Monica Packer of About Progress talked with Carolyn Bever & Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife to discuss parenting perfectionistic children. Listen to learn more about... - How to identify if you have a perfectionistic child - Why perfectionistic children can be over or underperforming - Separating your own sense of worth from your child’s achievements - How to illustrate the importance of failure in the process Click here get your ticket to the live How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex Course! To l...
Mar 09, 2022•40 min
Dr. Finlayson-Fife was interviewed by Ivy Bassett, the 13-year-old daughter of Kristi (Jennifer's assistant). Ivy is a smart and thoughtful teen who asked wonderful questions pertinent to all teens and parents of teens! Listen to this podcast to hear Dr. Finlayson talk directly to teens about: - Troubles that teens face in friendships and relationships - Anxiety - Disagreements with parents - and more! Click here get your ticket to the live How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex Course! To learn mor...
Mar 03, 2022•44 min
Dr. Finlayson-Fife joined Momivate for a Momversation on the topic of improving your marital relationship. This episode is full of helpful tips and insights including: - How to address conflicts in the marital and sexual relationship that interfere with happiness - Claiming your sexuality as your own - A helpful distinction between forgiveness and trusting - Normalizing struggles in marriage and using those struggles for our growth To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website...
Feb 23, 2022•28 min
In this recording of a Facebook Live Dr. Finlayson-Fife teaches about boundaries. Listen to this episode to learn more about: - The purpose of boundaries - Types of boundaries - How to be clear headed when setting your boundaries - The immense importance of honesty To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website , check out our Course Page , and take a look at our upcoming Events . You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater ac...
Feb 15, 2022•54 min
Morgan knows sexual desire, but she has deliberately repressed those feelings for so long that she is struggling to get them back. When she was younger, Morgan had a healthy curiosity about sex but felt she had crossed a line by reading romantic literature. In an effort to restore a sense of worthiness, she changed course and tried to never look back. While Morgan now tries to be sexual with Harry, her heart just isn’t in it. She finds it more intuitive to accommodate Harry than to find and expr...
Feb 08, 2022•33 min
In this episode, Dr. Jennifer joins Courtney Anderson of the Glow Boss Podcast to answer your questions about sex. They cover everything from high libido to the meaning of sexual dreams about an ex to the psychology of climaxing. Listen to hear more about: - How to integrate freedom in the sexual relationship in a committed relationship - Meaning frames that can help your sexual relationship thrive through changes in life such as the postpartum stage and aging - Navigating desire differences in ...
Feb 07, 2022•50 min
This episode is a recording of Dr. Jennifer reading an essay she wrote entitled "Let's Talk about Sex" . The full episode can be found on the Breaking Down Patriarchy podcast hosted by Amy Allebest. Listen to this episode to hear more about.... - Women’s relationship to their sexuality in the context of a patriarchal society - LDS women’s ability to be choosers in the sexual realm - Cultural invalidation of women’s eroticism - Why self-hood is a stronger factor in desire than biological drive - ...
Feb 02, 2022•11 min
In this new podcast episode Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the hosts of the Latter-day Contemplation podcast to discuss the Divine Feminine. Listen to learn more about: - Descriptive vs. prescriptive gender roles - Yin and Yang energy - What is lost when we don’t acknowledge fundamental differences between men and women - Immature and mature versions of both masculine and feminine - The goodness that comes from women embracing their strength To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Web...
Jan 25, 20220
Rick and Sarah are really good at hiding. Rick hides behind his nice guy persona—he has learned through experience that if he keeps Sarah comfortable enough, he will maximize the chances of getting sex. So, he skirts around the truth and keeps his honest thoughts to himself in an attempt to keep the boat from rocking. Sarah has fully bought into this dynamic and pushes for Rick’s accommodation. She knows the part to play, plays it well, and takes refuge in fading into the background and letting ...
Jan 18, 2022•15 min
Zach and Darcy Spafford of The Self-Mastery Podcast: End the Porn Struggle interviewed Dr. Finlayson-Fife and discussed the roots of the issues surrounding unwanted pornography use, betrayal trauma and infidelity. Listen to learn more about: - The importance of seeing other people as full, complete people in their own right - Becoming a strong agent in the world by gathering information and owning our choices - The way vulnerability can lead us to strength and intimacy - The role self-regulation...
Jan 06, 2022•50 min
Dr. Finlayson-Fife joined Sherrae Phelps to discuss how to navigate religious challenges with integrity, from the best within us. Listen to learn more about... - How to truly sustain church leaders - Relational and moral development - Acting out of the best in you in regards to religion - Using your faith to live well and love others To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website , check out our Course Page , and take a look at our upcoming Events . You can also follow Dr. Finl...
Jan 01, 2022•42 min
“Parenting is noble work, in part because you are so often reaching through the dark trying to figure out what it means to love this unique child, with their specific challenges, strengths and desires.” Dr. Finlayson-Fife joined Tina Gosney of the Parenting Through the Detour podcast to answer difficult questions that are on parents minds and souls. Listen to learn more about: - The normal, but unhelpful tendency to use your child to reinforce your sense of self - The importance of truly knowing...
Dec 17, 2021•34 min
In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Dr. Corey Allan of Sexy Marriage Radio for a frank discussion about resentment in marriage and how we can avoid this common pitfall by becoming more honest with ourselves and learning to not rely on our spouses for validation. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * Self-validation vs other-validation * Self-confrontation * Differentiation theory * Marriage as a mechanism for growth * How to handle conflict in marriage To learn more abo...
Dec 13, 2021•43 min
It can be extraordinarily difficult to break free from the framing and meanings that we were handed in childhood. It is easy to perpetuate these systems unwittingly as adults because it is what we know--it's the water we are swimming in. The process of waking up to the way we are participating in unhealthy systems requires a lot of self-confrontation, faith, and courage. It means breaking free of the systems we know and taking the more courageous path of offering our partners and children someth...
Dec 02, 2021•53 min
In the weeks since their last meeting, Phil and Claire have been working hard to make honesty a top priority in their marriage. These efforts have been rewarded in the form of feeling more genuine friendship, desire, and appreciation in their relationship. Phil recently realized that because he had been focusing so heavily on what wasn't working in the relationship, he hadn't given the marriage a real chance to prove its strength. Now he and Claire are each choosing to lean into the marriage, an...
Nov 22, 2021•20 min
In this NEW podcast episode Jennifer joins Heidi Benjaminson of Confidence Coaching to talk to parents about confidence, perfectionism, and how to best help our kids navigate the awkward and uncomfortable process of maturing into adulthood. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * Tolerating the ups and downs of parenting adolescents * What we can do when teens make mistakes * Dismantling perfectionism * How to talk to teens about sexuality * The most valuable kind of confidence, and ho...
Nov 18, 2021•38 min
"It’s hard to self-correct, but it is the pathway into honest unity within a group. You don’t get unity by suppressing the part of the group you don’t like." - Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife It is important that we never prioritize our ideology over love. Making efforts to know and understand those who experience the world differently than we do expands our view and allows us to create stronger families and communities. In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Tina Gosney for a timely conv...
Nov 12, 2021•32 min
In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Jared and Ethan Thomas of the A Brothers' Creed podcast to talk about how society's view of masculinity has shifted over time, what masculine strength actually is, and how men can step up and embody that strength to bless the lives of their families and communities. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * What strong masculinity looks like * Honesty and the fundamental role it plays in desirability * Immature masculinity ("bullies" ...
Nov 03, 2021•57 min
Feeling rejected by your spouse in any realm can be disheartening, but when the rejection is sexual, it can be an exceptionally demoralizing experiencing. Sexual rejection is particularly potent because during arousal states the brain is highly plastic. So any emotion, good or bad, holds extra sway when it is experienced during an aroused state. In this episode of Sex Therapy 101 , Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Cami Hurst to answer a listener's question about how to move forward and cultivate her sex...
Oct 28, 2021•19 min
Adam and Sarah have a communication problem. While they feel that they don't communicate well, the reality is that their communication is crystal clear, they just don't like what is being communicated. Both Adam and Sarah entered the marriage with rigid ideas of what their relationship would look like, and when those expectations went unfulfilled, the resentment they felt for each other began to grow. In this episode, listen in as Dr. Finlayson-Fife works with Adam and Sarah to help them learn t...
Oct 25, 2021•11 min
In this episode of Mormonland Jennifer joins a panel with Michael Austin, Jacob Hess, and hosts Peggy Fletcher Stack and David Noyce to discuss the history, theology, and ethics of sexual relations in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Listen to the full episode to hear an in-depth exploration of: The church's theology on the body The historical and theological reasoning on sexuality being reserved for marriage Thoughts on same-sex marriage If there is any place for pornography and...
Oct 21, 2021•1 hr 13 min
Tiffany has never been able to orgasm and is having difficulty trusting her husband. Riley has been sexually compulsive from adolescence and induces anxiety in his wife through his untrustworthy sexual behavior. Listen as Dr. Finlayson-Fife helps Riley confront the fact that he is using his behavior to keep control of his wife’s validation, and how his framing of porn addiction misses the mark and interferes with him truly changing his behavior. To subscribe go to the Room for Two Webpage! To le...
Oct 19, 2021•22 min
Dr. Finlayson-Fife joined Monica Packer, the host of About Progress , and Dr. Julie Hanks for a discussion about what true partnership in marriage looks like and how to work towards it. To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website , check out our Course Page , and take a look at our upcoming Events . You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcasts i...
Oct 14, 2021•45 min
"All growth is uncomfortable, but a little bit of discomfort is a small price to pay for a lot of freedom." - Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife Rick and Sarah have become entangled with each other. Sarah feels obligated to keep Rick happy by managing him through their sexual relationship and is often worried about disappointing him. Sarah knows her sexual desires but tends to backburner them, for fear that she will lose control of herself in the relationship. In this episode, Jennifer helps Rick and S...
Oct 12, 2021•24 min
In this NEW podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the Bless the Refreshments podcast to discuss how to become a better spouse, and the fundamental roles that honesty and self-acceptance play in the process. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * Practical steps for those struggling with needing validation, but craving a more open-hearted relationship with their spouse * Cultural "false traditions" that inhibit intimate relationships, and a more expansive way to interpret our theology * Ba...
Oct 09, 2021•54 min
Sherrae Phelps and Dr. Finlayson-Fife recorded a timely and thoughtful conversation about navigating your sexual identity as a teen and what role parents can play in that process. Listen to hear more about... - Normal development in the highly vulnerable and impressionable time of teenage years - How parents can help their children be thoughtful and honest as they sort out their sexual identity - How to navigate your relationship with the church when you have an LGBTQ child - How to demonstrate ...
Oct 01, 2021•46 min
Join Dr. Finlayson-Fife and ST Rappaport of the LifePix Relationships Podcast to discuss the inherent connection between emotional and relational intimacy in relationships. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * The important role honesty plays in your life and relationships * Creating a collaborative partnership * How to better tolerate the feedback we get from our spouse * How to teach our children to develop a healthy relationship with their sexuality To learn more about Dr. Finlay...
Sep 22, 2021•37 min
A taste of Dr. Finlayson-Fife's new podcast Room for Two ! Check out the website to learn more and to subscribe! Jane is a people pleaser. She has spent her life pursuing validation by doing all the things she knows she "should''. Up until now, her choices have been driven by seeking others’ approval, but she is ready for a change. Jane is wrestling with herself to find the courage to exert her desires and individuality into her relationship and into the world. Doing so has put pressure on Jane ...
Sep 17, 2021•23 min
Join Dr. Finlayson-Fife and host Ariel Finlinson of the "Ladies Talking Love" podcast (@ladies.talkinglove) to discuss what you can do to challenge unhealthy meanings that are operating in your relationship and how to create a more robust sexual relationship with your partner. Listen to the full podcast to learn more about: * Challenging the meanings that are putting the breaks on your orgasm * Developing a greater capacity for joy and receiving * Creating sex worth wanting * How to expand your ...
Sep 08, 2021•34 min
In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Crystal Noelle of " The Freedom Moms " podcast to discuss what mothers can do to rediscover their desire and passions. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * Why your sex drive might change after childbirth and what you can do to get it back * The importance of challenging the cultural ideas we grew up with about motherhood and sexuality * Developing skills and capacities that extend beyond parenting * Accepting ourselves and our e...
Sep 01, 2021•39 min
