Dorsal. Sympathetic. Ventral. It’s all about your nervous system’s sense of safety. Links: Vagus Nerve Exteroception Interoception Our Polyvagal World: How Safety and Trauma Change Us by Stephen W. Porges and Seth Porges Deb Dana's website - includes definitions of Polyvagal Theory terms Glimmers Borders Books and Music (RIP) FSP2020 episode 58: How to Listen to Your Body, Part One (of four) website : podcast feed FSP2020 episode 49: How to Dreams website : podcast feed...
Dec 13, 2024•1 hr 7 min•Season 2Ep. 4
Turns out you can be identical twins and experience gender really differently from one another. Emily and Amelia discuss. Content warning: There’s some talk about fascism and Mussolini’s sex life. Links: Come Together - The Gender Mirage (chapter 10) Kakistocracy Sari van Anders Anne Fausto-Sterling ALOK Will and Harper (Netflix show)...
Dec 06, 2024•1 hr 8 min•Season 2Ep. 3
Let it burn. Links: Paradise Square (musical) Joaquina Kalukango – "Let It Burn" (75th Tony Awards Performance) on Youtube (This is the performance we talk about in the episode.) New York City draft riots The "This is Fine" dog by KC Green , who is a real person who actually created the cartoon. KC sells official "This is Fine" dog stuff on Topatoco Coleman Barks Rumi translations...
Nov 27, 2024•53 min•Season 2Ep. 2
Emily and Amelia are back. Maybe this will help you like it helps them. Links: Finding steady ground Nothing Much Happens podcast: Softly Softly Sleep Sound with Richard Armitage (Audible) Words to Win By podcast The New Jim Crow (book) A Force More Powerful Bringing Down a Dictator In 2017, “Joy Policing” Can Go Fuck Itself by Emily BURNOUT: Do You Feel Half Alive? We Can Do Hard Things - Apple Podcasts...
Nov 20, 2024•51 min•Season 2Ep. 1
An Alternative to Hope: Or, The Secret Medicine for When the Thing With Feathers Stop Singing I was inspired to make this video obviously because of John Green’s June 25th video, where he talks about taking a break from making videos because: depression, and he concludes with his familiar assurance that despair is a lie, hopelessness is a lie, that life is meaningful, and your life matters. He says he’s going to spend the month of July reminding himself that Emily Dickinson was right, “that hope...
Nov 13, 2024•15 min•Season 1Ep. 64
The Come As You Are podcast was a 8-episode miniseries. It's over now, but maybe you haven't heard it yet? Subscribe here: Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon And everywhere else you get podcasts!...
Nov 16, 2022•24 min
Is Emily Amelia's Loki Variant or is Amelia *Emily's* Loki Variant?? Sometimes your body lies to you, so it’s very on theme that it turns out we lied about this series ending last week. Mild spoilers for Loki, if you are planning to watch it. ********** LINKS: Loki Neuroplastic pain Polyvagal Theory The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma Amelia’s Youtube channel Come As You Are (signed by Emily) Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random H...
Jul 26, 2021•46 min•Season 1Ep. 63
The epic conclusion! It’s about using your imagination to listen to your body. Emily and Amelia bring it all home. ********** LINKS: Episode 58: How to Listen to Your Body, Part One (guest starring Allegra) Emily and Amelia on Brené Brown’s “Unlocking Us” Rumi’s “A Story is Like Water” Come As You Are (signed by Emily) What I Talk About When I Talk About Running Self-Therapy No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model An Actor Prepares (Paperback) ...
Jul 12, 2021•53 min•Season 1Ep. 62
Emily and Amelia start by talking about your body’s sense of proprioception, but wind up taking a journey into imagination. ************ LINKS: Proprioception YOKE: MY YOGA OF SELF ACCEPTANCE (book) Underbelly Yoga Singing Redefined by Walter C. Foster FSP episode 36: Embrace Tiger Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com...
Jun 28, 2021•51 min•Season 1Ep. 61
You’re aware of how the external world affects your internal experience. What’s next? Nonjudgment is a big part of it. Emily and Amelia discuss interoception. ************ LINKS: Interoception Underbelly Yoga Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com...
Jun 20, 2021•43 min•Season 1Ep. 60
It took Amelia years to realize feelings were real and to listen to her own body. This week, she and Emily explain the way to get started to Amelia’s 17-year-old self.) ********** LINKS: “Until you spread your wings, you'll have no idea how far you can walk.” Observational Distance Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com...
Jun 14, 2021•56 min•Season 1Ep. 59
Part one in a series where Amelia discusses how she’s learned to listen to her body. Spoiler warning: She used to be terrible at it. Allegra Martin joins the show this week. (Emily is back next week.) ********** LINKS: Episode 29: Allegra Alexithymia Alexithymia questionnaire Jonathan Haidt: The Elephant and the Rider Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com...
Jun 07, 2021•38 min•Season 1Ep. 58
Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked! After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are with new science, new language, and new perspectives. In this three part series, she explains some of what's in the new edition. ******** Order a signed copy from our local bookseller, Book Moon Books. Or preorder on Amazon. Join the Emily’s Adnexa email list here. If you have a question that she can answer in the email list, send it to cayapod@gma...
Feb 22, 2021•26 min
Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked! After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are with new science, new language, and new perspectives. In this three part series, she explains some of what's in the new edition. ******** Order a signed copy from our local bookseller, Book Moon Books. Or preorder on Amazon. Join the Emily’s Adnexa email list here. If you have a question that she can answer in the email list, send it to cayapod@gma...
Feb 19, 2021•23 min
Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked! After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are with new science, new language, and new perspectives. In this three part series, she explains some of what's in the new edition. ******** Order a signed copy from our local bookseller, Book Moon Books. Or preorder on Amazon. Join the Emily’s Adnexa email list here. If you have a question that she can answer in the email list, send it to cayapod@gma...
Feb 17, 2021•26 min
Let’s make some New Year’s Resolutions. Or not! Do whatever you need to get through this mess. Amelia is still dealing with long Covid and Emily gets really excited about Bridgerton. ********* LINKS: Episode 46: What Even Is Hope Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex Episode 29: Allegra Your New Year’s Resolution in 2021 Should Be To Stay Alive | A Serious Message From a Comedy Writer Shantira Jackson on Instagram Kate Bornstein get out of hell card Episode 51: Calling In Amelia’s Covid Burn...
Jan 18, 2021•51 min•Season 1Ep. 57
It’s a special holiday episode where we ask you not to attend holiday gatherings. It’s about turkey, but it’s not really about turkey. Bonus: Amelia’s secret stuffing recipe. ***** SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by If the Boot Fits, A Smart & Sexy Cinderella Story by Rebekah Weatherspoon LINKS: Fomite NY Times: For Home Cooks, Burnout Is a Reality This Holiday Season Episode 05: What's Your Something Larger? Hygge Vestibular Migraine Episode 03: Human Giver Syndrome Bell’s Poultry S...
Nov 17, 2020•42 min•Season 1Ep. 56
It’s the final episode of the season! Emily and Amelia discuss what all of you learned from the show. And if your name is Brené Brown, there’s a special gratitude song just for you. ****** Taco Emoji 🌮 Don’t Bring Facts to a Feelings Fight Underbelly Yoga Nap Ministry A Slob Comes Clean Brené with Emily and Amelia Nagoski on Burnout and How to Complete the Stress Cycle Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon...
Nov 02, 2020•58 min•Season 1Ep. 55
Everybody’s been asking about the class Amelia teaches on the book Burnout, so she’s gonna lay it all out for us. And, ohh… did you know we spoke to Brené Brown? That actually happened. ***** Brené with Emily and Amelia Nagoski on Burnout and How to Complete the Stress Cycle Episode 18: The New Hotness Episode 04: The Abyss Episode 13: Is it Burnout... Or is it trauma? Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex Episode 36: Embrace Tiger Tell us one thing you’ve learned on FSP so far! feministsurv...
Oct 26, 2020•54 min•Season 1Ep. 54
What’s your attachment style? Which Broadway musical number does it correspond to? Emily and Amelia discuss… and sing. ***** Episode 52: Trust Attachment theory Reaper Incandescent Sisal Light Up Halloween Decor Candide - Make Our Garden Grow Brené with Emily and Amelia Nagoski on Burnout and How to Complete the Stress Cycle How to Be an Adult: A Handbook for Psychological and Spiritual Integration Tell us one thing you’ve learned on FSP so far! feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com Instagram Tw...
Oct 19, 2020•59 min•Season 1Ep. 53
How do you know when to trust other people? How do you know when to share your cupcakes to make the world better for everyone? Emily and Amelia discuss and end with a song. ******* Books by Dr. Sue Johnson Entitled: How Male Privilege Hurts Women Gas Light by Patrick Hamilton Episode 08: The Monitor Come as You Are chapter 4 covers attachment theory Brandon Sanderson’s “Reckoners” series...
Oct 12, 2020•49 min•Season 1Ep. 52
Update on Amelia’s long Covid situation and Emily’s new dad, Mandy Patinkin. ******* “I’m a Black Feminist. I Think Call-Out Culture Is Toxic.” by Loretta Ross lorettaross.com Schadenfreude Mandy Patinkin’s twitter Mandy Patinkin’s love song...
Oct 05, 2020•39 min•Season 1Ep. 51
Fifty episodes! Let’s review the toolkit we’ve built during this year of podcasts. Emily and Amelia discuss. ************* Brené Brown: The power of vulnerability (TED talk) Episode 31: Social Support Episode 01: Separate the Stress From the Stressor Episode 08: The Monitor Episode 28: Foop Episode 32: The Owl and the Cheese Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex Episode 11: The Bubble of Love Episode 05: What's Your Something Larger? Episode 34: The Madwoman Episode 35: Too Much Connection E...
Sep 28, 2020•36 min•Season 1Ep. 50
Are your dreams purely biochemical processes or are they Jungian-scented mind candles your subconscious teaches you lessons with? Emily and Amelia discuss. ************* Jonathan Haidt: "The Elephant and the Rider" The Happiness Hypothesis Encyclopedia Of Occult Sciences (archive.org) Episode 34: The Madwoman Episode 21: Your Body Will Tell You Multiple trace theory...
Sep 21, 2020•46 min•Season 1Ep. 49
Do the views of authors and actors affect your ability to enjoy things? Can you consume problematic media in good conscience? Amelia and Emily discuss. J. K. Rowling is not invited. ************* WTAF, RWA: Courtney Milan Banned, Suspended From RWA I Asked My Friend WHY She Had a Plantation Wedding Episode 29: Allegra Zaris-Angel performs 'Naughty' at West End Live 2016 Splash Mountain to Be Rethemed to The Princess and the Frog Auliʻi Cravalho Hattie McDaniel The Wind Can GTFO [A Gone With the ...
Sep 14, 2020•57 min•Season 1Ep. 48
Can focusing on pleasure help your brain counteract depression? Is it worth taking a moment to enjoy every donut even if it doesn’t? Emily and Amelia discuss. ********* SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by “The Siren and the Deep Blue Sea,” the latest book in the Embraced by Magic Series by Kerrelyn Sparks. https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/9781496730060/the-siren-and-the-deep-blue-sea/ ********* Entenmann’s donuts: https://www.entenmanns.com/en/products/8-crumb-donuts?category=8 Episode 03:...
Sep 07, 2020•40 min•Season 1Ep. 47
What is the nature of hope? Amelia’s off this week, so Emily discusses with her mysterious Marital Euphemism. ****** How We Hope: A Moral Psychology by Adrienne Martin: https://www.amazon.com/How-We-Hope-Moral-Psychology/dp/0691171394 Irascible Appetites: https://aquinasonline.com/sense-appetites-passions/ Episode 08: The Monitor: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-08-the-monitor Oregon Trail Generation: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Xennials Marital Euphemism: https://twit...
Aug 31, 2020•44 min•Season 1Ep. 46
Emily’s worried about the future of democracy, but the good news is It turns out the nature of the problem doesn’t necessarily dictate the nature of the solution. (This one’s a little dark.) ******* Sonya Renee Taylor: https://www.instagram.com/tv/CD4C_56AbP7/?igshid=jrczl9b8x7ay https://www.instagram.com/tv/CECUAjsADLF/?igshid=1ecl04ohd5a1h Surviving Autocracy by Masha Gessen: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/50695164-surviving-autocracy How to Be an Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi: https://www...
Aug 24, 2020•43 min•Season 1Ep. 45
Why do certain things really make you angry? Could it be that they remind you of things you dislike in yourself? Emily and Amelia discuss. Spoilers for Rise of Skywalker, The Mandalorian, Hamilton, Moana and The Accursed Year 2020. *** SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by “The Rebellious Rancher,” the latest book in the The Millers of Morgan Valley Series by Kate Pearce https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/9781420148251/the-rebellious-rancher/ Jungian archetypes: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/J...
Aug 17, 2020•42 min•Season 1Ep. 44
So you’ve noticed something Not Okay is happening. What do you do next? Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** Green Dot Bystander Intervention: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Green_Dot_Bystander_Intervention Rage Fridge (From Thanksgiving episode): https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-07-thanksgiving Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-41-bikini-industrial-complex Episode 18: The New Hotness: https://www.feministsurv...
Aug 10, 2020•49 min•Season 1Ep. 43
