#305: Do family gatherings leave you feeling like you're competing in the emotional outsourcing Olympics? You walk in with the best intentions, but within minutes, your nervous system is doing backflips. Your cousin is making passive-aggressive comments about your career, your mom is guilt-tripping you about not calling enough, and of course, someone has brought up politics over dessert. Sound familiar? Join me this week as I share my top tips for talking to challenging family members, complete ...
Dec 19, 2024•57 min
#304: Do you ever feel like you're carrying the weight of the world, pouring yourself out for everyone but you? What if I told you there's a reason your body feels braced, tense, or disconnected - and that your wise body holds the keys to a radically different experience? In this episode, I explore the science of why nervous system education and somatic practices are vital for building a life of ease, connection, and authenticity. I also show you how to reclaim your birthright of joy and break f...
Dec 12, 2024•24 min
#303: Are you clinging to relationships, roles, or identities that no longer fit the person you're becoming? In this episode, I explore how to consciously evaluate the relationships in your life - with people, jobs, titles, and even your own stories. Letting go of what doesn't serve you is a profound act of self-care. It creates space for the relationships and experiences that truly nurture your growth, and this week, you’ll learn how to build a life filled with authentic connections. Get full s...
Dec 05, 2024•28 min
#302: Do you find yourself constantly trying to please others, even to your own detriment? In this episode, I’m joined by Paige Pritchard, a finance coach on a mission to educate ambitious women who are ready to leave their financial self-sabotage in the dust. We dive deep into the concept of emotional outsourcing - when we look outside ourselves for safety, belonging, and worth - and discuss how this shows up in overspending, people-pleasing, and living inauthentic lives. Get full show notes, t...
Nov 28, 2024•1 hr
#301: Feeling the weight of this post-election moment? Me too. In this episode, I explore how to keep moving forward without falling prey to the swirling chaos designed to leave us exhausted and isolated. I share nine key practices to stay grounded, connected, and committed to creating change, from trusting your inner wisdom to understanding how to disrupt power structures. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/301...
Nov 21, 2024•29 min
#300: What if healing isn't a perfectly straight road, but a journey of continuous growth and self-discovery? In this special milestone episode, I'm sharing the 10 most profound lessons I've learned from our conversations together. From embracing non-linear healing to claiming joy as your birthright, these insights have the power to shift your perspective and deepen your healing journey. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/300...
Nov 14, 2024•40 min
#299: Do you ever catch yourself saying things like "I don't want to be a burden" or "I should be able to handle this on my own?" These sneaky emotional outsourcing thoughts can keep us trapped in codependent, people-pleasing, and perfectionist patterns. The good news is that I have practical remedies that will help you break free. From the 2% permission practice to reversing the spotlight effect, you'll walk away with actionable steps to start prioritizing your own needs and desires. Get full s...
Nov 07, 2024•35 min
#298: Are you tired of feeling like a doormat in your relationships? But are you also scared of being perceived as a jerk if you stop people-pleasing and start setting boundaries? What’s the secret to being loving and supportive without abandoning yourself in the process? This week, I dive deep into the difference between being considerate and codependent. You'll learn how to recognize when you're engaging in emotional outsourcing, how to start setting boundaries that protect your energy and wel...
Oct 31, 2024•31 min
#297: Have you heard of the "nervous system reset"? It's a popular idea these days, but is it really possible to erase the impact of trauma with the push of an imaginary button? In this episode, I dive deep into the science of trauma and the nervous system to explain why the notion of a reset is not only inaccurate, but potentially harmful. I explore what trauma really is, how it shapes our nervous system, and what true healing involves. (Spoiler alert: it's not about eliminating our experiences...
Oct 24, 2024•22 min
#296: Are you ready to radically change your life through self-love and healing? In this week's episode, Ali Zamora shares her transformative journey of overcoming codependency and depression by trusting her intuition and embracing embodiment practices. Ali discusses how the foundational tools she learned in my Anchored program equipped her to navigate the layers of healing and step into her most authentic self. If you've been struggling with emotional outsourcing, perfectionism, or people-pleas...
Oct 17, 2024•35 min
#295: Have you ever wondered what the differences between an ultimatum and a boundary are, and which might be the better choice? What do you do when you’re having a challenging conversation with someone and they go quiet, leaving you feeling freaked out and anxious? In this episode of Feminist Wellness, I offer my answers to these questions and show you how to regulate your nervous system from a place of compassion and curiosity while holding space for those you love. Get full show notes, transc...
Oct 10, 2024•48 min
Are you done doing too much for everyone else (then resenting them), and putting yourself last? It’s time to step into a life where you’re no longer overriding your needs, on the verge of burnout, and feeling completely disconnected from your own self. If you’re ready to start building relationships with more authenticity and less one sided overfunctioning (even if that means some relationships aren’t ready to evolve with you)… join me on Tuesday, October 15th at 8pm ET for a free all new webina...
Oct 08, 2024•3 min
#294: I am so thrilled to be joined this week by my Anchored alum Hedy, a full-time job-haver, a full-time mom, and a dog mom. After joining Anchored, she describes the growth she has seen in her life since as profound. Hedy took a chance on herself, said yes, and learning how her life has changed on the other side of Anchored is the medicine we all need right now. Tune in today to hear Hedy’s story of letting go of control, perfectionism, and codependency in a community that met her where she w...
Oct 03, 2024•42 min
#293: Do you find yourself constantly accommodating others at the expense of your own needs and desires? In this episode of Feminist Wellness, we explore the profound shift from bracing tolerance to intentional tolerance in the healing journey out of emotional outsourcing. Tune in to discover how you can cultivate a grounded presence and emotional resilience, so you can thrive in life without losing yourself in the process. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://vict...
Sep 26, 2024•20 min
#292: Most people think that if they’ve been living at one extreme of always saying yes, they need to swing to the other extreme of always saying no and become wildly independent. But that’s no way to be in a loving, caring relationship. The magic lies somewhere in the middle, and it starts by making the choice to no longer self-abandon, which takes a whole lot of self-love. Join me this week to learn my roadmap for breaking free from the self-abandonment cycle and embracing a life of greater in...
Sep 19, 2024•29 min
#291: Many of us have received messages from society that our authentic, most real, and embodied selves are simply not okay. What’s logical is for us to step away from being that person out in the world. In this episode, I dive deep into the self-abandonment cycle that many of us find ourselves trapped in. Join me this week to learn why you might be stuck in a self-abandonment cycle, and the somatic impact of over-functioning in your life. You’ll hear how our childhood experiences shape our adul...
Sep 12, 2024•31 min
#290: Mary is a high school teacher with a passion for mind-body science who joined my program, Anchored, looking for a greater sense of ease and confidence, especially as she contemplated a big career transition. This week, Mary is sharing how the inner work she did in Anchored is helping her navigate uncertainty with grace and dream bigger for her life and career. Tune in to hear how our work together has impacted Mary's family system, what it’s really like to be coached in a group, and the tr...
Sep 05, 2024•37 min
#289: Why does it feel so cozy to think in extremes? All-or-nothing thinking limits the possibilities available to us and is a habit we can fall into without ever realizing it. That’s why this week, I challenge you to step out of your own unintentional thinking and start seeing the glorious, grey middle ground that will help you create a life you love. Join me this week to learn why you might be spinning in all-or-nothing thinking and how to break free. I show you what happens when you buy into ...
Aug 29, 2024•38 min
#288: We can’t heal hurt with more hurt, so when life feels way too life-y and you’re spiraling in your shame stories, this is the tool you can lean on to introduce a little gray into those negative thoughts. Join me on this episode to hear what my GRACE protocol entails, and how it will shift you out of the story that says shame is who you are, into an identity where shame has just been a part of your history. I show you how to systematically recognize and shift out of the shame identity, so yo...
Aug 22, 2024•27 min
#287: Understanding how shame embeds itself in our emotional outsourcing tendencies is super important if we are to shake free of it and step into interdependence. That's why this week I'm exploring how shame takes root in our formative years and becomes intertwined with our sense of self-worth and identity. Join me as I outline the complex and often hidden nature of shame, and how it can drive codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing behaviors. You’ll learn the somatic and psychological ...
Aug 15, 2024•23 min
#286: One of the biggest themes we talk about on Feminist Wellness is living an intentional life where you’re tuned into what’s happening in your body, mind, spirit, and world. The vital next layer to this is slowing down enough to pay attention to the minutia of your life, and that includes your genes. Dr. Tyler Panzner is a Ph.D. scientist turned holistic genetic health coach. Join us this week as Dr. Panzner walks us through the role our genetics play in our emotional, physical, and mental we...
Aug 08, 2024•1 hr
My tender ravioli! It’s my birthday!! We are celebrating Leo Season on the Feminist Wellness Podcast and we’re doing a giveaway to mark the occasion! Help other folks find this free resource by leaving a rating and review! In turn—and because Leo's love giving gifts—I would like to thank you for taking the time! All you have to do to receive your free (can't get this any other way) sleep meditation— is leave a rating & review! Then take a little screenshot and email it to us at support@victo...
Aug 03, 2024•3 min
#285: Does life feel like a series of urgent problems that must be solved immediately? When stress, chaos, worry, and drama are your norm, it feels cozy to stay in this place. But the truth is staying in this belief only creates more stress and drama in your life. Tune in this week to learn why you might be in the habit of creating problems in your mind where there aren’t any, and how the work of self-trust is in learning to rewrite this experience. Discover my favorite reframe tool for gaining ...
Aug 01, 2024•25 min
#284: When we say we hate and avoid conflict, what we really mean is that we fear direct and honest conversations. If having what could be a loving disagreement feels like a pit of despair in your body, you’re not alone, and I’m sharing my favorite remedies with you this week. Discover how emotional outsourcing habits can make conflict aversion worse, and eight ways you might be unknowingly causing stress in your relationships. You’ll learn the root cause behind conflict aversion, why you confla...
Jul 25, 2024•35 min
#283: Does becoming someone with a secure attachment style seem like a pipe dream? What if I told you that it’s totally feasible? This week, I’m joined by a leading expert in attachment theory, Thais Gibson, who is sharing the five major components that will help you recondition your attachment style. Learn where our attachment style comes from, how to get into a space of healing your subconscious programming, and the science behind reenactment cycles in your relationships. You'll hear Thais’ fa...
Jul 18, 2024•49 min
#282: The rescuer mentality is a fascinating byproduct of codependency. It’s a habit many of us learned in childhood. For some of us, rescuing was a smart way to keep ourselves and our loved ones safe, but the truly loving choice in our relationships is to foster an interdependent way of living. Tune in this week to learn why we fall into the rescue trap and how recognizing this tendency is key to healing emotional outsourcing habits. We’ll explore the critical differences between rescuing and s...
Jul 11, 2024•37 min
#281: The bedrock of interdependence is mutuality and reciprocity, which, when put together, allow us to be our fullest selves. Practicing interdependence with my wife, Billey, has been one of the greatest learning experiences of my life, so who better to discuss it with this week than her? Join Billey and me as we explore the differences between codependence and interdependence, and share our advice for creating mutuality and reciprocity in your relationships. We’re touching on the importance o...
Jul 04, 2024•38 min
#280: It’s easy to talk about somatics solely within the context of stress, distress, and trauma, but the applications of this practice extend far beyond trauma. In fact, healing trauma wasn't my goal at all when I started doing somatics work! In this episode, I'm showing you how this somatics can help you, even if you haven’t identified some big bad wolf wreaking havoc on your life. Join me to hear why the practice of mindful body awareness benefits everybody, how somatics act as a bridge that ...
Jun 27, 2024•28 min
#279: For the longest time, I thought I was the only one rolling around in my emotional outsourcing, completely disconnected from my body. The truth is we often disconnect from our bodies as a way to get through life, and I designed The Somatic Studio to show folks how to use body-based practices to establish stronger connections to their magical selves. This week, I'm sharing a delightful conversation I had with a recent member of The Somatic Studio, Kyra Sutherland, who is here to tell us abou...
Jun 20, 2024•41 min
#278: Losing touch with the ability to tune into and trust your bodily signals, especially in the context of emotional outsourcing, is super common. In parts one and two of this mini-series, we’ve defined embodiment and some reasons for struggling to cultivate it. This week, as always, it’s time for the remedies. By engaging in practices that nurture our physical presence, we can enhance our ability to live more fully in our bodies, and I’ve got some simple strategies to get you started. Join me...
Jun 13, 2024•25 min
