#333: The phrase "no one is coming to save you" gets thrown around social media like gospel truth, wrapped in empowerment packaging that sounds like it should light a fire under you. Maybe it even worked for a moment when you needed to snap awake and take charge of your own life. But there's something deeply problematic lurking beneath this seemingly motivational message. Join me this week as I unpack why this messaging is particularly dangerous in times of rising fascism and manufactured divisi...
Jul 03, 2025•22 min
#332: This episode is for the folks who look like they've got it together, who've checked most of the boxes: the career, the home, the relationships. You're productive, responsible, kind, maybe even the one people come to for help. But when it's quiet, really quiet, there's this persistent low buzz of disconnection. This week, I want you to know that you don't need to earn your healing or wait for a crisis to change. You’ll hear why this is one of the most dangerous ideas patriarchy has sold us,...
Jun 26, 2025•13 min
I had the most amazing conversation with Busayo Ayodele, who was in Anchored last year, and I just couldn’t wait to share it. We had such a fun conversation, and everything she shared about her experience was just so inspiring, so moving, made my heart feel so explode-y. The way Busayo grew in Anchored is everything I dream of. It's the reason why I built Anchored. So, in case you’re thinking, “I can’t change. I will never stop living with these codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing ha...
Jun 24, 2025•55 min
#331: After over a decade of coaching women through codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits, I'm seeing a heartbreaking pattern: the people who most need community support and nervous system regulation are talking themselves out of the very programs designed to help them. Whether it's the fear of being a burden, worrying you'll fall into old patterns of over-functioning, or believing you need to fix yourself before deserving help, these barriers could be keeping you trapped in a l...
Jun 19, 2025•24 min
#330: If you've ever found yourself constantly scanning other people's faces for approval, shapeshifting to keep the peace, or feeling completely disconnected from what you actually want, this episode is for you. You might call this people-pleasing or being too sensitive, but something much more profound is going on here: you’re living with emotional outsourcing. Tune in this week as I break down how emotional outsourcing develops early, gets reinforced by cultural systems, and shows up in our b...
Jun 12, 2025•31 min
#329: This week, I sit down with Carey Cramer, an Anchored program alum, to explore their transformative journey through attachment healing and relational growth. Over the past two and a half years since completing the program, Carey has developed a completely new way of showing up in relationships - one marked by presence, trust, and authentic connection. Through our conversation, Carey shares how the combination of thought work and somatic practices helped them move from a place of constant re...
Jun 05, 2025•50 min
#328: Do you struggle to make decisions, not because you're unsure of your desires, but because you're constantly weighing everyone else's? This isn't just indecision; it's emotional outsourcing, a pattern where we disconnect from our own authentic wants in favor of what others expect. Tune in this week as I share how, through practical somatic practices and nervous system work, we can begin reconnecting with our authentic desires and rebuild trust in our own internal wisdom. Get full show notes...
May 29, 2025•25 min
If you’re ready to break away from anxiety and codependent relationships so you can have a life full of joy and confidence, Anchored is for you. We start on July 7th. Click here to sign up: feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/anchored I can't wait to see you there!
May 28, 2025•2 min
#327: Imagine cutting veggies after a long day when your partner bursts in venting about their coworker. You care deeply, but right now, your shoulders tense, your jaw locks, and you're just not available – though you never say so. Instead, you nod, make the right noises, and count the seconds until it ends. Later, you're both left feeling vaguely disconnected, with a subtle rupture hanging in the air between you. This disconnection happens when we skip conversational consent – not just physical...
May 22, 2025•20 min
#326: Have you ever felt that sharp sting of resentment when watching someone set a boundary with ease or embrace their imperfections without shame? That irritation you feel might be pointing to something deeper – the very freedoms you deny yourself every day. Join me this week to learn how our childhood pain shapes patterns that masquerade as virtues, making them nearly impossible to detect without compassionate awareness. You’ll learn a gentle, revolutionary practice to begin dismantling these...
May 15, 2025•23 min
#325: How often do you find yourself seeking validation from others, feeling like your worth depends on what they think of you? I recently had a fascinating conversation with Abbie Attwood, an anti-diet, fat-positive, weight-inclusive nutritionist whose practice is grounded in self-compassion and intuitive approaches to healing relationships with food, movement, and body image. In this episode, we dive into what I call emotional outsourcing, and how this pattern shows up as perfectionism, people...
May 08, 2025•53 min
#324: Have you ever wondered what it's like to break free from emotional outsourcing patterns that keep you stuck in life? Today, I'm joined by Paula Greenwood, an Anchored alum who shares her transformative journey from feeling trapped in negative thought loops to creating a life aligned with her true passions. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/324 Join us to hear to hear how Paula’s story demonstrates what's possible when we commit to our own...
May 01, 2025•35 min
#323: Are you waiting for someone to magically transform into the person you need them to be? In this episode, I break down what relationship magical realism is, how it manifests in our thoughts and behaviors, and the real cost of staying in these fantasies. I share practical steps to recognize when you're caught in this pattern and how to start seeing relationships for what they truly are – not just what you wish they could be. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https:/...
Apr 24, 2025•24 min
#322: Are you stuck in a relationship where every disagreement turns into an emotional marathon? Where the same wounds keep getting ripped open no matter how hard you try to heal them? When we fight with our partners, family members, or friends, what's really happening goes far beyond the words being exchanged. In this week's episode, I dive into the four nervous system responses that show up during conflict—fight, flight, freeze, and fawn—and how each one shapes your reactions in ways you might...
Apr 17, 2025•21 min
#321: Have you been living from the neck up? Disembodiment doesn't happen by accident. Many of us learned early that being fully present in our bodies wasn't safe. And in a world that rewards overthinking and overfunctioning, checking out of your body can feel like the only way to survive. In this week's episode, I dive into the concept of embodiment - what it really means beyond the wellness buzzword, and why it's the missing piece in your personal growth journey. Get full show notes, transcrip...
Apr 10, 2025•22 min
#320: Have you noticed how "wellness" has become more about expensive supplements and exclusive retreats than actual healing? It's time we had an honest conversation about how the wellness industry has been hijacked by capitalism and privilege, leaving behind the very people who need healing most. In this week's episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on the wellness industrial complex and offering a different vision - one that's rooted in accessibility, community care, and genuine healing. Get fu...
Apr 03, 2025•24 min
#319: Have you ever felt like you're constantly trying to get everything "right"? Like you're stuck in an endless cycle of seeking validation from others, while your own voice gets smaller and smaller? Today, I want to share a powerful story that might feel familiar. Dr. Ashley Albers, a physician who went through my Anchored program, once couldn't even speak during coaching sessions. Her body's message was clear: "We are not safe." But through somatic work and dedicated practice, she transforme...
Mar 27, 2025•48 min
#318: Have you ever caught yourself dismissing someone's feelings with phrases like "at least..." or "it could be worse"? We often do this with the best intentions - trying to help, trying to fix, trying to make things better. But what if these well-meaning responses are actually creating emotional distance in our relationships? In today's episode, I dive into why we struggle to let others have their feelings and how to reclaim emotional space - both for ourselves and those we love. Get full sho...
Mar 20, 2025•32 min
#317: If you're the person everyone comes to with their problems, or if you find yourself exhausted from managing others' emotional states, this week's episode is for you. Here's the truth: Your tendency to take on others' emotions isn't just a personal quirk – it's deeply rooted in systems of oppression and societal conditioning that have taught us to prioritize others' feelings over our own. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/317...
Mar 13, 2025•32 min
#316: Have you ever caught yourself trying to fix someone's feelings instead of just listening? In this week's episode, I dive into why we sometimes shut down others' emotions and how this habit often starts with our own relationship to feelings. This conversation is crucial for anyone who wants to build deeper, more authentic connections with the people they care about. Whether you're the one doing the shutting down or you've been on the receiving end, there's something here for you. Get full s...
Mar 06, 2025•27 min
#315: Are you stuck in an emotional loop, unsure if you're feeling your feelings or just wallowing? In this episode, I dive into the difference between processing emotions and getting stuck in them. You'll learn why feeling your feelings is a radical act of self-respect and how it can transform your relationship with yourself, how to spot the signs of wallowing, and practical tools to shift into genuine emotional processing. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://bea...
Feb 27, 2025•32 min
#314: Do you ever find it hard to let yourself truly feel your feelings? In a world that values constant productivity, it's easy to see emotions as inconvenient roadblocks. But what if feeling our feelings is actually the key to deeper connection with ourselves and others? Join me on the podcast this week as we unpack the role of perfectionism, fear of rejection, and societal conditioning in blocking our emotional expression. Together, we'll explore gentle, somatic practices to help you reconnec...
Feb 20, 2025•24 min
#313: How do you keep your relationship loving and friction-free? In this special pre-Valentine's Day episode, I'm joined by my amazing wife Billey to share some of the practices and tools that help us stay present, emotionally generous, and deeply connected with each other. From reframing with "of course they did" to asking for "do-overs" when we miss the mark, to transmuting negative energy through Tonglen meditation, we cover many simple yet profound ways to show up as the partners we most wa...
Feb 13, 2025•31 min
#312: Do you ever catch yourself labeling feelings like anger or sadness as "bad" or "negative"? In a world obsessed with toxic positivity, it's easy to internalize the message that certain emotions are unacceptable. But the truth is, emotions are not moral - they're messages from our bodies that deserve to be heard. In this week’s episode, I explore the role of shame, cultural conditioning, and emotional outsourcing in making it hard to feel our feelings. Plus, I share a simple somatic practice...
Feb 06, 2025•28 min
#311: Do you ever find it hard to let yourself feel your feelings? If so, you're not alone. But here's the good news: you can absolutely build the skill of feeling your feelings safely and gently. It's not about diving in all at once, but taking tiny kitten steps to show your body that it's okay to feel. Tune in to learn three key reasons why it can be so challenging to allow your emotions, and how to start allowing your emotions in a way that feels manageable and safe for you. Get full show not...
Jan 30, 2025•31 min
#310: Do you find yourself shoving down your feelings just to get through the day? What if I told you that those emotions you're avoiding are actually the key to the calm, clarity, and joy you've been seeking? In this week’s episode, I explore why allowing our feelings is so vital for our well-being and relationships. I share practical tools for sitting with big emotions, even when it feels scary, and I invite you to imagine what life could look like if you treated your feelings as wise guides, ...
Jan 23, 2025•33 min
#309: Do you feel stuck in a job or life situation that no longer serves you? Are you afraid to make a change, even though you know it's what you truly want? In this week's episode, I’m joined by coach and former attorney Goli Kalhoran to dive into the art of quitting - and why it's actually an essential skill for crafting a life true to YOU. We talk about learning to trust your own wisdom, quieting the noise of external expectations, and finding the courage to pivot (even if it means "failing" ...
Jan 16, 2025•46 min
#308: Have you ever found yourself in a challenging situation where you felt triggered and unsure of how to respond? In this powerful episode, I share a recent experience where a man started verbally attacking me for simply explaining some science. But thanks to my somatic practices, I was able to stay grounded, present, and not let his words make me doubt myself. This is the gift of being in our bodies - the self-trust and choicefulness that allows us to respond instead of react, even in challe...
Jan 09, 2025•23 min
#307: Are you tired of the same old New Year's resolutions that leave you feeling like you're never enough? What if there was a different way to approach this new beginning? In this week's episode of Feminist Wellness, I invite you to reclaim your core values - honesty, trust, compassion, integrity - and come home to ourselves. It's not about fixing ourselves or hustling for worthiness, but about remembering who we've always been. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https...
Jan 02, 2025•29 min
#306: Are you an eldest daughter, immigrant, or first-generation woman who feels the pressure to be perfect and put others first? In this week’s episode, I explore the five wounds of “calladita” culture with life and business coach and host of the globally acclaimed Cafe con Pam Podcast, Pam Covarrubias. We explore her work supporting first-generation women and femmes in rejecting the silencing and submission of calladita culture and practical ways to create more spaciousness to heal these wound...
Dec 26, 2024•35 min
