Are you able to answer the question -- "What would have to happen in order for you to feel fulfilled in your life?" If you're struggling with feeling fulfilled then LISTEN UP! Today I'm sharing with you a very simple method for answering that fulfillment question, so you can both FEEL and BE more fulfilled in your life. Links: Purpose Webinar Having It A.L.L. Blueprint Course Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Aug 31, 2021•45 min•Ep. 370
In today's episode I'm sharing an example of consistency that I experience in my life every week. His name is Robert Monroe and he has been on this podcast before. In the episode titled "“You Have To Move Your Feet”: A Story About Seeing the Beauty in All of Life’s Circumstances", Robert shares his inspiring story and message about moving through life's circumstances. This past week I received a lesson in consistency and was inspired by just how consistent Robert had been over the past 12 months...
Aug 24, 2021•12 min•Ep. 369
What subjects are off limits to you? What things do you avoid in your life like the plague? Most people have some topics that they refuse to address. These "taboo subjects" are robbing you of your power, your freedom and your life! If you want to truly have it all and live the life you're meant to live, then you MUST start addressing these things in a real way. Today I talk about how to do just that. Curious about working with me 1:1? Learn more and connect with me here: https://www.matthewbiven...
Aug 17, 2021•55 min•Ep. 368
As your responsibilities go up (new children, new job, more lovers), is your capacity to handle these new responsibilities going up as well? For most, the answer is something like "I don't even think about my capacity when I take on new life stressors". And if that sounds like you, then this episode will help you become aware of your current capacity and will give you very actionable steps to raise your ability to handle the life you've created. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone....
Aug 10, 2021•39 min•Ep. 367
Where do you spend most of your emotional time and energy: in things you can influence or in things you have zero control over? If you're a proactive person who takes response-ability for their lives, then you absolutely focus on the things you can influence. Reactive people spend their time focusing on things that they have zero control over. The difference between circle of influence and circle of concern is at the heart of today's podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/...
Aug 03, 2021•27 min•Ep. 366
Can you have it all? This was the question that launched this podcast. 5 years later, and my answer to that question hasn't wavered one bit: Yes, you absolutely can! There's no "...BUT" at the end of the statement either. You can have it all in life, AND I'll show you how it's possible! In today's episode I'm talking about why so many people get it wrong when they're talking about and pursing having it all, and how you can do it in a more effective, joyful and fulfilling way. If you want to reac...
Jul 27, 2021•55 min•Ep. 365
Why do people, supplied with wisdom and a clear path of action, not experience breakthroughs? Why is it that we can be so clear that addressing our beliefs, paradigms and traumas around sex will be so healing and beneficial, but we never take the next step? Sex has been the most challenging and rewarding space for healing in my life. Challenging because the pages of my sexual story (like so many others) were written many years ago and reinforced by unhealthy beliefs and habits around sex. But I ...
Jul 20, 2021•37 min•Ep. 364
What do you enjoy in the bedroom? How do you express yourself sexually (or not)? In life, self expression is a major part of understanding yourself, growing, living life to the fullest. It's the same in the realm of sex! Often we choose not to fully express ourselves in sex because of fear of judgement, pushback, ridicule, condemnation, and so many other things rooted in fears. In today's episode I'm helping you get clear on what you enjoy in the bedroom, and we're discussing how to express your...
Jul 13, 2021•40 min•Ep. 363
Does your sex life have to change for the worse after kids? We know of course the answer is “No, it doesn’t”, but how do you keep it from turning stale? How do you keep the fire burning for your partner after you’ve had a kid or two?" Today I'm bringing you a "SEX-PISODE" from my other podcast, Doing It At Home, where my wife Sarah and I get real about what our sex life has been like after having a baby. There are three main areas we’re going to focus on: How we schedule sex into our busy lives ...
Jul 06, 2021•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 362
How was your first sexual experience? How would you describe it in two words? Our first experience with sex tends to leave a lasting impression on us. Sex is viewed as a right of passage, a transition point where there's no going back. Some people enter into their first sexual experience having had healthy, mature and empowering conversations about sex, but many do not. They are equipped with the ideas, beliefs, stories and feelings about sex that they picked up from their peers, tv, society and...
Jun 29, 2021•30 min•Ep. 361
What is your sexual story? No, I'm not talking about a romance novel type of story. I'm talking about the narrative you have around sex, the one that was started many years ago with your very first encounters with the ideas, feelings and attitudes around sex. We all have a sexual story that was started when we were young and is being added to constantly. Many people's stories around sex are based in shame, judgement, embarrassment and expectation. That leads to sexual experiences and feelings th...
Jun 22, 2021•39 min•Ep. 360
How stressed out do you feel right now? Have you dealt with stress earlier today or this week? We all experience stress, it's part of life. But not everybody relates to stress in the same way. You have your own go-to methods for dealing with your stress, and some are more effective than others. Years ago it became a personal mission of mine to get on top of my stress and anxiety, and learn how to deal with it in more healthy ways. Drinking, smoking and pornography were not leading me down the pa...
Jun 15, 2021•49 min•Ep. 359
How do you feel about meditation? What about meditating in the shower?? Meditation and mindfulness are two of the most powerful self care habits available to all of us. If you don't have a meditation or mindfulness practice currently, I highly recommend you start creating one (see my episodes on meditation for simple ways to get started). Over the years I've developed a nice arsenal of self-care tools that I can deploy when I'm feeling stuck, challenged, frustrated or stressed. Meditating while ...
Jun 07, 2021•12 min•Ep. 358
Do you enjoy pain? Most people don't, and it makes sense. Pain hurts. Pain is uncomfortable. Pain isn't something that a sane person wants to run towards. Yet, what if I told you that pain was inevitable....that whether you chose to step up, stay put or step back, pain would be present. Would that change the choices you made? In today's episode I share with you the illusion of pain, and how we trap ourselves believing that we are avoiding pain. A quote from the psychiatrist R.D. Laing sums it up...
Jun 01, 2021•35 min•Ep. 357
Where are you not feeling fully expressed? Self expression is one of the most important aspects of Having It All. Allowing yourself to be, do and say what is real and true for you is as important as breathing. However, it's a habit that can easily be overlooked and brushed aside. In today's episode I break down the importance of feeling fully expressed, the consequences of not living a life of authenticity, and how you can start expressing yourself more and more in your everyday life. Buckle in ...
May 26, 2021•44 min•Ep. 356
What does "self love" really mean? Self love conversations are ubiquitous these days. Everyone's talking about. But beyond "positive self affirmations" and "choosing healthy foods" do we really know what self love means? Do we understand what the essence of self love is and how certain activities that we do, many times without thinking, are undermining all of the surface level self love work we put so much effort into? In this episode I'm going to give you a completely new way to look at self lo...
May 18, 2021•16 min•Ep. 355
No matter what your thoughts are on fasting, one thing that's undeniable is that you currently have some sort of relationship with food, with eating and with your emotions, and they are doing a dance together that's either raising your health or lowering it! For me, I love fasting as a tool for healing (physically as well as emotionally, mentally and spiritually). I've been turning to fasting on a consistent basis since 2015, and it has changed my life. In today's conversation I'm sharing with y...
May 11, 2021•47 min•Ep. 354
Do you consider yourself a Perfectionist? Are you constantly feeling like you're not doing or being enough? Do you judge yourself harshly because you're failing to live up to your standards or expectations? So many of us suffer from the need to be "perfect". Logically you understand that perfection is not possible, yet you still hold this impossible standard for yourself in life (perhaps as a parent or entrepreneur or friend or just as yourself). I have had my struggles with perfectionism, and a...
May 04, 2021•54 min•Ep. 353
Where are you feeling stuck in life? We all have an "Epic Challenge" - an area in our lives where we're feeling stuck, where we're not enjoying the experience and are having a hard time changing things. In today's episode I'm sharing with you my most recent Epic Challenge which was creating a lot of stress and frustration in my life. I'm peeling back the layers on what I go through to face my challenges, and the people and processes that I've brought into my life to help me. Want to get in touch...
Apr 27, 2021•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 352
In what ways do you manipulate in relationships? I asked the question in that way because manipulation is something we can all easily do in relationships. It's not always overt and easy to spot. Sometimes it's very subtle and may not even be something you're consciously aware of. Yet, no matter the type of manipulation, it's evidence of deeply unhealthy feelings and beliefs about ourselves. In today's episode I'm reading an email from a listener who wants some help with her manipulative tendenci...
Apr 20, 2021•58 min•Ep. 351
Where are you experiencing a lot of resistance in your life? Chances are, the thing you're resisting most is actually the thing that contains that answer to you getting unstuck and ultimately having what you want in life. Today I'm talking about resistance: why we resist, what it looks like, what it does to us, and how to learn to level up our maturity so that we can ultimately get what we want in life. Resources The Challenge Of Change: Are You The River Or The Rock? article by Dennis Merritt J...
Apr 13, 2021•25 min•Ep. 350
How well are you caring for your fitness? We experience life through our bodies. Our health and fitness reveals the relationship that we have with life. So what is your fitness telling you about how you deal with life? No matter where you are in your fitness, there's room for improvement so that you can create the results and the EXPERIENCE that you truly desire. This is the first episode in April, which means it's our Monthly Habit Focus series. And as you've already guessed, this month we're f...
Apr 06, 2021•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 349
How intentional are you with the way you start and end your day? For years I completely neglected the importance of my morning and nighttime routines. No one taught me to think otherwise and therefore I simply rolled out of bed into life and went from there. But as I began to take on more roles and responsibilities in my life (like becoming a parent and starting a new business), and began to feel the weight of life itself, I realized that the way I began and ended my day had a tremendous impact ...
Mar 30, 2021•48 min•Ep. 348
What regrets do you have in life? In today's episode I'm sharing a moving and insightful essay written by Bronnie Ware - a nurse who took care of patients in their final days of life. Over the years of her work, she asked her patients if they had any regrets from their life as they faced their death. The patterns she saw emerge with deep and powerful. I share with you the 5 regrets of the dying in this episode, so you can take a moment to evaluate whether you're on the path to experience any of ...
Mar 23, 2021•50 min•Ep. 347
Are you ready for a raw and honest conversation about sexual confidence? Today I'm talking about sexual confidence and male performance anxiety: what it looks like, how it happens, how we feed it, and how we heal it. This episode was inspired by an article in Mens Health by Jason Rogers. In the powerful article, Jason opens up about his challenges with performance anxiety and how it impacted him in the bedroom and on the Olympic stage. Jason's article in Men's Health Learn more about your ad cho...
Mar 16, 2021•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 346
How do you stop the process of self sabotaging? That's a million dollar question if I've ever heard one! I think most, if not all, of us can relate to self sabotage. We know what it feels like to see the potential for our greatness, and to do things to undermine our success. In today's episode I'm answering a great question from a listener that starts with self sabotage, and ends up going into some really awesome directions addressing goals, visualization and mission statements. Here is the orig...
Mar 09, 2021•40 min•Ep. 345
What thoughts, feelings and emotions come up for you when you think about your MONEY? Money is one of those taboo topics in society -- it's not cool to ask another person about their money, many people feel uncomfortable talking about their own money with even their spouse or best friend, and yet money is something that touches every single one of us. We either feel abundant about money, or scarce. Excited or intimidated. Confident in our ability to manage and multiply it, or scared and inexperi...
Mar 02, 2021•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 344
Need some relief from the stress of the pandemic? It's been a very stressful year with no end in sight, and that's left many people feeling like they're going to crack. Let me help you deal with the stress, fear, anxiety and weight of the current situation, by offering you some words of comfort and motivation. We've all been in this pandemic together, yet not everyone has dealt with it the same way. The stress you're in right now is real, and there may be simple remedies to the overwhelm that yo...
Feb 23, 2021•22 min•Ep. 343
What makes a relationship work? "Common interests" is a typical answer, and for good reason. It makes sense that we need to have things in common with our partners if we want relationship success. But are there certain common interests that rise above others? And are there some common interests that are essential for relationship success? In today's episode I invite my Queen, Sarah Bivens, back on the podcast to talk about how to create real synergy in relationships, and what things you want to ...
Feb 16, 2021•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 342
How do you "connect with yourself" and why is it important? I received an email from a listener that asked that very question. This is such an important conversation to have because being able to have and feel a deep, intimate connection with yourself is part of having it all. It's the first step in creating deep, meaningful relationships with others. And it's part of what I believe our search for meaning and purpose entails. So connecting with yourself is more than just a phrase that you might ...
Feb 09, 2021•47 min•Ep. 341
