Ali & Erica are taking listener questions (and bring back Weird or Nah!) in this week’s Hot Topics episode. First, we debate a listener’s screenshot dilemma and discuss setting boundaries in early dating. Then, we discuss how (or if) to tell a friend you think she’s settling. And finally, a listener writes in for advice on working with her ex who is dating someone new. In Updates, Ali has a very loud first date and Erica debuts a new nickname with The Folly. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at ...
Oct 23, 2023•1 hr 24 min•Ep 140•Transcript available on Metacast Are you supervising your brain? Do you even know how? Kara Loewentheil , J.D., Master Certified Coach, and host of the UnF*ck Your Brain podcast is here to help. On this week’s episode, we explore topics of anxiety, particularly in the bedroom, and how to navigate through them. Kara explains how she worked to re-train her thoughts and we dive into how socialization impacts how we think. In Updates, Erica tries to plan a first date - but will she get any help?? Meanwhile, Ali closes the door on T...
Oct 16, 2023•1 hr 28 min•Ep 139•Transcript available on Metacast Are you skeptical about life coaches? Rachelle Indra, who literally is one herself, was too! Ali & Erica are truly enthralled by her insights this week, so much so that we actually had to FORCE ourselves to end the interview. In particular, we dive deep into moving through heartbreak & healing going into a new relationship. We also touch on balancing self compassion with accountability and how to avoid toxic positivity - while remaining positive. In Updates, Ali reports back from her fir...
Oct 09, 2023•1 hr 20 min•Ep 138•Transcript available on Metacast What do men wish women knew about them?? Well, we asked them for you (and pulled even more insights from around the internet). We hear about things like: avoiding subtlety/hints, how men don’t want to keep chasing you, and gosh darnit it’s nice to be the little spoon sometimes! But first, The Drummer’s performance does not live up to Erica’s expectations but she has another IRL experience to balance things out. Ali awaits her 2nd date with The Stout and has a new Bumble man on the horizon. Times...
Oct 02, 2023•1 hr 14 min•Ep 137•Transcript available on Metacast Have you wondered what the transition is like from single and dating to being in a relationship? Author and lifestyle blogger Mariann Yip is telling Ali & Erica all about how she went from publishing a book about her NYC dating life to starting a family…all within a year! We chat about first dates, feeling lonely in parenthood, and letting go of what you thought your timeline would be. In Updates, we’ve got two new nicknames in play! Erica gets approached by The Drummer in the wild…but does ...
Sep 25, 2023•1 hr 19 min•Ep 136•Transcript available on Metacast Ali & Erica are taking rapid fire listener questions this week in the latest Grab Bag episode! Topics range from defining “exclusive” vs “official,” determining if someone is ready to date, setting boundaries with advice from friends, to ending a date. In updates, Ali is crushing her IRL activities challenge (but hasn’t forgotten about the apps!) and Erica dips her toe back into the NYC dating app waters. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 21. If you'd like to hear our person...
Sep 18, 2023•53 min•Ep 135•Transcript available on Metacast Jared Freid is fresh off his hilarious Netflix special, 37 & Single, and answering your listener questions! What’s the right way to set two people up? Are there certain dating app answers he hates seeing? And many more, followed by what might be our new favorite game: Pick The Ick. In Updates, Erica hears back from The Accountant and embarks on an NYC dating challenge. Meanwhile, Ali is feeling optimistic about her IRL dating prospects and has a date on the calendar. Where to find Jared: On ...
Sep 11, 2023•2 hr 41 min•Ep 134•Transcript available on Metacast We’re talking finances this week, with Ashley Feinstein Gertsley, CFP and founder of The Fiscal Femme. Are you wondering where/how to start investing? And if you’re even ready to do that? Or maybe you’re trying to create and stick to a spending plan. Ali & Erica learn some things too as we dive into all things money. But first, Erica has an update on The Accountant and Ali is back from camp with some new girlfriends and a plan to do more IRL events. Did she complete Erica’s challenge? Find o...
Sep 04, 2023•2 hr 38 min•Ep 133•Transcript available on Metacast If you knew you’d meet the person you’re going to marry in 5 years, would you still date? Would you rather win the lottery or find your soulmate? Ali & Erica debate some fun dating hypotheticals this week. Tune in for what Erica would say to a room full of people she’s slept with and why Ali would just break into song. In updates, Erica shoots her shot at the frame store and Ali is back from a whirlwind wedding in Poland. Text analyzer mentioned in the episode: www.textsfrommyex.com Timestam...
Aug 28, 2023•2 hr 30 min•Ep 132•Transcript available on Metacast Ali & Erica are back with in-depth listener questions, otherwise known as Hot Topics! This week, we discuss: reaching back out to someone you rejected (or always wondering what if), managing emotions when someone you’re dating updates their app profile, & who should initiate a first date. In updates, Erica goes on a puzzling first date and successfully executes a DM slide after meeting a man in the wild. Meanwhile, Ali is live from Prague and chronicles her latest attempt to meet people ...
Aug 21, 2023•1 hr 29 min•Ep 131•Transcript available on Metacast This bonus episode features an exclusive Patreon preview to stay on track with Ali and Erica’s dating updates. Ali recaps an awkward first date that never seems to end, while Erica finds herself in a scenario where she’s fighting her instincts. If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone...
Aug 16, 2023•28 min•Transcript available on Metacast TRIGGER WARNING This episode centers around sexual assault. This week, we welcome on two incredible listeners to tell their stories. They each offer a deep perspective on both their experiences and their lives since - we can’t thank them enough for their vulnerability. If you’re out there resonating with this episode, please know you are not alone. There are no updates from Ali & Erica in this episode - stay tuned for a Patreon teaser later this week. If you’d like to connect with Caeli, she...
Aug 14, 2023•2 hr 31 min•Ep 130•Transcript available on Metacast Do men really love bitches? What IS a bitch, anyway? And can we take anything away from a book that was written over 20 years ago?? Ali & Erica debate a list of “attraction principles” from the recently-resurged bestseller book, “Why Men Love Bitches” by Sherry Argov to find out. In Updates, Erica channels vacation energy with some IRL encounters and Ali prepares to channel Erica. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 29. If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyon...
Aug 07, 2023•1 hr 16 min•Ep 129•Transcript available on Metacast She’sssss backkkkkk!!!!! Ali & Erica welcome former FMH cohost Roark back onto the pod as our guest this week. With Ali fresh off a bachelorette party, the three dive into wedding etiquette (especially wedding guest etiquette). Can you ask for a plus one? When is it appropriate to leave a wedding? And for goodness sake, can we please stop trying to wear white?? But first, we’re catching up on Roark’s dating life, featuring a nickname OG listeners miiiiiight recognize. Where to find Roark: On...
Jul 31, 2023•2 hr 49 min•Ep 128•Transcript available on Metacast Pamela Rae Schuller is more than one thing - she’s more than Tourette Syndrome, she’s more than her stint on Jewish Matchmaking, and she’s encouraging you to embrace your whole self, too. Together, we cover a wide range of topics, including dating with a disability, matchmaking, and achieving self-love. In Updates, Erica receives a voice memo from the Accountant (that she DOES reply to, for the record) and Ali has her first date since The Publicist. Where to find Pam: On Instagram @pamelacomedy ...
Jul 24, 2023•1 hr 19 min•Ep 127•Transcript available on Metacast For those of you who don’t know us…we’re sharing do’s and don’ts on wedding speeches, from both our own experiences and yours! How long should they be? Are certain topics off limits? And can anything be worse than a 45-minute lecture on the Boy Scout motto?? But first, Ali & Erica both have first dates coming up! Ali’s is her first HingeX match and Erica’s is a blast…from Ali’s past. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 38. If you'd like to hear our personal updates before ever...
Jul 17, 2023•1 hr 11 min•Ep 126•Transcript available on Metacast Things take a lighter turn this week, as Ali & Erica pull back the curtain on past embarrassing dating moments…and share yours! We crack up over everything from first date stomach issues to surprise queefs. In updates, Ali has a Tinder penpal (for now) and Erica enjoys some family time. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 39. If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/fin...
Jul 10, 2023•1 hr 17 min•Ep 125•Transcript available on Metacast Do you have updated information on your fertility? This week, we share our journeys discovering our own and Ali details her egg freezing process. We discuss seeking fertility testing, administering egg freezing shots by yourself, and navigating dating while going through any of this. In updates, Ali bites the bullet on HingeX and has the stats on her experience thus far. Erica completes a key part of her move to L.A. and shares some family news. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 55....
Jul 03, 2023•2 hr 47 min•Ep 124•Transcript available on Metacast We’re oversharing this week! Ali & Erica welcome Jordana Abraham & Dr. Naomi Bernstein of the Oversharing podcast to the FMH family this week. The four answer several deep-dive listener questions including: how to maintain hope when early-stage dating keeps ending, approaching the engagement conversation with a partner, and deciding whether something is a dealbreaker. But first, Ali has major, major Publicist news and finally receives her Pear ring. Meanwhile, Erica dabbles in Jersey Sho...
Jun 26, 2023•2 hr 32 min•Ep 123•Transcript available on Metacast Have you ever thought about marrying for money? Ali & Erica can’t help you with that, but we’re breaking down some financial stats that may surprise you when it comes to getting married vs not. And spoiler alert, there’s way more on the topic where this came from. Let us know what else you want to hear! In Updates, Ali & Erica are back from Greece! The two talk through Ali’s post-vacation communication with The Publicist and what this might mean for the future. Timestamps: Topic talk beg...
Jun 19, 2023•1 hr 1 min•Ep 122•Transcript available on Metacast Why are STIs so stigmatized despite being so common? Ella Dawson, whose TEDx t alk on the subject has been viewed over 800,000 times, is here to talk about about it. We discuss disclosing herpes (or any STI) to your partner, supporting a partner who’s been diagnosed, advocating for yourself at doctor’s appointments, and so much more. But first, Ali & Erica are together in Greece! Ali works through vacation communication with The Publicist while Erica dips her toe into Greek Bumble. Where to ...
Jun 12, 2023•1 hr 24 min•Ep 121•Transcript available on Metacast We’re answering listener questions rapid-fire style in another grab bag episode! We cover everything from feeling clingy in a long-distance relationship, to Hinge messaging etiquette, to balancing your needs with your partner’s. But first, we have an FMH first…Erica meets The Publicist! She debriefs the hang and afterwards Ali laments a first date gone wrong. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 30. If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other ex...
Jun 05, 2023•1 hr 7 min•Ep 120•Transcript available on Metacast We’re kicking off a multi-episode series on children! We’ll spread these episodes out, and invite guests on, covering how your desire to have kids affects dating, dating with kids, choosing a child-free lifestyle, fertility…and so much more. This week, we start with Erica & Ali’s personal thoughts on having children and how it’s impact their dating lives (plus we take your questions!). But first, Ali continues her Publicist journey (6 dates already, oh my!) and Erica spends the weekend surro...
May 29, 2023•1 hr 4 min•Ep 119•Transcript available on Metacast This week, we’re talking plus-sized dating with Alex Stewart & Nicci Nunez of the Swipe Fat podcast!! We take listener questions about tips for your dating app profile, achieving self confidence while dating, red flags to look for, and so much more. Note: Erica’s wifi gave her major issues this week and so Ali interviews Alex & Nicci on her own. In updates, Ali continues her romance with The Publicist and Erica has her first date as an LA resident. Where to find Alex & Nicci: On Inst...
May 22, 2023•2 hr 37 min•Ep 118•Transcript available on Metacast Let’s talk about text, baby…this week, we welcome Dr. Mimi Winsberg to the pod, a board-certified psychiatrist with over 25 years of clinical experience and author of Speaking in Thumbs. We dive into research on text communication and practical ways you can apply it to your dating life. But first, Erica is adjusting to full-time life in LA and relaxing in Palm Springs for her birthday. Meanwhile, Ali has a second AND a third date with The Publicist. Learn more about Speaking In Thumbs at https:/...
May 15, 2023•1 hr 11 min•Ep 117•Transcript available on Metacast What have we learned about dating (and life) since our 20s? Where do we even begin?? Ali & Erica go through listener submissions of life lessons since their 20s and add in thoughts of our own. It’s the big sister chat you’ve been asking for! In Updates, Erica has a laundry room altercation…is she the asshole? Ali has a new guy on the scene and a marathon first date story. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 42. If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as...
May 08, 2023•1 hr 22 min•Ep 116•Transcript available on Metacast Are you tired? Because Ali & Erica are VERY tired. Of dating apps, that is. This week, we hold space for all of your (and our) fatigue with dating on our phones - from matches turned penpals, to empty profiles, to feeling like we’re on a hamster wheel. It’s tough out there and we feel your pain! To combat some of this, Ali has turned to Bumble BFF - and has her first Tinder date in a minute! Erica looks forward to life in LA and poses an important question: is it okay to have sex in a friend...
May 01, 2023•1 hr 20 min•Ep 115•Transcript available on Metacast TW: This episode addresses disordered eating and intentional weight loss. If you’d like to skip this discussion, we announce in the episode when it begins. It’s an extremely vulnerable episode this week as Erica and Ali welcome Emily Lubin, of the Diet Starts Tomorrow and RIP Diets podcasts. Emily opens up about her recovery from disordered eating and the path she’s taken to get there. She shares how her struggle impacted her relationships and gives advice for navigating dating while in recovery...
Apr 24, 2023•1 hr 13 min•Ep 114•Transcript available on Metacast Ali & Erica are diving into listener questions this week! First, a listener is frustrated at a first date who says they’re going to follow up and doesn’t. Second, we give advice to a listener who has a crush on her friend (and hope for updates!). Lastly, we dive into early dating communication. What should we “expect” and how should we communicate that? In updates, Erica has air to clear about some ~ vibes ~ the listeners thought they picked up on. Meanwhile, Ali says farewell to her family ...
Apr 17, 2023•1 hr 5 min•Ep 113•Transcript available on Metacast Are you trying to go on more dates this year? How about 200? Talia Koren, otherwise known as @dating.intentionally, joins FMH this week to tell Ali & Erica all about her journey from a breakup to a healthy relationship. She went on 200 dates in less than a year and shares the most important things she learned along the way! But first, Erica has a Hot Chocolate update (or lack thereof) and Ali is seeing a troubling pattern from dating app matches. Where to find Talia: On Instagram @dating.int...
Apr 10, 2023•1 hr 3 min•Ep 112•Transcript available on Metacast 
