For high achievers, the holidays can be an especially busy time as we add travel and scheduling to our already full plates. But where does time for our well-being fit in? Consider today’s episode an opportunity to prioritize yourself. Listen in as I discuss attributes like curiosity, compassion, belonging, and perspective—defining what they are and, just as important, what they aren’t. With this list of life-giving qualities, I hope you’ll take the next week to identify what is present and what ...
Nov 27, 2024•26 min
Change, although not effortless, is easier than you may realize, even for the most deeply ingrained patterns and habits. It starts with self-awareness and, in the case of Internal Family Systems (IFS), noticing and naming the many parts of yourself. But then what? Listen to learn how to see your many parts as allies, not enemies, and the questions you should ask your parts when they pop up in your life. The key is to let your curiosity take over so you can better understand these parts—and befri...
Nov 20, 2024•30 min
Do you find yourself reacting in ways you don't understand? In this episode, I delve deeper into the fascinating world of Internal Family Systems (IFS). Uncover the hidden parts of your personality, from the approval-seeking to the overly optimistic. Learn how to recognize these parts, even when they're disguised, and how to respond differently. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/145...
Nov 13, 2024•19 min
Feeling lost or stuck? You're not alone. Even the most successful people experience moments of self-doubt and uncertainty. In the first of my latest two-part series, I delve into the world of Internal Family Systems (IFS) to help you understand the different parts of yourself. Learn how to recognize and embrace your sub-personalities, from the protective manager to the inner critic. By understanding these parts, you can develop healthier habits, improve your relationships, and live a more fulfil...
Nov 06, 2024•21 min
How does embracing your authentic self shape your mindset around money? In this special episode, we dive into the powerful connection between intuition, courage, and financial well-being. Joining us to share her game-changing insights and money habits is the amazing Dr. Latifat Akintade. A gastroenterologist, practicing physician, and founder of MoneyFitMD, Dr. Latifat is committed to helping women physicians take charge of their finances, live the rich life they were born to live, and create we...
Oct 30, 2024•1 hr 3 min
Today, I have a feeling you’re going to jump at the opportunity to put new productivity tools in your toolbox. That’s because today I’m talking with an expert. Dr. Tiffany Moon is a board-certified anesthesiologist, the CEO of the LeadHer Summit, a mother of twins, and a television and social media personality. She’s here to share a little about her background and outline her approach to achieving productive outcomes in each of her passions. Listen in to learn tips such as outsourcing tasks on y...
Oct 23, 2024•42 min
What would your life look like if you could rewire your most energy-draining habits? Imagine experiencing your day-to-day life without the internal angst, turmoil, and conflict that often accompanies your reality. While we can't control external circumstances, we do have the power to change our internal experience. Tune in today to paint a picture of what's possible when you change your relationship with yourself and your habits. I guide you through a powerful exercise for getting specific about...
Oct 16, 2024•21 min
Do you roll your eyes or scrunch up your face when you hear the phrase self-compassion? It's easy to give compassion to others, but directing it inward can feel uncomfortable or even weak. If this resonates with you, you're not alone. In this episode, I explore the true meaning of self-compassion and how it differs from self-pity, selfishness, and making excuses. I share a powerful exercise you can use daily to cultivate more self-compassion in your life. By the end of this episode, you'll under...
Oct 09, 2024•17 min
Today, I'm going to talk about a simple but powerful technique that will get you moving on tasks that feel overwhelming. And it has nothing to do with the size, scope or complexity of the task because that feeling can exist in the face of any bullet point on your to-do list. Tune in to learn about Project Low-Hanging Fruit, where I’m helping you make your tasks so accessible that you're untethered from the straitjacket of overthinking. It’s an essential tool for your toolbox. I’m also sharing wh...
Oct 02, 2024•22 min
For regular listeners of the podcast, you’ll recognize the topic of Internal Family Systems (IFS), but it’s never a bad idea to revisit this life-changing psychotherapy model. Even better than reviewing this theory, I’m diving deep into a tool I’ve personally vetted to help you handle big emotions and remain calm when life throws chaos your way. Tune in to learn about this “unblending” tool, how it offers you greater perspective on any challenging situation, and why separating from emotions can ...
Sep 25, 2024•21 min
Joining me today is Dr. Mary Leung, a full-time medical oncology and hematology physician, as well as a certified life coach. She’s here to share a bit about her journey of becoming a coach and how she’s been able to achieve better time management. Even if you’re not a physician or don’t work in medicine, listen to learn how you can become more efficient at your job so you can attend to, and more importantly, enjoy other parts of your life outside of the office. That includes using mindfulness e...
Sep 18, 2024•42 min
The life of a high achiever is filled with transitions. Whether it’s in life, work, relationships, or something else, there’s a seemingly endless number of starts, stops, and new beginnings. It’s tough not to get overwhelmed during these periods, which is why I’ve developed a list of ways to make the transitions easier. From simply taking a moment to pause and reflect to doing something fun and playful, listen in as I outline these eight essential practices that are easy to do and highly effecti...
Sep 11, 2024•23 min
It will come as no surprise that one of the biggest challenges for high achievers is saying no. But why is it so hard? The struggle is deeply rooted in societal expectations, fears of disappointing others, worries about how we are perceived, and much more. Luckily, there is a path forward. Tune in to hear the benefits of saying no, including finally freeing yourself from being perpetually overextended and reprioritizing self-care. I’ll also be providing my favorite practice for developing more e...
Sep 04, 2024•31 min
In this episode, I explore a recently popularized concept from Dr. Becky Kennedy in her book Good Inside called “the most generous interpretation.” This approach not only helps us identify our habits better but also provides a kinder way to engage with ourselves as we work on making lasting change. Listen in as I share how the most generous interpretation and deliberately assuming positive intent open us up to curiosity and compassion so we don’t overlook the root cause of our habits. Throughout...
Aug 28, 2024•25 min
Anger is not only a natural emotion; it is actually a signal alerting you to three main ideas: that there has been a boundary breach, a value has been compromised, or that you have just witnessed an injustice. And if we embrace anger, it can radically change our lives. Listen in as I reveal my go-to tool for managing anger—not by suppressing it, but by inviting it to take a seat at the table within our system. This approach helps you explore the root of your anger with compassion and curiosity, ...
Aug 21, 2024•26 min
For high achievers, overthinking might seem inevitable. While second-guessing and catastrophizing can lead to overcomplicating things, there is always hope—and coaching offers a way forward. If you don't believe me, this episode is for you. Joining me today is Dr. Stella Evans, a pediatrician, medical director for the Spina Bifida Clinic at Children's Hospitals and Clinics of Minnesota, and certified life coach. She's here to share her incredible coaching journey, including her experiences in my...
Aug 14, 2024•47 min
In Episode 131 I’m taking a different role as the guest in an interview led by Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy and Dr. Erica Bove. We dive deep into the habit of rumination—why we do it, how it shows up, and practical ways to manage it. We discuss how rumination often arises from unresolved emotions or suppressed feelings and the importance of recognizing this habit as the first step toward making a change. For those of us who find ourselves ruminating, especially in situations that trigger insecurit...
Aug 07, 2024•46 min
Returning to the podcast is Mariana Fávero Bonesso, a life coach specializing in overcoming procrastination and enhancing focus. Last week, she guided us on setting achievable goals and tackling procrastination without succumbing to anger and frustration. Today, we're shifting our focus away from procrastination to delve into Internal Family Systems (IFS). Whether you're familiar with IFS or hearing about it for the first time, this discussion is for you! We'll explore what IFS is, why it’s cons...
Jul 31, 2024•45 min
My guest today is Mariana Fávero Bonesso, a life coach specializing in overcoming procrastination and enhancing focus. Mariana works with high-performing individuals who often feel overwhelmed, helping them become more structured and execution-oriented. She's here to share her inspiring story and effective methods. Listen in as Mariana explains how to set meaningful goals and break them down into manageable steps. She'll also provide valuable tips on overcoming paralysis, as well as strategies t...
Jul 24, 2024•40 min
An integral part of maintaining a high-achieving lifestyle is a loving, fulfilling relationship with your partner. If that’s lacking, it’s only a matter of time before you suffer a setback. Luckily, by making a few minor mindset shifts, you can bring more love and connection into your marriage. Maggie Reyes is a modern marriage coach, interpersonal communication expert, and author of Questions for Couples Journal. She helps Type-A women like you have better marriages without adding more work to ...
Jul 17, 2024•52 min
When we’re knee-deep in the trenches of life it can be easy to forget about ourselves. In fact, there are implicit and even explicit messages in our culture, and our professions, that shape that point of view. That our worth hinges on our productivity or that our value is tied to helping others. But that leaves us lacking. Dr. Erica Howe is the founder of the Women Physicians Wellness and Women Professionals Wellness Conferences. Today you’ll hear how she took her own struggles in her medical ca...
Jul 10, 2024•53 min
As a podcast for high achieving women, it’s important to engage in honest conversations with those that both talk the talk and walk the walk. And I think being a compassionate physician and a dedicated mom of four perfectly encapsulates that concept, which is why I’m so excited about our special guest. Dr. Sarah Witry is a Hospice Palliative Physician and a certified mind-body coach, as well as a member of my HOPP small group coaching program. She’s joining me today to share her story and explai...
Jul 03, 2024•46 min
How many of us race, walk, and hustle through our days? We’re high achievers, after all, so it seems commonplace to finish the day completely exhausted. But what happens when that daytime stimulation, overthinking, or second-guessing impacts our sleep? Today we’re finding out from a very special guest. Dr. Funke Afolabi-Brown is a triple-board-certified sleep medicine physician, specializing in helping busy women and their children to prioritize sleep in order to thrive, achieve optimal health, ...
Jun 26, 2024•39 min
On today’s episode I’ll be exploring what trauma truly means and how it is far more common than many realize. In fact, most exhausting habituated patterns can be traced back to trauma and those easy-to-discount experiences are, in fact, actually traumas. Allow me to help you recognize these traumas so you can name them and then begin to address them. Listen in as I discuss the difference between big-T and little-t trauma, including a whole host of examples for each. I’ll also be sharing the ways...
Jun 19, 2024•30 min
We all suffer from painful, recurring thoughts from time to time. But I’ve noticed in my professional work (and even in my personal life) there are two especially common thoughts that plague our psyche and create so much day-to-day stress: 1) “I should know better” and 2) “I should be further along than I am right now.” These thoughts can impact us on a monthly, weekly, or even a daily basis. Whether they are a part of your subconscious or conscious mind, if we believe these thoughts it can be t...
Jun 12, 2024•19 min
Do you struggle to make decisions? Do you find yourself floundering with analysis, paralysis, second-guessing, and worrying about making the wrong move? If so, today’s episode is just for you because I’m tackling, what I call, “decision block.” Listen in as I share this practical technique to help you be more decisive. Even better, I’ll also be providing direction as to how to become more aware of your decision-making habits, so you can identify when patterns are unfolding and then bridge the ga...
Jun 05, 2024•31 min
Today, we’re getting curious. More than that we’re engaging in pragmatic curiosity—a practice by which you can more effectively change your habits and patterns. But in order to fully grasp this concept (and implement it into your life), I’m sharing the connection between curiosity and your habits. Tune into this episode as I describe how to employ pragmatic curiosity to make meaningful change with these truths and learnings that you’ve uncovered. I’ll also be providing helpful examples and provi...
May 29, 2024•22 min
It’s certainly not uncommon to feel stuck and unsure of yourself. In fact, if you’re constantly questioning your thoughts, acts, and decisions—and don’t have the right answers—those feelings may only intensify. Thankfully, there is a solution: ask the right questions. On today’s episode, I’m sharing my Power of Productive Questions. They’re questions intended to help you tap into your curiosity when you’re feeling stuck, stressed, and confused. By posing these questions to yourself, you’ll under...
May 22, 2024•10 min
Are you an overthinker? Maybe a procrastinator or a perfectionist? We all have habits—things we do automatically without thinking much about them—that are deeply ingrained in us, but our habits are need indicators; they signal a need or desire. Luckily, there are steps you can take to uncover those needs and desires, which will allow you to identify, address, and then change those habits more effectively. Tune in this week as I share some examples of specific habits many people have and the need...
May 15, 2024•21 min
It seems like the difference between a yes and a no would be obvious, right? But the reality is, this discernment can be quite the riddle. So, why is telling the difference between a yes and a no tricky? Well, in this episode, I explain exactly how something seemingly so simple is actually quite complicated. Tune in this week to learn why we struggle to tell a yes from a no , and why it can be difficult to pursue a yes and stop pursuing a no once you can tell the difference. I also give you some...
May 08, 2024•21 min
