Episode description

Talking points: relationships, culture, sex, security, family

I'm lucky to be interviewing experts in all kinds of fields, but it is consistently enjoyable to dig deep into relationships. What keeps the spark, how couples navigate conflict, and how people can with together to create secure and thriving partnership. Trevor's been at it for a long while, and his gentle yet firm approach is something to be respected. If you're with someone, pull this up and have a listen!

(00:00:00) - Intro, and what is the “secret formula” for a successful love life, and what causes good sex in a bad relationship?

(00:07:42) - How do you move out of attracting insecure relationships? 

(00:12:57) - What can a secure person or couple do to combat potential boredom with a relationship? How can security be sexy?

(00:18:43) - The importance of spontaneity for relational satisfaction

(00:21:54) - How do you support a partner through fears and insecurities around relationships deepening?

(00:27:35) - Navigating criticism, because you can’t criticize your way to a better relationship

(00:37:44) - Why Trevor chose to have kids

(00:42:43) - Why self-compassion is important, and what it really looks like in action

(00:54:33) - Trevor’s thoughts on how to figure out who you really are

(00:59:49) - On sharing your relationship and family events online, and why Trevor and his wife kiss in the rain

(01:05:38) - What Trevor does to maintain spark in his marriage

Trevor Hanson is a licensed marital and family therapist specializing in EFT, or emotionally focused therapy. Combining the depth of a therapist with the pratical guidance of a coach, Trevor works to bring empathy, acceptance, fun and gentle accountability to therapy. You can find more of him on his podcast "The Art of Healing."

Connect with Trevor

-Website: https://theartofhealingbytrevor.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theartofhealingbytrevor/

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