Have you experienced "personal development burnout"? You may not know exactly what it is, but your best guess is probably not far off! Personal development burnout is the feelings of overwhelm, guilt or obligation that can come up around the self improvement work you're doing to make empowering shifts in your life. As you work on improving yourself and creating a life you love living, sometimes you can feel shame or judgement around being where you are. The books, courses or podcasts that are me...
Mar 29, 2022•16 min•Ep. 400
With your last major life challenge, did you seek out solutions from other people or from within yourself? You have a vast amount of wisdom and knowledge within yourself that can be used to helping you get unstuck in life. However, you probably don't trust it right now. Most people are so used to seeking out answers from others, that they are presented with a challenge in life they toss their hands up in the air and claim they don't know how to overcome it. I don't believe that at all, and after...
Mar 22, 2022•23 min•Ep. 399
What does it take to "have it all"? That really has been the purpose of this entire podcast, hasn't it?! Today we celebrate the podcast turning 6 years old, and it only seemed fitting to share with you 6 giant lessons from the last 6 years of Having It A.L.L. * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * LEARN ABOUT MY COACHING PROGRAMS: https://www.matthewbivens.com/coaching/ * SEND ME A QUESTION:...
Mar 16, 2022•48 min•Ep. 398
What are the habits that have created a big impact in your life? How do you keep positive momentum going when you get derailed? How do you deal with outside criticism and judgement? These are the listener questions that I'm answering in today's episode! Over the years you've sent in hundreds of questions for me, and today I'm taking a few of them and answering them from my perspective as both an individual working on leveling up their life, and as a personal transformation coach who has shifted ...
Mar 08, 2022•53 min•Ep. 397
How do you feel about making commitments? About going "all in" in life? Making commitments is a part of success and part of turning a desire into reality. Anyone who has succeeded at anything significant has gone "all in" on themselves and on the results that they desired. There's great payout to going "all in", but there's also great risk. The risk lies in spending too much time in the "danger zone" of commitment. In this episode I'm going to share with you the process of making commitments and...
Mar 01, 2022•38 min•Ep. 396
When you think about sex, what is the goal for you? Is it to have an orgasm, or to make sure your partner has one? Is it to show your partner how much you love them and to validate your relationship? Is it something else? For most of my life, the goal of sex was orgasm. My orgasm mostly, but at times her orgasm was my priority as well. I picked that goal up from porn, from media, from peers. Sometimes the goal of sex for me was to fulfill the expectation (and sometimes obligation) of being "in l...
Feb 22, 2022•51 min•Ep. 395
How can you improve any relationship in your life? Today I'm sharing with you an incredibly effective way to improve any relationship in your life, from a marriage to a friendship to your relationship with your boss or neighbor. This episode pulls from many past relationship experiences that have both improved and terminated. The advice today will totally change how you feel about your relationships and who you attract into your life. * APPLY FOR COACHING: https://www.matthewbivens.com/apply/ * ...
Feb 15, 2022•43 min•Ep. 394
How are the laws of vibration and attraction impacting your life RIGHT NOW? Before being introduced to the words and works of Bob Proctor, I'd have no idea what the heck that question even meant! But today not only do I understand it, but I am very intentional about practicing it and aligning with these laws to create my Abundant Loving Life. And this is all in large part to Bob Proctor. On today's episode I want to take a minute to reflect on the life and lessons of Bob Proctor, who transitione...
Feb 08, 2022•18 min•Ep. 393
What's holding you back from creating a greater life for yourself this year? Well that's a loaded question, isn't it! Because if you knew what that answer was then maybe you'd feel more confident in making this your greatest year yet! Don't worry though, because today I'm sharing with you 3 habits that I've doubled down on to create even more results for myself in 2022. AND, I'm also going to share with you the reasons why you will probably not follow me in adopting these habits as well. My #1 g...
Feb 01, 2022•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 392
The self improvement game is, many times, a public one. Spiritual, physical, mental and emotional self work can all be done in the open or with a group of people. And with group meditation and yoga and other similar things really taking off these days, one could buy into the idea that self improvement is a public act. But there's something so much more important than the things we're DOING to improve our relationship to our selves, others and life, and that's who we're BEING. I've talked about D...
Jan 25, 2022•43 min•Ep. 391
What "leaks" do you have in your life that need addressing? As you plan out your goals and intentions for 2022, it's important to not only think about the new things you desire, but also to understand the old stuff that you need to address once and for all. These "leaks" can be tough to identify, because focusing on the immediate problem is easier than really getting to the root of what's going on. But if you fail to identify the essence of your challenges, problems and breakdowns, then (1) they...
Jan 18, 2022•12 min•Ep. 390
What is it that you want to create for yourself and your life in 2022? I have a tradition here on Having It A.L.L. that at the top of each year I help you create an amazing year. And in this episode I'm doing just that! But today, we're taking things up a notch and I'm sharing with you the simple 3 step formula that you can follow to create massive results in your life in 2022. When you study the masters, you spot patterns of effectiveness and success. I'm excited to bring you a pattern of succe...
Jan 11, 2022•55 min•Ep. 389
"What are 3 things you want the world to know about caring for women?" My friend, Dr. Nathan Riley, asked me that question on his podcast, The Holistic OBGYN, and it sparked a really great conversation between the two of us. I'm excited to share that full conversation with you today! Here are links to Dr. Nathan Riley's podcast, website and Instagram: Podcast - https://www.holisticobgynpod.com/ Website - https://www.belovedholistics.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/nathanrileyobgyn/ In...
Jan 07, 2022•48 min•Ep. 388
What are your core beliefs when it comes to relationships? Your beliefs influence your thoughts and actions, and shape the results that you create. Hold onto a belief that's ineffective and not-so-powerful, and the result may be something that you don't like. In today's episode I'm joined by my Queen, Sarah Bivens, and we're diving into some big relationship myths and misconceptions that we have believed that have lead to unhappiness in our relationships. My intention with this episode is for yo...
Dec 28, 2021•1 hr 13 min•Ep. 387
Are you one of the 92% of people who never come close to completing their New Year's Resolutions? As you can tell by the title, I don't like New Year's Resolutions at all. I'm all for people committing to better themselves, but the New Year's Resolutions framework is not set up for you to succeed. In today's episode I share why I dislike New Year's Resolutions and what to do instead if you want to start off your year on a powerful note. Now accepting applications for the 2022 HIA Personal Transf...
Dec 21, 2021•36 min•Ep. 386
Have you ever found yourself at a crossroads where you knew with all your soul that one decision was better for you than another, yet making that decision was terrifying? I've shared various parts of my story over the 5+ years of this podcast, and there's a theme that comes up for me often: crossroads moments. I can think to a handful of very specific, very powerful moments where the choices I made sent my life in a whole new direction. On today's episode, I'm sharing with you an interview that ...
Dec 14, 2021•1 hr 29 min•Ep. 385
What shame are you hiding? Fellas, this episode is for you. As a man, I've carried with me different types of shame through my life that have had a big impact on how I see the world and operate in it. I learned early on that burying my shame and pretending it wasn't there was the safest way for me to operate. The truth is, it's not. And for me, it took years of living in denial and robbing myself of true joy and fulfillment, that finally helped me see that. In today's episode we're tackling a to...
Dec 07, 2021•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 384
How do you bounce back when your world gets rocked? When everything seems to be going wrong in your life? When your dreams are shattered? Disappointment is interesting. It can be focused internally on ourselves, or externally on others. But no matter where the focus is, the root of it is some sort of attachment and typically judgement. When you get swept up in the emotions around disappointment, it's easy to be carried off in the direction of disempowering emotions and thoughts. The sequence can...
Nov 30, 2021•31 min
Have you ever felt completely lost in your life? Like you didn't know what you were "supposed" to do, who you should be as a person, and what your true passion was? You can't see it, but I'm raising both hands at that! I spent my teens and twenties in a state of confusion about all of those things. And truth be told, the fog is still lifting, as I'm constantly getting to know myself better and learning what it truly means to trust my intuition. In today's episode I'm sharing the mic with Paul Co...
Nov 23, 2021•1 hr 1 min
When was the last time you had a major breakdown in confidence and self worth? So often when our confidence is shook and we're questioning our own value, it's a major challenge to recover and get back into a powerful place. I have too many stories that are a testament to this. In today's episode I'm sharing one of these stories - my recent experience attending my wife's high school reunion. I went through the gamut of emotions, limiting beliefs, and self deprecating stories, leading up to and du...
Nov 16, 2021•52 min•Ep. 381
What does it mean to "discipline your thinking" and how is this directly tied to you feeling like you have it all? I want to shine light on what is probably the biggest thing keeping you from having it all in your life -- undisciplined thinking. Undisciplined thinking is being a victim to your thoughts. Undisciplined thinking leads to feelings of angst, fear, worry, anxiety, anger, resentment, and pain....consistently. Undisciplined thinking, when left unchecked, will be what sabotages you from ...
Nov 09, 2021•50 min•Ep. 380
How attached are you to the way you feel your life should look like? If you're frustrated with the way things are right now... If you're annoyed because something in your life is not going according to your plan... If you're experiencing anxiety because the goals you set are not being met in the timeframe you wanted them to... Then we are in the same place, and this episode is for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Nov 02, 2021•32 min
Have you considered starting a podcast? If yes: Awesome! If no, why the heck not?? This is an amazing time to start a podcast: more and more people are listening each day, the space is not too crowded yet, your voice/story/message need to be heard right now, and you've got the time on your hands😉 So, I totally think you should do it. Seriously! Podcasting has changed my life in ways I could not ever imagine, and I know it can offer so much to you as well. In this robust episode I'm sharing with...
Oct 26, 2021•1 hr 21 min•Ep. 378
Do you have principles? What are they? How do you use them? Are you confident that you know what living a principally based life means? Today I'm shining light on this idea of "principles" that so many self help gurus and successful people tout as the key to living a great life. You will learn the 5 key principles that I choose to live my life by and I show you how you can live by them too. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Oct 19, 2021•55 min•Ep. 377
Why does it feel so hard at times to not take things personally? We hear the phrase "don't take this personally" all the time. You've probably said it to someone before making some potentially hurtful or offensive statement. It's such an easy idea, but boy can it be tough! For me, I used to take things very personally. Growing up, my emotions would be triggered by the slightest look or question that I felt was off or directed at me in a malicious way. I made villains out of a lot of people, I fe...
Oct 12, 2021•47 min•Ep. 376
What are you playing for in life? Each of us have something we're striving for in our lives. Some reason that we're waking up each morning and doing what we do. You already know the power of being intentional and having a vision for your life. One powerful tool that I've used to help me become the person I want to become, is a personal mission statement. In today's episode I'm sharing with you my new personal mission statement and unpacking all of its elements. Learn more about your ad choices. ...
Oct 06, 2021•58 min•Ep. 375
What is something that you've always wanted to do, but you know you've let fear and discomfort hold you back? It's the first week of September, and that means Fall is officially here. You've been putting in deposits into your tank for a while now, and now it's time for you to act. In today's episode I'm setting up a context for getting into action to do things you've been afraid to do, to experience things you've always wanted to experience. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/a...
Sep 28, 2021•26 min•Ep. 374
In today's episode I'm sharing a way for you to learn how to change your relationship towards stress. If you're used to feeling stressed out with ish hits the fan, and you have been unable to shift that feeling, then tune in! I'm going to share with you how you can use exercise to learn how to deal with stress more effectively. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 21, 2021•21 min•Ep. 373
This episode is all about FAITH, but not in the most widely used sense. I’m talking about having supreme confidence and trust in someone or something. I look at faith like this: FAITH = TRUST + SURRENDER. On Sunday September 11th, 2016, Sarah and I welcomed the birth of our daughter Maya. Through that experience I both witnessed and practiced the most humbling amount of trust and surrender that I have in my life thus far. Sarah surrendered to her body, to the labor waves, to her coaches. I trust...
Sep 14, 2021•30 min•Ep. 372
By now you might have heard of the Tony Robbins documentary “I am not your guru”. It’s been making its way around Netflix and the internet. If you haven’t seen it, I recommend you give it a watch! Well, I checked it out the other day and can honestly say that few other documentaries have inspired me as much as this one. It wasn’t Tony Robbins who inspired me. I love his approach to personal transformation. I love how raw and real he is. I love his boldness and that he’s not afraid to call people...
Sep 07, 2021•38 min•Ep. 371
