Attachment Theory: Secrets to a Successful Relationship with Julie Menanno
Nov 21, 2023•1 hr 5 min•Transcript available on Metacast Episode description
The core idea of attachment theory is that humans, as social beings, have an innate need to form close emotional bonds and attachments with others. It has profound implications for understanding human relationships, including romantic partnerships, friendships, and parent-child relationships.
Valeria welcomes licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Julie Menanno for an eye-opening conversation about our individual attachment needs. We kick things off by exploring the foundations of attachment theory and what it means to parent with an attachment-focused mindset. The different attachment styles take center stage, shedding light on how they shape our emotional bonds and behaviors.
They touch on the typical environment for avoidant attachment and why being dismissive with your partner can be a red flag and the pitfalls of relationship advice found online and why it's often based on conflict. Plus, we'll reveal the intriguing fact that only half of our attachment needs are met in our relationships.
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What We Talked About:
00:00 Intro
00:30 The attachment theory
04:45 Parenting with an attachment mind
07:14 The different attachment styles
11:24 Disorganized attachment
14:02 Attachment style starts in childhood
15:44 Couples with different attachment style
19:09 Bridging the gap between the different attachment styles
23:23 Practice self check-in before reacting
25:51 The typical environment for avoidant attachment
29:43 Being dismissive with your partner
34:59 Triggers can be the small things
37:32 Do the work during bond building
38:27 The guide to create an attachment friendly environment
40:38 Attachment style with your children
42:57 Are you an anxious parent?
45:39 Men are avoidant, women are anxious type
47:43 Can’t masculine and feminine energy co-exist within us?
49:21 Does our attachment style affect our feminine/masculine energy
51:02 Relationship advice online are enemy-based
53:54 Only half of our attachment needs are met
56:43 Ways understand you and your partner’s attachment needs
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