Do you struggle with staying consistent? You know the feeling. You start something, feel great for a while, then seemingly inevitably you fall off and quit. At that point the self doubt convos enter, the "I knew you couldn't do it!" self talk enters. All that stuff. In today's episode I'm giving you some simple tips for helping you be more consistent in life. Resources from this episode: "How To Develop Grit So You Can Do The Things You Don't Want To Do" - https://youtu.be/Ph0BLJPbsD8 * LEAVE ME...
Oct 26, 2022•42 min•Ep. 430
How do you juggle all the different roles and responsibilities that you have? That question was asked to me recently by a listener and client, and I think it's in such alignment with everything that we talk about on this podcast. A major part of living your abundant loving life is being able to experience peace, joy and flow in the midst of the life you've created. It's not about how many balls you're trying to keep up in the air, it's about how effective you are and how much you're enjoying the...
Oct 19, 2022•58 min•Ep. 429
When pain hits you, do you lean into it or run from it? I used to be the person that ran from pain. Any type of pain, from physical to emotional, I wanted nothing to do with it! And it made perfect sense to me: pain did not feel good, and so why would I want to experience something that didn't feel good? Today I have an entirely different perspective towards PAIN. In fact, I embrace and love pain today, and doing so has been a critical step in my personal growth and healing journey. Tune in as I...
Oct 11, 2022•42 min•Ep. 428
What is codependency? As you read that question above, you probably have an idea of what codependency is in your mind. Most people can spot signs of codependent behavior when they see it in others, but fail to notice it in their own lives. The truth about codependency is that it's much more prevalent, damaging and insidious than you might imagine, and in fact it's at the root of many of the biggest challenges that people face day-to-day. Today's episode is the first part of a series that address...
Oct 05, 2022•30 min•Ep. 427
In today's quick fix I let you know why you need to learn to love and get excited about life's hardships --- Rough episode transcript --- If you’re listening to this podcast then I know that you’re into improving yourself and truly stepping into your greatness, and I can bet that you’ve been practicing. Maybe it’s meditating or journaling or being grateful or facing your fears or practicing humility. Whatever it is, this message for you. WHEN STUFF HITS THE FAN IN LIFE, WHICH HAPPENS AND WILL NE...
Sep 27, 2022•7 min•Ep. 426
Have you given yourself permission to slack on your exercise and overall physical health? I get it, we're in the middle of a global circumstance that can be used as a great excuse to not exercise and neglect your health. But the ripple effects of doing so are far reaching, and you may be underestimating how detrimental it can be for your overall health & wellbeing if you've been putting physical exercise on the back-burner. In today's conversation I'm illuminating the 5 key areas of your hea...
Sep 21, 2022•54 min•Ep. 425
How intentional are you with the way you start and end your day? Here's the truth, there are people out there living incredibly fulfilling lives, they HAVE IT ALL, the Big S Success, and you can bet that it's not by accident. The way you start your day and the way you end your day have a HUGE impact on not only what happens during the course of your day, but also how you feel about yourself and your life. A winning morning and nighttime routine doesn't have to be long and complicated and rigid, ...
Sep 14, 2022•46 min•Ep. 424
Do you feel your life lacks purpose and meaning? Many people (if not most) are on a journey to find purpose and meaning in their lives. And truthfully, many will never find what they're looking for....because they're looking in the wrong places. On today's episode I'm sharing with you the key to living a life of purpose and meaning, and I'm revealing why so many people struggle in this area DESPITE having a strong desire to create a life they love living. By the end of the episode you'll know ex...
Sep 07, 2022•35 min•Ep. 423
Do you struggle with asking for help or accepting help when it's offered to you? For me, asking for help has been a challenge since I was young. I don't really know when I started to feel like I needed to take care of things on my own, but that belief follows me to this day. In this episode I'm sharing with you a few common examples of when the universe places people or things in our path that are there to help us. * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/havi...
Aug 31, 2022•15 min•Ep. 422
What if the path to achieving your highest dreams wasn't in the clarity of your vision, but in the standards you hold for yourself? Todays episode explores the idea that, "We become our lowest standard, not our highest dream." I unpack this statement and give you action steps for raising your standards so that you can have it all! * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE H...
Aug 24, 2022•36 min•Ep. 421
“We are all creators. Whether or not we create is not up to us. We are human, and creating is what we do.” - Michael Gungor You are a creator! Yes, you. Whether you not you believe it is irrelevant, because like Michael Gungor said, “We are human and creating is what we do.” In every role we play in life -- parent, spouse, friend, lover, community member, coach -- we create experiences and meaning. Today’s episode is an exercise in creation. I followed the advice of a friend and fellow podcaster...
Aug 16, 2022•45 min•Ep. 420
If you looked at your average day, how much of it do you spend in a state of Joy vs Sadness? My coach and mentor Day Adeogba shared with me a conversation he had with his kids recently, where he asked them "What do you think your Joy:Sadness ratio is?" That idea of a Joy:Sadness ratio totally fascinated me, and inspired me to think about it for myself....which of course led to this podcast episode! Tune in to hear about the Joy:Sadness ratio, how you can determine your goal Joy:Sadness ratio, an...
Aug 10, 2022•33 min•Ep. 419
How do you practice self love on a daily basis? In today's episode I'm sharing with you 7 ways that I practice self love every single day. I'm breaking down the simple habits and practices that keep my tank full and provide a spark in my life. And I'm also sharing with you 3 habits that I STOPPED doing because they didn't support or honor me. My intention is that this episode gets you to examine your self love practices and inspires you to level up how you love on yourself. * LEAVE ME A REVIEW O...
Aug 03, 2022•44 min•Ep. 418
Why is change so frustrating? You'd think it wouldn't be so difficult to change something that you REALLY want to change. I know in the past I've been incredibly hard on myself for "not having the willpower" or "not wanting it enough" or "not being disciplined enough", when I failed to make change happen in my life. But what I told you there were crucial pieces of the change equation that you were missing? Ones that illuminate why change is so hard, and how to actually make it work for you. In t...
Jul 27, 2022•40 min•Ep. 417
What is your sexual story? No, I'm not talking about a romance novel type of story. I'm talking about the narrative you have around sex, the one that was started many years ago with your very first encounters with the ideas, feelings and attitudes around sex. We all have a sexual story that was started when we were young and is being added to constantly. Many people's stories around sex are based in shame, judgement, embarrassment and expectation. That leads to sexual experiences and feelings th...
Jul 20, 2022•41 min•Ep. 416
Are you more of a leader or a follower? You might think that one of these roles is better or more preferred than the other. However, the truth is that it's your ability to balance between the two that will lead to your greatest success, and your goal is to understand your leadership-to-followership ratio. In today's episode I help you rescript what it means to be a great leader and follower, and I give you the tools to create a greater balance between your inner leader and follower! Resources fr...
Jul 13, 2022•40 min•Ep. 415
How would you describe what being an "involved dad" is? And, if you're a father, would you currently consider yourself an "involved dad"? This idea came up in a conversation Sarah and I were having on our other podcast, Doing It At Home, and I was clear that discussing fatherhood and what it looks like to show up powerfully as a dad was something to bring to Having It A.L.L.. Join me as I dive into what it really means to be an "involved dad" and why that label itself carries with it some contro...
Jul 06, 2022•57 min•Ep. 414
Have you ever found yourself up late at night, scrolling through social media, feeling worse and worse with every thumb flick, but unable to break away? That my friend is known as "doomscrolling" and it's robbing you of your happiness, peace and mental health. Doomscrolling is when you find yourself deep into an internet or social media hole, looking at posts and stories that leave you feeling anxious, depressed, hopeless, angry, disheartened, but you just cannot seem to break away. You scroll a...
Jun 28, 2022•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 413
Where does your personal health rank on your list of priorities? Probably not at the top. Well, as you can guess from this title of this episode, I'm making a strong case for why you MUST begin to push your health to the top of your list. And I'm talking right now! Not next month, next quarter, over the summer. NOW! And yes I do mean priority. Your health should be the first thing you're thinking about each day, before your kids your spouse your job your co-wokers, all of that. I'm going to brea...
Jun 21, 2022•47 min•Ep. 412
How do you know whether or not you "have it all" in your life? One of my goals for you is that you move closer towards your definition of "having it all", and to do that you need to have an objective way of assessing whether you currently have it all. That's where the 6 F's come in! Today's episode is part of a series I did where I breakdown the meaning of "Having It A.L.L." (particularly the A.L.L. acronym). In today's conversation I'm sharing with you the 6 key areas of life that are an integr...
Jun 14, 2022•36 min•Ep. 411
What is the Hero's Journey and how does it apply to your life? Patterns exist in our world, and those who learn how to read those patterns effectively can better navigate the ups and downs of life. The Hero's Journey is a story template (aka pattern) that is found in separate cultures all over the world, and can be seen in great works of literature and cinema. But the framework of the Hero's Journey isn't just for entertainment! In fact, the Hero's Journey very accurately describes YOUR journey ...
Jun 08, 2022•1 hr 21 min•Ep. 410
As we head towards the midway point of 2022, how are things shaping up? Have you made noticeable progress on achieving your goals, solving your problems or realizing your vision for the year? Or are you facing the tough reality that things haven't changed much since the beginning of the year? There are patterns of effectiveness that can lead you to new results. Whether is a problem you wish to solve, a goal you want to accomplish, or a dream you desire to manifest -- the broad steps to getting t...
Jun 01, 2022•16 min•Ep. 409
Does the idea of taking risks scare the mess out of you? I know it did for me, and for much of my life I was completely risk averse. But thankfully I grew to realize that everything I wanted -- a fulfilling career, a deep and loving relationship, healthy and vitality -- all could be mine if I was willing to take the necessary risks, and I started pushing my comfort zones. And the beautiful thing is that it's a learned behavior, something that ANYONE can improve. In today's episode I help you bec...
May 25, 2022•46 min•Ep. 408
Do you have toxic people in your life? How about in your inner circle? Are there folks in your life who are constantly bringing negativity and noise into your world? And what are the things you should be reviewing and thinking about when preparing for marriage? These are the questions I answer in today's episode of the podcast! The topics today were suggested by YOU and all have to do with OTHERS. Last week I focused on SELF, and today we're focusing on OTHERS (next week is LIFE). I get fiery in...
May 17, 2022•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 407
What do you do when you're feeling stuck in life? It's not uncommon to feel stuck at some point in life. It could be in a job that's no longer fulfilling, a relationship that has lost its intimacy, or just a general feeling of going through the motions in life. The reasons for feeling stuck are as varied as you and I, but the solution to getting unstuck is often a few layers deeper than you might be thinking. In today's episode I'm sharing my story of where my wife and I were stuck for 2 years, ...
May 10, 2022•38 min•Ep. 406
In today's episode I'm sharing with you my tried and tested process for being more productive and feeling more fulfilled, by working smarter and not harder. I have been somewhat obsessed with productivity and work efficiency ever since graduating college. Once I jumped into the working world and realized that I could easily eat up 12 hours of my day on menial tasks and still not feel like I had really done anything, I got to work developing a better system for myself. I read articles and books, ...
May 03, 2022•48 min•Ep. 405
Are you open to receiving feedback? Feedback is an integral part of the growth and evolution process. It's one of the most important ingredients to making improvements, progressing towards your goals, and ultimately creating a life where you feel like you "have it all". But it's also an area where many people struggle, because receiving feedback can be tough (especially to our egos). The best feedback coming from a loving, healthy source, means little to nothing if we take it personally and neve...
Apr 27, 2022•39 min•Ep. 404
Are you aware of the impact of the excuses you make in your life? Your desires, wants, goals, aspirations all move you in a certain direction in your life. Excuses pull you in the complete opposite direction. This is true for all of us (it's principle, not personal). If you're playing for a life of abundance AND you're prone to making excuses, then buckle up because things are going to be rocky for you. In today's episode I'm sharing with you 5 excuses that are keeping you from the abundance you...
Apr 19, 2022•39 min•Ep. 403
What does it mean to be healthy and fit? How healthy and fit are you right now? I've shared a lot of different tools with you over the course of this podcast, and in today's episode I'm going to go deep into one particular tool/concept that I want you to really understand well, because your health depends on it! I'm talking about your Body Vehicle and the 5 wheels that make up your Body Vehicle: Mental, Spiritual, Social, Emotional and Physical. These 5 areas are what make up our health, and eve...
Apr 13, 2022•1 hr 16 min•Ep. 402
What does it mean to heal your inner child? The process of growing up into adulthood is filled with many impactful events, some empowering and others not. As children, we are experience life with little to no filter, leaving us open to experience hurts, fears, angers and traumas with an extreme level of intensity and realness. Those "wounds", when not addressed properly, carry into our adulthood and have a profound influence over our lives. In today's episode I'm sharing with you a recent experi...
Apr 06, 2022•48 min•Ep. 401
