We’re oversharing this week! Ali & Erica welcome Jordana Abraham & Dr. Naomi Bernstein of the Oversharing podcast to the FMH family this week. The four answer several deep-dive listener questions including: how to maintain hope when early-stage dating keeps ending, approaching the engagement conversation with a partner, and deciding whether something is a dealbreaker. But first, Ali has major, major Publicist news and finally receives her Pear ring. Meanwhile, Erica dabbles in Jersey Sho...
Jun 26, 2023•2 hr 32 min•Ep. 123
Have you ever thought about marrying for money? Ali & Erica can’t help you with that, but we’re breaking down some financial stats that may surprise you when it comes to getting married vs not. And spoiler alert, there’s way more on the topic where this came from. Let us know what else you want to hear! In Updates, Ali & Erica are back from Greece! The two talk through Ali’s post-vacation communication with The Publicist and what this might mean for the future. Timestamps: Topic talk beg...
Jun 19, 2023•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 122
Why are STIs so stigmatized despite being so common? Ella Dawson, whose TEDx t alk on the subject has been viewed over 800,000 times, is here to talk about about it. We discuss disclosing herpes (or any STI) to your partner, supporting a partner who’s been diagnosed, advocating for yourself at doctor’s appointments, and so much more. But first, Ali & Erica are together in Greece! Ali works through vacation communication with The Publicist while Erica dips her toe into Greek Bumble. Where to ...
Jun 12, 2023•1 hr 24 min•Ep. 121
We’re answering listener questions rapid-fire style in another grab bag episode! We cover everything from feeling clingy in a long-distance relationship, to Hinge messaging etiquette, to balancing your needs with your partner’s. But first, we have an FMH first…Erica meets The Publicist! She debriefs the hang and afterwards Ali laments a first date gone wrong. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 30. If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other ex...
Jun 05, 2023•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 120
We’re kicking off a multi-episode series on children! We’ll spread these episodes out, and invite guests on, covering how your desire to have kids affects dating, dating with kids, choosing a child-free lifestyle, fertility…and so much more. This week, we start with Erica & Ali’s personal thoughts on having children and how it’s impact their dating lives (plus we take your questions!). But first, Ali continues her Publicist journey (6 dates already, oh my!) and Erica spends the weekend surro...
May 29, 2023•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 119
This week, we’re talking plus-sized dating with Alex Stewart & Nicci Nunez of the Swipe Fat podcast!! We take listener questions about tips for your dating app profile, achieving self confidence while dating, red flags to look for, and so much more. Note: Erica’s wifi gave her major issues this week and so Ali interviews Alex & Nicci on her own. In updates, Ali continues her romance with The Publicist and Erica has her first date as an LA resident. Where to find Alex & Nicci: On Inst...
May 22, 2023•2 hr 37 min•Ep. 118
Let’s talk about text, baby…this week, we welcome Dr. Mimi Winsberg to the pod, a board-certified psychiatrist with over 25 years of clinical experience and author of Speaking in Thumbs. We dive into research on text communication and practical ways you can apply it to your dating life. But first, Erica is adjusting to full-time life in LA and relaxing in Palm Springs for her birthday. Meanwhile, Ali has a second AND a third date with The Publicist. Learn more about Speaking In Thumbs at https:/...
May 15, 2023•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 117
What have we learned about dating (and life) since our 20s? Where do we even begin?? Ali & Erica go through listener submissions of life lessons since their 20s and add in thoughts of our own. It’s the big sister chat you’ve been asking for! In Updates, Erica has a laundry room altercation…is she the asshole? Ali has a new guy on the scene and a marathon first date story. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 42. If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as...
May 08, 2023•1 hr 22 min•Ep. 116
Are you tired? Because Ali & Erica are VERY tired. Of dating apps, that is. This week, we hold space for all of your (and our) fatigue with dating on our phones - from matches turned penpals, to empty profiles, to feeling like we’re on a hamster wheel. It’s tough out there and we feel your pain! To combat some of this, Ali has turned to Bumble BFF - and has her first Tinder date in a minute! Erica looks forward to life in LA and poses an important question: is it okay to have sex in a friend...
May 01, 2023•1 hr 20 min•Ep. 115
TW: This episode addresses disordered eating and intentional weight loss. If you’d like to skip this discussion, we announce in the episode when it begins. It’s an extremely vulnerable episode this week as Erica and Ali welcome Emily Lubin, of the Diet Starts Tomorrow and RIP Diets podcasts. Emily opens up about her recovery from disordered eating and the path she’s taken to get there. She shares how her struggle impacted her relationships and gives advice for navigating dating while in recovery...
Apr 24, 2023•1 hr 13 min•Ep. 114
Ali & Erica are diving into listener questions this week! First, a listener is frustrated at a first date who says they’re going to follow up and doesn’t. Second, we give advice to a listener who has a crush on her friend (and hope for updates!). Lastly, we dive into early dating communication. What should we “expect” and how should we communicate that? In updates, Erica has air to clear about some ~ vibes ~ the listeners thought they picked up on. Meanwhile, Ali says farewell to her family ...
Apr 17, 2023•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 113
Are you trying to go on more dates this year? How about 200? Talia Koren, otherwise known as @dating.intentionally, joins FMH this week to tell Ali & Erica all about her journey from a breakup to a healthy relationship. She went on 200 dates in less than a year and shares the most important things she learned along the way! But first, Erica has a Hot Chocolate update (or lack thereof) and Ali is seeing a troubling pattern from dating app matches. Where to find Talia: On Instagram @dating.int...
Apr 10, 2023•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 112
Do you think everyone defines cheating the same way? We’re finding out this week, inspired by a Buzzfeed quiz that one of our listeners sent in! Erica and Ali each reveal how their Instagram audiences voted on each situation and discuss the results. Find the quiz here: https://www.buzzfeed.com/kellymartinez/do-you-consider-this-cheating-or-not In updates, Erica goes on a first date with Hot Chocolate and Ali does a post-birthday switcheroo. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 27. If y...
Apr 03, 2023•1 hr•Ep. 111
It’s our fourth Ask A Man interview, featuring Erica’s close friend, the hilarious Jourdain Fisher. This one starts out spicy with some O-related listener polls and then we move on to peppering Jourdain with questions. And our producer Mike gets involved too! It’s a fun one all around. In updates, Erica has several blasts from the past - and even has a date scheduled with one of them! Ali recaps last week’s first date and we are both frustrated by people who don’t understand boundaries. Where to...
Mar 27, 2023•2 hr 31 min•Ep. 110
*CW: This episode centers on body image and mentions intentional weight loss & disordered eating. We continue our Storytime series highlighting listener stories with Heather Boddy, a plus-size fitness professional who shares her journey with body image. The three of us dive into what fitness means to her (and what it does not), her best tips for hyping up our friends in their own journeys, and much more. In updates, Ali had QUITE the week with four dating-related activities (including back-t...
Mar 20, 2023•1 hr 22 min•Ep. 109
How’s your dating app prompt game? Ali & Erica are here to help you step it up as they brainstorm their best answers to popular prompts! You’ll be starting better conversations in no time. But first, Ali has a very loud first date and Erica shoots her shot with a mutual friend. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 19. If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrhei...
Mar 13, 2023•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 108
Don’t think you can relate to non-monogamy? Psychotherapist Rachel Wright just might change your mind. We talk about how relationship frameworks are changing, her personal journey from monogamy to non-monogamy, the difference between rules and agreements (and how to determine them), plus much more from listener questions! In updates, Erica channels vacation energy to meet a man in the wild and also introduces Ali to a new guy! Where to find Rachel: On Instagram @thewright_rachel, her website rac...
Mar 06, 2023•1 hr 12 min•Ep. 107
We Met At Acme host Lindsey Metselaar joins Finding Mr. Height this week! We debate a slew of Weird or Nah and Mythbusters submissions, then dive into what Lindsey’s learned from marriage and her journey with being sober. We wrap things up with some stellar dating app banter suggestions, pulled straight from your Hinge submissions. But first, Erica gets a blast from the (recent) past on Valentine’s Day and Ali laments the current dating app landscape. Where to find Lindsey: On Instagram @wemetat...
Feb 27, 2023•1 hr 28 min•Ep. 106
By popular demand, Erica & Ali are debating etiquette “rules” from New York’s Magazine recent article. We tackle things like “never purposefully wake up your significant other” and “you can tell any lie to leave a drinks date early.” And we get your opinions on them too! It’s a fun one all around. In updates, Erica is still in Las Vegas and on a bit of a dating hiatus while Ali pushes herself to make an effort on Bumble (and sees results!). Read the NYMag article here: https://www.thecut.com...
Feb 20, 2023•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 105
This week is chock-full of practical nuggets as we welcome somatic relationship coach Lauren Zoeller to the pod. Together, we break down her nervous-system-based approach to coaching and even do some group exercises that you can follow along with at home. We’re all feeling a little less anxious after this one! But first, Ali & Erica are reporting live from Vegas.Ali shares a non-update update on The Roommate and Erica continues her vacation mentality. Where to find Lauren: On Instagram @laur...
Feb 13, 2023•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 104
Erica and Ali are back with our second installment of debating dating theories! This week, we cover theories like “if it’s not a f*** yes, it’s a f***no,” whether we’re more likely to value someone who “made us work for it,” and more. In updates, Ali has her first date with The Roommate and Erica says goodbye to King of Queens. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 36. If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search...
Feb 06, 2023•57 min•Ep. 103
It’s time for a debate! A TikTok dating theories debate, that is. This week, we’ve found some popular theories to discuss, including red nail theory, having a “roster,” coffee as a first date, and manifesting your perfect partner. In updates, Ali meets (another!) man in the wild and Erica gets a blast from the past in her DMs. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 32. If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search ...
Jan 30, 2023•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 102
It’s a longgg awaited topic on FMH - plastic surgery and cosmetic procedures. We dive into the shift in recent statistics in these areas and how the last few years have shifted all of our perceptions of ourselves. Then, we get personal, both sharing our own experiences with plastic surgery and how we feel about it years later. In updates, Erica has a fun facetime and a promising mini golf adventure. Meanwhile, Ali has her first first date of 2023. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 3...
Jan 23, 2023•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 101
Have you ever swiped on a dating app in a group of friends and felt a sense of community in your shared experiences? Our guest this week, Lane Moore, brings that feeling to the stage in her hilarious Tinder Live shows. We chat about green (and red) flags on a dating app profile and share our best tips! In updates, Erica has a man in her DMs and Ali starts the year off with 2 cancelled dates (whomp). Where to find Lane: On Instagram @hellolanemoore and @tinderlive. Her upcoming book You Will Find...
Jan 16, 2023•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 100
We’re back with our latest Hot Topics, where we answer listener questions from our submission form! This week, we start out with a motion-sickness-related AITA. We then advise a listener on communication in between a second and third date, analyze a drawn-out dating app conversation, and discuss how to frame when you’re taking a break from work. On the dating front, Ali & Erica both have dates lined up with men they met in the wild! Timestamps: Hot Topics begins at around minute 40. If you&#...
Jan 09, 2023•1 hr 21 min•Ep. 99
Ask and you shall receive…it’s Ali’s brother on the pod! Drake (no, not *that* Drake) joins us for our third installment of Ask A Thirty-Something Man and we answer a ton of listener questions ranging from how guys - or at least Drake - feel about a woman asking them out to whether “bad timing” is just an excuse. In Updates, Erica shares some health news and Ali proposes a new use for the nickname Kirk. Timestamps: Drake joins us at around minute 21. If you'd like to hear our personal update...
Jan 02, 2023•1 hr 13 min•Ep. 98
You’ve seen the videos all over social media…for our last podcast of the year, we are bringing you our own FMH version of Dating Wrapped! We share YOUR annual dating stats plus review our own year in dating, including how many first dates we went on, how many we actually wanted second dates with, and how many went…further. We wrap things up with our dating goals for 2023, informed by what we’ve learned from this year! In Updates, Erica has a major comedy career update and went on a first date wh...
Dec 26, 2022•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 97
We’re introducing a new series on Finding Mr. Height…Storytime! Where we’ll hear from listeners as they share their stories and the lessons they’ve learned. *Update - This previous Storytime guest has requested to be removed from the episode for identity purposes. This episode is now updates only. To submit to be a Storytime guest please see the submission form below. We'd also like to reminder everyone that you can be a guest AND remain anonymous if you'd like. We truly appreciate all y...
Dec 19, 2022•18 min•Ep. 94
Dating Definitions is back for round two! We continue last week’s discussion, starting with the wiiiiiild number of ghosting-adjacent terminologies. Who knew haunting and orbiting were different? And what is a sneaky link? Or a groundhog? But first, Erica has some HUGE career news, Ali gets more info on her new matchmaker date, and we both feel burned out by swiping. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at minute 34. If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other e...
Dec 12, 2022•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 95
If you were hoping to hear us get fired up over the definitions of made-up words…your wait is over. This week begins our series on dating definitions and we kick things off with debating why all these definitions even exist. Then, we get into dating words we wish would be used *less* (here’s looking at you, gaslighting). Lovebombing and fboy make the list, too, and Erica has found the perfect AITA reddit thread to add to the debate. We’ll be back next week with even more! But first, Erica is bac...
Dec 05, 2022•56 min•Ep. 94
