Reconciling our desire to belong to ourselves and our desire to be in close relationship with another is a complicated process. Making room in a relationship for two complete people, each with their own values, opinions, and priorities, is a complicated, painful, and remarkably worthwhile process–a process that will foster spiritual, emotional, and psychological development if we let it. In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr.Finlayson-Fife joins the Barbie Does Dating podcast discuss the complexities ...
Jan 05, 2023•52 min
Loving sexuality in marriage provides a refuge from the suffering and difficulty that is inherent to living. When sexuality is mature, based in love and acceptance, it has the power to sustain us, rejuvenate our souls, and expand our capacity for joy. In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Tammy Hill of the Live Your Why podcast to talk about how we can develop sexual maturity and use our sexuality to create more partnership and connection in our marriages. Listen to the full epis...
Dec 15, 2022•50 min
**Click HERE to Subscribe to Dr. Finlayson-Fife's Room for Two Podcast** In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Lisa Valentine Clark of The Lisa Show (@thelisashow) to discuss red flags within a relationship and how discomfort in relationships can help us grow into more mature and loving partners. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: *Love and Truth, two foundational elements of all good marriages *Discomfort and its role in personal and relational growth *Harmful meani...
Nov 30, 2022•39 min
This is a teaser episode of Room for Two, you can subscribe to the podcast HERE to listen to the full episode! Don't forget that we also offer gift subscriptions to Room for Two, you can purchase a subscription for a friend or family member and schedule it to be delivered on Christmas day. Click HERE to learn more. It’s been a rough year for Nate and Nora. Their marriage has been a relatively peaceful and comfortable one, but now things are different. Navigating Nate’s faith transition has been ...
Nov 21, 2022•26 min
In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Sherrae Phelps and Kristi Bassett for a frank discussion about anxiety. During the episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife offers an important distinction between fear and anxiety and gives practical tips on how we can each learn to better cope with the uncertainties of life. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: *Fear vs Anxiety *How to increase our tolerance for anxiety and uncertainty *Supporting family members with anxiety *Anxiety medicati...
Nov 17, 2022•49 min
In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Raini Hamilton to talk about the important role conflict plays in intimate relationships and how couples can use conflict to grow closer together and expand their lives and relationship. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * Conflict vs Contempt * Our need for both connection and autonomy * Effective communication during conflict * Losing strategies
Nov 02, 2022•20 min
**Click HERE to learn more about the Enhancing Sexual Intimacy course" In this NEW podcast episode, Kirsten and Alexis of the Sharing Her Journey podcast (@sharingherjourney) invite Dr. Finlayson- Fife to discuss challenging moments from her earlier years and the impact those challenges have had on her life and career path. Listen to the full episode to learn more about * What inspired Dr. Jennifer’s dissertation topic * Growth from stepping into a paradigm you don’t agree * Satan’s playground–i...
Oct 26, 2022•1 hr 7 min
**To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife's Art of Desire course for women, click HERE ** In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Ashlynn Mitchell of the This is Ashlynn podcast (@this.isashlynn) to help listeners better recognize how they overfunction and underfunction (that’s right, you may be doing both!) in their marriages and in parenting. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * Overfunctioning vs underfunctioning * Self-confronting about our behaviors * Negative impa...
Oct 19, 2022•40 min
In this NEW PODCAST, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Dr. Corey Allan of the Sexy Mariage Radio Podcast to discuss duty sex and what couples can do to bring more desire, passion, and aliveness to their intimate relationship. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * Spontaneous Desire vs Responsive Desire * Escaping exposure and responsibility through resentment * Duty sex * False narratives that limit growth * Discomfort for growth * Modesty as a form of self-respect...
Oct 04, 2022•43 min
**Click HERE to learn more about Room for Two!** In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Brecklyn Simmons of the Bread and Butter Podcast to discuss the negative meanings that many of us inherited around modesty and sexuality. Dr. Finlayson-Fife goes on to share how we can rethink and reframe those ideas to develop a healthier understanding of both modesty and sexuality. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * Equal responsibilities for men and women around modesty * The ...
Sep 27, 2022•53 min
Learning that your spouse has been viewing pornography can bring on a whirlwind of complex emotions including anger, fear, and self-doubt. It's important to have compassion for yourself as you work through these emotions. In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Camille Scow of the Choosing Love podcast to talk about the complexities of pornography usage and how you can show love and support to your spouse and yourself in the wake of a pornography disclosure. Listen to the full epis...
Sep 20, 2022•55 min
In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Heather Frazier of the Pivot Parenting podcast to talk about the many emotions that can come as parents transition into the empty nest phase of life, and how we can best support our kids as they become more independent and step out into the world. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * Dealing with the loss of purpose and identity as we transition to the empty nesting phase * Encouraging confidence and independence in adult childre...
Sep 12, 2022•50 min
In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Sarah Brewer of the Overcome Pornography For Good Podcast to discuss how taking responsibility for your own life and choices will increase your capacity to love and be loved. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * Sexuality as a force for good * The importance of becoming the architect of your own life * Creating strength and peace through your choices * Embracing your capacity for pleasure * How negative meaning frames &a...
Aug 31, 2022•42 min
This NEW podcast episode is the recording of Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s recent presentation at a stake women’s conference. During this presentation, she focuses on how we can use conflict and difference to increase our wisdom and create more unity in our families and communities. Dr. Finlayson-Fife also addressed questions from members of the congregation about loving LGBTQ family members, women’s role in the Church, and how to better understand and love family members who leave the church. Listen to ...
Aug 16, 20220
It can be devastating when our partner expresses disapproval or disagrees with our thoughts and ideas. Many of us buy into the idea that when we enter into marriage we have locked down a partner that will love us no matter how immature we are. When we don’t like the messages we get from our partner, it can feel easy to go look for “cheap” validation outside of our marriage, rather than use what our spouse is telling us to improve ourselves. In this recent podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife join...
Aug 09, 2022•24 min
Many of our faith traditions today have been borrowed from our larger culture and are being taught as doctrine. We have a responsibility to examine the ideas that are presented to us and discern truth from error and sort out doctrine from tradition–no matter whether the ideas in question come from our families, church leaders, or others. Earnestly seeking out truth is what fosters our freedom and wisdom and will allow us to fully access the richness of our theology. In this NEW podcast episode, ...
Aug 01, 20220
In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Tony Overbay of The Virtual Couch Podcast (@tonyoverbay) to discuss differentiation, self-validation, and the vital role of self-confrontation in intimate relationships. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * Self-awareness is key to intimacy * Differentiation * Recognizing our own capacity to be unkind * Dealing with powerlessness in your life * Therapy vs coaching * Emotional immaturity * Narcissism...
Jul 26, 2022•1 hr 3 min
In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Rhonda Farr of The Intimacy Podcast (@rhondafarr_coaching) to discuss the impact of overfunctioning and feelings of superiority in marriage, and what couples can do to address the behaviors that are limiting the intimacy in their marriage. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * The self-deceptions of an over-achiever (you might be surprised) * Why you may feel the“need to be needed” * Recognizing your false sense of control * Deali...
Jul 18, 2022•1 hr 10 min
This NEW podcast episode is the recording of Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s presentation during a recent gospel study session hosted by Dialogue: A Journal of Mormon Thought . This fascinating discussion focuses on the fall of King David and how each of us is still beloved by God, despite being vulnerable to our own hubris and self-deception. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * The importance of self-confrontation * The complexities of humanity * Facing our darker selves * Honesty * Spiritua...
Jul 13, 2022•56 min
In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Sherrae Phelps to discuss ways Latter-Day Saints can navigate this period of transition within the church with strength and integrity, and what we can do as individuals to contribute to the development of our community. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * Misunderstandings that interfere with equality in the church * The problem with prioritizing validation over integrity * How to move past feelings of resentment and anger * Mot...
Jul 08, 2022•47 min
This is a teaser episode of Room for Two, you can subscribe to the podcast HERE to listen to the full episode! Several months ago, April overheard her husband Andy on a phone call with another woman in a sexually charged conversation. This discovery was just the tip of the iceberg and led to Andy’s disclosure of other sexually indulgent behavior that has taken place over the course of their 20-year marriage. These disclosures shattered April’s perception of their relationship. She had believed t...
Jun 30, 2022•1 hr 5 min
In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Matana of the Hope to Recharge podcast for a powerful discussion on faith, integrity, and spiritual development. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: *The gifts and challenges of belonging to a high-demand religion *Living with integrity when questioning your cultural or faith traditions *Mixed-faith marriages *Navigating religious questions *Desire and sexuality *Making room for growth in your life, marriage, and culture Resources...
Jun 29, 2022•47 min
In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the hosts of the Bless the Refreshments Podcast to discuss why talking about sex with our kids and spouses can be so difficult and what we can do to reduce our own anxiety about sexuality. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * Dismantling the myth that sexuality and spirituality are incompatible * The problems that anxiety and fear of sexuality can create for ourselves and our children * How to be a good mentor to your kids from b...
Jun 06, 2022•53 min
In this episode of Marriage on a Tightrope, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Kattie Mount to discuss the many incredible in-person workshops and retreats she will be hosting this year. If you've ever been curious about attending an in-person event with Dr. Finlayson-Fife, you are going to love this episode! Listen to learn more about: * Why in-person events are such a powerful way to learn the principles taught by Dr. Finlayson-Fife * What you can expect if you attend an in-person retreat alone or with ...
May 25, 2022•40 min
**Only a few tickets remain for Dr. Finlayson-Fife's How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex webinar! Click HERE to learn more!** It can be difficult to know how to best approach the topic of sexuality with your children, especially if this wasn't modeled well by our own parents. In this conversation with Michelle Larson of Uplift for Kids , Dr. Finlayson-Fife discusses what parents can do to facilitate the healthy sexual development of their children throughout every stage of development. Listen to ...
May 16, 2022•59 min
Many of us inherited meanings about sexuality from our families and culture that have actually inhibited our sexual desire. In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Rachel Nielson from the 3 in 30 podcast to discuss these restrictive meaning frames and how we can shift our mindset to make room for more desire and a more fulfilling sexual relationship. Listen to the episode to learn more about: * Sexual accelerators and brakes * Women's sexual capacity * How to shift meaning frames that ...
May 06, 2022•34 min
In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Sherrae Phelps for a powerful discussion about the often disillusioning middle years of life, and what we can do to remain hopeful, engaged, and productive during this phase of our development. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * Coping with the disillusionment that comes during middle age * Coping with loss and the finiteness of life * Stoicism * Metabolizing regret * Finding purpose in the mundane and routine. * Finding your s...
Apr 20, 2022•54 min
This NEW podcast episode is the recording of a recent Facebook live where Dr. Finlayson-Fife addressed the gift of men's sexuality and took questions from Facebook group members about masculinity, hierarchy, pornography, and more! Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * Pornography * The distinction between a coping mechanisms and self-regulation * Mature masculinity * One-up/one-down dynamics * Creating more intimate relationships If you found this podcast episode helpful, you would L...
Apr 11, 2022•1 hr
This is part two of the interview Monica Packer of About Progress conducted with Carolyn Bever & Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife to discuss parenting perfectionistic children. Listen to learn more about... - How to define your role as a parent - Shifting the value from external sources to one’s internal courage - More tips on parenting your perfectionistic child - And more... Click here get your ticket to the live How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex Course! To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’...
Apr 06, 2022•28 min
Dr. Finlayson-Fife was interviewed by the Find the Magic team about addressing and helping our children develop a healthy relationship with their sexuality. Listen to learn more about: - Questions to ask yourself to help you sort out your own relationship to your sexuality - How to help your child understand that they are a powerful chooser in their life, especially around their sexuality - How to create guidelines and boundaries with your kids as they learn to integrate their sexuality - Teachi...
Mar 23, 2022•40 min
