We’re sharing our top 3 biggest turn-offs and a few things that pissed us off this week—yes, we’re naming names (and behaviors). Then we got into the meat of the episode: attachment styles . We discussed how they manifest in our relationships, how they influence the way we connect (or disconnect), and why it’s so challenging to relinquish control when we’re deeply invested in an outcome. 🧠 Curious about your attachment style? Take the quiz here If you’re more of a visual girlie, watch the episo...
Jun 28, 2025•1 hr 42 min
This week we’re revisiting some of the most loved characters in TV and film who were actually the villains (don’t fight us, we have the receipts). Then we turn to the current events of today that have us feeling like we’re in the Twilight Zone:• The Job Corps shutdown and what’s next• The Gaza flotilla that never made it• The LA immigration protests and how the people are pushing back And finally, we hold space for a listener letter asking: how do you stay grounded when everything feels like it’...
Jun 14, 2025•1 hr 37 min
We’re tired, but we’re not turning on our people. In this episode, we unpack the term Black fatigue and our thoughts on this article that says the answer is walking away from “embarrassing” parts of our community. Fatigue is real—but so is care, complexity, and choosing each other even when we’re tired. . . . WE HAVE A GIFT FOR OUR LISTENERS! Walking Meditation Storytime Journal Prompt Sheet RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG @howtobreal TikTok @howtobreal YouTube @HowToBReal PERSONALS: Tasha's IG @th...
Jun 01, 2025•1 hr 32 min
This episode is all about the moment we realized: no one was coming to save us, and it was up to us to do the saving. From anxiety spirals to relationship red flags, we talk about the exact moments we knew we had to choose ourselves, and what it looked like to actually do that. The work wasn’t cute, but it was necessary. Plus, we get into some of the random things we just don’t like: from trying to work in coffee shops to other icks we can’t unsee. **As promised, HERE’s the clip of Leticia James...
May 17, 2025•1 hr 23 min
Aging is inevitable. Growth is intentional. Let’s talk about what happens when people get older, but not better. **SINNERS SPOILERS @ 6:57-25:25 . . . . A GIFT FOR OUR LISTENERS! Walking Meditation Storytime Journal Prompt Sheet RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG @howtobreal TikTok @howtobreal YouTube @HowToBReal PERSONALS: Tasha's IG @thetashab Tay's IG @justsay_tay SEND US A LISTENER LETTER: [email protected] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers o...
May 04, 2025•1 hr 32 min
From the most random questions to the realest on-screen moments, we’re unpacking what’s been on our minds, on our screens, and in the headlines this month. . . . . WE HAVE A GIFT FOR OUR LISTENERS! Walking Meditation Storytime Journal Prompt Sheet RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG @howtobreal TikTok @howtobreal YouTube @HowToBReal PERSONALS: Tasha's IG @thetashab Tay's IG @justsay_tay SEND US A LISTENER LETTER: [email protected] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with ...
Apr 19, 2025•1 hr 43 min
Divorcing the struggle mindset + the fear of ease . . . . WE HAVE A GIFT FOR OUR LISTENERS! Walking Meditation Storytime Journal Prompt Sheet RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG @howtobreal TikTok @howtobreal YouTube @HowToBReal PERSONALS: Tasha's IG @thetashab Tay's IG @justsay_tay SEND US A LISTENER LETTER: [email protected] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com...
Apr 05, 2025•1 hr 20 min
Longtime homegirl and friend of the show, Dominique Staten , joins us in the studio for a juicy debate: should you circumcise your baby or nah? Along with being a wife and mom of 3, Domi is the founder and instructor of Creative Explorers Art Enrichment program for babies and toddlers, a future doula, and a Paper Pie Story Maker. So, if you need any books for your young ones, place your order HERE . **Disclaimer: we are very much pro-choice, and this debate is for entertainment purposes only** ....
Mar 22, 2025•1 hr 8 min
Social media's renaissance, how influencer status is changing, and the curious case of family influencers...let's get REAL! . . . . WE HAVE A GIFT FOR OUR LISTENERS! Walking Meditation Storytime Journal Prompt Sheet RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG @howtobreal TikTok @howtobreal YouTube @HowToBReal PERSONALS: Tasha's IG @thetashab Tay's IG @justsay_tay SEND US A LISTENER LETTER: [email protected] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access ...
Mar 09, 2025•1 hr 29 min
*takes hit* We're exploring our trippiest stoner thoughts. Get your gummies ready for a mind-melting existential ride! WE HAVE A GIFT FOR OUR LISTENERS! Walking Meditation Storytime Journal Prompt Sheet RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG @howtobreal TikTok @howtobreal YouTube @HowToBReal PERSONALS: Tasha's IG @thetashab Tay's IG @justsay_tay SEND US A LISTENER LETTER: [email protected] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus epis...
Feb 22, 2025•1 hr 27 min
Figuring out what the group chat in our heads is actually trying to tell us... WE HAVE A GIFT FOR OUR LISTENERS! Walking Meditation Storytime Journal Prompt Sheet RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG @howtobreal TikTok @howtobreal YouTube @HowToBReal PERSONALS: Tasha's IG @thetashab Tay's IG @justsay_tay SEND US A LISTENER LETTER: [email protected] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com...
Feb 08, 2025•1 hr 36 min
Our future baby girls will be prepared AF for this hellscape of a world...fingers crossed! lol WE HAVE A GIFT FOR OUR LISTENERS! Walking Meditation Storytime Journal Prompt Sheet RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG @howtobreal TikTok @howtobreal YouTube @HowToBReal PERSONALS: Tasha's IG @thetashab Tay's IG @justsay_tay SEND US A LISTENER LETTER: [email protected] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.s...
Jan 25, 2025•1 hr 15 min
Habits we're breaking in 2025, what gets on our nerves, and bringing more balance into our discipline practice WE HAVE A GIFT FOR OUR LISTENERS! Walking Meditation Storytime Journal Prompt Sheet RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG @howtobreal TikTok @howtobreal YouTube @HowToBReal PERSONALS: Tasha's IG @thetashab Tay's IG @justsay_tay SEND US A LISTENER LETTER: [email protected] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, vi...
Jan 11, 2025•1 hr 38 min
This year gave us new perspectives and a few WTF moments—let’s get into it! RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG @howtobreal TikTok @howtobreal YouTube @HowToBReal PERSONALS: Tasha's IG @thetashab Tay's IG @justsay_tay SEND US A LISTENER LETTER: [email protected] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com...
Dec 28, 2024•1 hr 9 min
We’re getting real about what commitment means in our lives, relationships, and work—plus a little yap sesh about Jay-Z’s drama, the UnitedHealthcare CEO, and the iconic Nikki Giovanni. RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG @howtobreal TikTok @howtobreal YouTube @HowToBReal PERSONALS: Tasha's IG @thetashab Tay's IG @justsay_tay SEND US A LISTENER LETTER: [email protected] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howto...
Dec 14, 2024•1 hr 48 min
Does cuffing season cause S.A.D. or maybe it's the other way around? Let's get into it! ALSO we hope to see you at our Trivia Night to celebrate 1 year of the HTBR podcast! You can get tickets + details HERE RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG https://www.instagram.com/howtobreal/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@howtobreal YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@HowToBReal PERSONALS: Tasha's IG https://www.instagram.com/thetashab/ Tay's IG https://www.instagram.com/justsay_tay/ SEND US A LISTENER LETTER: heyho...
Nov 30, 2024•1 hr 11 min
No, you're not an imposter. But yes, you might feel like it lol FOLLOW US: HTBR IG https://www.instagram.com/howtobreal/ HTBR TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@howtobreal PERSONALS: Tasha's IG https://www.instagram.com/thetashab/ Tay's IG https://www.instagram.com/justsay_tay/ SEND US A LISTENER LETTER: [email protected] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com...
Nov 17, 2024•1 hr 27 min
From the loneliness epidemic in the U.S. to guilty pleasures, motivational speaker, social worker, and therapist LaVontae Hill joins the show! FOLLOW US: HTBR IG https://www.instagram.com/howtobreal/ HTBR TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@howtobreal PERSONALS: Tasha's IG https://www.instagram.com/thetashab/ Tay's IG https://www.instagram.com/justsay_tay/ LaVontae Hill https://www.instagram.com/kodakking_/ SEND US A LISTENER LETTER: [email protected] This is a public episode. If you would lik...
Nov 01, 2024•1 hr 58 min
Diving deep into the thoughts that hold us back + what we do to shake it off This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
Oct 19, 2024•1 hr 38 min
Besties Tash + Tay have known each other for 10+ years but there's still more to learn! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
Oct 04, 2024•1 hr 48 min
How important is it to leave a legacy? Bri Norberg, founder of Powered By Women Sacramento, joins us on a special episode of the pod! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
Sep 22, 2024•1 hr 46 min
Is the "soft girl era" a lifestyle or just a trend? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
Sep 07, 2024•1 hr 51 min
The overuse + manipulation of therapy. Let's get into it. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
Aug 24, 2024•1 hr 33 min
When did you first truly notice your body? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
Aug 10, 2024•2 hr 7 min
Get into some Tash + Tay lore! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
Jul 27, 2024•1 hr 40 min
Gotta feel the feelings to get to the healing This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
Jul 13, 2024•1 hr 30 min
Sometimes you gotta pop out & reinvent your life This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
Jun 29, 2024•1 hr 24 min
We've been working on a fun new card game based on the show's segments so in this episode we're giving y'all a sneak peak :) This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
Jun 15, 2024•58 min
How to stay friends when life be life’n This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
Jun 01, 2024•1 hr 45 min
We get really real about dreams that have stuck with us + what we’ve learned from them This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
May 18, 2024•1 hr 43 min
