for a long time I thought that there was something wrong with me when I failed to incorporate someone else's advice into my life. I would blame a lack of discipline, focus, grit, or consistency as the reasons why I never made it past day two on someone else's stellar self help routine. That was until ...
Dec 29, 2023•44 min•Ep. 487
Have you started planning your goals and resolutions for the new year? Whether you have your goals already, or haven't even started, there's one thing you want to make sure you do before you write your goals in stone, and that's take a deep look at how you showed up this past year. In today's episode I'm walking you through a self assessment process (the same one I use with all of my coaching clients) that will help you determine where you are right now, so you can chart the course for where you...
Dec 23, 2023•51 min•Ep. 486
What are 3 skills that you could develop and hone that would dramatically change your life? This has been an amazing year in the coaching work that I do, namely because the amazing clients I work with have created some incredible results for themselves. As I look at what they've overcome and accomplished, 3 distinct skills/traits stand out that they have in common. In today's episode I share with you the 3 skills that they've all developed which have led to their success, skills that you MUST ho...
Dec 13, 2023•36 min•Ep. 485
Are you aware that beliefs are not permanent? It's true. You believe things today that you didn't believe when you were younger. In fact it's healthy to challenge your beliefs, release the ones that no longer serve you, and adopt new, more empowering beliefs that align with who it is you desire to become. In today's episode I'm sharing with you 4 sobering truths that will challenge some deep beliefs you have about yourself and your life, and in doing so I'm inviting you to be willing to let go o...
Dec 06, 2023•25 min•Ep. 484
How do you handle tough times in life? As a coach for man years I have seen a pattern in people when it comes to how they handle adversity and tough circumstances in life: they are either REACTIVE or PROACTIVE. In today's episode I'm sharing the concept of the "magic muscle" and revealing how you can learn this crucial skill so that you can overcome any adversity and create joy in the face of circumstances. RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE Download the free YourDay Balance Game App Android: https://p...
Nov 23, 2023•36 min•Ep. 484
How strong is your self-worth? Put a different way: do you believe in your own value and worthiness? Low self-worth is at the heart of many challenges that people struggle with. From difficulties with relationships, procrastination and avoidance, a lack of confidence.....all of these things have low self-worth as the common thread. So what do you do when you know you have low self-worth and you want to raise it? Well, in today's episode I'm sharing with you a proven way to raise your self worth,...
Nov 14, 2023•21 min•Ep. 483
Have you ever felt the loneliness that comes with personal growth and transformation? As you shed your old life and embrace the new, it's natural to experience strong feelings of loneliness. How you handle those lonely periods can be the difference between growing and achieving your goals, or continuing to struggle. In today's episode I share six essential insights for navigating the lonely chapters that are a part of your personal development journey. RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE Video clip from...
Nov 08, 2023•24 min•Ep. 482
How do you bounce back when your world gets rocked? When everything seems to be going wrong in your life? When your dreams are shattered? Disappointment is interesting. It can be focused internally on ourselves, or externally on others. But no matter where the focus is, the root of it is some sort of attachment and typically judgement. When you get swept up in the emotions around disappointment, it's easy to be carried off in the direction of disempowering emotions and thoughts. The sequence can...
Oct 31, 2023•30 min•Ep. 480
Have you ever wondered about the source of your self worth and personal value? Whatever you deem as the source of your self-worth is going to directly influence your behaviors and habits. If you make your net-worth as the source of your self-worth, then your money will become your focus. Many people do this, and when their money goes up so does their sense of worthiness, however when their money goes down....well, you already know! In today's episode I help you unlock a never-ending source of se...
Oct 18, 2023•20 min•Ep. 479
What are the myths and stereotypes around masculinity that you’re holding onto? Over the years I've picked up all sorts of ideas around what it means to be a man, and many of those ideas reinforce dated and unhealthy stereotypes. In today's episode I share my biggest stereotypes around masculinity, the things that trigger thoughts of comparison and feeling less than. DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE YOURDAY BALANCE GAME Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.bal...
Oct 11, 2023•52 min•Ep. 478
Do you have little faith in your ability to achieve your big goals? I used to feel pretty low on myself as it related to setting goals and achieving them. Didn't matter if it was a work goal, fitness goal, money goal or just a life goal -- a part of me seemed to always believe that no matter how much I wanted it, I just wouldn't achieve it The problem wasn't that I didn't know what I wanted. I had PLENTY of things I desired to accomplish (my Big Hairy Audacious Goal list was massive). I was just...
Sep 26, 2023•52 min•Ep. 477
What is the secret to sustaining a long sexual relationship with your partner? Today's episode is inspired by a Ted Talk from sex educator and author Emily Nagoski, and we'll be discussing the two things that research has shown are necessary for couples to maintain a strong sexual connection for decades. We'll explore why these things are important and how you can develop them in your relationship. We'll also cover how to overcome the challenges that can come up, such as the "layers" of stuff th...
Sep 23, 2023•23 min•Ep. 476
Are you unhappy in an area of your life? Are you failing to accomplish all that you wish to accomplish in your life? If you’re unhappy with a particular area of your life, chances are that you are going against one or more principles. If you can identify the principle(s) that you’re not following, and begin to follow them, then you can start making the changes that will lead to the results that you want out of your life. In part 2 of our series on Principles, we continue our deep dive into the p...
Sep 15, 2023•28 min•Ep. 475
What are the principles that govern your life? The principles you live by are the foundation for effective and successful living. When you live your life in alignment with principles, things flow and you create the possibility for more joy, peace and abundance. But when you're unclear on your principles and therefore don't live your life in alignment with principles, then things don't work. You may find yourself feeling frustrated, unfulfilled, hopeless and not in control of your own life. Unfor...
Sep 09, 2023•53 min•Ep. 474
What is the quality of your life right now? In today's episode I'm sharing with you 8 key areas of life you want to take a look at periodically to assess the overall quality of your life. This episode is inspired by fellow greatness seeker, Lewis Howes. It was on his Instagram page that I saw him post about these 8 areas, and it moved me to share it with you all. RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE Instagram post from Lewis Howes - https://www.instagram.com/p/BpzmA9iA7rR/ DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUN...
Aug 30, 2023•50 min•Ep. 472
Are you struggling to find meaning in your life? Are you searching for purpose and clarity around why you're here and what you're meant to be doing? So many people struggle with these questions, many spending the majority of their lives dealing with the stress, angst and confusion that comes with not having satisfying answers. I have been there myself. I spent decades wrestling with these types of questions, never having an answer and constantly feeling like I was behind, missing out and failing...
Aug 16, 2023•32 min•Ep. 471
How do you know if you're in a codependent relationship? Codependency is a relationship killer, but spotting the signs isn't always easy. Many times the behaviors that you think are indications of your love and devotion, are actually signs of an unhealthy relationship dynamic. In today's episode we're going to explore codependency deeper and you'll learn 8 signs that you are in a codependent relationship. And don't forget to watch the video I mention at the end of the episode so you can learn ho...
Aug 12, 2023•31 min•Ep. 470
Are you the type who loves to read personal development books but stops short of actually applying what they read? Be honest, because this happens more often than not. In my years of coaching, I see many people fall into the trap of believing they are creating new results by reading more books, attending more seminars and enrolling in more courses. This is a trap because the real results come from APPLYING what has been learned (and applying again and again and again, until you gain wisdom from ...
Aug 02, 2023•24 min•Ep. 469
How comfortable are you at the idea of spending alone time with just you and your thoughts? Today's Quick Fix is all about breaking the addiction of constant distraction, and in the episode I'm sharing a message from Rich Roll -- podcaster, author and ultra-endurance athlete. RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE BREAK Your Phone Addiction | Rich Roll: https://youtu.be/EsKGcMrKknc The Habit That's Making You Miserable (And Why The Experts Are Missing The Point): https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/the-habit...
Jul 29, 2023•8 min•Ep. 468
What do you think is the common denominator of success? In 1940, Albert E.N. Gray, an official of the Prudential Insurance Company of America and a highly sought after speaker, delivered a speech to the National Association of Life Underwriters at their annual convention. His words have since become a source of great inspiration for many people. In today's episode I'm sharing with you his famous speech "The Common Denominator of Success". RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE Link to the speech transcript...
Jul 19, 2023•27 min•Ep. 467
If life is a game of patterns, then what are the lifestyle patterns of people who live long and healthy lives? That's a question many have set out to answer. In the book "Blue Zones: Lessons for Living Longer From the People Who've Lived the Longest", author Dan Buettner explores why communities in certain parts of the world (known as "Blue Zones") live longer and healthier lives. In today's episode I share with you the 9 evidence based reasons why people in Blue Zones live longer, and I open up...
Jul 12, 2023•28 min•Ep. 466
What is "Vitamin N" and how will it help you live an abundant loving life? Today's Quick Fix is all about "Vitamin N", and in the episode I'm sharing a message from Eliud Kipchoge -- a Kenyan long distance runner who is regarded as the greatest marathon runner of all time. He is an Olympic champion, world record holder, and in 2019 was the first person in history to run a sub 2 hour marathon! Tune in to learn about "Vitamin N" and why it's essential to self-discipline. RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISOD...
Jul 08, 2023•6 min•Ep. 465
What is one activity that, if you did it on a regular basis, would have a tremendous impact in your personal and professional life? That's the question we focus on in today's podcast! I was inspired by a lesson I was teaching a coaching group recently, and I'm bringing that conversation here because I want you to take back control over your life so that you can have it all. In today's episode we break down two very important questions that will help you manage your time and energy more effective...
Jun 20, 2023•16 min•Ep. 464
What does it mean to "discipline your thinking" and how is this directly tied to you feeling like you have it all? I want to shine light on what is probably the biggest thing keeping you from having it all in your life -- undisciplined thinking. Undisciplined thinking is being a victim to your thoughts. Undisciplined thinking leads to feelings of angst, fear, worry, anxiety, anger, resentment, and pain....consistently. Undisciplined thinking, when left unchecked, will be what sabotages you from ...
Jun 13, 2023•48 min•Ep. 463
When you're faced with a problem or challenge, what is the first thing you tend to do once you're ready to tackle it? Your answer probably has something to do with "seeking a solution" or "taking action". And that makes sense. When you have a problem or challenge and you're finally ready to solve it, you want to get moving. However, there's one thing that you absolutely must do if you want your solution to succeed. However, many people miss this critical step and so they end up repeating their s...
Jun 06, 2023•32 min•Ep. 462
Do you know someone who always seems to have an excuse as to why they don't follow through on an agreement or accomplish a goal? Do you have that tendency at times? In today's bonus episode I'm sharing with you why, of all the things you want to be unique in in life, you certainly don't want to be unique in your excuses! DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE YOURDAY BALANCE GAME Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us...
May 30, 2023•12 min•Ep. 461
