Do you feel like you're capable of more? Do you want to unlock your higher self? I spent too many years worrying about the idea of "figuring out my purpose", and all the stressing led to nothing more than a headache. The question of "What is my purpose?" was not leading me anywhere satisfying, yet I didn't know what other questions to ask. In today's episode I'm sharing with you a different approach to figuring out your Big Why, and I give you the ingredients that I used to crystalize my Big Why...
May 23, 2023•31 min•Ep. 460
Can you think of one destructive habit that a significant amount of people do every day (and night) that is contributing to their stress, burnout and misery? I can! I won't make you listen to the whole episode to learn that the habit I'm talking about is using your cell phone first thing in the morning. You've probably heard the experts talk about this habit and how it creates distraction, contributes to poor sleep, and perpetuates your technology addiction. They aren't wrong, yet there's a bigg...
May 17, 2023•36 min•Ep. 459
Are you feeling like life has you struggling in all sorts of ways, and you just need to get back to some self-care basics? If you've been feeling stressed, overwhelmed or imbalanced throughout the year, and your self-care routine has taken a back seat to life's never-ending demands, then tune in because I have a simple approach for you. In today's episode I'm breaking down "bare-bones self-care" habits that can quickly and easily be incorporated into even the busiest schedule. I'm not here to re...
May 10, 2023•56 min•Ep. 458
Are you struggling right now because you feel lost and uncertain about your life? Do you wish more than anything to have a sense of direction, clarity and purpose, but you have no idea how to achieve it? Despite all of that sounding like the pitch in a corny informercial, those feelings are REAL and so many people struggle with feeling lost and uncertain in their lives. That was me for many, many years. I created a ton of anxiety, worry and stress around not knowing what I should be doing with m...
May 02, 2023•35 min•Ep. 457
Were you aware that you have innate gifts that, when cultivated and used intentionally, will help you reduce stress, become proactive and take control of your life? Yes! These gifts are inside of you, you've had them since you were born. But if you've never activated them and used them intentionally, then you will continue to feel like you are at the whim on life's circumstances, doomed to experience overwhelming stress and anxiety, and feel powerless to do anything about it. In today's episode ...
Apr 27, 2023•33 min•Ep. 454
Do you hold resentment towards someone? Do you utilize the power of "possibility" to create new results in your life? Do you have a healthy relationship towards devices, technology and social media? In today's episode I'm answer three of your pressing questions, and giving some real time feedback on situations and topics that affect us all. RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE Doomscrolling Is Eating Away Your Happiness, Peace And Mental Health - https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/doomscrolling-is-eating-...
Apr 18, 2023•41 min•Ep. 453
Have you been asking yourself "How can I overcome feelings of victimhood and powerlessness?" It's very common to find yourself in a situation where you feel like a victim and where you feel powerless to do anything about it. The uncomfortable truth is that having it all and living your abundant loving life has several pre-requisites: you must be willing to take full responsibility for your life and you must adopt a proactive way of approaching life. These things don't jive with being a victim th...
Apr 11, 2023•34 min•Ep. 452
Do you feel like you're in need of more effective ways to manage stress, worry and anxiety? Are you searching for more tools to add to your arsenal? The truth is that you most likely already have tools at your disposal to deal with the challenges that life throws your way, you just aren't using them to their full potential. In this episode, we will explore the different tools that are available to help you manage your stress, worry and anxiety, and I will give you some tips on how you can build ...
Apr 05, 2023•25 min•Ep. 453
Do you have a tendency to take things personally? Be honest with yourself. In the book The Four Agreements, author Don Miguel Ruiz has this amazing description of taking things personally, he calls it "eating emotional garbage". "You eat all their emotional garbage, and now it becomes your garbage". In today's Having It A.L.L. Moment I remind you to not take things personally and help create a different context around the garbage others try and feed you. RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE The Four Agre...
Mar 29, 2023•9 min•Ep. 450
What is one key area that separates successful people from those who routinely fail to reach their potential? Well if you read the title of this episode then you know it has to do with the QUESTIONS that successful people ask themselves. In today's episode I'm explaining to you precisely why the questions you're asking yourself may very well be what's keeping you stuck, and I'm helping you broaden your mind so that you can get on the path to bigger and better results in your life. Resources from...
Mar 22, 2023•18 min•Ep. 451
In today's episode I'm sharing with you 7 lessons and takeaways from the most recent Trust Challenge. These 7 lessons are common threads that come up again and again in my coaching work, and I'm going over them with you today so that you can avoid the pitfalls that leave you feeling hopeless, powerless and victimized. Resources from this episode: Sign up for the Trust Challenge: https://www.matthewbivens.com/trust/ Having It A.L.L. episodes about your "sexual story": Let's Talk About Sex: Unders...
Mar 16, 2023•43 min•Ep. 450
How high is your trust in yourself? You may or may not be able to answer that question easily. But I bet you have an answer for this one - how confident are you? The link between confidence and trust is so incredibly strong, yet we don't usually think of those two things as related. Today I'm shining light on why confidence and trust go hand in hand, and I'm giving you a pathway to experience higher levels of both in your life. Resources from this episode: Join the Trust Challenge here: https://...
Mar 07, 2023•19 min•Ep. 449
How do you overcome codependency? And what does it even mean to be codependent? The reality is that many relationships end up in codependency. That happens when your ability to count on yourself is very low, and so you turn to others for your security, guidance, love, acceptance, joy or power. Because codependency results from having low trust in yourself, the solution to it often lies in building a greater sense of self trust and self worth. That's where becoming your #1 investor comes in! In t...
Mar 01, 2023•35 min•Ep. 448
What's new with Having It A.L.L.? And when is the next Trust Challenge?? These are some questions I've received recently, and in today's episode I'm answering them! Today I'm sharing with you some announcements from Having It A.L.L., including the return of one of the HIA community's favorite experiences: The Trust Challenge! Resources from this episode: Sign up for the next Trust Challenge (kicking off on March 7th) at https://www.matthewbivens.com/trust/ Offers from our Awesome Partners: Neede...
Feb 22, 2023•25 min•Ep. 447
What does it really mean to love someone deeply? We've all heard that "love is a verb", but when you attempt to put that into practice and have the goal of loving deeply, how is it done? In today's episode I answer the question "what does it look like to love deeply?", and we focus the answer on the three most important relationships in your life. Resources from this episode: The Love Languages Quiz: https://5lovelanguages.com/ The Odds Of You Being Alive Infographic from Business Insider: https...
Feb 14, 2023•31 min•Ep. 446
How do you handle the ups and downs of life? For many people, experiencing down moments is something to fret about. No one enjoys feeling down, but the way you relate to those moments (and what you do as a result) has such a tremendous impact on the direction your life goes. In today's episode I'm talking about a few concepts that will help you ride the inevitable waves of life, and I'm bringing insights from Alexi Pappas and Robin Sharma to help you show up powerfully in the face of inevitable ...
Feb 07, 2023•28 min•Ep. 445
When you desire to create change in your life, how effective is your approach? You'll know whether your approach is effective if you have a strong track record of making changes and reaching your goals! For the vast majority of people who are not as successful with making change, your issue may just be with your approach and not your discipline, execution or willpower. In today's episode I'm sharing insights from James Clear, author of Atomic Habits , on a more effective approach to make changes...
Jan 31, 2023•30 min•Ep. 444
So, let’s get real personal for a second: what are your biggest bedroom insecurities? What are those thoughts, stories and emotions that you bring into the bedroom that create nervousness, anxiety, or fear? Yeah, I went there. Why am I asking this question? Because talking about our bedroom insecurities is incredibly important, yet we rarely ever do it. Sometimes we may share a few things here and there to our closest friends (if you’re like me then that’s even off the table), but rarely do we s...
Jan 25, 2023•1 hr 39 min•Ep. 443
Do you feel you lack consistency in some important areas? One of the biggest challenges that people share with me is their lack of consistency. Sometimes it sounds like "I never follow through", or "I lack dedication", or "I don't have perseverance when times get tough". All of those shortcomings live under the umbrella of consistency, and it's a real challenge that robs the joyful life experience for so many. It did for me for many years. For most of my life I would never consider myself consis...
Jan 18, 2023•53 min•Ep. 442
Do you want this year to be different so badly, but secretly you fear that you'll fail at reaching any of your goals or desires? I know what that feeling is like. To desire something, to see it in you mind's eye, and to get excited about the idea of putting it as a goal on paper. Only to have that tiny voice in the back of your mind telling you "C'mon, let's be honest, you're not going to be able to do it". It's deflating and makes the idea of creating change in your life feel improbable, if not...
Jan 10, 2023•34 min•Ep. 441
Have you created your Word For The Year yet? The "Word For The Year" is an annual tradition at Having It A.L.L.. We kick off each year with a powerful word or phrase that will provide focus, clarity and inspiration throughout the year, helping you to create real change in your life from the inside out. New Year's Resolutions focus on the DOING, while Word For The Year focuses on the BEING (and that's where your best results will come from). In today's episode I'm walking you through the 6 simple...
Jan 03, 2023•39 min•Ep. 438
How effective are you at keeping your New Year's Resolutions? Today we're talking about new year resolutions and why so many of us fail at keeping them going throughout the year. I look at the statistics behind new years resolution failure, the most common resolutions set each year, and explore some reasons why they fail and tips to avoid failure. I also share an interesting psychological angle into why we don't succeed with our resolutions. But all of this is overshadowed by the #1 reason why w...
Dec 28, 2022•37 min•Ep. 439
Do you struggle with letting go? Me too! It's been one of my biggest and most recurring challenges over the years, and it shows itself in so many different areas. In today's special episode I'm sharing some exciting news with you, along with 5 simple tools that I've been using to help me LET GO and create more presence and peace in my life. * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * CHECK OUT TH...
Dec 20, 2022•25 min•Ep. 438
What does family mean to you? Better yet, what does family FEEL like to you? In today's episode we explore the idea of family. We look at what happens when we are family centered (that means we get our sense of security, wisdom, guidance and power from the people in our family and from our family reputation), and I talk about my experience of moving from a family center to something that better helped me to "have it all". Resources from this episode: The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People by St...
Dec 13, 2022•43 min•Ep. 437
What beliefs are you currently holding that is robbing you of your health, happiness, and power? Today I'm talking about the power (and consequences) of your beliefs. Your internal conversations and the beliefs associated with them are something you rep more than any workout. So what beliefs have you been strengthening? Resources from this episode: Alexi Panos Instagram post: https://www.instagram.com/p/BsnwZP0l1ng/ * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hav...
Dec 07, 2022•31 min•Ep. 436
Are you familiar with visualization? It's a technique that world class athletes and high achievers of all types, use to literally put themselves into a higher state of being, mentally and emotionally. Visualization helps these individuals live into their greatest selves. And it can do the same for you as well! I practice visualization techniques regularly, and in today's episode I'm sharing with you what the practice is all about, how it's done, and why I absolutely feel it's a powerful pathway ...
Nov 30, 2022•40 min•Ep. 435
Do you feel you have work-life balance? Or are you one of the millions of people who are feeling out of balance because they've been using this old context to look at their lives? If you are, don't stress out. I was too. But I've realized that this concept of work-life balance does so much more harm than good, and actually results in a very ineffective way of looking at our lives. In today's episode I'm sharing with you a different perspective for looking at how you can balance out the important...
Nov 22, 2022•51 min•Ep. 434
What role does gratitude play in your life? In today's episode I'm talking about how gratitude can improve your productivity. There are very practical benefits to creating a gratitude practice, that honestly, until recently I was unaware of. But after reading an article by my good friend, Garland Vance ( www.GarlandVance.com ), I now have greater awareness around the role gratitude can play in our lives. Tune in and I'll share the three ways that gratitude improves productivity, as well as one p...
Nov 16, 2022•24 min•Ep. 433
Are you familiar with the mind-body connection? Every person needs to understand the physical impact of their thoughts and beliefs. If you're not being intentional about this right now, then the chances are great that your self-talk is taking a toll on your physical health. In today's episode I talk about the mind-body connection, particularly as it relates to the labels we wear on about ourselves. Resources from this episode: Chopra center article: https://chopra.com/articles/mind-body-connecti...
Nov 09, 2022•38 min•Ep. 432
How do you build lasting self confidence? I struggled with self confidence for a very long time. For years I operated with low self confidence and low self esteem, not having a clue as to how I could build them up. But as I found more personal development resources, I started reading books, watching lectures and listening to podcasts on the topic of "building self confidence". I became very well versed in what the experts had to say on the topic, yet none of that ACTUALLY helped me become more c...
Nov 02, 2022•37 min•Ep. 431
