*TRIGGER WARNING* This episode contains accounts of sexual assault. If you’d like to avoid, stop listening around minute 48 (we say trigger warning within the audio as well). Ali & Erica welcome cognitive behavior expert Allyson Roberts (@allysonroberts_ on TikTok & IG) onto the pod this week. Allyson shared her deeply-moving personal story and how she leverages her experience to coach towards dating after trauma, owning your mindset and setting strong boundaries. But first, Erica recaps...
Nov 28, 2022•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 93
Hey, listeners! Big question for you…what’s your favorite dating app opener? We’re sharing ours this week (and Erica has an idea that Ali just might steal) plus a few that you submitted! From keeping things interesting (even when they might not be) to dealing with an empty profile, this episode has got you covered. But first, Erica has an update on Spanikopita, of dance floor fame, and Ali recaps her third date and future plans with The Padre. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 21. I...
Nov 21, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 92
Finding Mr. Height is getting chaotic this week…chaotically single, that is. It’s our first in-person guest interview where we sit down (on lawn chairs in Ali’s empty apartment - apologies for the slight echo) with Cassidy Davis (@casidynashdavis), creator and host of the Chaotic Singles Parties you’ve seen all over TikTok. The three of us recap our night at NYC’s first installment of the party series plus give our best tips and tricks for meeting people “in the wild.” But first, Ali is back fro...
Nov 14, 2022•1 hr 28 min•Ep. 91
It’s Erica’s first official episode as Finding Mr. Height’s new cohost! We’re kicking things off with an introduction for the listeners using questions *from* the listeners. But first, Ali recaps her second date with The Padre and encounters a Weird or Nah idea, while Erica has an unsettling experience trying to meet a man “in the wild.” Then, the two dive into Erica’s two most significant exes, Eggs Benedict and The Relationship Guy. Timestamps: Erica’s interview begins at around minute 28. If ...
Nov 07, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 90
And…that’s a wrap for Roark! Ali & Roark sit down for the last time to record her final episode. Emotions were high during this interview-style episode where Ali peppered Roark with questions from the listeners. They dig deep into questions like, “If you could go back to Roark at the start of the podcast, what would you say to her”, “What’s your favorite nickname given to a guy,” and “What’s one topic you never got to discuss on the pod?” During updates, Ali gets out of her swiping funk and ...
Oct 31, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 89
It’s a podcast collab between Ali & Roark and Adam & Evan of the “I’ll Be the Judge of That” pod. The four debate common dating scenarios and ask – “can you?” Like – can you get engaged at another person’s party? Can you tell a friend you don’t like their partner? How about sitting on the same side of the table on a first date? You’ll hear just about every perspective on this episode. During Updates, Roark doesn’t want to go on a date, but is then pleasantly surprised, and Ali attends a ...
Oct 24, 2022•1 hr 15 min•Ep. 88
Shockingly, Ali & Roark haven’t dedicated a podcast to the topic of cheating yet. Today changes that. They start by discussing a well-known dating question: once a cheater always a cheater? And then address listener questions such as how to not bring past cheating trauma to new partners, how to bring up suspicions of cheating with your partner, and when to tell someone you have suspicions of their partner. But first, Ali & Roark share a very big announcement regarding the podcast. Timest...
Oct 17, 2022•1 hr 20 min•Ep. 87
Ali & Roark can’t resist recording a super-sized episode when Therapy Jeff is the guest! Jeff joins the podcast for a Grab Bag episode that covers everything from the “ick” to the honeymoon phase to sleeping with someone “too early” to liking bad boys (and girls)! Of course, Jeff tackles all the questions like a pro. You won’t want to miss this one. During Updates, Roark goes to dinner with her Erewhon run-in, and Ali goes out with the Nomad. Timestamps: Jeff joins the podcast at around minu...
Oct 10, 2022•2 hr 30 min•Ep. 86
Ali & Roark are doling out advice again on another Hot Topics episode. During Updates, Roark sees a friend on Bumble and shares bad news about The Writer; and Ali is scheduling dates now that she is illness free. Then, they answer listener questions about noticing a new dating prospect pulling away, feeling uncomfortable with a date’s alcohol consumption, and deciding whether to continue seeing someone when there is a complicated past. And finally, Roark introduces Ali to a new segment – adj...
Oct 03, 2022•53 min•Ep. 85
Ali records with author and financial expert Nicole Lapin this week. They talk about how finances can affect relationships and cover topics ranging from pre-nups, developing “FQ” (aka financial intelligence), and how to discuss your credit score, debt, and financial goals with your partner. During Updates, Roark describes her horse-girl adventure and Ali has to back-burner some dates due to illness. Timestamps: Nicole joins the show at around minute 28. Where to find Nicole: at her website www.n...
Sep 26, 2022•1 hr 13 min•Ep. 84
Thoughts and prayers to Ali & Roark this week as they wade into the murky waters of dating and finances. Money can be quite the taboo topic and they hope to start breaking that down by discussing sensitive questions like how to split finances, financial power dynamics and insecurities, and of course, they couldn’t not discuss the classic – who pays on a first date? Ali tells Roark about a first date and another one set up for next week; and for once, Roark is the one on another continent! Ti...
Sep 19, 2022•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 83
Ali & Roark record another Hot Topics episode this week – which is perfect because Roark’s entire personality is complaining about the LA heat wave. Don’t worry, she also updates on the Writer. Ali also has some big home-related life updates and has a few Bumble irons in the fire. Instead of Weird or Nah this week, Ali tries to find how many people are weird like her and use the “grimace emoji” like she does. Then, Ali & Roark tackle three Hot Topics: asking your partner to plan more dat...
Sep 12, 2022•58 min•Ep. 82
This week, Ali & Roark chat with Kendra Allen aka Your Break Up Bestie! They talk all about actionable steps to recover from a break up, and they dive into Kendra’s new book, “The Break-Up Workbook.” For example – how to deal with getting your stuff back, cleansing your social media, and whether the no-contact rule is the way to go. Before Kendra joins the pod, Roark shares her great third date, and Ali’s life has taken a real Disney princess turn as birds are literally flocking to her. Time...
Sep 05, 2022•1 hr 13 min•Ep. 81
Did you manifest this episode? Or are you more of a skeptic? Either way, Ali & Roark welcome Haley Hoffman Smith to the podcast to talk all about manifesting. Haley is an author, podcaster, and manifestation coach and breaks down the concepts for Ali, Roark, and the listeners. They learn what exactly manifestation means, discuss all kinds of manifestation basics like how to get started, and Roark shocks Ali by pulling out a vision board! In the Updates section, Roark is really living out som...
Aug 29, 2022•1 hr 19 min•Ep. 80
Ali & Roark are back this week with another career podcast. This week they’re talking about skills that make someone a good manager, how to be intentional in your career, and navigating imposter syndrome. During the Updates section, Roark had a quick catch-up with the Ranger, but also has a new guy which is the most excited she’s been about someone in a while. Ali is back on Bumble with a viral opener with some unintended consequences. Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around...
Aug 22, 2022•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 79
It’s a perfect week for a grab bag because Ali & Roark are a little all over the place this week. During Updates, Ali debriefs on the Disco Ball and Roark has a bad date (and the texts to prove it). Then they answer a variety of questions such as double-messaging on dating apps, dating someone who still co-habitates with their ex, how to respond when your new partner “drops a bomb,” and dealing with a bad first kiss. Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Grab Bag questions being at around 16:25 If yo...
Aug 15, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 78
Ali & Roark take a detour this week away from dating and into careers. They share their very different career paths and start answering some listener questions about finding mentors, asking for a raise, and developing work/life balance. As always, there is way too much to get to so they’ll definitely be doing more career-focused content. Keep the questions coming! In the Updates section, Roark is in love (hyperbolically, of course) and Ali recounts an adventurous date with the Disco Ball. Ti...
Aug 08, 2022•1 hr 28 min•Ep. 77
It’s a Finding Mr. Height first – someone we have dated is on the pod! Ali & Roark welcome the next “30-something man,” who happens to be Mr. Nobody. He answers questions about being friends with exes, date prep, feeling ready for exclusivity, and picking someone up IRL. First, during updates, Roark tells a story about a man from the past who slid into the DMs recently, and Ali shares a story about how the Disco Ball showed up for her. Timestamps: Mr. Nobody joins the pod for a MythBusters a...
Aug 01, 2022•2 hr 35 min•Ep. 76
Ali & Roark return to the topic of bad dates this week. They analyze what a “bad date” even is and how to determine if you're on one, and how to navigate asking for a date to be over, or how to get out a second date you don’t want to go on. In the Updates section, Roark discusses going on Facetime dates versus IRL dates, and Ali discusses her communication cadence with The Disco Ball. Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 29:40 If you'd like to hear our personal up...
Jul 25, 2022•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 75
It’s a super-sized episode this week because Ali & Roark have way too much to talk about with Matchmaker Maria! Maria Avgitidis is the CEO of Agape Match and the host of the “Ask a Matchmaker” podcast. She tells them all about “Maria Math,” the 12-Date “Rule,” and how to embrace a Hoe Phase. All throughout she drops wisdom bombs (and shares some industry gossip along the way!). During their Updates, Roark talks about figuring out vacation plans as a single gal, and RIP Greg. Ali reunited wit...
Jul 18, 2022•2 hr 53 min•Ep. 74
Time to talk about bad dates! We have all had them, and this week, Ali & Roark share their absolute worst date stories (Ali’s is a real doozie). They use their stories to discuss listeners' biggest questions: how do you handle a catfish-lite (someone who hasn’t totally lied, but is using very old pictures); how do you end a date early; and how do you get out of a potentially bad or scary situation? During their Updates, Roark is trying to figure out Greg’s bizarre texting behavior, and A...
Jul 11, 2022•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 73
Hot Topics are back as Ali & Roark go in depth with three listener questions. During the Updates section, Ali catches listeners up on the Disco Ball and shares a bit of a phone throwing moment; and Roark talks through dealing with a bad texter. Hot Topics include: a guy who calls his ex his “girlfriend” when he tells stories that involve her; whether a listener is being too hard on her cute neighbor’s social media presence; and if a listener is wasting her time with a guy who is on dating ap...
Jul 04, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 72
Ali & Roark are joined by the Cancer Fashionista Melissa Berry to start the conversation about two big topics – dating after cancer and dating after 40. They talk about handling life’s major curveballs and busting expectations and societal pressures. Before Melissa joins the show, Roark and Ali give their yin and yang updates – Roark has several first dates and Ali narrows the field. Timestamps: Topic Talk begins at around 32:00 Where to find Melissa: her website www.cancerfashionista.com, h...
Jun 27, 2022•1 hr 19 min•Ep. 71
The conflict series comes to a close (for now) as Ali & Roark discuss conflict resolution. They discuss defensiveness, saying “sorry,” when to compromise, and using relationship check-ins to keep lines of communication open. During the Updates portion, Roark gets vulnerable when discussing body image, and shares about a new matchmaker date; and Ali gives updates on all three of her irons in the fire! They also read a Phone-Throwing Moment from the audience and have a debate over a very silly...
Jun 20, 2022•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 70
Ali & Roark are joined by Jillian Richardson to talk about a different type of relationship – friendships! They discuss navigating conflict with friends, how to make new friends, friend “break ups,” and overall celebrate the complexity of female friendships! During Updates, Roark and Ali both have matchmaker dates to recap! Timestamps: Jillian joins the show for a Myth Buster and Topic Talk at around 25:40 Where to find Jillian: at her website www.thatjillian.com and on Instagram @thatjillia...
Jun 13, 2022•1 hr 25 min•Ep. 69
The conflict series has turned into a trilogy – because of course it has. On this episode, Ali & Roark answer questions listeners sent in after the First Conflict One, including: how to make conflict healthier, how to confront “unsolvable” problems, and how to deal with recurring arguments on the same topic. During the Updates portion, Both Ali & Roark read the descriptions of their matchmaker dates and analyze the bios! Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 35:00 If y...
Jun 06, 2022•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 68
Ali & Roark welcome Chi Love to the pod this week! Chi runs her own matchmaking business and is here to answer all our listeners’ questions about how she prioritizes people’s traits and identifies compatible matches, what it means to have “success” as a matchmaker, and how to be your own matchmaker! During the Updates section, Roark talks about an experience that reminds her of SNL’s Stefan sketches, and Ali continues to navigate early dating while being short-term long distance. Timestamps:...
May 30, 2022•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 67
Ali & Roark discuss conflict this week. First, they discuss when they think it’s worth bringing up a topic that could cause conflict. Then, they focus on how to handle hard conversations like when you feel like you might shut down, what happens if you cry through it, and do you re-open the conversation if you think of something else to say later. They couldn’t cover it all, so more conflict-related topics will be on later episodes. Mention “conflict” in your questions on www.findingmrheight....
May 23, 2022•1 hr 15 min•Ep. 66
Ali & Roark start a new series this week with their first recurring guest – Roark’s friend Matt! Ask a 30-Something Man will feature different guys in our lives answering your questions. Matt tackles a variety of different questions like what makes a profile “swipe-able,” whether men tend to be intimidated by smart women, and if men want women to offer to pick up the check. During Updates, Ali recounts her visit to DC and Roark talks about Lots of Dogs. Timestamps: Topic Talk begins at aroun...
May 16, 2022•1 hr 22 min•Ep. 65
Ali & Roark have a bit of a reset episode this week. Rather than cover a specific topic, they walk listeners down a dating life memory lane – covering all the major exes that are worthy of a nickname. They hope this will be a good reference episode in case you’ve missed any relationship origin stories. During the Updates section, Roark describes a meh first date, whereas Ali has an excellent one! Timestamps: Topic Talk begins at around 28:15 If you'd like to hear our personal updates bef...
May 09, 2022•1 hr 22 min•Ep. 64
